Mom007:


Yes. The trappings of comfort that makes us forget the laws of God. I have job, money, good husband therefore I don't need to honor my mother. That is literally the meaning of what you typed up there. Why are you here seeking advice then?

Swiftgrp:

Look... It was wrong for your mum to call her biological sister a husband snatcher and still went ahead to tell other folks about the fact that her own sister is a husband snatcher. You biological mum is the real betrayer here for instigating this whole quagmire and you must NOT let your siblings guilt-trip you about any betrayal even though your mother has your baby's picture as her DP.

In any event if your mother is indisposed or isn't alive, would you NOT find a way to take care of your baby alone or with the assistant of your spouse and maid?

Next time though, you have to keep your mouth shut when someone as close to you as your mother tells you a personal secret like that because a lot of women cannot handle secrets for too long and they would spill the beans.

Take care.

kaydee:
@OmugwoAunty
You can't be at war with your mum and expect your siblings to be cool with you. The fact they're on her side makes it even worse. It's either they're blindly devoted or they understand what you don't.

At this stage, it all boils down to how forgiving your mum is. If your priority is your siblings, then you need to forgive your mum and seek her forgiveness too. Call your siblings or send them an epistle on your POV. Admit your mistakes and let them know you won't repeat them.

Last warning, avoid that aunt of yours as she's proved your mum right already. Your aunt can't be trusted and she doesn't love you. If you think your mum is selfish, your aunt is worse than your mum. I ain't a prophet but I see your relationship with this aunt leading to chaos in your home. Your mum knows her sis and let's leave it at that.

Tzar:
I love our African tradition of support system. However, times have changed. The family members you bring in may undo you, so be attentive to how more evil we as Nigerians have all become.
Maybe your mum is also avoiding temptation with your husband. She may know what she is capable of & may not want to snatch your husband from you. That may be why she is keeping her distance. Or her new husband who is now her crown, frowns at the visit. In that instance, there is absolutely nothing you can do about it. He hubby is the leader. You also CANNOT disobey your hubby, can you??
God may be blessing you in disguise, but like typical women, it’s your way or the highway!
What if you live abroad & your mum is unable to secure a visa? Will you still be this distraught?!
Think outside the box and have you & your hubby fix this challenge amicably between you. Both of you enjoyed the act, so both of you should face the consequences.

tonididdy:
❌Two sisters having grudges for one another...not good

❌Your mom 9mobths later never met her first grandchild...not good

❌Your mom is a new wife ...not good

❌You exposing your mom's chat history with you ...not good

Did you mother even attend your wedding? Or una nor do marriage?
.....in conclusion, your husband is the one I pity.
E DON MARRY! * Men should do their homework before the alter*

....Like father like sons, like MOTHER like ....

BALLOSKI:


How foolish and careless can you be to even set your mom against her sister knowing their relationship and what your mom said is just to trigger you to stop her visit?


Why don't you "extreme emotional beings" use your head or think before acting?

Is it everything you are told you reveal to the other person? Don't you know how to use diplomacy? Couldn't you just tell your aunt not to mind what your mom is saying and not reveal the husband-snatching part?


As a wife, you can't manage information and you're about to set your own family on fire. Don't go and set your husband against his own family and that might lead to your fall. It's not everything you hear you reveal.


People are really stupid these days.

As a 10 year old boy, my uncle would report my mom to me and I would tell my mom to correct her ways that her brother is not happy with whatever she did without revealing other details so i'd not cause more problems cos I know my mom. She's his only sister and he's her only brother from same mom and dad- though they step-siblings.

If I can do this at barely 10, I don't know why a married woman would be this careless.

Your mom and her sisters are going to be enemies forever because of your stupidity

Clap for yourself!

Map1:
what makes her Mother elderly? don't you think the 3 women involved here are kid?if her mother can accuse her aunt of husband snatcher is shows the aunt is around 30,if her mother could still be remarried it shows her mother is around 40 and OP will be around 20 0r 22, they are still a kid, what do you expect from them.

kaydee:


How did you arrive at your conclusion? Ain't it obvious the aunt is the terrible person and momma was right bout her?

A newly wedded grandma got told by her new husband not to go see her grandchild. She's in a dilemma and without knowing the details of her first marriage, decides to keep her home and made the choice to obey her husband.

Her aunt decided to spill the vital information knowing it's going to damage her relationship with her mum and siblings but she doesn't care whose ox is gored. A very selfish being. Her husband is even worse. They don't care about OP and she needs to keep her distance.

Her mum is right after all, Aunt is a homewrecker and she needs that elbow room.

Jidefido:


Sincerely, you made a big error by sending the screenshot. I don't blame your siblings for calling you a betrayer. You shouldn't have sent the screenshot to your aunty. Now you have destroyed your mum's relationship with your aunt and also your relationship with your mum and siblings.
My advice for you is to go meet someone you know your mum respects a lot and use him or her to beg your mum. Also, find means to get your mum and aunty back, though that will be hard. God help you through

MuslimIgbo:

You're not a good human being.
Common sense didn't tell you that sharing such screenshot will cause problem?
If I were your mother, I'll forever not talk to you again as a disgrace of a child that you are.
Also, YOU SAID THAT YOU GAVE BIRTH 9 MONTHS AGO, WHAT DO YOU STILL NEED A BABYSITTER FOR?
ARE YOU THAT LAZY AND UNORGANISED?

Mom007:
You are not wise and you are not loyal. I feel like calling u mumu. Your first allegiance should be to your mom regardless of her flaws. She was trying so desperately to not have her sister visit you before she did. Why didn't you take the hint? Look how far you went to discredit your mom... your own mother... even sending screenshot. What were you trying to prove or achieve? I hope you are happy now. Even here on a faceless forum, you still call your mother unreliable... she is not reliable and you and your siblings did not die in infancy or childhood...when will you people learn to give your parents honor? It's one of the governing laws of the universe set by God Himself! The other day one nzuzu was insulting his father here... later he will wonder why his life is not doing fine. God forbid children that insult and expose their parents to public ridicule, amen!

FireUpNow:
Your mother is simply obeying her husband's rules. Is your father alive or your mom divorced your dad and went to marry another husband?

KosiGee:


Sorry I have to say this, your family seems highly dysfunctional. Your mum is newly married and with a new man, you are married and with a baby…the issue isn’t just your relationship with your mum/family. Something is wrong…your mum’s younger sister being accused of husband snatching…your screenshot!! Who does that? Why would you screenshot your mum’s conversation with you and show to your aunty??

Madam, any reasonable person would avoid your family. You all display the RED FLAGS. Pls post your photo and details so we would all avoid you all. There’s so much acrimony, so much malice, so much gossiping, there’s just so much of all the negative vibes.

Put a huge sign in front of your house reading…AVOID THIS FAMILY FOR YOUR OWN GOOD.

bemeruca:
She is not your maid.

viodemus:
is not a must to do.

una dun take kindness for granted, then at some point, e cun turn to tradition.