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sgtponzihater1:
Nice one. Maybe in another world my case will be different. Happy birthday to your husband

Aw.. You can turn things around for yourself. Enjoy the life that you have now, you just need to make it happen! You can do it, don't give up on yourself. xx

You should be able to pay whatever debit balance is on your account however, if it is not letting then Yes, wait until your statement is generated. Since you know your statement date, set a reminder to check this on the day and you should be able to make a debit card payment.

Missposh:
On using amex credit card

I used my amex credit card at the beginning of the month, my statement date is in a few days but each time I log in, it says payment not due at this time. When I tried to pay, it say you can only make on this date everyone...something along that line.

Please do I need to wait for my statement date before making payment?
If I made the payment on my statement closing date, would that be fine?

What does it mean by you can only make payment on this date...does that mean I can only pay on that date every month?

I have set up a direct debit for the account but I understand that having just set up the direct debit, I may still need to pay this bill myself before the direct debit will be activated.

Please help answer the questions above and kindly add other points you think will be useful for a new user

Thanks

Please do not blame yourself for ignoring the supposed red flags, it has happened, forgive yourself and move on. Take learning from it and don't forget.

I know that this is only one side of the story however, from my experience, when things reach a breaking point, it forces some people to re-assess and adjust. Since you have tried everything within your ability, what may eventually work, since you are willing, is for you to tell her you will be filing for a divorce, and actually file for it - that may force her to take you seriously. You should know that this may also have the opposite effect, in that she will accept this, so you should be willing to go through with it because, to be honest, you're not happy in your marriage anyway. Marriage is no longer a do or die affair because the dynamics of when it was is completely different from our society today. The world is changing at great pace and you don't have to lose yourself in the process. If you both can make it work, then it's better, if not, at least you know you did your best. It may just be what you both need, to force you both back to the drawing board and possibly start all over again.

There's always a sacrifice to make when it comes to getting divorced, you should weigh up what that sacrifice is against your current situation and determine what the best course of action is for you.

I wish you all the very best in your journey.

GOSPEL...PREACH!!!

LondonDating:
1. Don't claim benefits you are not entitled to from the Govt as it may take 25 years to find out but they probably will and even if they don't you don't want to make a habit of taking what you are not entitled to.

2. Always pay your taxes as tax evasion carries a 5 year prison sentence.

3. The less the number of Nigerian friends you have the better for you.

4. Save, save and save to get a deposit to buy your own house (Mortgage) as all rent is waste and your propert(ies) will serve as a good source of pension and wealth in future.

5. IF you ever need to flog your errant school age pikin, make sure it is on the palm.

6. Not sure if you are a man but if you are, NEVER hit a woman.

7. You can go to prison for 8 years if your wife says get up and you say wait till I finish as from the point you carry on regardless, it is called marital rape.

8. Don't drink and drive or drive withouth insurance as if you hav an accident in such circumstances, you will be jailed. Also do not drive if you have been banned from driving.

9. Don't listen to ANY Nigerian who tries to teach you ways to beat the system (e.g fiddle with your electric meter) or make easy money as any easy money comes with a greater than 50% probability that you will end up in jail.

10. If you have a son in the UK, just know that black boys are picked on by the UK educational system and learn to do your own research / tough love at home and not believe everything negative they say about your son.

I am sure you will use wisdom to decipher a proactive way forward from all the responses. It is easy to have opinions but as they say, 'walk a mile in my shoes before you judge me'

I can completely relate, and without knowing exactly what is going through your wife's head, it is more probable that she is not sexually attracted to you. You should therefore make yourself attractive to her so that you can both enjoy eachother. Start by paying attention to yourself and listen to her, is she telling you things you're doing that she does not like? not necessarily sexual, it can be as simple as snoring that puts someone off, do you have good hygiene - she may not want to hurt you by telling you this so look inwards too. Never forget that it always takes two.

Going out to cheat is never the answer if you love your wife because it can have the opposite effect and will never be worth it in the end. Also making her feel you're desired by other women will not work, in fact, she will probably feel relieved and be more distant. You need to discover the underlying reason why she does not find you attractive and work on this, this is the only way to improve your love life.

You have to connect with her emotionally in order to re-ignite the spark. Most importantly, discover her love language and build on this. I hope you both make it work xx

Wow!!! Excellent is an understatement. You should be the Minister for Women Affairs... Lol.
From a female's perspective, I couldn't agree more!

Well done Benee1000 I had to re-join NL just to commend you!