₦airaland Forum

ojeota:
I thought he has already defeated them according to lie Mohammed

Yes he has. Everything has been put in place so just a call to his son shekua is remaining

stanech:
wishful thinking


Nigerians have to be vigilant now because BH may strike just to prove him wrong.

You are wrong. Bokoharry can order em to stop any time he feels he has attained his goals and covered his track

Very close

Where are the Nigerian moralizers?

ekefre4:
D only marriage that is recognised by the state of Nigeria. I.e. incase of divorce der will b proper settlement 2 d wife. Bt if der was no court marriage u can discard d wife without settling herr

There is nothing like court marriage. What you talking about is called statutory marriage. I could be conducted in the marriage registry, a licensed place of worship eg a church or some other places approved by a governor.

CaaseStudy:
yes on the surface when i wake up from each episode i feel happy that i won the fight but deep down i still feel deeply unease .

God has been fighting your battles behind your back even when you have not acknowledge Him.
But a major battle is cooking up which requires you to do something yourself.
You need to draw closer to God and rely totally on him.. By strength shall no man prevail.
Pls don't ignore this.

free2ryhme:
those are what make politics tick

Na, i hate lies...especially blatant lies.
It's horrible .

free2ryhme:
at least smile we go see fuel buy

You think so
I'm tired of lies and propagandas

Bamidupe20:
i cant call it ENDURE when the parties involved love each other mixed with the fear of God

Love and the fear of God does not mean you won't annoy each other sometimes.
There are things you have to endure.

You will understand better when you are married.

ajuwarhodes:
Irony is that we are quite close...we gist well and fight well too.but lil help here and there at home isn't part of it... I just picked that point out of what op wrote, that asking doesn't mean he will say the truth ,that I asked and didn't get the truth

Ok, maybe he is forming "my balls are too heavy to do women chores"

Try and let him know you are not seeing it as his responsibility, but just his magnanimous act of love... Some folks has huge ego u know

Bamidupe20:
sounds like you have given up on him...but i like your courage though. i just wish you could channel a little more to better your marriage. marriage is to be enjoyed..and not endured..will remember you in my prayers....smiles.......#nodivorce# #adeptloverofGod#

I think it's both

Bamidupe20:
i am proud to be one..care to join?

Thanks, i am a helper by calling

ajuwarhodes:
I just do my duty at home and at work,I clean the home to the best of my ability. That's all.

That's good.
I would advise you try draw closer to him by joining him in doing things he loves doing so you don't drift away emotionally.
Bottling it all up usually turn out to be a ticking time bomb cos you may explode in anger one day over a minor issue and folks will blame you for overreacting.
Your will overcome.

missyadorable:
I wouldn't say I ended a relationship,cos we didn't actually start dating

Met him,he was doing quite well

He was in a hurry to start the relationship while I was trying to calm down,slow him down and try to know each other better

Then when we became friends on facebook,i found out he married about a 2 years earlier....i asked him about it and he denied! When I showed him evidence,he said he is separated.So he was single.I ran away asap!

The force is strong with this one.

Good but that has been the path of many Igbo successful businessmen since the time of Azikiwe.
May Chukwu Abi ama bless his hustles.

Bamidupe20:
Honestly I don't need his help,but when am pregnant or sick, I cld do with a lil help here and there, when I travel out of the state ,I expect him to at least keep his home clean,not wait for two weeks till am back, am not surprised u ignored the cursing side of the story ,it's a mans world isn't?

Besides I didn't force him into marrying me,he saw the things he liked n love in me before proposing, and of course asked his questions too,what if I had said something else and now doing something else,men will say women change after u marry them. Let's be real here!
Ma'am pray for him..and communicate in the language he understands then don't give up on him..remember that womanhood is a ministry and not a burden.God bless your marriage

Prayer worrior! .

ekefre4:
Investments? Only if we won't do court marriage.

What is court marriage?

ajuwarhodes:
Honestly I don't need his help,but when am pregnant or sick, I cld do with a lil help here and there, when I travel out of the state ,I expect him to at least keep his home clean,not wait for two weeks till am back, am not surprised u ignored the cursing side of the story ,it's a mans world isn't?

A man's world? no i don't subscribe to such.
I don't curse and i think it's childish to do that...
Your expectations (the ones on this post) is genuine and what any average responsible adult is expected to do.
But, I don't know you or your hubby that much so it's hard for me to really get to the root of the matter.

What have you been doing to cope?

viktor01:
Make sense though but what happens to "love covers all multitude of sins", abi you nor dey read your Bible?

Even Almighty merciful baba God dea punish sinners

Love does not cover lies, deceit and unrepentant irresponsibility.

ajuwarhodes:
Well,op u are right,but what if he lies while answering? Before I got married I asked if my hubby does help in house chaos and he says he's such that can pick a Saturday and dust n clean,but it's four yrs now, he has never done that, he also didn't give trace of cursing,but when we have issues he curses like hell,I was forced to ask him wht type of upbringing he's got, i was so mad one day that i had to ask him if thats the way his dad curses his mum...which of course got him mad.he has never hit me though, I pray he doesn't.

Hhaha! which man will admit helping in house chaos?
Well, i do house chores more than any husband i know of but, i would hate it if wify expects it to become a norm. Like wdf hearing wify asking why i haven't done the dishes? like seriously ...a full blooded son of my father with big heavy balls

megabyte2:
social media inclusive

You be correct 1000 yards wife material

Princemilla:
I was a victim

You are still a big V

I hate blablablah rants like this.

VOICEOFJUSTICE:
SEUN, ABEG NO VEX O, YOU NO DEY DASH MONEY EVEN DURING XMAS? LINDA DEY THROWAY MONEY LIKE NO MAN BIZ NAIM MAKE SHE DEY GET PLENTY. SEUN U DEY HEAR ME SO? NA WHEN U GO DO GIVE AWAY MONEY NI?

SOGBOR MI NI?

You wan make em use u do money rituals abi u no knw whr our guy come from

Beedemi247:
A friend of mine recently found out that ‘her man’ is married. I remember how hurt she looked when she said to me, “Toby did you know that John (not real name) is married?”

“Whaaaat!” I screamed in disbelief. “Are you kidding me?”

“Toby he’s been married for three years, and I am just finding out today.”

“Oh my God!” I exclaimed. “Then what was he coming to you for naa”, I asked in shock.

“Ask me again Toby, ask me ooo.” At this point she was almost in tears.

As far as I am concerned, my friend was lucky to have found out when she did. For many people, some of these shocks take place only after marriage.

Some of these situations can be avoided to a large extent if we put our feelings aside and ask our partner some sincere questions before making any major decision in our relationships.

I have written below 21 questions you should ask before you say “I do”. Many of them are weird, but based on recent happenings; one can never be too sure. For the purpose of emphasis, I must say that “Baby you know I love you” is not the answer to any of these questions. So friends, let’s dive in and explore.

What is your real name?
Candy, Sonsy or Jimmy is usually not a real name for most Nigerians. (Of course there are exceptions). Find out your boo/bae’s real (and village) names, so that if e come get as e be, you go know where to begin trace things.

Are your parents together?
This question isn’t meant to judge, but for you to know what to expect and be prepared. These people will be your children’s grandparents (hopefully). Are they divorced, separated, estranged, cat-and-dog, or living happily together?

What do you do?
If she is a student, find out which school, course and expected year of graduation. If he is a business man, find out the type of business. If he is working, ask for the name of the organization and for how long. By the way, ‘hustling’ without any further definition, is not an occupation.

When can I meet your folks?
This one takes a lot of guts especially for ladies. But nne eh this question may be what will determine how long you will be the star actor of ‘Lord of the Rings’.

What do you do when you get mad?
Do you curse, sulk, hit people or break things when you get mad? You need to know about this now to avoid stories of “I fell down the stairs” tomorrow.

How much do you make?
Please don’t be shy about this. This is someone you are planning to build a future with. You need to have an idea of what his/her income looks like on the average so as to make feasible plans.

Do you smoke and/or drink?
To some people, this isn’t a big deal while to some, it is. It doesn’t hurt to ask.

Where do you live?
Dear sister, if he is still living with his parents or squatting with a friend’s nephew’s brother’s cousin, you need to know. If he is living in a face-me-I-slap-you compound, you need to know too, so you can start getting ready for the communal life and compound fights.

What do you like eating?
This is equally for guys and not just ladies. At least you will know what to prepare (or buy) when you want to give him/her a treat.

How many kids do you want?
Two cannot work together unless they agree. It is important to have an agreement here to avoid misunderstanding tomorrow.

What if none comes?
Yes, “God forbid”, and “it is not our portion”. But let’s face it, no be everybody go get pikin. So suck it up and ask the question. “What happens if no kids come the first few years of the marriage? What if only girls or only boys come? Will you get another wife? Or will you keep trying until you have 12 daughters?”

Do you have inheritance or investments?
My take is this. If you can trust someone enough to agree to spend the rest of your life together and to naked before the pesin, you suppose trust that pesin with everything, including your investments.

What is your sexual orientation?
If you wish to avoid “had I known”, ask your boo/bae if he/she is heterosexual, bi-sexual, homosexual or into bestiality sef. Adighi amachazi ama nawadays (you can never know).

Do you have debts?
People choose a spouse for different reasons. Some marry to deliver their family from poverty. Some marry to get contracts, while some marry to pay off debts. If your boo/bae is owing $60,000 (#12,000,000) in tuition debts for instance, you should know beforehand.

What’s your view on body size/image?
You need to know if she can stand flabby arms, bald heads and/or pot bellies.

Similarly, find out if he can still love a woman who has Christian mothers’ arms (ndi nne maama) or a protruding stomach.

What’s your view on cooking and other domestic work?
Most ladies love getting pampered. Many of them will be disappointed if their husbands can’t cook or assist with domestic work. If you are one, ask him now, so you won’t have the wrong expectations that lead to unfulfilled relationships tomorrow.

And bros, you need to know if she can prepare anything else apart from bread/tea or Indomie. What about cleaning, sweeping, washing, etc. Now is the best time to decide if you will need to employ chefs, cleaners or helps.

What is your career plan?
He may be working in a bank today, but planning to become a pastor tomorrow.

Or maybe she is a Civil servant today but plans to become a politician tomorrow. Can you cope?

What are your sexual fantasies?
Does he/she expect MouthAction, anal sex, bondage, threesomes, sex-tapes etc? Stop being shy and ask, so you don’t get the shock of your life after wedding.

What are your religious views?
Without a good mutual understanding, having different religious views can break up an otherwise good relationship. For Christians, this includes church doctrines.

Do you have a child?
It is better to know this and prepare for the drama that comes with baby mamas/papas beforehand.

Are you married?
Put your feelings aside and ask this all important question. If they are divorced, ask for details. There is a big difference between divorced and about-to-be divorced.

Your Turn
Have you ever ended a relationship because of the answer to any of these questions? Have you ever received shocks from your boo/bae or ex-boo/bae? Please share your experience in the comments section.



http://www.bellanaija.com/2015/12/18/toby-nwazor-21-questions-to-ask-before-saying-i-do/

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seun

Questions for people who met at the club joint, smoking joints and brothels.

g

This is very interesting. Now that what you are stealing at home cannot sustain you, you are now pifering on peoples emotion to get your daily bread

tobex23:
Na wa o. Were Nlders go Me having 3 plots on this thread already. And today is Sunday.

Biafrans are leaving nairaland

JideJamez:
All the remaining 35state indigents in Lagos are the cause of increase in crime in Lagos "Eko oni baje o"

Ogun nko ?

Biafran states has less criminals than Suen's Ogun state. No wonder the fill d'un ritualista threatened to ban all pro Biafran posters.