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Let’s face it, ladies: Sex is a topic you usually discuss behind closed doors with your partner or during lunch with your closest friends (glass of wine optional). But I’ve noticed as I’ve gotten older that sex isn’t the hot lunch topic it used to be. That’s no surprise, considering how the activity that once consumed us now has to fit into the patchwork of our lives that also includes work, kids, aging parents, and, oh yes, glorious sleep. But it does make me wonder about the future. Is there a time when sex will no longer be on the agenda? And can we—should we—change that?

The answer, it turns out, is that it’s likely up to each of us. A research letter out this week in JAMA Internal Medicine reports that women between the ages of 40 and 65 who place greater importance on sex are more likely to stay sexually active as they age. In other words, if it’s important to you, you’ll keep on doing it. “Having taken a lot of sexual histories from midlife women, it’s probably true!” says Dr. Jan Leslie Shifren, associate professor of obstetrics, gynecology, and reproductive biology at Harvard Medical School, and co-author of the Harvard special report Sexuality in Midlife and Beyond.

Dr. Shifren points out that the research letter did not find that sex was more satisfying for women who stated it was important to them, just that they were more likely to remain sexually active. It’s also not clear how often they had sex.

There are many reasons why sex may slow down for women when they get older, not least of which is menopause. When the ovaries stop making estrogen, the vaginal lining becomes thinner, there’s less vaginal elasticity, muscle tone, and lubrication, and arousal takes longer. As a result, women may experience

decreased libido (a lack of interest in sex)
difficulty with lubrication
pain with penetration
difficulty or inability to climax.
Some women may have sexual dysfunction that’s related to social or psychological issues, such as stress, anxiety, body image problems, relationship problems, or the lack of a partner.

Poor health can also get in the way of having sex. Heart disease can reduce the amount of blood that reaches sex organs, making it difficult to fill the blood vessels around the vagina that are crucial for adequate lubrication and arousal. High blood pressure, diabetes, depression, and incontinence can all nudge sex aside. Medications for a variety of conditions can have anti-sex side effects. For example, some drugs used to treat depression or high blood pressure can blunt interest in sex or cause difficulty reaching orgasm.

So what’s a woman to do? Seek treatment. That may not be as complicated as you think. Many sexual problems can be reversed with appropriate therapy, especially if they’re relatively new. Dr. Shifren says treatment is often successful.

Some therapies are simple, such as using a lubricant or low-dose vaginal estrogen for dryness and pain, or swapping one medication with negative side effects for another. Sometimes the treatment may be more involved, such as hormone therapy for decreased libido or sex therapy for inability to climax.

But clinical therapy is just part of the prescription. These lifestyle changes can also make a difference:

Exercise—it can improve your sexual function by improving blood flow and strengthening your heart.

Quit smoking—it will improve blood flow to the sexual organs and may also stave off menopause for a few years.

Drink alcohol in moderation, since large amounts of alcohol can dampen sexual reflexes, trigger hot flashes, and disrupt sleep.

Control your weight to give you the body image you want.

Eat a healthy diet, which helps prevent heart disease and diabetes, and helps you maintain a healthy weight.

Dr. Shifren also offers this advice: “Bring some novelty to your life. Take vacations. Go on date nights.”

Why bother with all this? Sex is important to women’s health. It revs up metabolism and may boost the immune system. Frequent sexual intercour

The way you live, what you eat and drink, and how you treat your body can affect your memory just as much as your physical health and well-being. Here are five things you can do every day to keep both your mind and body sharp.

1. Manage your stress. The constant drumbeat of daily stresses such as deadline pressures or petty arguments can certainly distract you and affect your ability to focus and recall. But the bigger problem is an ongoing sense of anxiety — that can lead to memory impairment. If you don't have a strategy in place for managing your stress, protecting your memory is one reason to get one. Deep breathing, meditation, yoga, and a "mindful" approach to living can all help.

2. Get a good night's sleep. People who don't sleep well at night tend to be more forgetful than people who sleep soundly. A good night's sleep is essential for consolidating memories. The most common reason for poor sleep is insomnia — difficulty falling asleep or staying asleep. Unfortunately, many medicines used to treat insomnia can also impair memory and general brain function. That's why it's best to try improving your sleep habits first and turn to medication only if those steps don't help. If you do need sleep aids, use the lowest dose for the shortest time needed to get your sleep back on track.

3. If you smoke, quit. Easier said than done, certainly — but if you need additional motivation, know that smokers have a greater degree of age-related memory loss and other memory problems than nonsmokers. People who smoke more than two packs of cigarettes a day at midlife have more than double the risk of developing dementia in old age compared with nonsmokers. However, those who stop smoking by midlife and those who smoke less than half a pack a day have a similar a risk of dementia as people who have never smoked.

4. If you drink alcohol, do so moderately. Drinking too much alcohol increases the risk for memory loss and dementia. People with alcoholism have difficulty performing short-term memory tasks, such as memorizing lists. Another type of memory loss associated with alcohol use is called Korsakoff's syndrome. In this condition, long-term vitamin B1 deficiency, combined with the toxic effects of alcohol on the brain, can trigger sudden and dramatic amnesia. In some cases this memory loss is permanent, but if caught early, it can be reversed to some degree.

5. Protect your brain from injury. Head trauma is a major cause of memory loss and increases the risk of developing dementia. Always use the appropriate gear during high-speed activities and contact sports. Wear a helmet when bicycling, riding on a motorcycle, in-line skating, and skiing. Wear seat belts when riding in motor vehicles. Car accidents are by far the most common cause of brain injury, and wearing a seat belt greatly reduces the chances of severe head injury.

myrrtle:
JBD & Co. Internship in Abuja, Kaduna and Zaria for law students

Boss just for law,pls incase you any again pls lemmi knw

MsCee:
ok then, call me on 08023643788 or send me a text so i can call u back and then we can discuss, ok?. dont worry too much about pay, u can be sure it'd be a lot more than 25k.

Morning, pls I need a job to,I already sent you my CV,I graduated last month awaiting results, I stay in Kaduna, anything to keep d body and soul busy will be appreciated

Mornn,I just graduated last month awaiting results will be interested in anything to keep d mind n body busy,tnks,based in Kaduna

MrCasper:
Why people will remain gullible I don't know. I'm a Christian and also have no problem with these mega pastors or prosperity preachers....I simply don't know why people will be so dumb and gullible to fall for some antics by some so called men of God all in the name of financial liberation or miracle. correct me if I am wrong, but I don't know how paying my tithes will make me a millionaire...I pay my tithes because its the right thing to do, not because a so called man of God tells me I will get a thousand fold in return. that's greed, and that's the main reason a lot of people will always fall for these 21st century preachers....every great financial scam requires greedy and gullible people, and a lot of preachers are banking on this to extort money from the so called Christians...don't tell me to give because God will bless me a thousand fold, because I'm already blessed. only lazy folks will spend their time, energy and money hoping to God for financial freedom in churches. The church is not a business place.

Don't even knw how to quote,BT I just have to comment,masterpiece u just wrote,

lachenzy1:
HHahahahahahahah...... KSU 2015/2016? na 2018 u dey go service!!! better komot ur mind incase u go get BP. u know a Nat. Sc be now

Oga if no be our hod wia disappoint himself dey for mobilised us,biosci computa wia mobilised n we finished d sametime

Omachoko007:
Omachoko007
Kogi state Uni
2016, August
Physics
Lagos
WhatsApp 07087467554

Boss Na 2015 Na,no be it cause all dese bullshit,so phy to wasn't mobilised I tot t was only MCB bch n chem

Ur rit,been tryin to download can't since yestada fa

Mine

koms:
oriZon are u class 2015 MCB KSU?

Oga hu are u

justifiedcoyy:
ehn ehn.. Tor.

On my way.

But shey that tremor thing wey I take my eye see for news na lie ni

Anyways, I've been to kd before and I have a family in kafancha..so, if I get posted to kafancha, it means free accommodation and free food.

Kapable75 must not see dis

Lolz,alrt den if ur eventually posted hia,I wuld host u ko,BT trust me kd is peaceful,

[quote author=iamwizzle post=50368099]Lol...wich skol?[/quote
Ksu

yinkhar:
nope

We init togeda,while we stay positive we hope for da best,

iamwizzle:
Please for those of us whose school has not uploaded their names...is there still hope for us going with this batch

Lolz baba we in it togeda beta go join 2017 batch A thread,bT hu wuld Ave tot I wuld be sayin dese,TS all gudt sha

justifiedcoyy:
that Kaduna bad gan o. And I don already choose am.but dem go pair Kaduna with d likes of yobe na. Chai, I for choose taraba sha

But maybe they will allow corpers redeploy frm Kaduna based on insecurity.. Cos, that tremor alone is enuf reason. Shiites still dey, herdsmen chai..
Northern Nigeria needs more than prayer

Wia una dey get dese stories from Na,I stay in kd wen I hear all dese news,am like is it d same kd dey are talkin abt or WC one,kd is d best o,weda north or south

aydeluxe:
Southern kaduna has bin in d news recently over the numerous killings...just yesterday House of reps moved a motion to declare state of emergency on security in southern kaduna.......i hope they sort it out asap...my 4th choice na kaduna o.

Boss WC kilings,I stay in kd n wat u sayin is news to me,kd n Kano is d center of d north,any of d two u chose is dope

Ksu disappointed demselves sha,moviin on
Microbiology
Lagos Edo Kano imo

yinkhar:
Yinka

UNIOSUN

2016

Micribiology

Lag, Abj, Akwa ibom and kaduna

U ddnt c ur name to,

Kutenluvly:
Registered yesterday. Thank God.
Kaduna
Lagos
Abuja
Rivers
But na lagos I wan go. So help me God. Anybody with similar interests?

How did u do it,u Ave all d hottest spot,only u

Davoj:
Why Uniben tinz dey hard like this, To release result na war, To do clearance na die, To gain admission na fire, to upload Nysc senate list, another war, na when una go chose all the better state finish dem want, Nawao

Oga Na toda reg dey close o,u beta waka go ur SCH o

joshuakdboy:
most Natural sciences departmental course reps slack.
Computer, Maths science and Statistics are seeing their names,

And remember, Computer went for siwes too
#KSU

Boss are u frm nat sci,even boi sci to saw dias,don't knw wats rug wt MCB n d rrst

kcy:
KSU.....my mate day see dr name....

Oga go n marry

browniecay:
God has done it again, it is now my turn to celebrate.

KSU has uploaded my name...


Reg on point....

Baba congrat o,nat sci we no c anything o

yinkhar:
we are in it too. UNIOSUN

So u study MCB to,

[quote author=yinkhar post=50306770]we are in it too. UNIOSUN[/quote
Hmmm,I just hope dey don't finish d reasonable states,we just keep hoping I gurss

Not just last to be uploaded, as of now, Lagos and Abuja is out of the equation for ksu students cos they filled up, i can't go to a remote northern village.
God help us.

Wats rili rili rili rili ksu problem, haba schs we wia even usin to console ourselves dey Ave all seen dia names,t seems we d only ones left self

paragon40:
wc department in ksu bro?

Baba is nat sci wt dia wahala o,MCB precisely