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Wedon:
This guy would have beat her up eventually . . . whether she held his shirt or not. The guy was an abuser waiting to happen!

If you had the brain to read btw the lines, you would see that he is a controlling man . . who wants everything to be the way her decrees, down to the last T!

Who art thou woman to dare question him

Imagine the joy he got from beating her up, he had to open a thread just to brag.

see as you just dey assume things for inside your mind *smh... Read the OP post over and over again and deduce the kind of person she is. Abusive(both physically and otherwise), talkative, her friends got into her head, etc... And you still see no problem with that? Interesting

fem29:
Hmm na wa for d girl oo. I guess she is just used to violence me I cannot do gra gra and let some guy pound my face. I nor get power

now you see that some ladies are just impossible. The girl had hit the guy frying pan on the head, abused his big aunty(over 4oyrs old) and many more. The guy didn't beat her up until that day she locked him inside and hid the key. And everyone would still expect him to be a gentle man if not he is termed "woman beater"

MarvellousGod:
Exactly, they were both trading words but the guy resorted to beating her up because he felt he was stronger.. mtcheeeeww

pls read the guy's post. The lady abused him physically several times and he managed the situation till that moment she locked him up. Before you conclude

coogar:
there's nothing to contribute - the OP didn't ask anyone to contribute but like the tatafo that you are, you have already built a gossip mansion on the thread.




the essence of this thread is the exegesis of 2 adults behaving immaturely. the OP has confessed she's abused her partner and she got the deserved comeuppance. what else is there to admit? any woman that locks a man's shirt deserves a dirty slap!



the same abusive relationship she was the main actor? if she had let the man wander off to go vent, would she have been abused? she was the primary aggressor - she deserves everything that got dished to her......



of course there's God & that's exactly why she got pummelled. next time, she would learn to keep her hands to herself. if a woman cannot win an argument with her tongue, she should walk away from it.

the bolded got me laughing real hard hahahahahaha

Wedon:
That is how my husband's Aunt married a failure of a Man . . .

He would beat her senseless over a flimsy excuse. My MIL (the woman's elder sister) tried to intervene and they used her to settle. See the woman accusing my MIL of trying to break-up her marriage. All because she advised her to leave an abusive man . . .

Ngwa nu fast forward to 36 years later . . . The woman had to pack her property and run after finding concrete evidence that her husband wanted to kill her. . . she suffered and toiled and took all the abuse for 36 YEARS!!!

The useless man nko? Carrying Uni girls up and down and sleeping with new girls every night in their marriage bed . . glad that he is finally free of a a 36YO marriage!

A useless man is a useless man . . there is nothing you can do to change that!

A useless woman is also a useless woman. There's nothing the poor man can do about it we are both right. Game over

Wedon:
Sometimes I wish God can just switch roles . . . make men women and women men . . Just for a day!

Some of you men blabbing here will poising your husbands (wives) over night!

ehya sorry ehn keep wishing oooh. Meanwhile, good men are out there sha so its not like all men are bad. Seriously, if you put more effort in campaigning and warning women to learn not to be abusive instead of for men not to "beat their wives" the problem would die down quicker. But you women don't want that I guess. You always want to run ur mouth and expect silence. That's not good rili.

Rose2014:
How are we sure their men haven't been abusing them before and they eventually retaliate. No gender has the monopoly of violence
D lady may be taking it until the devil advise her one day n she listens

Pls don't beat ur woman sweetheart. Just drop her ass if she's giving u high bp. Same advise for women

why must she listen to the devil. Tfk is that... And oh yh I'll drop her as soon as she let's me go outside, failure to do that I'll term it "restriction" which I think its a punishable crime under the nigerian constitution and I wll resist at all cost. I repeat. AT ALL COSTS

Wedon:
Before nko?

I am an African woman . . . women empowerment or not, my husband is my LORD and MASTER and I serve him as such. He is also the MAN . . . So I expect him to act it.

oh yh he will. And you as an african woman don't be provoking someone and expect him to be a gentle man. F^ck gentle manliness jare. Everybody behave normal and live peacefully that's how it should be. Control urself

Justfollowit:
No
The kind of love he had towards her is a dangerous one

That is what abusers do in the name of love

Maybe he had raised that she is the only woman that can tolerate his bullshit

He needs help

you don come here again... They both need help not just hime... At least he admitted to some of his faults. The lady needs the more help. Its obvious

Wedon:
'beating' him?

Abeg what harm will her weak/boneless hands do to a big muscular man like him.

hahahahaha so you know you are weaker vessles loooolz I no fit laugh. But, Have you not been seeing threads on FP where women kill their husbands? Comooooon

fem29:
Hmm yes they are painful but if someone is always verbally abusing me I would leave them just like I would leave a physically abusive person. I wouldn't beat them up.

and when the person locks you up nkor? See I saw a gentle guy who always say he wouldn't touch a lady, I saw him beat his GF for the first time cos she locked him in and refused him to cool down even inside the room after almost an hour of begging from him and we the flat mates. I can't even imagine myself in that position. Oya imagine urself

Rose2014:
Honey I would've preferred us (me n u) to live in America

so you can do anyhow and I won't be able to beat you for your rudeness abi NO WAY. In naija we must live

Wedon:
Leave matter jor . . .

I have seen men who can control the anger in the face of the greatest provocation . . . I married one of such men and he earned my respect.

I call him a REAL GENTLEMAN . . tested and trusted!

hahahahahaha* I am happy for you ehn. And I hope you don stop oh cos the man BP go just dey escalate. Abeg stop if you never stop

iykedare:
This got me

you know say that side dey carry equality for head. If you report this kind ish for naija na sara oooh. Police go even dey abuse you sef this one na small, go saudi arabia or afgan. Women are like trash there. If husband beat you no case at allll..... Nigerian me, being nice to their ladies since the days of king jaja of okpobo

MizMyColi:
While it might seem like I'm absolving her of any fault......
I am not.
Neither of them knew any better. Mark my words....if she will attest to this. This very ugly side of hers surfaced because he did something to her, repeatedly, which he considered as trivial. Even when she spoke about it.....directly and/or indirectly......she was made to second guess herself. Those attitudes she displayed are evidences of pent up frustration.

It is a common trait in ladies who are very nice and loyal to a fault.....especially the outgoing ones - to vent their frustration and anger through vile verbal and physical abuse. It takes a conscious decision to become a better person and burying those evil tendencies for good.
Which is why they must pair with a partner who is emotionally sane, has lots of self control and fore sight......someone who understands them and yet isn't controlling --- allowing them to live their lives, because...they're usually free birds.
Perhaps, I'm over-simplifying these things.
Perhaps.....I'm reading the story behind her story.
The one.....people, generally speaking, are not as apt to see.
Perhaps.....

She, infact.....both of them, need to make a conscious decision to become better for themselves and the world around them.

No one is absolved....we all, including me - we have our good, bad, ugly and UGLY side.

I will not judge her.....I will not judge him.
If I didn't know better....I'd prolly do and say worse.

If You Have Not Walked A Person's Journey.....You Might Wanna Show Some Leniency While Judging Their Story (If! you must judge).

well, you have spoken well. From his part of the story she started th "frustating"... From her side of the story he started the "frustrating" so we can't rili know who started what... But from both stories its clear both of them have problem with their medular oblacatar. They are not compatible mayb cos money don finish looooolz* nice write up jare

Wedon:
Similar no be say the bobo beat me ooh. I swear no man alive can ever lay his fingers on me . . . I will make sure he lives to tell the story.

Not to talk of going home with him and having 3ex with him that same night . . .

OP messed up big time abeg. Common babydaddy ooh, no be say na husband.

I'm only trying to set you guys right nah . . . you guys were the one hailing him on in his thread and claiming the girl was insane.

Tell me, would you beat a woman? Under ANY circumstance

It's like those people who pour hot water on their house-helps claiming the 'deserved' it. Shebi na person pikin? If you don't want her to live with you anymore you send her home nah, haba! We need to stop encouraging violence abeg.

no wonder. I talk am say you no fit be man... God forbid. So you be woman I now understand.

Dear miraijj go and apologize to him now... He deserves it and learn not to talk anyhow you are not in America.

Rose2014:

Chai guy won't kill person today
Where u want meet am biko?

loooolz* I thought people used to say this world is a small world na, even if I no meet her she go meet my type ehn. Na there she go know say kaki no be leather. You come at real people with that "you know we women talk" idea. Its war

MizMyColi:
Please help me ask.....
I just dey observe them from my breadfruit tree.

Showing crass insensitivity.
Forming Alpha male up and down when they're actually showing how egotistic and chauvinistic they can be.

let me tell you why the guy wants her back. Not cos he was wrong he even said she deserved it duuuuh*... But because he thinks he is inlove, they are destined for each other, he can't live without her... You know when someone is "in love" he does stupid things. But some of us know better, the love thing is just a joke. A scam, a mere feelings, if you live with someone you hate for too long you'll fall inlove for that someone I believe. So the idea of the guy sucks that's why

Rose2014:
I'm not saying there's nothing wrong in it. Am only saying she may have done it thinking she's helping matters. We're not in your head na

Experience has taught me otherwise if not I may not have known that years ago

well, the only way to re-set her thinking pattern was to punch her skull. Give me another way out None* Game Over

fem29:
He is a beast tho, he beat her then went some someone else's house to pound her again, he should have been locked up!

I don't care what she said to him, say I can forgive him hitting her when she locked the door, how can you just continue beating her like a punching bag.

I think you need more education to understand that abusive words have more negetive effect that physical. But as usual you don't care, its normal, "you know we women talk a lot" that's ur mentality. We shall meet

Rose2014:
I beg to differ, remember we're ladies o and not knows that about men. And it doesn't make her Agbero in any way. More so the guy mcdokwe rants like a woman. He's verbally abusive too so we can't tell what he said n did in all these.
Men n women are not the same, and if she thought pleading with him not to leave was the best she could do, how does that make her an agbero mbok?

up till now you see nothing wrong in her locking him up cos she wants to beg choi* Nna lekwe ne lu ooo

coogar:
the locking of shirt is the new cool for today's women - and they expect a "real man" to stay calm in the midst of that physical assault & dog abuses like a domestic animal.

while doing this they'll be saying. "Beat me" "beat me" "Noooo beat me".... ok na no wahala your beating is loading........ Thank God say na naija we dey, police no go do anything, dem go even curse you join am sef lmaooo

Wedon:
Nigerian men unable to admit when they are wrong sicne 1820 . . .

You guys were the one cheering him on in his post so I don't expect anything less now.

I bet you didn't know he was this abusive and insensitive in the relationship. Imagine trying to sleep with her friend in the same room with her . . . tufiakwa!!! There is special kind of hell for such DOGs and their supporters (like you guys )!

over-exagerrating kin.

I have nothing to say to you anymore. Bye

iykedare:
she has no right to stop him from moving out of the house. When some men get annoyed,they prefer to go elsewhere to cool off. she stopped him from doing that. That girl get agbero dna. Abegi...

even a calm somebody will get mad at this. I have seen it happen and it wasn't funny. I pray it doesn't happen to me ooooh. The beating go epic

bestestgirl:
shebi u talk say you don calm down as you read her own part of the story? ehn kwa?
OK look at it this way, he can't live without her, there is no one like her etc. while she wants nothing more to do with him.
this simply tells you that she is an angel while he is a

I was calm until rose2014 came oooo.... Meanwhile, it simply tells me he is an ideot for thinking in that manner an angel don't rant in the manner the OP does. If she can rant in such manner online think of how she'll rant in reality "omg

Rose2014:
Awww this is soo sweet of u

*taken since 2009*

Oh noooooooooooooo *falls down and kpeme** ok let me be your assistant husband na atleast I go still get share na. Abeg naaaaa

Rose2014:
The guy was sounding like he was just watching her close the door, beat him up, tied his hand and smashed his phone n he did nothing

That's what nairalanders call: story for the gods

I no surprise as I see you here hahahaha rose rose. Come are rili married abi you dey whyne me? Make I follow you make you follow me make we start relationship that could lead to marriage. I don dey like you ooooh. Let's forget those people wahala jo watin consign us

dinachi:
All of the above! She is totally incoherent. She really needs to grow up. Her story is so disjointed and illogical. While the guys story is so clear and understandable, he even accepted some of the blame, this confused OP comes here with a totally scattered story that is neither here no there. She needs serious counselling and prayers. From the way she abuses the guy here you can clearly see that she is an untrained and very abusive person. Honestly, they need to separate. He deserves better.

you just spoke my mind. This kind person dey fear me oooh. I pity the man cos in his mind "He can't live without her""" "she's his life"""" "there's no one like her""" Buuulshittzzzz* I wonder where he got those ideas. What a pity

Wedon:
Woooooooooooow . . .

Easy M'am . . .

Form what you just posted that guy is certainly not worth losing your temper over. The SOB is probably feeling funky you dedicated a whole thread to him.

Abeg gbafuo ya biko . . . Go take care of yourself and your lovely baby.

na your type women go sabi deceive ehn. Be like you never jam girls sha. Because if you don see things wella you no go say this. Be careful bruh

dinachi:
I absolutely agree with you. Just see the way her mouth dey run here online. That gives you a tip of the iceberg to her kind of personality. She is just an ACCIDENT looking for where to happen. A totally abrasive jagwuda, untrained, unteachable b1tch. I just dey pity the poor guy way go entangle himself with an animal.

Looooolz* abeg take it easy ooo. The "you know we women talk a lot"" crew will soon defend her. Brace yourself

Rose2014:
Of course she's on the receiving end of all these.
And u didn't see anything wrong in the way the guy presented himself on the other thread abi?
Mcdokwe didn't dissapoint me either with his rantings trying to justify his gross irresponsibility

Looolz* I think they are both on "receiving ends" why are you trying to justify your kind(weaker vessles) na... So all the things the guy said now you've written them off and call them lies just because of what the OP presented? Just like that? Smh*