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eunylondon:
My fellow prospective corpers, I want to happily inform u dat today, I hv been issued my B.Sc Certificate!! To God be the Glory!!!

#SoHappy#

Congrats madam... *pops fanta**

olzako93:
Zainab, unibuja, accounting, 2014 , any southwest state is good for me .

*passes her bottle of Alomo bitters** welcome and Enjoy yourself

joyjoomla:
Just wanna say thanks to everyone that stood wt joyjoomla tru d dark hour.
Sodiqyinka, u b man.
Doublezero7, I applaud ur brotherhood
Tolustx, Owliver(d mountain climber), Xtray2 (senior colleague, n Osomo of UK). Mayorsweet (my co-Futarian). You guys r 1daful.

And to d ladies........ I would hv said to d special one, my one n d only, bt sorry, I don't have e- boo.
Bt to my admired: Sleekyonyx (d time keeper. I so much admire d girl, she wanna make a gud mother, has a grt sense of responsibility) rmfunky , mzjaney and............(Pls put ur moniker here, I don forget)
You guys kept hope alive.!

Sodiq, doublezero7, Owliver, weytin u guys won drink..........?

oboy I happy for you oh. Walahi... Me go drink anything you offer *Congrats

^

Odunharry:

odun hahahaha. No go do amebo ooo. Abeg ooo

cococandy:
At bolded. No he's not. She's not his child.

I can't deal

Who places a man in a position to choose or cut off a friend his wife or girlfriend relates with?
Where do you folks get off with such high handedness? He can advice her if he feels they are not cool people but he has not 'right' to decide who her friends should be.

Jeez

you did not read the first story ehn. He was the one advising her to atleast keep friends but be mindful of what they say, then the girl was saying to him all the bad advices given by her friends. Then their relationship was strong and ok... Pls go read his story up... Then the devilish friends got to her head when everything crumbled, the man started to caution her about those same friends. Get that logic miss :-/

mcdokwe:
Like I always say, even though you would and continue to insult me, I'm not about to say disparaging things about you or family here.
Thank God you are here finally and would hopefully state the truth. Even though I don't remember which friend you said I harrassed, I remember I had to sacrifice my relationship with the so-called ex to be with you, I remember how you tried your best to be friends with her and moan that I leave her, she was at an advantage but loved you and came for you, thankfully she was wise and gave me all the support to be with you instead, but remains a good friend whose impact in my life can't be overstated.
The post you refer to wasn't a pity party or a plea for you to come back(I've done that, don't regret it and like I said to you, I'm proud my ego didn't stop me) it was rather an advice to people out there not to create reasons for others to hit them, I only tried using my story to pass a message.
I remember saying I said some words but never could match you in words, saying I used you to explore sex was one of them but the least I could say as sex was explorable and we both explored each other.
It has been making the rounds that I insulted your dad to his face, lol. I won't say I didn't because I talked proud when I should be ashamed I got his daughter pregnant. But for those that would discern, I got a shocking call from your so called pastor, and then your dad that I shouldn't do anything I might regret, both sounding as though I had plans to harm anyone when the only thing I asked was for you to come so I could see you and my child and go back to base, I didn't understand but having wished to get across to your dad without success, I figured that could be my chance to sort out things with him and then offered to travel to meet him so we could sort things out, but your dad said I shouldn't bother coming but should rather wait till more than a year to try again. In that fit of anger (admittedly stu.pid) I asked if he expected me to abandon my own child like he abandoned you over a year and that was the insult.

thank you very much my man. Tell them your own side of the story. Atleast you calmly accept your mistake that's what I like. I wish you all the best. I will defend you till the thread gets ekzusted. Carry on

bestestgirl:
your loyalty to the mcdokwe is almost admirable but you see that he still wants her back, that means he knows the value of what he has lost. on the other hand, she does not want anything to do with him again, that means she has seen what bondage she was in before

loooolz* he's the type of man that love too much. That's pathetic. He liked her and she pushed her to whe wall. That alone should tell you something is fishy. If it were me I'd have moved on taytay. Mi o raye oshi rara

Herzumpther:
Oh. His right lady will soon locate him.

na you be the right lady oooh. Come let's paro na. Haba your shakara is going too high oh.

Rose2014:
Funny enough I just vouched for him without seeing this. And no he's not abusive. He just needs the right lady that'll understand him

Cc Bros Owliver

choi* I will marry your first daughter. Muah*

bestestgirl:
chai Owliver make una fear God na, you guys keep making it seem that the reason why he eventually beat her was because she locked the door and would not let him go out to vent. but have you forgotten the part where he said that he beat her senseless in another location (without locked doors) where even several women could not stop him?
Her child was just two months at the time (stitches never heal finish sef). He then collected the child from her and gave a neighbor and went to buy milk so that the baby "will not suck her silly breast" (I guess thats why he said he was afraid that his daughter will learn bad behaviour from her Mom, maybe e think say dem dey suck behaviour from breast)

Just call a spade a spade, the man is abusive and does not deserve her. you sef think am na, if your girlfriend caught you cheating, will you not expect her to call you 'unprintable names'?
will you not expect her to fight you even a little?
Should you not endure it knowing that you bleeped up?

after writing long story you still did not admit what the girl did was wrong. Interesting... Meanwhile, did you read where the lady abused and insulted him outside before he got angry and hit her? Ohyh the part he fled uop was when she locked him in. Why would he lock him in? Did you also read the part where she usually abuse him physically? Oh you didn't.... Am not justifying what the man did but if you won't see any wrong in what she did then I will turn a blind eye to any fault from the man. Oh about the sleeping with the friend if that's true then that pathetic loooooolz*

Herzumpther:
Vouch ke, my non woman beater hubby will soon locate me.

baby comon am not that bad. I don't beat women. And pls don't lock me behind a door. If you do that I cannot guarantee your safety in that room. I know you wouldn't do that sha

Rose2014:
The mistake ladies make is staying with an abusive man because u don't want him to bring another woman, nansense, or hoping he'll change. Nah, he'll just kill u n remarry anyway so it's better u leave him and let him remarry when u're still young n alive

Once A wife beater, always a wife beater cos just like in every marriage,there'll always be times u get him upset

the mistake men make is to think they can change an abusive and talkative wife. The more they realize that verbal abuse is the cause of male deaths in Nigeria the better for them.... Always an abusive wife will forever be an abusive wife.

Herzumpther:
Marry make u beat me too?

No vex I don marry.

ask rose2014 she will vouch for me. I don't beat ladies. Meanwhile, why all of una dey marry marry na. Choi* nawa ooo lekwe nu le oooooo

bestestgirl:
yes I believe that there is a lot that we don't know but cheating and beating are both deal breakers. no matter the love, I think she is better off without him

abusive and locking up a man is a deal breaker too. Even telling "your friends" about your husband is a deal breaker. He's better off without her. I hope he realizes this earlier.

Herzumpther:
Hmmm OK o.

But seeing the story here can make her angry. Maybe she decided to open hers because if the bashing she was getting without them hearing her own part of the story. The op doesn't sound happy too you know.

Biko I'm not a relationship or marriage counselor, as a matter of fact I'm not even married so make I Sidon with MarvellousGod dey watch dey go.

choi* oya letz marry na. Make we run our paroz codedly. All this one wey I dey shout here na mouth I dey make oooooooo no go think say me fit beat someone. I no even get body. Howfa?

Herzumpther:
I don't know why she is angry but if na me sha, I will be angry he brought our family ish to a public forum. when we started nobody was there then why announce it to the world if we are going our separate ways? People fall out of relationship/marriage and theirs won't be the first. Settle things peacefully and if we are separating fine. Peace can still reign but it can't like this.

Anyway maybe na because I'm not a fan of wahala sha.

sorry. The man didn't post pic or details of the woman so I see no reason how that should be her problem. If she didn't open this thread we wouldn't know about her so that case I proclaim "void*

Wedon:
Maybe it's because we have experienced what a good marriage should be and this is sooo not it!

well, from the words of the man. The relationship was a good one until friends came in. Mend that instead of all these

Herzumpther:
Like I said I feel she posted with anger.

At the bolded, I'm happy you know that and that's why I will still say you should go easy on her. Couple's don't spill it all up publicly. Trust me there is more we don't know, all this didn't just start in a day so please, easy. You are right by saying she didn't present her case well o, anger causes a lot.

Again read her Hubby's post, even in the midst of all this the love is still there IMO. Even if we preach heaven and earth what op and her hubby go still settle if them want and if they don't want, they should both go start their lives again.

@miraijj, please calm down, he shouldn't have beaten you yes, if you still want him please calm down and settle things but if you don't I wish you well too.

BTW the hubby should come and defend himself na.

choi* you are making sense. Thank God you see the guy still "loves" her. Well, the wedn and babysis crew and her likes in reality go don brainwash her. See these females advising her to stay away are happily married that the irony. Peace can still reign if they give it chance but she's still angry why? You can imagine what "her friends" would be saying to her. Just imagine

coogar:
i won't reply you back with an insult...
you have already told us we should blame your hormones anytime you act irresponsibly on a public forum.

errrrrr, are you pregnant again?

Loooooolz* hormones don suffer. See blackmail

babyosisi:
And if he sends one more text she should take it to the police as harassment
Let them haul his poor behind to coast in jail a few days
That ought to require his brain

this is not America

Wedon:
Probably what he was banking on while punching her out . . . he probably thought she didn't have a choice . . . oh how wrong he was.

Now who is smiling?

Abeg if it's just her pretty daughter she achieved in this life, it's worth staying alive for. Let's see what 'discrimination' will say when she is busy enjoying omugwo in White House

Loooolz* be consoling her you hear? It will go a long way, your doing a good job madam.

coogar:
he's the victim......
the OP manipulated & abused him throughout the relationship. he snapped when he couldn't take the assault & the lack of respect.

oh yh. He was the victim and then he turned the game around. I like that. Now everyone blames him that typical. Smh

MarvellousGod:
I'm not biased really, just feeling for the girl.. Don't you know how painful blows could be esp when given out of anger, anyway wait till a soldier lands you some blows

Asides the beating part, the guy was also verbally and emotionally abusive just like the girl... so why go extra length of testing this wrestling skills on the girl?

I still suspect you're the guy in question, you have been on this thread since morning replying every comment. .

just admit they were both at fault and stop stressing the guy's fault. That will do. Meanwhile, Am not him jare. Check my profile and thread.

coogar:
some women love having make-up sėx.
she consented to the act - if it was räpe, she would have mentioned it. the 2 of them fit like hand & gloves.

yes you are right. If I can recall how the man narrated it, While f^cking she even told her husband that her friends kicked against it. Friends? What's their business problem*

Wedon:
Useless OP's babydaddy no know say the babe fit stand on he own. Oh what a way to prove him wrong!

OP might have messed up by hooking up with him in the first place, but mehn . . . I so gbadun her style!

you suppose know say the discrimination go affect the girl pass the guy for our society de deceive urself there... I wish them both luck to getting their "preferred" love of their lives...

Herzumpther:
Hmmm. They both have anger ish because. They had a fight and her hubby decided to come say it online, what will you that? Even if she decided to let go seeing the story on Nl is enough to make her go angry again so they both should work on themselves.

Let me ask you, the guy admitted to the fact that she is the best he has met then what went wrong? Do you still think the story is complete from both ends?

Abeg no plan to e-beat me o, me go use omorogun scatter your head o.

they were living good and better then she started behaving somehow and associating the the same friends that talk bad about her husband. "According to the guy" something must have gone wrong which we all don't know I believe. On the other thread I judged the issue based on one sided story but check my comment on first page, I reconsidered... Aside that, look how he presented his case and see how she presented hers'... its enough evidence to tell you a conclusion of what's going on in their relationship. You don present a case in court in such manner and expect to win...... Meanwhile, am not a woman beater. Yet*

MarvellousGod:
I'm not supportive of what the op did because I for one know I can never lock my husband's clothes or whatever. .. But the guy presented himself as a saint, but just look at all he did to the girl..

no am not looking at what he did if you don't look at what she did we are equal in the site of God remember? Only mzcolony abi watin dem dey call her sef, only that lady said without bias. You others just taking sides, as long as you defend her I will defend him *spreads efirin leaf** na here I dey

Herzumpther:
I think op posted out of anger. She sounds deeply hurt too and that's why the posted like that. Please go easy on her, no women would lock a man intentionally or should I say the story is not complete from from both ends.

Husband and wife matter them no dey too put mouth because before you go say jack now them go don settle and we won't be there o.

Loooolz* anger? Since when? The anger never cool down since when now? Which kind anger be that. If she can't control her anger why do you expect the man to control his own anger? Just a straight question for you

Wedon:
My husband is a 'saint' because he has NEVER laid his hands on me . . . the day he does, all the good he has done in the past will be swept away like yesterday's trash.

My point? Somethings are just wrong . . . no matter how you look at it!

The girl may not be a good person, but does she deserve to be beaten-up by a common baby daddy? In developed countries he will be in jail now for assault!

He should NEVER have beaten her up . . . That's just wrong.

And to say she deserved it is confirmation that he is indeed suffering from severe psychological problems.

there you go again... You forgot to mention how lousy and abusive she could have been... Good judgment... No one deserves physical abuse, also no one deserves to be abused verbally you need to comprehend the later. and I put it to you that if you campaign for woman to respect their tongue more instead of men to be gentle men. It will go a long way. But no you don't want that... Loooolz* pls pack your bag and go to America if you want such... For that perspective to work here we men have to agree to it but as you can see we don't so its not gonna work

MarvellousGod:
Oga, that guy is one hell of an abuser, he even had sex with her that same night. Who knows if he even forced the girl because no woman in her right senses will think of sex after being beaten up/disgraced in the public. .
Seems to me the girl was vulnerable while with him..

I may be right to also say that the girl started being aggressive after the ugly experience with him..

Even his words while describing how he beat up the girl, he said "she never got enough"... who knows how mercilessly she was beaten. ...

I say it again, for a baby mama to walk away in this society where single moms are seen as bad examples, the situation must have been so bad and uncontrollable. .

btw, are you mcdokwe? because the way you go about quoting people and defending the guy is so suspicious

Looooooooooooolz* it amazes me you see nothing wrong in her. Well, am not mcdonald or whatever he is called... There is just one thing I hate to see or read or ear. Abusive women. And you all always hide under the "you know we women talk a lot" It gets me freaked out... And for the society thingy, comon I thought you people want feminism to grow? Equality ish, this is what you have to deal with stand criticism like a man, let's see how far you all can go in this present Nigeria... Problem*

Wedon:
Have I not said severally that OP dey Bleep up

I could write an epistle on the things she did wrong I would NEVER use that as a justification for her to get beaten.

He had a choice, make her his wife or leave her . . . he did neither.

Even though he saw the wreck she was . . . even though she 'abused' him . . . he stayed on. . . and thinks she deserved to be beaten mercilessly?

He has a daughter abi? How would he feel if someone punched her to the ground . . . . and then brags about it?

I suppose don leave this thread but my problem is with you stressing more on the guy's fault I personally think the lady is worse than the guy. Even their stories is one proof to make such judgment. Since your own husband tolerate more from you and he is a "rare breed" don't expect every man to be like that. We different.