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Fashion / Re: Beautiful Fashion Turbans For Sale by Pagesbyjay: 4:20pm On Nov 21, 2020
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Romance / Re: 5 Guys: Which Should I Choose? Help A Confused Girl by Pagesbyjay: 10:58am On Aug 03, 2020
WomaninherPrime:
Good evening house. Kindly read patiently. I promise to be as honest as possible.

I'm a young woman in her mid-20s. I've been in three relationships so far... two were sexual, and one was purely celibate, though it didn't last beyond 6 months.

I recently got out of a 2-yr relationship with Dubem when we discovered our genotype isn't compatible. But the problem is that we're still doing a lot of back and forth. Dubem wants the relationship to continue because he's working on how we'd have our babies via IVF or chorionic villi testing to first determine the sex of the baby.

This has put me in a very confusing situation because I'm unable to move on while he's still holding on for us... and at the same time, I just keep thinking about how life would be a lot easier if I'd just marry a genotype compatible man and have children the regular way without the stress and huge financial cost of an IVF.

To fully move on from Dubem, I started seeing other people..

Nedu is a very great guy... has everything I want in a man, but he's having some financial challenges right now. He's cute, godly, very intelligent, good humour, communicates very well, respectful, sound family values, neat, and seems to me like someone who can take charge of his home. But his financial situation gives me cause for concern... he doesn't seem like he'd be comfortably ready to start a family in another 2/3 years. But that aside, his condition just dampens my enthusiasm to even visit him or start a committed relationship with him. No TV or fridge in his apartment. I feel embarrassed/sorry for him when he has to go watch TV at his friend's or neighbour's... Or I'm thinking of cooking stuff to take to him... but no fridge to store. Joykiller. Or the fact that he can't be a support system to me at the moment...

There's also Victor who comes off as a great guy but I've refused to pay him enough attention all these months because I'm still entangled with Dubem. Victor is doing quite well, and is passionate about his job, but he likes to talk about himself way too much, and seems a bit arrogant. The vibes I get off him is that he tries to be at his best behaviour when he's with me, just to impress, but maybe he's real. While I don't like like him at the moment, I feel if I gave him a chance, I'd see some other aspects of him that would make me love him.

There's Denver on the other hand. Denver is an absolute gentle man... and doing fairly well with his business. I almost said yes to him, but I felt it was coming from the place of pressure. He was putting me under a lot of pressure to say yes... he wants to get married in a minute, but I'm still not resolved on marrying him. Plus he's from a polygamous family, and his plan is for us to live in his disputed family house if/when we get married, and I feel that comes with a lot of drama. Also, he's a bit lackadaisical about his wellbeing. He doesn't seem very tidy. His car always has things strung about. I worry, too about his level of education. He has just a HND and is not in the corporate world whereas I have serious plans to get either a double masters plus lots of certifications or a Ph.D I fear there might be some sort of incompatibility years down the line. Other than these concerns, Denver is a great guy.

Then there's Bright... I've known Bright since I was in uni... he was planning a surprise engagement once, when we weren't even dating. He's the most inconsistent and confused man I've ever met. He's consistent for a aweek or two, then goes off-radar only to resurface again after a few months. But somehow he seems to believe I'm the one who's never agreed to take him seriously. But how do I take a man who's inconsistent seriously? Ideally, he shouldn't be on this list because I long cancelled him... but he called this morning and we had a very long conversation... which was short of him pleading that I calm down and take him seriously so we can move to the next level.

Now the reason I created this thread. I like having a linear focus when I'm in a relationship, but I'm unable to leave Dubem because all these other guys have one issue or the other. No, I'm not looking for a perfect guy. Dubem isn't perfect, but we've come a long way, and we love each other, and we've come to accept and understand each other as we are.
I've become impatient... I feel like I'm at the prime of my life as a woman, and I have other suitors to choose from but I'm holding on to a very precarious relationship. Dubem might as well just wake up one day and decide that our genotype incompatibility is a big deal and we should see other people... at that time, one year of my life would have gone by...these great guys would have probably moved on, too. A woman's hotcake period is fleeting. For my personal plans, I'd love to be married by next year.


Ohh. I mentioned the thing about my two sexual relationships because I made a hasty vow to God once that I wouldn't have sex with more than two men before getting married. I don't know ...God is a merciful God, yeah...But that vow still pops up in my mind now and again. So I can't go into any careless relationship, and now I can't choose.

I'm honestly confused �.

I think you should let every one of them go.
No pressure, nothing.
The fact that you have misgivings about all of them speaks volumes.
From your post, you said you have dreams for your career and education. A double masters etc, I believe in the line of fulfilling your dreams, you will find the one He truly intends for you.
Maybe just maybe, a committed relationship is not what you really need right now
Ps: I love your commitment to your vow. God bless you smiley

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Literature / Re: Authors On Okadabooks Drop Your Book Info Here by Pagesbyjay: 2:51pm On Jul 09, 2020
JamesKudooski:
THE LAST BUS

Eleven persons. Eleven backgrounds. Eleven destinations. Only one journey!

When the fates of eleven different persons from different backgrounds became entwined in an ill-fated journey to Port Harcourt, they had to stay together as they fought for survival. A smooth night journey suddenly went bizarre when the bus ran into daredevil armed robbers, and everything was thrown upside-down.

Follow along with Akin as he let you into his fear, struggles, and anguish as he narrates, with a tint of humour, his ordeals while he and ten others fled for their lives. Would they be able to dodge bullets fast enough to escape the robbers? Or could they survive the horrors of being lost in the middle of a dangerous jungle? Would they survive three nights and three days in the claws of death?

If you enjoy reading about fast-paced action and survival stories with a tint of romance that will keep you on the edge of your seat all through, then you wouldn't want to miss The Last Bus!

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Congratulations! More grace ahead

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Literature / Re: Authors On Okadabooks Drop Your Book Info Here by Pagesbyjay: 8:45am On Jul 09, 2020
When Oyemade Martins proposes to the love of his life Adaobi Madueke he thinks walking to the altar with her will be an easy task. But when family gets involved, the many twists and turns of the game of love begin to rear its head up. Will Oye and Ada's love be strong enough to withstand the many sides of love?
Now available on
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Fashion / Why The Wedge Shoes Were Created by Pagesbyjay: 9:01am On May 19, 2020

Sports / The First Football Club In The World by Pagesbyjay: 8:53am On May 19, 2020

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Gaming / History Of Video Games by Pagesbyjay: 9:37am On Mar 18, 2020
The first video game ever was made to lighten the mood and thousands of people queued to have a chance to play it.
www.origininbits.blogspot.com

Romance / Picture of one of the oldest wedding rings by Pagesbyjay: 4:21pm On Mar 04, 2020
The origin of the wedding ring is carved from ancient Roman tradition, where husbands gave their wives a metal ring, which was attached to a small key.

This symbolised ownership.

The ring was worn on the fourth finger of their left hand because it was believed that the vein of love "Vena Amoris" ran directly to one's heart.

Prior to metal rings however, ancient Egyptians made use of hemp and reeds to make a wedding band. They believed it aligned with a couple's vow to be together for eternity.

The material was not durable though, soon they started fashioning rings out of bones, leather and ivory.

Much later, the use of more expensive metal like gold started to trend.
https://origininbits.blogspot.com/2020/03/history-of-wedding-rings.html

Literature / Re: Authors On Okadabooks Drop Your Book Info Here by Pagesbyjay: 11:28am On Feb 19, 2020
keoma:
When the doctors delivered what appeared to be a white baby and put me in the arms of my black mother, she was surprised.

When Mom looked down at me for the first time, I imagined her face mixed with sadness, My dad freaked out and left my mom with me, he thought my mom had an affair because I didn't come out at the right color but before the doctor could explain, my dad had run off and gone to the bar to get drunk . {May he's soul rest in peace }

I was definitely their child but I was born with ALBINISM. I am a black Albino. I have white hair, extremely pale skin and am partially sighted which basically means I am almost blind.


Growing up was tough, I was basically lonely even my sister couldn't play with me neither my mom. No one wanted to be my friend, it was me and me alone..


Albinism does not affect my intelligence or my humanity , I am not blind, it is just my skin colour and my sight. I consider suicide always when the adversities and rejection become so severe; but I chose to face it headlong. When one is pushed beyond some limit, a reaction like suicide could flash through the mind.” I believe in myself and I know I will make it as I take you through my story as Oyinbo Pepper Nigeria.


please read my first story through this link.

https://okadabooks.com/book/about/detail/30803

thank-you so much










is this a true life story? It is a beautiful story
Literature / A Beautiful Valentine's Day Giveaway by Pagesbyjay: 9:03am On Feb 14, 2020
It's free book day! Happy Valentines day! I have got nothing but love for you❤.
Kindly download my new book. It is free for just today and give your feedback.
https://okadabooks.com/book/about/serendipity/31206.

To download, you will have to first register on www.okadabooks.com. click on the recent tab or simply use the link or search with the book name or author name. Have a beautiful beautiful vals day!
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Literature / Re: Authors On Okadabooks Drop Your Book Info Here by Pagesbyjay: 8:56am On Feb 14, 2020
It's free book day! Happy Valentines day! I have got nothing but love for you❤.
Kindly download my new book. It is free for just today and give me a your candid feedback.

https://okadabooks.com/book/about/serendipity/31206

Thank you smiley
Romance / The Origin Of St Valentines Day by Pagesbyjay: 7:19pm On Feb 12, 2020
Happy Valentines day

Literature / Re: Authors On Okadabooks Drop Your Book Info Here by Pagesbyjay: 12:06pm On Feb 12, 2020
SERENDIPITY

Have you ever been on the trail of something and then something entirely beautiful comes along?

Nigerian born Mark was not the man American born Victory thought he was. Being raised in the projects of Newyork, her idea of love was total loyalty and faithfulness.

Mark's sudden trip to Nigeria spurs her suspicion and desire to find out more about the man she had accepted to spend the rest of her life with.

Amidst protests from her best friend, Victory takes a trip to Nigeria and finds out that things were not what they appeared to be in the first place.

Just when she feels love is meaningless, celebrity singer Oto-man comes along

Kindly download on okadabooks https://okadabooks.com/book/about/serendipity/31206

Literature / Re: Authors On Okadabooks Drop Your Book Info Here by Pagesbyjay: 12:04pm On Feb 12, 2020
SERENDIPITY

Have you ever been on the trail of something and then something entirely beautiful comes along?

Nigerian born Mark was not the man American born Victory thought he was. Being raised in the projects of Newyork, her idea of love was total loyalty and faithfulness.

Mark's sudden trip to Nigeria spurs her suspicion and desire to find out more about the man she had accepted to spend the rest of her life with.

Amidst protests from her best friend, Victory takes a trip to Nigeria and finds out that things were not what they appeared to be in the first place.

Just when she feels love is meaningless, celebrity singer Oto-man comes along

Literature / Re: Authors On Okadabooks Drop Your Book Info Here by Pagesbyjay: 11:59am On Feb 12, 2020
kilojoDesigns:
Let me support some of the covers i've designed.
these are really nice

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Art, Graphics & Video / Re: What Is The Best App For This Insertion (photos) by Pagesbyjay: 9:31pm On Jan 09, 2020
Use a logo app like logolicious. You can find that in playstore but you can also wait and hear what graphic professionals have to say about it
Literature / Re: Authors On Okadabooks Drop Your Book Info Here by Pagesbyjay: 10:01am On Dec 16, 2019
IbadanNews:
A lot of writers do not understand that their book cover will go a long way to tell the intent reader what to expect.

I see lots of gabbage cover designs.

Thats too bad.

If you will publish a book.... please, give it an eye catching professional cover. Hire a professional.

Majority of the book covers up tgere are just complete nonsense and you slap your name on it.

You dont know where your book will take you to. Give your story a good appeal by giving it an appealing book cover.
samples and rate please
Literature / Re: Authors On Okadabooks Drop Your Book Info Here by Pagesbyjay: 4:27am On Dec 06, 2019
Extremely beautiful Lucille needs to prove Alpha wrong
about his conviction that Job is an upright man. Alpha soon
agrees with Lucille to put job to the test. Will he fail? And how will he handle the temptation thrown his way?
Download for free
https://okadabooks.com/search?query=Job%27s%2520test

Literature / Re: Authors On Okadabooks Drop Your Book Info Here by Pagesbyjay: 4:33pm On Nov 19, 2019
TamiOkoroDedeh:
Thanks to everyone who downloaded my debut novel Bitter Perceptions. The story was inspired by an article I read years ago regarding drug-rape culture, but also contains various experiences I've encountered including unforgiveness, fair-weather friends, sex-crazy boyfriends, overbearing parents etc.

A literary blog brutally criticised my work when I published the first part of the first edition, and their scathing reviews left me devastated. I nearly deleted the manuscript and said goodbye to writing for good, but thanks to people who believed in me I rolled with it (Sorry BSB!) and got myself back up. I made a few changes to the book (Removed most of the cuss words and took out several scenes), but other than that, my work remains the same. This is my style, this is what I'll stick with, good or bad. The reviews I've received from readers since have been mostly positive, and I can't wait for what comes next. To all my fellow writers: Believe in yourself, you've got this!

To my readers: I've preserved most of the deleted scenes, and they can be found here https://thenaijabrit.wordpress.com/2019/11/13/bitter-perceptions-deleted-scenes/?preview=true. You can also read the story behind the story https://tamiokorodedeh.com/2019/10/06/thirty-interesting-facts-about-bitter-perceptions/.

And to the blog that said my book was rubbish: Kiss my boring ass!
Presently reading this and I must say it is quite captivating. I like how you were able to put stuff into the book that happened in the late 90's and y2k like music, fashion fad, communication etc.
It also captures clearly how a number of ladies ariu d that time were molested but did not have the courage to talk about it. And those who mustered up enough courage to do so were mostly called liars and tagged ladies of easy virtue

Well, this goes to show criticisms make us much better smiley

It's a great read. Still at the point where jide is toasting ekaette. Let me get back to my reading

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Literature / Re: Authors On Okadabooks Drop Your Book Info Here by Pagesbyjay: 1:50pm On Nov 06, 2019
Jemi is haunted by the sad end to her parents fairy tale love story. Imagine being plagued with bad luck from birth? And when you think you can fix everything it all falls back in your face

https://okadabooks.com/book/about/jinxed/29922#.XcGotTQ8I4M.link

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