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Chukapage:
Afonja next time be proud of your origin You dead carcass translator can't deceive anybody bloody slowpoke Focus on Oshogbo ! You know you ain't Igbo and can NEVER be Igbo! Stop impersonating ole buruku!!

Okay. I don hear you sir. Just so you know.. I'm sad and disgusted that you are an igbo man. Have a good day

Rayton:
you naiiled it.
many Yoruba wives dont give a damn about the Igbo mans family or tradition or place .....they are happily married to him as far as he stays on the west with them and they both teach their kids Yoruba and English....
OP I speak Yoruba well,I love them enough but if you feel your girl may not like your people well enough to be one of them then quit... your parents are not wrong ,you are just blinded

Thank you very much boss for your input, I started a conversation about relocating to the East for a bigger and better business prospects yesterday. At first she hesitated and told me it wasn't going to be easy for her leaving her family and friends thousands of miles away from her just to be with me. Though I was shocked to the marrow by her reasons but later on as we conversed further deeper, she accepted to go with me to the east on one condition which is, I won't make her regret ever going to the East. (still trying to unravel what she meant by that statement).

All in all, she accepted out of love and affection for me. I don't see any reason whatsoever not to wife that girl.

Chukapage:
Afonja be proud of your roots!Stop being a cowardly impersonator! All Yorubas are saints dumb dummy! Fuvck too!! I could smell your lies , PRETENSE and fake story from a million miles ode!

Get lost! I don't need to argue with you cos you aren't worth it. Carry your tribalistic dead body commot for my thread. Onye iberibe

Talvgsfh:
When it comes to love, there must have to be sacrifices to make and I think this is one of them. I'll advice u follow your heart and be with what brings you joy and happiness for life time. After all it's your life and not ur parent's..Gracias!

I really wish they see this wonderful reply. I hope and pray that the Lord touch their heart and make them see reasons why I should be left alone to make my desired choice for a partner.

Martinez39:
How old are you? Are you an undergraduate or a graduate? If you are a graduate, do you have a job and do you still live with your parents?

I am a matured enough to be married, I'm independent, I stay alone and I have a thriving business. Thank you for dropping by.

lyndaway:
Try and discuss the issue with your parents and maybe you get one of your uncles that is understanding to be in the discussion if your parents still insist you may have to wait for your parent to change there mind or you quit the relationship cos one can't tell I have a friend with similar problem but they later got married you don't want to hear the aftermath of the marriage

Thank you so much for the advice. It's duly noted.

Chukapage:
That guys story is FAKE! I am suspecting it! He might be another Yoruba Tribalism looking to bash Igbos on romance section! Did you see the way he kept silent on that id**t that called his supposed PARENTS *Stu**d* ?? The other Yoruba Monkey portrayed his parents as *uneducated , illiterate* he kept silent, the other one insulted his supposed Tribe IGBO he kept silent. That nigga might just be a Yoruba tribalist looking to spread usual propaganda against the Igbos!

You expected me to insult him cos he made his own opinion? Do you think every igbos are tribalistic, insensitive and unreasonable like you are? If you think I'm Yoruba trying to paint the Igbos black, then let it be so..fvcck off already!

AmuDimpka:
Dude ...i would not take you seriously

Because ...you are still staying in your parents house and you talk about marriage...no Igbo man does that

Secondly, there are things to consider in marriage and love is that last thing ....trust me

Thirdly, would you as a boy not a man loose your family because of a woman


Oga this is not titanic movie ...better align with your family

Oga don't just assume things, if there are some grey areas that needs to be clarified, just tell me and I will throw more light into it. FYI, I own a house of my own and I am a comfortable man who is dependant on no one.

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3m

Talvgsfh:
When it comes to love, there must have to be sacrifices to make and I think this is one of them. I'll advice u follow your heart and be with what brings you joy and happiness for life time. After all it's your life and not ur parent's..Gracias!

Thank you so much for your advice. Much appreciated

chinchonglee:
Dnt worry! U ll still start seeing. Av u met with her family?

Yes I have. They are welcoming. No issh from their side

chinchonglee:
Ur parent re nt tribalist. My dad is like dat, he hates the idea of marrying or even keeping a yoruba girlfriends tho he has many many yoruba friends.

Maybe ur parent had bad previous experience with yoruba pple so dey trying to protect u on dat.

Personally wen i woz dating a yoruba girl, i started seeing 300 reasons why i cant marry from dere. Not that i hate dem ooo

But I haven't seen any reasons why I can't marry from the south west. I'm not the first

CyberWolf:
I said you gave some notorious tribalists here the gut to call your parents useless and you didn’t do anything about it, that shows you agree with them. I know your stubbornness won’t allow you to see that but continue, we will still read your wailing here las las. No be today..

I don't have your time. Goodnight

CyberWolf:
Saying that you’ve perfected the plans of calling your parents bluff on a public forum is an insult to them and also giving some notorious tribalists here to call your parents all sorts of names, one specifically called your parents “useless” and you did nothing about it, that’s a direct insult to your parents. You’re very stubborn because of blind love, I’ve come across your type many times but all these your gragra will be cleared very soon, just very soon. Go ahead and marry the “love of your life”.

I haven't deleted my original post. Please quote where I called my parent useless or forever remain silent!

Emotionss:
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You will be surprised

I'm not sure it's one of the reasons sir. Its more deeper

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what I detect from your post is that your parents are afraid that since you are communicating with your woman with HER TRIBAL LANGUAGE then the possibility of you teaching and communicate with your children with igbo language is very slim. That my friend is their main reason for saying no.

I am very fluent in both Yoruba and Igbo. It's a done deal that I would be speaking Igbo language to my children. I'm not sure that's the reason tho

Makes sense. Will try this. Let's see how it goes..

Emotionss:
Op tell your WOMAN that when you people get married that you people are going to relocate to the east or south south permanent and watch are reactions and that of her parents from there you can judge if she will make the same sacrifice you are about to make all in the name of love

CyberWolf:
You know what is courtesy yet you’re here insulting your parents.

Kindly point out where I insulted them Mr?

CyberWolf:
Be running your mouth anyhow here insulting your parents, when the trouble comes, don’t come here to disturb us. Before you take a final decision, there are some things to consider. Is the girl in question influenced by her parents? I mean is she the type that is not ready to disobey her parents when it comes to things about you both? ... Has your parent ever stood against your decision in anyway except this marriage issue? ... The way you’re tapping about love hmmm, make I no talk. But as a man, marry a woman that loves and respect you more than you do.

Oga who dey run mouth for here if not you, learn how to talk to people with courtesy.

Thanks for your imputs. I appreciate you all

tunjilee003:
My parents discussed this with me last week about marrying someone who is not related to your tribe, they told me they can't allow me marry a non Yoruba lady. In my mind i was like these people don't know anything sha.if I should bring a girl home and they reject her for me nah to abscond with her .. No one can dictate who i am to marry you truly love her I don't see any reason why you shouldn't go ahead with the marriage..

Why are our parent this tribalistic?

Lamanii22:
You really love this lady gaan oo...

True love is rare to find

Ryan03:
are you willing to become the Peter (of p'square) in your family? If you can handle the pressure then carry go but if you can't, hmmmm

Like I said before, I don't care whatsoever my family would say, in other to dissuade me from marrying her, but I know the hatred that will come with my decision and I don't want the innocent girl to suffer rejection and isolation from my people.

Lalasticlala, seun, you might have a thing or two to tell me.

Alexaonfleek:
before you make the decision of running away,first sit down calmly and ask your parents the problem they have with yorubas.if they don't still agree for you,look for someone they both respect and present your case to him and ask him to help talk to them.if they still don't agree,pls go ahead and marry the lady u love,knowing fully well you have tried your best and damn the consequences.las Las it is both of them that will still come and carry grandchildren

Many thanks for your input Alexa
I'm thinking of talking to our General Overseer, they literally worship the man like a god, let's see if he would help make sense to them. Daddy GO is Igbo and his son is married to a Yoruba woman maybe he has a manual they don't.

Akanoaaa:
This is one of the reasons Nigeria will never develop as a country. Imaging, we can't even marry our fellow Nigerians in peace. If you can't marry someone you love because she is a Yoruba lady, if I can't do my business with the best person I know that capable of the business because he's an Igbo man and I can't help fellow Nigerian who needs help at one particular moment cuz he's an Hausa-fulani Muslim and We keep shouting one Nigeria. Hypocrisy of highest order!! Where is the "one Nigeria"? How do we grow as a nation if we don't love ourselves? I weep for this country.

@op, am very sure your parent would never opposed you if its an American or European lady. Your parent need to understand the word of LOVE as a Christian.

My brother you can say that again!!! I even forgot to add that we are in the South West part of the Country. All my parent own was achieved in a Yoruba state. Yet they don't want any of their children to marry from the South West. I'm sure if I get married to her, I will be isolated by my family but I don't give a damn about it. My love is worth the stress.

Mogambo123:
My brother, I'm igbo too and my elder brother Married a Yoruba, and they have been living happily together for 20 years . I was surprised in 2017 when I saw a Yoruba woman in Abia State the slay mama was speaking igbo fluently meaning she mostly have lived in the east for a long time, even though she's from Ondo State. Nna that aunty love her igbo husband with a passion.

My dear if you and your love understands that cultural issues will arise and be ready to battle it together please go ahead . I will tell you one thing for sure REAL LOVE IS DIFFICULT TO COME BY If you love this girl please be her knight in shining armour.

I know a guy whose girlfriend took in , she's Yoruba the guy is igbo, my dear the guy's family disowned him, they even wrestled away from him the house he built and he became an outcast , I'm one of those that encouraged him to go ahead with the wedding , even as I speak I still help them out any little way I can. I'm so happy their love is waxing strong, with 2 kids to crown it.

You already have a good idea , please stay away from them for as long as you can, if they don't come to their senses so be it , it's hard to say but am sorry , igbos are the most tribalistic people in Nigeria if you minus religion, if they reject you your Yoruba in-laws will accept you , I have seen that happen a lot. The most liberal in the whole country.

Just make sure this girl loves you that's all.

Thank you very much for this great piece. My next plan of action is to meet our General Overseer in our church, the man is igbo, his son is married to a Yoruba lady. Let see how it goes.
Igbos are the most tribalistic no doubt!! I once chipped the idea of getting married to a Yoruba lady to my uncle's hearing, you need to see the surprised look he gave me. Seriously no one, I mean not a single soul in my family wants a Yoruba in-law. Very pathetic

Alexaonfleek:
It's really sad that your father forgets the part of the Bible which says a man shall leave his father and mother and the two shall become one.

They are hell bent on no Yoruba gf in their family. I'm even tempted to run far away from them.. Maybe in 5-10 years time, they would not have any choice than to accept her into the family. It's just so sick that I can't even marry my fellow Nigerian

HemmanuelRichy:
It's really a tough situation. I hope you win in the end. Cheers mate!

Hopefully. Thanks brotherly.

Have you have gone through this phase before, what did you do to overcome this situation?