₦airaland Forum

Smithkafors:
How can you claim to be in opposition and you are supporting the ruling party?. Why is it opposition then?.

chicfarmer:
Storyyy... no be these same politicians？sofar APC is serving their interests then no problem。But the moment they cannot gain from the party again they go scatter everything。See wike wey pdp nurture na。

Solababa91:
The fear of PDP in expelling Wike will be their total downfall. Wike's will us to ensure PDP do not have peace till and beyond 2027.

Mariangeles:
Chatgpt go hear'am after this thread.

giftson102:
Dear Ladies, do this when a runaway father suddenly reappear to claim a child(ren) he abandoned. 👇👇

If a woman gets pregnant and have a child and the father of the child denies the pregnancy, aban.dons the woman and left her to singlehandedly care and fend for the child, the natural father of the child will not freely have a right to access the child except the mother agrees to it.

Please remember, that the child still belongs to the runaway natural father biologically and no culture can deny him his biological right simply because he did not marry the mother of the child.

However, he is not allowed to suddenly reappear and want to claim the child. If you allow him to freely appear and claim the child, it's your decision but your decision is not a wise one because you have allowed him to reap where he did not sow.

If a runaway father suddenly reappear to claim a child he neglected and abandoned for years, please don't drag with him, just give him one of these options:

1. Depending on the age of the child, tell him he can resume his presence in the life of the child on the condition that he pays you compensation for all the years of your troubles over the child. When asking for compensation, please speak in millions and not in thousands.

Depending on the age of the child and the number of years you have singlehandedly cared for the child, ask between ₦50million -₦200million. If he is willing to negotiate, you can negotiate and once he pays the agreed amount, you can then involve him in the life of the child and let the child bear his surname. Please, you are only granting him access and not custody. Make sure you involve a lawyer who will help you prepare a written agreement in this regard.

2. If the natural father refuses to agree to your out-of-court settlement, please tell him to file a case to claim the child in court. If he eventually files a case, get a family lawyer that will represent and defend your case. You will narrate all that transpired and how he suddenly reappeared to reap where he did not sow.

Trust me, the courts does not allow people reap where they did not sow especially when children are involved. You will tell the court that you are not denying him paternity but if he wants to be a part of the child's life, he should compensate you for your years of trouble. For as long as it's a court case, ask the court to award you ₦200million as damages/compensation.

Also, ask the court to award you money for the cost of engaging a lawyer for the case because if he had behaved well, you would not have spent money to engage a lawyer. Depending on the amount your lawyer charged you, your lawyer will know the amount to include as lawyer's fee.

During judgment, the court will order that he pays the damages before he can access the child. This means that the compensation must be paid first before he can eventually be part of the child's life.

From experience in most cases, these natural fathers will disappear just the same way they reappeared because they are not able to afford what the court asked them to pay.

The reason you need to ask for a huge sum of money is because the courts don't usually grant the exact amount you are demanding for. If you demand for ₦200million, the court can order ₦10,000 - ₦50million depending on the circumstances of the case. This is why you need to aim high so that if the court wants to bring the amount down, it will still be favourable to you. If you ask for ₦5million, you might get ₦500,000. If the children are like 2 or more, aim for ₦500million.

This is not sentiment, this is using the law to protect yourself, your child and your efforts from fathers who want to reap where they did not sow.

This also applies to married women who got separated from their husbands and are left to cater for the children alone.

Please note, if you intentionally cut off the father of the child from the life of the child, you won't be able to claim compensation because you did not give him a chance to be part of the child's life.

Remember, the law only help those who help themselves!

Dyfynezz12:
Yes,as a man its very dangerous for ur woman to earn more than u

Diamond098454:
We haven't heard her own side of the story but all the same. Maybe she's paying back all the evil you did to her years ago, have you cheated on her before ? Which i know the answer is YES because you are a man so, this is pay back time your administration has ended it's her time rule

Men always quick to cry when they have not seen anything yet.

Dyfynezz12:
The first thing men should understand abt women is once they start contributing a lot to family expenses or a large chunk of their money,their body will start peppering them thats a big reason why most of them start misbehaving when they travel out with their family.
I have seen firsthand instance of this

dbabs500:
Right as I type, early this afternoon, she kept sending messages that she wants to move to another location if her place of work branch will give her hours, sey she dont mind to pay the rest herself taking custody of the kids sey make we end this thing amicably . I just maintained my silence and did not say a word. Today will be the 3rd day am sleeping in the living room. My spirit in a certain way feels more safer away for a while.

Mentholated:
The funny thing is that she is using a well known tactic that women have been using for years to set their partners up.

1. He always locks me out of the house and I have to go through the window atimes.

2. He abuses me all the time, belittles me, accuses me of cheating and always threatens to hit me. I have to go to my friends place atimes to feel safe ( Her friends will collaborate this story).

3. He is insecure, always call me to know where I am and if I do not pick immediately he shouts at me ( Any of her friends that have witnessed any of your calls will collaborate her story).

4. If she is really heartless she might add that you force yourself on her atimes which makes her feel worthless and suicidal and have to go to her friend's place to feel safe. ( Her friends will)

5. Your kids might have heard you people argue one of those days that you want her to acknowledge any of her bad behaviours. The question will be like this " Have daddy ever shouted at mummy". The answer will be yes.

6. Stay safe bro.

AllBlack:
Life no hard oh.

This one dey cry say he no get money,
me dey here dey cry say I dey owe over 6 million naira but I siddon here with beer and one soft boooory.
Life goes on.
We MIGHT cry later but for now, let's enjoy the laughter.

Angelfrost:
Well, i wouldn't call Mbappe a scam... He has been consistently delivering for years.

Na just small pikin mentality of wanting all the spotlight dey do am... But, he is maturing now.

Numerouno94:
Congratulations to Dembele. Next year our boy Yamal will likely clinch it if he remains consistent and humble. Mbappe aka scaMbappe see ur life? Pride goes b4 a fall.

Ojeemah
ThierryJay
Apoptosis
Doomsday
Fergie001
Angelfrost
Almiron
Peacecore
Dominique
And my other buddies abeg lets celebrate. scaMbappe to the mud.

thegeniusmedia:
Ousmane Dembele has won the 2025 Ballon d'Or, claims French journalist Romain Collet Gaudin, despite contrasting reports from Spain.




The Ballon d'Or ceremony will take place at the Théâtre du Châtelet in Paris on Monday evening, with football royalty to be in attendance.




The prestigious individual award will be handed to the best player of the 2024/25 campaign for the 69th edition of the French Football title.

Last year, Manchester City's Rodri won the men's award, while...https://www.thegeniusmedia.com.ng/2025/09/22/breaking-ousmane-dembele-named-2025-ballon-dor-winner/

Curious345:
Buhari & Tinubu is to be blamed

guobe:
Ah lol

Scarrr:
see this one trying to create happiness... after ranting last season arsenal played defensive game with 10men against City...today city parked trailer, parked train join with 11 men..... Arsenal still came back 😹😹

Pinklada:
Yet we are current winner.

Note I'm YNWA