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eni4real:
I am in the same boat.. It is definitely stressful..

Ehya sorry oooo, try to get some rest.

eni4real:
Try to get some rest.. Trust me, you will feel better
Our Naija is always stressful!!

Thank you . I will do that soon, Nigeria Sha na God hand we dey.
Hope yours wasn't stressful?

eni4real:
I am doing great
Hope yours is great to??

Yeah it was. Although a little bit stressful

eni4real:
Lolz

Good afternoon
How are you?

eni4real:
The two of you should marry already

I am tired of seeing singles around!!

Biko... Don't make me laugh

truthsayer009:
Hmm "bend morals just to adjust to life". I am glad you discovered this early in life.

It's not black or white truly.

I also feel like life is so hard & it's unfair that God put us here to strive, most of us just have 70 years to live and a lot of people end up marrying wrongly, then be in sorrow for most part of their lives.

Imagine struggling to finish school, struggle to get a job. Struggle to even do the job. Then end up marrying the wrong person all in the name of marriage. Probably crying yourself to sleep for the next 20 years.

Sometimes it's better to be a single parent please.

I swear... I keep saying it that, marriage is not a do or die affair. It will only take the grace of God before I consider such a thing sef. And yeah I am glad I learnt a lot things at a young age because this life is only for the smart.


Good afternoon... It's been a while

Well... I might not actually know what it feels like to be her, but I sure do know how it feels like, to do things you never thought of doing via your morals. Well there was a time I thought one needed to all right and doing all the time but coming to think of it does it really matter We all have got our morals and do's and don't's but you see life? Ahhhhh it's so going to deal with you... That some day, you will have to bend your morals just to adjust to life.




At least that's why we are humans. We make mistakes not because we want to but because of circumstances. God is going to understand why you did what you did. I pray she just lives her life and enjoy it while she can.

truthsayer009:
I was expecting a higher number than 19

ohhhh I see... I could read your disappointment in your words.

truthsayer009:
Hmmmmm okay

You seem very surprised though, what's on your mind?

truthsayer009:
LMAO you just gave me a complete clue �

You are 20. Since i claimed Regina is 19 & you're not.

Smiles
I'm 19, Regina's age...

truthsayer009:
You are 21.

No ... Not up to 21
Another trial??

truthsayer009:
Well, Regina is 19. You're not too young ooh

Lol... So guess my age

Good evening to you.

truthsayer009:
So madame, i was reading your diary. It seems you are a cashier in a Nigerian bank and have plenty guys disturbing you, so due to that you are angry.

Well, that is more of a good thing than bad, you would have plenty suitors and the before you say YES to anyone, you can always check their Account balance if it's full of cash

If balance above 50M
Your response: i claim my marriage, Amen.

If balance is below 10M.
Your response: Okay, i will think about it.

If balance is less than 1M
Your response: Sorry, You are not my type.

If balance is less that 10,000 naira
Your response: I rebuke you in Jesus name.

The ball is in your court.

PS: pun intended.

Lol
Oga, you just made my day with your reply... Well I am no banker and I'm so not ready for marriage, I'm still very young and for those dudes disturbing me, I have come to know how to deal with them.

this got me laughing so hard... People dey Sha. Anyways I want to believe you already Know what you want in a lady, search your heart and see if you can cope with her kinda personality, check the cynics of keeping her, like what if she decides to use you someday to make the supposed money or what if she wants to have party with your friend or any other guy apart from you ... The ball is in your court.

Wait first... You guys dated for six whole years, you didn't find out on time she was rude, controlling and all the other things you mentioned... Mehn you didn't really love her to start with. You are just confusing yourself abeg. You just play with the word " love" anyhow, this said girl in particular, you only Listed her weaknesses nothing more, she loves you, she has been there for you and all of a sudden her weakness is all you see. Do you really think you don't suck or have your irritating and nonsense behavior? You do, but she overlooks that and decides to stick with you because she's in love.



And to all guys, if you are starting new in a relationship and you see a character your partner exhibits which you can't cope with... Let that girl go abeg and save all of us the stress of " we have been dating for six years but she nags a lot" mtchewwwwww.



Biko let her go because from your write up you are already tired of her and bringing it here shows, you just want to justify yourself by bringing up silly excuses and trying so hard not to feel guilty because most people are giving you their support and thumbs up

I really don't understand...
Jarauma had this kind of money all along and she till allowed tacha to go into a platform known world wide, knowing fully well she was still hurting and was definitely going to exhibit some stupid characters. If you are hurt or emotionally unstable do you really think Bbnaija is the best therapy for your predicament What was she even expecting and damn that isn't enough reason for tacha to act so uncouth. Does she know what others have been through Nigerians are indeed their own problem.

truthsayer009:
Our parents would do soon and we would be left. If we dont leave this mentality now, how would our children be?

We refused to change so this will never end.

Lemme go and do blood money so I can marry the most beautiful girl on Nairaland #Pun Intended.

Smiles... You are quite funny but you made sense, it's just never going to stop.

Good evening

Originalsly:
You nailed it!

...a big contributor to the entitlement mentality that we don't consider.

The man must provide all the needs...and wants of the wife and family.

When dating... the gf is testing of the man is willing... and able to provide. If he can't provide for her..bow can he provide for the family?

When the barely working man is complaining about finding a fiancee.... what does his fellow men advise him?...forget about women.... go and make money... when you do... women would come in droves.

Entitlement is part of our culture... propped up by both men and women... so why point fingers?

Thank you. I am really glad you got the point. They keep making girls feel entitled about everything and they fail to see that. Charity begins at home as they would always say... If maybe, parents train their female child to be independent, I guess Nigeria will get a lot better

truthsayer009:
Surely not every. I am too sure i never said every in my post. To be honest, I'm not complaining of it. I have accepted the realities and moved on happily.

Okay dear... Life is too short to be unhappy anyways, good thing you have moved on. Goodnight

truthsayer009:
Apologies to anyone feel offended but I know you don't live in Nigeria. Whatever you hear about Nigerian women's entitlement mentality is nothing compared to what is actually happening on ground.

You need to come here and meet women, hear them speak. Hear them discuss with each other. God knows i am not exaggerating & everything i tell you is true.

First time i dated a woman outside of Nigeria, i had a culture shock for about a week. I was confused all thru. I needed to be patient & Re-learn everything i thought i knew about women.

Smiles... I'm a Nigerian and I live here, but I assure you, every 9ja girl isn't like that.

Beautyaddy:
Most Americans do not work for the government...There are more private owned jobs or companies than government jobs in the US.

Anyone(and this is not just with Americans) who buy anything that they cannot afford to pay off or maintain due to low wages or no money will be in debts.

Retirement money, pension and health insurance comes from US worker paying into either by taxes( Medicaid, Medicare) or private insurance( workers pay a number amount and their jobs pays the rest).

Advanced and Ever Evolving Healthcare is Very Expensive to maintain...and that is what the US and Most Western Countries have.

Ask President Buhari and Most Nigerian Politicians why they by all means have to travel outside Nigeria to get if not all their healthcare treatments.

Okay
Have a good night.

Nice post though... It's true many Nigeria girls have entitlement mentality but don't be so quick to bash them... Our values, culture and the society at large most times inculcate that mentality in them. They were brought up to be dependent on males but never to be independent on their own. I'm not trying to justify anyone here but comparing Nigeria girls and other foreign girls is a bit too much. Na different lifestyle and background

Beautyaddy:
How are Americans dependent on their government....I hope you are not assuming that paying taxes means being dependent of their government?

Okay... When I say they are dependent on their government, I mean an American that works, let's say 30 years, works as hard as possible to make sure he retires at an early age but cause of the debts incurred from virtually everything the buy,they continue working even to their old age. When the work for this long... The expect pensions from the government, health insurance and all that comes with working for the government when the retire. Most Americans don't owe businesses of their own but rather work for companies so you see And those who don't work for the government at the the end of their working year get to realize that, they didn't get to save much so the get other par time job and the struggle continues.

Beautyaddy:
Paying taxes is not working for the government.

It is money collected to maintain social and infrastructures amenities that the people who pay these taxes get to enjoy stress free...things that an average Nigerian in Nigeria can never enjoy.

Uhmmmm I get the point you are trying to state but it wouldn't hurt to look at it from another angle. Americans are very much dependent on their government because of all the get to enjoy, which is bad because they are financially weak and have to struggle most of their lives to continue enjoying all this which in the long run make them get a lot debts because they are taxed for living and when the die they are being taxed too.

timesup234:
Yes far better with college students sleeping with sugar daddies to pay back their student loans?

https://www.businessinsider.com/seeking-arrangement-sugar-daddies-pay-sugar-babies-college-tuition-2017-11?IR=T

Yes far better with 62% of Americans one paycheck away from living on the street

https://www.marketwatch.com/story/most-americans-are-one-paycheck-away-from-the-street-2016-01-06

Yes far better with people who have masters degrees still working till the age of 75 to be able to afford retirement and not die in debt

https://www.nerdwallet.com/blog/investing/millennial-grad-retirement-age-is-75/

When next you come here to quote me just know you are talking to someone who knows the US. like the back of his hand. I have rendered so many people useless on this forum daring to engage me. The next time you quote me you will get a serious uppercut that will lead to spinal injury

You know, I actually had the same thought when I read, 'rich dad poor dad'. Robert really analysed their way of living... Paying taxes, having credit cards, working for the government and stuffs like that and buying a house is more like a liability than an asset