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advanceDNA:
Lol...... ...abi Dem don scam you with " don't worry, when we marry u will enjoy it the way you like" ...

This is no joke at all. Imagine that you are married but still struggling for sex.

I have been having issue of almost always having to beg my wife for sex. It became too much so I decided to just leave her alone and see her reaction and for a month now, she does not care. She just acting like everything is fine, bring family issues to me, I solve them and she's just living her life. As a man, I am almost running mad. Almost a month and the woman isnot even bothered. How much more of this can I take? I am so sex-starved now. It is even affecting my work.

lordthree:
[size=15pt]Nothing can separate me from boobies... okay this write up is on point, I'm guilty of everything [/size]

There seems to be a mystery around boobies. I can suck boobs from night till morning.

8. Despite having outgrown breastfeeding years ago, they still have an insatiable love for boobies. I get that sucking on a nipple is pre-intimacy, but are you doing that because you think it's hot or because it kind of reminds you of when you were an actual baby?

This one is the point there......



Even Lalasticlala or Dominique or Seun sef cannot deny this one.....

By Hannah Smothers
Apr 13, 2016
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1. They somehow decide they hate any new food item before ever having tried it. OK, but you've literally never had sushi, so how can you possibly hate it? Would you rather just eat actual baby food?

2. When you don't give them enough attention, like if you forget to reply to their text for 15 minutes, they throw hissy fits. It's been less than an hour, you don't get to send me a million "?" texts and start calling me unless it's a truly urgent matter.

3. Before literally any important meeting or work event, they have to Google things like "business casual?" and "black tie optional?" so they know what to wear. And the worst part is that business casual is so much easier for men than it is for women. So much easier.

4. If they wake up with even the slightest little tickle in their throat or a singular (one) booger in their nose, they call in sick. Men literally always think they're "getting sick" unless they wake up feeling like an Adonis.

5. When they actually are sick, they turn their living room into DEFCON 5 and basically act as if they might die at any given moment. It doesn't matter that you went to work all last week with the same cold; if you're not there to make sure he has a constant supply of the right brand of pulp-free orange juice, his blood is on your hands.

6. And yet, even when they have a serious injury like a clearly broken ankle, they refuse to go to the doctor unless you physically force them to go. Unclear if this is because men are low-key still afraid of shots, or if they just think their big, tough man bodies can heal themselves. I don't get it. Is going to the doctor just as bad as asking for directions? Who can say?

7. When they do something cool or even a little impressive, they definitely expect elementary school teacher-level praise for it. A gold star for every time you remember to change the Brita filter! Isn't life fun?

8. Despite having outgrown breastfeeding years ago, they still have an insatiable love for boobies. I get that sucking on a nipple is pre-intimacy, but are you doing that because you think it's hot or because it kind of reminds you of when you were an actual baby?

9. Out at a nice restaurant, they peruse the entire menu and then ask the waiter if they can get a cheeseburger, chicken nuggets, or some other entree they could've just gotten at McDonald's. I don't think they realize how embarrassing this is for all parties involved.

10. They make it impossible to sleep through the night because they either toss and turn, or wake you up with their nighttime boners, craving 3 a.m. sex. Maybe they fall asleep immediately after orgasming because they literally never sleep all night long.

11. If you cuddle them when they're not exactly in the mood for cuddling, they get fussy and cranky. As babies, this resulted in temper tantrums. As adults, it's not that much different.

12. When they decide they need new clothes, they go shopping in exactly one store, find nothing they like, and then immediately just give up. I'm not going to buy your dumb T-shirts for you! It's not that hard to just buy your own T-shirts! There are other stores!

13. If you don't cook spaghetti sauce exactly the way their mom did it, they not only notice, but ask you if you did something weird to the recipe. Look, buddy, there's more than one way to make red sauce, and I'm sure as Bleep not going to call your mom and get her recipe just to please you.

14. They often need to be changed before going out somewhere. No, Todd, you can't wear your golf shoes to this very nice social outing that's been on the calendar for three weeks and that you totally knew about in advance.

15. When they get a new toy like a cell phone or power tool or whatever, they disappear into their room and spend all day playing with it. The rest of the world does not stop moving when you get a new plaything.

16. Even as grown-ass men, they still order ketchup with their $50 steaks. The chef would cry if he knew you were putting sugary tomato sauce on his perfectly cooked steak, BTW.

17. They have a tendency to respond in monosyllabic grunts like "humph," or "blegh." Oh, is that how you acknowledge you're listening to me? By making an indiscernible caveman sound? Cool.

18. Their bedroom floors are constantly littered with dirty clothes — especially socks — because putting their things in the hamper would just require too much work. The hamper is literally right there, no more than 12 inches away from the dirty sock that's been on the floor for a week. It's not that hard!

19. Any time you go to the beach or out on a hike or something, they ask you to put their dumb sunscreen or baseball hat or whatever in your bag, because, hey, you're already carrying one! Sure, all women are your personal pack mules and men are incapable of carrying their own bags. I get it. It's fine.

20. They skip hungry and immediately go to hangry, and hangry involves a lot of temper tantrums. The best part is that they fully expect food to be prepared for them or delivered to them, because men can't figure out how to just prepare food for themselves in such a troubled state.

21. If they can't figure out how to do something the first time they try it, they totally give up and say, "I CAN'T, why don't you just do it?" I know what's happening here. You're just pretending you don't know how to wash dishes because you don't want to do it. STEP ASIDE.

22. They can be living in a literal garbage dump but won't clean anything until someone orders them to do so. It cannot possibly be comfortable living amidst half-eaten bowls of cereal and whatever else is growing on that plate that's been next to your bed for three weeks. But the best is when they show you their old coffee cup that's growing mold and are like, "Haha, look, science!"

23. They can't sit still for three minutes of commercials without finding some other form of entertainment to make them happy. The commercials will be over before you figure out which channel Shrek 2 is playing on, just please, be patient. Thanks!

24. They call out across the house to ask where the leftover pizza went, even though they're standing directly in front of the open refrigerator and you're upstairs doing something else, far away. Like, can you not just look for yourself? I do not have X-ray vision that allows me to see through the walls and locate your dumb leftover pizza. I'll let you know when that finally happens for me though.

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a56813/ways-every-man-is-a-baby/

MirandaPrestly:
As a person who has been through three difficult pregnancies and three Caesarean sections, I understand why a woman would say "no more babies" and actually do something about it.
However, I think she should take a step further by studying her cycle for six months. That should be enough time to give her a good idea of how her body works. During her safe period, the CD isn't necessary. When she is unsafe, her husband should use it. It's only for a few days anyway. Like someone rightly said, no method is 100% effective. She isn't entirely wrong for wanting to be safe, but compromise is necessary in marriage. There has to be a middle ground somewhere, to reduce friction in the relationship.

This is more like it!

I salute you, you are an intelligent woman. This response is very balanced and mature not like the emotional rubbish piled up there by Tufanja.

Respect.

banmee:
There are other ways to prevent pregnancies. My wife had the procedure done. We did it before our first, second and now our third. In fact it can be so effective that it will take a while after removal for the woman's body to adjust to getting pregnant.

Exactly.

Tufanja:
Take a reading and comprehension course and get back to me afterwards. Thank you.

As far as am I concerned, you have not addressed the question which is why should a married man be sentenced to a lifetime of condoms with his own wife.

All the epistle you wrote up there does not address this, thx.

Lalasticlala.

Tufanja:
Exactly!

Are you saying that it is okay for a woman to bar her husband from having sex with her unless he has rubber covering

Tufanja:
I doubt if you understood my points...if you would have understood you would never give this comment.

So it gives the husband enough justification to follow his selfish desires and sentence the woman to a chance of another pregnancy? She is only asking him to use a condom, not even to deprive of it at all, not even demanding of him a sterilisation. What a big deal! Man can use condom when they go and sleep around but not when it is for a good purpose? #totallybiased

Do you know that with every pregnancy a woman put her body and life at risk? I would welcome you to spend some serious period in the labour room, you would never open your mouth like this anymore. Period. This lady might have much more serious arguments why the risk to have another child would not be a good idea. Why the heck are you guys even thinking about dropping a stone in her direction without knowing all the inside outs in the first place?

Besides...some fundamental reasoning problems here:

- Intercourse is no a right but a privilege. Nobody else has any say about your body but you and cant claim any right on it. Never. If the man doesnt want to use a condom, okay perfect, the woman has as much right to refuse intercourse without condom. To be honest, this should not even become an issue. One should seriously wonder what the lovebasis of your relationship is when you cant even find loving solutions on such minor issues.
- A woman who is in fear can never give her body and mind fully and in a loving way to a man. How do you think it feels when you sleeping with your man out of duty and only thinking while he is doing his thing "I hope I don't get pregnant"? Do you have even the smallest clue about how the female brain works and how we can stress and think about so many other things on such a moment while you are only thinking about satisfying yourself? And then those men come her on NL with a big mouth complaining the intercourse with their wife is not good and that she is holding back and they even give themselves reasons to cheat? WTF# What is the fun of the intercourse when you cant be both fully engaged in it and make it an instrument to communicate your love instead of making an instrument showing the lack of love?
- Where is the man taking responsibility? Where is he showing care for the fertility that is inherent part of his woman's life? He is not giving her the comfort that she needs to flourish and flow with him when he is not part of the solution.
- Sex and love are again totally mixed up here

If you think that it is not a big deal for a man to use condom for the rest of his life it is a VERY big deal for us.

ISpiksDaTroof:
I just saw your profile picture.

ROFLMAOoooooooooo

That pix belongs to Kestolove95.

Medunah:
Family planning is not 100% so it makes sense for her to tell her husband to use condom. No one knows wat she went through b4 aving those 3. The husband should get a vasectomy if he can't use a condom. After all, it isn't one sided

But how does it sound to you, that your own husband cannot have access to you unless he has a condom on, just think about it.

3rdlegxxx:
Thanks for educating us on this, i just learnt something new today, i am kind of disappointed by the few females who spoke and put the woman down, i thought as females they would tell us reasons why she might be doing what she is doing, instead they did what we guys would do and bash the wife.

So then a man cannot have sex with his own wife again without a condom?

Wonders shall never end.

Tufanja:
It would be nice if we can refrain from judgements about other women.

The lady is actually acting very wise. I have been an intern at prenatal consultations, we got different women who used different types of contraceptives and became pregnant anyway (despite of the implant, contraceptive pills, intra-uterine devices). Last january only I got at least 3 cases! None of these methods is giving a 100% coverage. The security of the method is in practice often even lower than many of the statistics use to show (especially those funded by the producers). That is why it should be general knowledge that if you want the maximum level of security you use the "double dutch-method", which means the combination of two methods, mostly a condom with a form of female contraceptive. The lady in this case has shown she is intelligent and well-informed. Thumbs up.

More drastic solutions are male or female sterilization. If the husband is complaining, he can show leadership and let himself be helped by a surgeon instead of putting the fertility burden at the female side only.

While I understand your points, is this enough justification for a woman to sentence her husband to a lifetime of condoms?

Nnamdi Kanu might end up being another Al Mustapha.

Ishilove:
The lady is selfish. Make the man kuku hold himself and any day e hungry madam, he will make his own demands clear.

I agree with you. This is a cool Christian bro who has no one else but his wife. This woman asked for family planning, the man took her to the hospital, paid the bill and got the family planning done only for the woman to demand that he must also always use condom as additional protection against pregnancy.

How do you expect a married young man to be sentenced to a lifetime of condoms with his own wife?

Strahovski1:
Trash. What ever plan yo make use of unless birth control pills or spermicides you cannot beat nature.

You need to study more. You are talking of pills what about injections, implants and IUD?

Google is there for you...

Strahovski1:
What is family planning? Is it a medicine that prevent pregnancy? As long as man bang without cd. And it cum inside woman. Woman bring baby.

That's what my daddy told me

So I support the woman. Family planing my ass

There are very effective planning methods out there, consult google and speak with a doctor.

menabae:
The wife is just being cautious,family planning method is not good fr every woman's body,so is bound to fail to some extent, I think the condom is better...... my opinion thou

So the man can no longer sleep with his one and only wife without a condom? Is that not a life of misery? When girlfriends even allow their boyfriends to do it raw not to talk of somebody's wife?

The work of a soldier is not easy at all.

Salute to them.

czarr:
I don't even know if the op is in support or against the woman

I am not in support, how can I be? What i don't understand is why the woman is still insisting on condoms even after family planning has been done.

I wonder what Ishilove & Beremx will think about this......

Daniel2289:
That's just the truth. She should take it or leave it.

But she does not want to get pregnant again.

Cutehector:
she is seriously deceivn herself and endangering her marriage by herself.! Thank u

How can a woman sentence a husband to a life of using condoms forever? And this is a good Christian guy who can not think of going outside, all he has is his wife.

Rocktation, Farano, Lalasticlala

Cutehector:
The wife needs to get enlightened that condoms aren't the only means in practicing birth control..

This is where the doctor comes into play

The wife is well educated and she knows that. according to her, she does not want to take any chances of getting pregnant again so the man must settle for condom forever.

I know a couple that have three children. They don't want another child and the wife insisted they adopt a family planning method. They have gone to the hospital and the family planning has been done but even after that, the wife has insisted that the man must use condom anytime they want to have sex.

The man is very unhappy about this and becoming frustrated.

What you think guys, ladies?

Note that there is no case or suspicion of infidelity here, the woman is so afraid of getting pregnant again.

eyeon:
For me, virginity ain't dignity without purity attached to it.
I don't count virginity as a treasure the way most guys or girls might be counting it. #PurityCounts

Virginity is a virtue, let us get that right.

obiorathesubtle:
No! I want a virgin like me!

Why?

Toks2008 the preacher where art thou?

Ishilove, where art thou? What thinkest thou Ishi?

Kikiki