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PinkNature:
Guy stop glorifying being broke.. all in the name of wanting to be called an alpha who fuckss without paying for it.

Hustle, make money, spend on yourself, family and your woman.

There's nothing to glorify about poverty.

I am a broke guy
Thanks for understanding

JESHAL007:
That's beta bucks strategy, chase money and success and attract women @PinkNature, the issue with this strategy is that sure if you are moderately comfortable in a third world nation you provide security to women but they are attracted to you not sexually aroused by you, you don't make their pussy wet, you will have to spend and simp to get them interested in you, you would have to supplicate and pedestalize her since you want the relationship with her and you want sex, typically when you become rich and successful you attract the worst of the worst women gold diggers and post wall women pretending to be matured, conservative, marriage oriented since their looks and beauty are diminishing


Redpill is aiming for genuine desire, not settling down for nonsense, having standards, and being ok with yourself as a guy whether you are dating or not, whether you want a relationship or not

Only few understand this

dreamxhaser:
Guys!

I noticed my ex has been following my status back to back this days. She usually posts things that are indirectly referring to me but she dosnt know I view her status and I don’t give a fvk either.

So today I went flexing with my guys. Made video and took some pictures. Next thing be say this girl just drop comment that I” too Dey post myself like woman and my girlfriend Dey try ooo”

I just gave her a short reply that “it’s called self love” then she dropped a voice message which I didn’t bother to play or reply.

I just ignored her and she starts to post on her status that “if your boyfriend too de post for status you are dating a woman ooo”


Abeg what does this mean? Does it mean that she’s still obsessed with me? Because if that’s the case I go just use the opportunity Dey fvk her ni oooo

Unless she is your alpha widow, never take back your ex or try to Bleep her . So many implications involve . Just move on with your life man .

SonOfHercules:
Good evening boss.
Let’s have some intelligent discussion.
After reading THE ART OF SEDUCTION by Robert Greene. I decided to meditate on the book and I had one trivial question.
Is the book written for Machiavellian tactics or simping? The reason I asked is in contrast to 48 laws of power, we see things like doing things unconditionally for women and even going far just to seduce the woman. After getting the pussy, what next? Does seduction starts and ends in a lady’s pant? Is the book good for redpillers starters or should be avoided because lack of understanding may definitely lead to simping.
Just my thought. Hoping to hear from the bosses in the house.

THE ART OF SEDUCTION book has contents . You should have mentioned the topics and the statement/words/topic you don't understand . Again, what and what is in contrast to the 48 laws of power . Or which area of the 48 law of power does it contradict .

You need to be specific, that way, people can give correct opinion

Timothykesh13:
How can i go about that..
She looks like the type you can have sex with unless we are dating

Girls can have sex with a guy they ain't dating . How you approach her matters . That is why if you want just the sex , you must approach from the right angle .

Let's see how 5 guys approached one girl and they all end up having sex with her, although they approached from different angles .

1st guy approached by being just a friend , then it led to relationship and he ended up having sex with her . What you must consider about this first guy is that , he must have spent a lot of time , trying his best and buying stuffs , this might take months or years before he got laid .

2nd guy approached her because she has a problem of accommodation or financial issue . He used her presence issue to bargain sex with her and she gave it up

3rd guy approached with friend and benefit intention. She later succumbed as long as the guy keeps providing, she gave up her coochie to keep him providing

4th guy was chosen, he is her spec, she gets wet just by thinking of him . The guy got the chosen signal and approached , she put up little resistance and later gave up the coochie.

5th guy was a straight shooter. He approached with sexual intentions ( direct game ) . On making his sexual intentions known , at first she got angry and resisted him . With some persistence , she gave up the coochie.

What you need to understand here is that all the 5 guys approached her from different angles, although they got laid . All road leads to sex . It depends on the road you choose to follow.

How you want it to go is how you should start with her , if she doesn't accept immediately, with little persistence, she will succumb or run completely.

Maintain how you started. If you deviate you will spoil the game . For example, it's wrong to accept to date a girl when you have already started with friend with benefits, vice versa . If she doesn't agree with your starting, next her , don't settle for what you didn't start with .

And if you have started with indirect method, better maintain it till end , because if you now start going direct, vice versa, you will ruin the game and she will run away .

This is applicable to all of them. They can have sex with different guys who approach them from different angles. Know your angle, it matters .

ElasmoBranchii:
Let's talk about cold approaching. I know it has been brought up on this thread in the past and it's not everyone's cup of tea but I don't believe you can be the most confident version of yourself without doing it.

I'm trying to form this habit of always putting myself in uncomfortable situations because like exercising, you won't be the best version of yourself if you don't stress your muscles. Not only with cold approaching, I'm trying to apply this in other areas too.

And just like exercising, you need to make cold approaching a habit. You don't need to be perfect at it. Just make it a habit.
Even if you feel you are confident enough or you have a lot of girls on your plate. You can only get better.

You don't even have to link up with the girls afterward just make it a habit to approach and please only very attractive girls.

I used to think when you are cold approaching, you are stroking their ego but the truth is, it's about strengthening your own because she doesn't have the balls to do what you just did. Building confidence in this area will also transfer to other areas of your life.

Everybody should be doing it even if you are on Monk Mode. Like I said you don't need to link up with the girls afterward which means you don't need to spend a lot of time talking to her.

Also some people will tell you wait for choosing signals and all that but ignore that and just approach. You can do cold approach and warm approach at the same time. If you know it's someone you will still see around then you can use warm approach but I'll pick cold approach in most situation.

I started getting a lot of choosing signals when I started cold approaching. It's crazy. Not that I didn't use to get choosing signals but it could be like once in a year but the week i started cold approaching, i got 3 choosing signals. I feel women can sense the aura.

And yes most of the girls I have linked up with are the ones that gave me choosing signals but I think that's because I am not yet very confident in my cold approach but I know I'll get better with time.

I hope this helps. Keep pushing yourself out of your comfort zone and watch your confidence soar.

Cold approach is for newbies to build confidence, nothing more . If you expect to get girls that meets your expectations, then cold approach will ruin you . So I approve your cold approach ideology because you intend to focus on building confidence.

One of the best way to get girls genuinely interested in you is through social circles. What do I mean here. I mean that when you see a girl you find sexually attractive and you want her , don't cold approach her . Instead, use social circle to get to her . It is not the confidence you lack to cold approach her , you only obey the simple rule of the game .

Don't cold approach her if you are serious to get her

Once you see her , gather some information about her . Know her house , know where she works , know her friends, know the people she is close to etc . This information will go a long way to easily get her attracted to you without the chance of her manipulating you .

How to use social circle to get a girl

Those people close to her have much influence on her and decide what she does most of the time . Getting close to her social circle will make things easy to get close to her and strike conversation freely without her being on guard and defensive .

Cold approach will likely ruin your game because she will be on guard against strangers , she will hide many things for you and a stranger is a easy target . On cold approach, you are a complete stranger even if you have seen each other many times .

Most ruined relationships and dating for men are mostly started on cold approach. A rich guy with ride will easily get a girl , but these girls won't be genuinely interested in them because they cold approached these girls . Most of the girls that don't give us issues are often gotten through social circles, maybe your place of work , a friend of her introduced you, her sister linked her , your friend introduced you , you got her through your neighbor or from the church . This is social circle, it's much free from ladies manipulation and ungenuine of women's interest .

So a wise man with good game don't cold approach girls he seriously wants to get , instead he finds out the people close to her or events that can link them to talk like an old friends

It's not about the confidence you lack to cold approach is about obeying the simple rules of the game . Cold approach is fraught with too much manipulation and ungenuine love .


However, cold approach is useful for newbies to build confidence. Is like a baby step in the game . The game is deep beyond cold approach.

Fiscus105:
First, you aren't supposed to tell the first girl that failed ur test wen she failed, you are supposed to keep the info within you, for future references and decisions. It shows you are a weak man when dealing with women.

Two, you are just started going out with them, you dnt need to take any urgent decision for now, not even wen any, or trio of u are in need of marriage certificate for now.( You haven't even seen one physically, u started talking about who to marry.)

Wen the time comes, log of woods, would definitely separated from shafts, at the end of the day, any of the two girls may not even become ur wife.
Who told you, both of them are not even using you for plan B?

Meanwhile, the girl you used fake profile to test, you have already put her in position to start manipulating your brain for her own advantages going forward, and with what you wrote here, you lack requisite to outplay women, cos of ur fragile emotional intelligence.

You said exactly what's on my mind . Great advice

Please have you gotten the tie and dye design?

I am interested

lacasera14:
Well said man. Sometimes we communicate half truths and people fly with them and crash. It's just like the saying "It's my life and I can do whatever I want with it" This is contextual. It rolls when you say it's your life and can decide your career choice or go with your talent which will be beneficial or you're doing something good that will benefit. You can't be a call girl, a robber, or a drug dealer and be saying it's your life and you can do whatever with it, when you damage the reputation of your entire family. If you're a robber and you're discovered and they come to arrest you but you run away they could arrest your father and mother to force you out of hiding, you've implicated your parents so it's not your life and you can't do whatever with it because you're interconnected with others.

I am glad that you understand my point

Everything that work is contextual/situational. If it works here , it may not work there. No matter the effectiveness of your game , there are contexts it won't work.

lacasera14:
Most of these red pill advise do not work in real life and I wish I could create a thread to fault all of them.

This is true to an extent

You are right because application of anything, including red pill is contextual/situational.

Application of the red pill is contextual. What this means is that

for example: when they teach you in the red pill that women are attracted to men that ignore them . You read such message and apply it in real life and it doesn't work . Now you will say that red pill doesn't work in real life . This is where context/situation comes in. When red Pillers say that women are attracted to men that ignore them , they don't mean you can attract women by ignoring them.

Here is the context where such message comes from.. . Women are attracted to men that ignore them only if she likes the guy in some ways but the guy is ignoring her , she will be attracted to him. Women can't be attracted to you simply because you ignore her .

In another context.... When you engage a lady for some time , then you start ignoring her , she will start seeking your attention and be attracted to you .

In another context.... When you go for her friend or other girls while ignoring her , she may start getting attracted to you .

My point is that red pill doesn't lie . You are the one who doesn't know/understand the context where the red pill is applicable. I am not trying to fault your premise . I understand that you are speaking from experience. You misunderstand the red pill because many red pill coaches don't include the context to the red pill message. But when you practice it, your failures will signify where such red pill doesn't work , but your success will tell you where it works. Next time, you will know the context to apply it .

Another example:
When red Piller pass a message that women are hypergamous , she will Bleep another guy if he is richer than you or well doing in life than you. This is also contextual/situational. If such message is true, then how do we explain a situation where oga wife is fucking the driver .

However, the red pill doesn't lie . Women are actually hypergamous . Just like a man wouldn't remain In a job when he gets a better offer else where , so will a woman go for a better guy than you and perhaps, inventually leaves you.

Let's see the context of hypagamy in the example we made . Oga wife can be hypogamous by fucking the driver . Here, it is hypogamy not hypergamy because the driver is below the oga himself in sexual market hierarchy . But what can cause this situation is because she may be seeking for sexual pleasure or pregnancy . The same way you are likely to Bleep girlfriend of a guy higher in the sexual market hierarchy, vice versa.

Does this mean that red pillers are wrong by saying that women are hypergamous? No . There are exceptions to every rule , but the exceptions can't make the rules . Women are hypergamous.


Another example:
When red Pillers say women are attracted to masculine alpha men . Yes they are in reality. But there are mental masculine women who are attracted to feminine men because they perceive him feminine and therefore will be able to control him . Rihanna and Asap for example. How do we explain such scenario. Does it mean red pill lies that women are attracted to masculine men . No .

Ever wondered why you once failed on your attempt to attract a woman with your masculinity? Perhaps you were dealing with a woman who perceives her masculine frame higher than yours. You feel red pill lies. Note : women also have their masculine qualities. Although many are not physical masculine but mental masculine than others and than some men

In this same context. Exuding high Masculinity on a girl who has not started liking you will fail because a woman can't accept dominance from a man who she doesn't deem fit to be her man .

Take note:. Woman can be attracted to two men at the same time . One, she feels she can control him , for she is masculine than him. The other , she feels he can control her because of his higher masculinity. The reason Rihanna and Chris brown didn't work was because both are operating on the same masculine level. Equal masculinity will brake up. Chris brown was masculine, Rihanna was operating on the same masculine frequency with him . One must be higher than the other - one must control the other person for the partner to work.

Ever wondered while a woman is attracted to you even in your weak or feminine state ? That is a topic for another day.

The point I am making here is that red pill doesn't lie . It is what it is. If you feel/think that red pill doesn't work in reality , you are the one who doesn't understand context. And you do not have an open mind to learn what red pill is talking about.

Afodot0022:
This topic is strictly for the married men or men living under the same roof with their woman. I don't need the feminist opinion but rather men of intellectual capabilities that is in marriage or relationship living under same space with their woman.

I need to know men in the house, what's the sharing formula in your home, I mean, how do you share bills with your woman. I don't believe in this bad economy, it's only the man that take care of the home front financially except if the man is the likes of dangote or otedola. So my question is that at what ratio do you share the bill with your woman. In my previous marriage, I was forming a superman in the like of carrying all the whole financial responsibility in the home even though it was not easy...bills like house rent, school fee, feeding,clothing's, medicals, utility and etc. My ex wife was not working then and I didn't bother cos I can carry the load, at the end, she paid me back with cheating and infidelity in the guise that I don't give her much attention and blabla. See person I was hustling for to give her and the kids a better life, at that point, I understood that no matter what you do as a man, you can't satisfy the insatiable desire of a woman. Now I have been separated for years and moved on with another woman who we live together now. With my previous experience, I desist to carry all financial responsibility of the house and want her to also commit financially but I don't know how to come about it that won't lead to issue between us, I don't know how to do the sharing formula whether in the area of food, rent, utility bill, gas and etc. Once bitten twice shy and won't want to slave myself for any woman whatsoever again in the guise of marriage or relationship. So experienced married men, how do you do it with your partner that works for you. We both earn a reasonable pay and my thoughts are each month, we both should contribute a certain percentage of amount into an account that we are going to use in running the home front be it food,bills and utilities,gas. E.g Maybe 70k from my side and 50k from her end. That's like a 60/40 sharing formula, With this, I will still pay the house rent and energy and petty bills but the chunk of that amount goes to feeding. I will like to know if this is a good idea guys . I can't be suffering out there to provide for a woman that won't later appreciate your suffering and still cheat on you for flimsy excuse and us her own salary for Brazilian air and cream.

Bro , I am sorry for your experience.

My advice would be that you let it flow instead of sharing bills . Because there is not better way to communicate it with an African woman that won't get them turned off.

Let's get to the root of your decision..... Your ex wife didn't cheat because you pay all the bills or you didn't give her attention while you work to pay all the bills . Your ex wife cheated because women have the tendency to cheat in any situation. Even if you had giving all the attention and pay bills . Even if you hadn't given the attention and didn't pay bills , she would have cheated .

So bro , the reason why you wanted to share bill with your present wife wasn't because the previous wife cheated. Your major reason for considering sharing bills with the present one is because of inflation. You are scared to shoulder it alone and in the end she may pay you with infidelity , right ?

Please remove cheating from the context of the reason to share bills with your wife because even if you share bill , she may still likely cheat, same with if you handle bills alone .

What you desire is to make your wife contribute to the responsibilities of the home because the situation of the inflation in the country isn't friendly.

Number 1 thing to consider is how Africa women , especially Nigeria work. Telling her directly to share bills with you is like setting fire in your house . Because she is not indoctrinated that way , she will indirectly or directly rebel that idea , and your home will crumble.

In her mind " how dare you ask me to share bills with you when other men wants or wanted as their wife and would never suggest such mischievous idea " . She will be angered, a heating tendency will be ignited, she will cease to be loyal to you . She can even suggest you also take part in house chores which is attributed to women responsibilities in the home.

Look at it from this angle bro. In Africa, especially in Nigeria, a man should take care of all the financial aspect of the home while women take care of house chores which includes cleaning, bathing children and cooking etc. As a man I believe you wouldn't want to be assigned to any house chores but you can assist without being told , the same way women don't like to partake in finance responsibilities of the house but can also assist .

Now , how would you feel if your wife suggests you share house chores with her , the same way you would feel if you suggest sharing financial responsibilities .

And another thing that is triggering your idea of sharing financial responsibilities with her is because she is earning reasonable amount of money, as such , she should contribute. But Africa home doesn't work where the woman is assigned to contribute financially even if she is making more money than you . If she must contribute, make it flow without telling her .

For example:
Instead of telling her that she should be taking a particular financial responsibility like house rent or school fees . Ask her for money with the excuse that you don't have enough, she should borrow you , and promise to pay back , even if you don't pay back . It is better that way than giving her that sense of assigned responsibility.

Another thing to know:
Patriarch is successfully runned in an Africa home when the man shoulders almost all the financial responsibilities. Your leadership will be free of threats , more respect from your wife and infidelity will be reduced to some extent.


The point is , if you want a successful home with your wife, never in this life tell her to share bills with you . You can tell her to borrow you money which you will pay later , even if you don't pay back , she won't be that angry. Or be using other indirect ways but never be direct . Make it flow.

UppaZakum:
Good day fellow Redpillers.
I have a childhood friend. We were both science students during our secondary school days and we did study together. He got admission into medicine. I finished school while he was still studying. I lodged at his place whenever I travel to PH for aptitude tests.
Everything was good until life happened to my friend. He fell sick during his 3rd year in school that made him drop out of school. It wasn't an ordinary sickness, a little bit of mental illness too if you know what I mean. But he's fine now. Since he dropped out, life hasn't remained the same for him. Things have not been rosy. He was the hope of his family getting to that level of studying medicine.
I have stepped in a few times to assist him. He currently teaches but with poor remuneration. As you know, the corporate world doesn't regard folks who don't have certificates no matter how smart they are. He stopped teaching to run his own tutorial centre. I was very happy about this when he told me and I asked him to send me a business (tutorial) expansion plan and I funded with some token then. Unfortunately, it didn't yield much positive result. He claims the students don't pay up, probably becuase of the neighbourhood (mostly lower class) and the state of the economy doesn't help either.

In the spirit of men helping men, I need suggestions on what else can be done to help him get out of his situation. He is highly responsible and he's one who finds it very hard to ask me for money unless it's as a last resort. Most times, I just connect the dots during phone conversations and know he really needs help.
He's not asking me for any thing now but I feel sad each time we talk and still get to know his about his situation. He's back to the teaching job he once despised becuase of the poor remuneration.
I'd like to seek the counsel of Redpillers here, what else can he try his hands on to at least get him to a comfortable state. It's better to teach a man how to fish than give him fish. Recently I thought about enrolling him for a solar installation training and thereafter assist with some SEED fund to get him started. But I'd like to know if there are any other viable options out there that can be considered as well. I'd also like to protect myself by setting proper boundaries. I know him though..he's very reasonable and I admire his strong sense of responsibilities but he did something that pissed me off. He shared my contact with some of our other friends that we all grew up together in the neighbourhood. As a result, my whatsapp and phone lines were bombarded with a barrage of requests, financial assistance from folks. While I'm happy to help friends, I have come to a hard realization that I cannot help everyone and cannot solve Everyone's problem. I felt he should have used his discretion. I phoned him and we discuss this matter. He has taken the learning now. Beyond that, I see a man who has the zeal to accomplish great things but faces numerous challenges. Not even sure if to go ahead with this plan as I would not like to be seen as a father Christmas. This is coming at a huge sacrifice for me too but not convinced he sees that as he'd not have shared my contact if he does. Perhaps I'm wrong.

Kindly drop your suggestions.
I dropped this message here to also encourage men folks to help their fellow men as we all know how difficult it is out there to see men getting help.

There are 2 important things I will say to you . The first will address you to relate with your childhood friend from distance. The second will give you the proper advice he should follow to better his life .

Law 10 says - Infection, avoid the unhappy and unlucky.

Take note of this law in the 48 laws of power.
You and your friends are no longer on the same level in life , the purpose of childhood had been fulfilled. It is better to relate with them from distance.

Do you know why Read law 10 in the 48 law of power for better explanation. But let me explain little.... You saw how your friend infected you by group of unlucky friends , they will pull you down before you realize it . Apart from that, you both ain't treading the same path in life , a childhood friend can't serve the purpose of adulthood friend. You can now be relating from distance. Meet and greet , help each other and depart .

Do you want more explanation . Alright, there is something we call envy . Envy operates in every Human being , for so many can't control it . It is complex emotion. Your childhood friend will envy because you are now doing better than him . 2 things will likely happen .1. He may use your achievements to motivate himself , Which is rare case. Or 2. He may feel bad about you , and depressed anytime he compares himself with you. You know what that means . That is why you must avoid the unlucky and unhappy. When you help them , they feel belittled , it will put them in an inferior position. Subconsciously , they feel repulsed , instead of appreciation , they envy your position and spark antagonism. This is the brutality of the human nature .

However, be aware and tread carefully. Help your friend if you have means , but be aware of this possible outcome.


Let's move to the 2nd advice, which will center on how to help him .

You need to understand purpose. That which interests him is his purpose. He loves teaching, that might be his purpose , if not , he would have stopped at first try , but instead he organised classes in the neighborhood. Location matters . Let him look into how he can maximize his teaching career. There is money in that job. We have people who own schools, they are making big money, they also started somewhere . Weac and Jamb classes should be considered. He needs to be smart because there are many competitors out there. If it's location, let him change . The problem might not be what he is doing but how he his doing it .

If teaching aligns with his purpose, it is important he knows, to enable him to continue or find something else that aligns.

A smart fellow should be able to think his way out but not everyone is destined to be smart , if he is not yielding, bro avoid the unhappy and unlucky, don't mingle with them but give what you can from distance.

Fattprince23:
I have this new girl where I work, she's been around for 3 weeks now. Though I was attracted to her strictly sexually but I removed my mind as you don't shit where you eat but as time goes on I noticed her flirting though subtly at first because one day she wanted to ask me for something but she called my attention by caressing my shoulder. I was shocked since we weren't talking then just greetings. But since I am respond to her well I noticed she always want to talk to me or play at any given opportunity because we are always busy. So I'm thinking of inviting her now since I would stop work soon(due to the following reasons, the remuneration is not worth it, our supervisor is toxic and narcissistic and I'm might just be called to serve fatherland at anytime) because she offered by herself to cook and bring food for me to work yesterday but she didn't, so I am thinking of using the opportunity to ask her to still bring the food to my house since I will stop work on Friday. I don't know much about her but I'm thinking of asking her some question after our first round if she agrees to bring the food home.

That girl is lonely at work , she needs someone to talk to , you are the nearest target to keep her company.
Don't mistake her kind gesture for love or likeness. She needs a man's validation.

Now, all you think is sex with her . Your next line of action is to invite her , right? . The problem you have here is not because you want to have sex with her but because of your ignorance concerning an attention seeking LovePeddler who is desperate for validation.

There are ways to deal with such situation, it largely depends on you . What do I mean.... Depending on the way(game) you understand and used to . The way I would handle it might be different from yours , however we will get same result. Let me explain my own ( game) .

For me, a girl can't get my attention and validation for free depending on my current mood and the kind of girl , though. I will be straightforward with her . Tell her directly that I like her , we should be together in a secret place where no one will see us . She will understand what I mean . She either comply , for that is the only condition for my attention and validation. or declines and I won't give her my attention. For women , attention is gold , I hardly give it for free, if you know what I am talking about. I am a busy guy , I don't give women the slightest chance for mind game . She either comply or decline. I am ok with either results.

For you, you may not follow my way( game ) , and you will still get laid or not .

Other things you need to know... That girl likes you in some ways. Else she wouldn't be romantic towards you and bring food for you. You may not be too direct in order not to scare her away as a desperate or clingy guy . She needs to be comfortable with you before you go for the real deal . Perhaps, you will make some attempts before she will succumb. This is not the way(game) of alpha .

Ericmaestrooffi:
I accommodated my male friend last year and he stayed with me for a while so I understand the crap you’re spitting.

As I said before I don’t have any intention to sleep with her or anything like that, I just wanted to help her that’s all.

Personally I have helped most of my guys in different and till date they still appreciate, I’m not one of those simps who put women on pedestals. I actually prefer helping men to women, the only reason I’m considering dating her is because I’ve known her over 5 years and we are very cool.

From our last discussion she said she wants to stay with me for two years but for now I haven’t given her a feedback yet.

You see..... Most times , when people seek for advice , they do so to confirm their self-opinions. Any advice that contradicts what they intend to do will be dismissed .

Bro... Many people have advised you against allowing this girl into your house , but you seem hell bent . Nobody will validate your intentions. Go and do what suits you best .

IAmHim1:
Do you see Tinubu arguing with Nigerians

You are a small boy, what do you know

He avoids argument with me because it will cost him his business. But you have nothing to loose arguing that is why you dare me.

IAmHim1:
This is the perfect example of what we call agree to disagree

You agreed with him in the beginning only to crash land blindly at the end.
Massage emotions, make the person see you as a friend momentarily and strike so it'll hurt deep. If you were that good, I wouldn't have noticed it.


Pukkalolo is right.

For someone to be LOOKED UP TO, the person must be above and worthy to be LOOKED upon.

You gotta be above to control what's below. The king of the blind mans Village must be someone with eyes...even if it's just one eyes

Same way you gotta be above your sexuality to control you woman's...SAME EXACT WAY men are advised to be in control of their emotions unlike women. Because you woke up FEELING tired on a Monday morning doesn't mean you will skip work. . Your 'feelings' doesn't matter at that point

When pukkalolo says don't be 'pussy focused' , HE DOESN'T MEAN YOU SHOULD BE A CELIBATE OR GO MONK MODE so you can use your reserved cobweb sperm to make cold pap on your honey moon

all he's saying is MAKE THE GIRLS AROUND YOU FILTER THEMSELVES (focus slightly on girls so they can be themselves and invariably filter themselves) before you go bleeping nonsense into your life and be switching between Shilohs and hospital$


You can't bleep all the girls you crave. And even if some of the girls you crave were to strip for you, you'll lose your erection. Girls are not unicorn

This is getting wayyyy long

But see it this way
When you go to the market, you don't show full desperation on the sellers goods or the seller will take advantage of that and hike the goods price

YOU WANT IT DEEP DOWN BUT YOU CAN LIVE WITHOUT IT. that's what not being pussy focused is to me when I read Pukkalolo Shameless Approach pdf. And that's just one point from there I managed to 'summarize' here

He understands what I said better than you , that was why he never argued.

CuteNbad:
what happens when you're desperate?
A woman once said I am.

That is her own definition of desperation. She only wanted to guilt-trip you . If you fall for that , your luck .

A woman will tell one man he is desperate, while being angry with another for not making sexual moves on time .

If you cannot define your reason of approaching a girl and stand by it, you will likely fall for her game ( she will guilt-trip you , even if you ain't desperate)

Pukkalolo:
Your second paragraph explains it all. But let me add to it

Let's think of it. Let's assume you are a baker. And you bake three snacks. Cake, meat pie, sausage...

You start marketing them. But you notice that the market seem to value the Cake more than the other snacks. You seemed to be making shit load of money from selling the cake, but nobody seem to be buying the other snacks... Infact you were making losses from the meat pie and sausage.

So logically, you decided to start marketing and advertising mainly the cake... And as expected, you cash out very well on it...

But then one random person on the internet observe this and said: "this baker have the tendency not to evolve beyond selling cake. It traps him and underdevelops his business potentials..."

He might be right, but duh! You don't give shit about what he said because you are steadily cashing out on the cake.

Business isn't about giving the market what you want; it's giving the market what the market want.

Same with women: the typical young woman have three products to sell: her personality, her achievement, her sexuality.

But unfortunately, she noticed that the market(men) don't really (initially) care much for her personality and her achievement. Rather the market(men) place more million dollar value on her sexuality and are willing to pay huge to acquire it. So she decided to market and advertise her sexuality more because she's making shit load of money from it.

But some dude, I guess a redpiller, then say, "this woman have the tendency not to evolve beyond their sexuality."

Well, he's right, but duh! She's making shit load of money from her sexuality, so she doesn't give a damn.

As guys we need to be honest with ourselves. If we truly want a woman to evolve beyond her sexuality, the market(men) should first evolve beyond her sexuality, and stop placing it on pedestal.

This why I always preach that men should stop being pussy(sexuality) focused. It's crazy how some guys still argue with me on that.

If we stop being sexuality focused, women will be forced to evolve beyond her sexuality.

THE CHANGE BEGINS WITH US AS MEN.

You made sense in your illustration and I must say that your copywriting skill is top notch . Not so many men on this thread can counter you, because you sound so perfect.

One thing is to understand the red pill , and another thing is to understand the game . You made a good illustration of the red pill through the snack . But a game of not being focus on pussy, is actually a weak game to approach women in the context of your illustration

My advice to you :
You see that aspect of not being pussy focus In your dating ideology must be corrected.

I understand that before anyone would wake up and write a book , he must have been so convinced about his ideology on dating and consider it worthy to market . He sees it as a way to help other people. It doesn't matter whether they pay for it or for free , the value must be shared .

See.... Being pussy focus or not , you can get sex. No strategy special. In dating, you can do the opposite of your game and still get same result. For instance: you can spend on girls and end up not getting laid , you can decide to claim the alpha of not spending on women and up not getting laid, vice Versa.

Whatever that work here might not work when you apply the opposite . For instance: You might decide not to be pussy focus and still not get laid and you can be pussy focus and still get laid . Many road leads to sex . No one is special.

If ," not being pussy " is the best game you come up with after all your experiences and knowledge acquired from dating arena , then you need to open your mind to various aspect of approach in dating, to make your book a great one . Your experience is too limited to cover so many things in dating. You need more experience.

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GreatAchiever1:
Since when does being expressive about your sexual nature by having sex with ladies make you a man? it only leads to profligacy and degenerate life.
You should be more worried about not having manly virtues. No one said you should repress your sexual nature but to be honest, having careless sex or even dirty talks inorder to project sex so as to bed her doesn't speak good of you and such could be a turn off to some girls.
If you think the girl likes you, just do the needful and ask her out, take the lead during the whole process of the date including the conversations, get to know her and what her ideologies are - is she someone you can have a future with or someone that is just not worth your time, does she have the same ideals and beliefs as you or she someone that just wants to leech on you.
With time, depends if she is someone you want to spend your future with, you can then bring up sex related topics and discussions. Everything has its own time.
So the idea of being expressive about your sexual nature is false, you're a man and not a dog on heat that goes about having casual sex everywhere.

When does not expressive of your sexual nature also make you a man

Pukkalolo:
First off, my concept of Not being pussy focused has nothing to do with direct/indirect game crap. It's more of mindset.

Perfectskills01, Let me ask you:

Have you ever encounter this with a girl:

You're alone with her for the first time and you are trying to get sexual with her, but she's resisting your touch and pushing you away....

Many guys have write me about experiencing that with women...

But let me brutally honest with you: I hardly experience this(since I got experience with women). When I'm alone with a girl for the first time, the physical escalation often go smoothly towards sex. Infact sometimes I'm the one telling the females, "take it slow baby girl, why are you so in a rush to get this dick."

This is because the girls feel very comfortable about the idea of going sexual with me.

What's my secret?

This relate to the Idea of not being pussy focused...


Okay, let's begin proper.

Let's meet John...

John ask a girl to be his girlfriend, but after he ask her out, she started giving him attitude and misbehaving...

So John comes to the redpill/pua guys. They tell John that the mistake he made was that he asked her out. They tell him, "never ask a girl out; never try to go into relationship first... Instead first Bleep her...once you Bleep her, you'll hold the power, then she will now be the person chasing you."

So John start going about trying to Bleep first, in order to hold the power.

But unfortunately what John didn't realize is that by trying to Bleep her first, he's also giving her the power, regardless.

This is the reason why the typical young girl feels so saucy and entitled nowadays...

Why?

Because every guy she meet seem to be so concern about get her pussy, as if there's some gold or treasure in there....

Now, John initially failed with women because he's putting relationship first before sex... So John decided to put sex first before relationship, but despite that John is still failing with women.

That's because putting the pussy first is not really also the solution...

So what's the solution?

Good question!


The typical woman have different mental barriers that prevents her from going sexual with you. Those mental barriers in her head are what makes her feel cheap/guilty/ashamed/unexcited about going sexual with you.

If a girl isn't allowing you go sexual with her, then it's because you have not break down those mental barriers in her head.

Have you heard of the idiom: "putting the Cart before the horse." This means putting the wrong thing first.

The horse is what move the cart, so If you want the cart to move, then put the horse first (forward).

With women, the cart is getting the pussy, while the horse is breaking down her mental barriers.


When you're focused on the pussy you are putting the cart before the horse. This Is why guys always end up somehow losing the girl they have a chance with.

But your game with women will change when you put less important on getting the pussy, because you understand that once you break down those mental barrier in her head, the pussy naturally take care of itself.

When you break down those mental barrier, she'll feels excited/comfortable about getting sexual with you.

I hope you get the idea...

If you want learn more on this idea, feel free to check out my stuff...

Since you decided not to show how not to be pussy focused rather , you are referring me to your book . That is, I need to buy your book to find out . That's fine.

But is it all your books that teach how " not to be pussy focused " . You need to be specific on the particular book .

Pukkalolo:
When you said,

"Some people will tell you not to "think with your díck" OR not to "Focus on her pùssy"


I know you're indirectly referring to me, because we know already I often say, "stop being pussy focused, instead be attention focused"



I'm not surprised that some guys will disagree with me on this, because back in the days, I would also disagree with myself.


But when I got to a level of confidence, sexual experience and maturity, I understood that---

A true powerful guy doesn't think with his dick.

A true confident guy is not pussy focused.

A true dominant guy doesn't have a goal of fucking her, he has a different goal entirely.

You'll find out what that goal is in a moment....Read on.



When I tell some guys to stop being pussy focused and to stop thinking with their dicks, their emotions get triggered and they try to disagree with me just like you are doing now.


Well, it's not your fault, it's the society fault. The media and society have brain washed men to believe that a woman's pussy is a highly valuable commodity that must be chased and acquired. This is why most men think with their dicks.




Thinking with your díck" OR being "Focus on her pùssy happens to be the biggest roadblock preventing most guys from even getting the pussy.


Here's how....


If you've read Stephen R. Covey's The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. He talked about something which really resonate with this issue.


Covey says that the more you concentrate on factors out of your control, the more your degree of "influence" is going to decrease. And Covey says that the more you concentrate on factors that are within your direct control, the greater your degree of influence increases.


As man, having access to a woman's pussy is totally out your control because it's the woman that "decide" if you'll get the sex or not. Anything that a woman has to "agree to" or has some degree of decision-making power is NOT in your direct control.


When you focus on something(pussy) which is out of your control, that thing(pussy) controls you.


So if you're thinking with your díck OR you're focus on her pùssy, then she controls you.


If you've read the "THE POWER OF PUSSY" by Kathy.


In that book, she literally said "most guys are pussy focused, so if you want exploit, manipulate and control men, you have to leverage the power of your pussy. The tactics in that book is so devilish. The idea in the book is to get the man to think with his dick and focus on the pussy, because that's the only way the woman can manipulate and control him.


Isn't it funny how these generation of men is the weakest and least respected by women. One reason for that is because these generation of men think with their dicks and they value the pussy more than their time and self-respect.


One thing I discovered is that most times, the guy who is struggling to get the girl is struggling because he has the desperate goal of fùcking her. Because, to him fucking her is the prize to win, so he view getting the pussy as winning and he view NOT getting the pussy as losing.


To define winning by getting the pussy is putting your power and self-worth in the hands of the woman.


If a woman has the POWER to make you a winner or loser by simply giving you the pussy or NOT giving you, then she will use that power against you to toy with your emotions and manipulate you.



If you want to be truly POWERFUL with women and get them follow your lead as the leader, then you need to eradicate low value mindset.


Thinking with your dick or focusing on the pussy is a low value mindset.


You are not supposed be worried about getting the pussy. The woman should be the one worrying if she should give you the pussy or not.


Your job is to be at your most powerful behavior. Her job is to seduce and mate with the powerful guy.


As a guy, if you have to be the one to seduce her, then you're doing something fundamentally wrong.


A powerful guy doesn't seduce the woman because he's the GREAT CATCH to be won over. Instead he gives the woman the opportunity and chance to seduce him. It's the woman's job to seduce you.


Women are the ultimate seducers. But Women are not seducing because men are pussy focused, trying to seduce the women.


Look, the true Power lies with the one who is being seduced not the one seducing. In that case, True game is the ability to get the woman to be the seducer and chaser. She has to be the one craving for your attention; NOT you craving for her pussy.



Just yesterday, this dark cute lady literally told me, "if you make me your girlfriend, you are gonna enjoy me..." (I guess I have talked about how I met her somewhere on this thread where I was asked about the topic relating to "engaging in small talks vs having deep conversations with a good girl"


The other day another girl was telling me, "you this big head, I gave you my phone number but you never cared to even call me."


Again, Last week another lady was telling me, "you don't want me to come to your house, right?... A fine girl like me wants to visit you, you are doing shakara."



Now, the reason why these ladies are craving for my attention is because I'm not focus on their pussy. I treat their pussies like it worthless to me. This literally drives them crazy and get them confused because they rarely see a guy who's not thinking with his dick and doesn't give a fuvk flying about getting their pussies.





To wrap it up,


To win with women, the pussy has to naturally come to you; NOT you being focused on it or trying to calculatedly seduce your way to get it.


This is very important.


Treat women like humans, and not like some "pussy prize" or trophy to be won.


The GOAL is NOT to Bleep her. That's a childish goal. That kind of goal will make you feel WEAK and insecure because fucking her is not in your direct control.


Rather THE GOAL is to simply find out if she's truly interested you and if she's even worth your attention. That kind of goal will make you come across as mature, assertive and confident. Because you are treating your attention as the prize to be won, not her pussy.




Now, most guys won't quickly or easily grab all this concept have just written because they are not socially conditioned to think this way; instead they've been socially programmed to be focused on the pussy and to think with their dicks.


This is way deeper, and It will take some experience and paradigm shift before a guy can truly apply this mindset.


But just bookmark or save this page because I believe I have planted a seed in your mind; one day the seed with germinate and you'll experience a mindset shift and you will look back for this post and say, "Wow! Pukka was right all this while, a guy shouldn't be pussy focused."


Stay blessed.

Pukkalolo . I understand you are trying to help men with dating issues . But you haven't said anything different from what dating coaches on this public site have said in the past .
What I mean is that , you are trying too hard to sound different.

And again. Focusing on the pussy or not, all leads to getting laid. Not focusing on it makes no difference. Strategies differ . It all depends on the one that works good for individual.

Not focusing on pussy is classified under the indirect game .
Focusing on it , is classified under the direct game .

Both direct game ( being upfront with your sexual intentions) and indirect game ( hiding your sexual intentions) , both work effectively, depending on the individual and context.

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