₦airaland Forum

cryslar22:
What will you like to no about it?

y it always fall on different dates instead of been celebrated on a particular date yearly

Na wa oooo fire everywhere, kano's own was more than 50% of the market and the part that got burnt are the happening places including first bank..... They all burnt to ashes and the smoke there now as i type can give someone a medical condition

I have been thinking too...
A Jehovah witness ones engaged me in the talk but i told them I wasn't interested. Ever since then, this question has already been in my mind.
Please i would like someone to educate me on it

Allow nature to take its place... What is met for you will never pass you by

but why those white/ mixed bears

I wish them safe journey..... That is the the result of bad government and mismanagement of resources

Animals

Eyaa.... Sowi

Riry

OneManLegion:
Aww. Thanks, bunny.
What will you be doing on our birthday?

sleeping ooo.... I will be needing enough rest from my night duties

nnamdibig:
I have said my own. All I know is that it's easier living together in peace that in pieces.

nit with everybody and not all the time

nnamdibig:
You are very wrong on this

i assure you that I am very correct..... Who nor go no know. That is it with the case of MIL not liking daughter in-law especially if not from thesame tribe

Dont mind them.
I will just call the dad to buy the things she spoilt especially the pads, then leave those paints in her face and post it on nairaland

sweetilicious:
I love your advice to her. I wish to get married to my best friend some day. This MIL issue i believe should be handled with love. She will not die if she apologised and beg for them to relate well. Leave the rest to God. The only thing is that we let Ego overshadow peace.

even if she kill herself for that woman, She can never like her, so its better every one of them should Maintain their own lane

segzy0i:
Dts wia u really missed it.since dey invited u u shd av gon u ve bin married 2 dem u shd av just giv drm even if its 2 weeks or 1 mth is nt 2 small den I go 2 ur mother afterward I bliv if u ve told ur mother she wl av allow u 2 go there its culture courtesy nd the right thing lets say u dnt av a mother alive or ard nd dey did nt welcom u ao wl u feel so pls try 2 amend nd beg dem

I'm 100% in support of her not going to the so called mother in law place. You can't hold me like a pinch of salt and expect me to carry you like a bag of rice.. Oh no its not possible

Cutehector:
hahahahha at federal govt work.


You are right tho. U made me see reasons to agree wid ur point.

gboza for you

pacino26:
One fact that Isuzu escapes the mind of the indomie generation wives is exactly what you posted here my dear (no pun intended)

A daughter in-law today becomes a mother in-law in 25_30yrs time. My would-be father in-law is yet to be convinced I am good enough for his daughter same as my mom who thinks 'tis girl' is out to ruin me down and waste my time.

I think I even share a similar situation but I handled things in a very subtle manner. My own mom was the case then and now it's her dad. Twinkie8 really have to redeem yourself before your MIL. It is not in her place to come to you, you've to approach her and there's no limit to the number of things you do and you hit a brick wall.
Start all over and win your in-laws. This is Nigeria, Africa where we hold family very high.

It's a phase and the old woman will get off it.

abegiii when she gets to the bridge of been a MIL, she will cross it.... All ahe has to do is to have a free heart to receive any body the children brings home because every child has his/her own destiny

Cutehector:
well the son has to educate his mother on that. My mum jokingly told me make we nor go marry akwaibom girl o say she nor dey for their wahala.


I was like.. wtf. I reiterated to her that whoever I end up marrying is based on d will of God and i"m sure she wishes not to oppose that... she just kept quiet

its individual differences, some mothers will want to take it as if its federal government work.
She should just live her life and let their problems be their headache

nnamdibig:
Now I believe there is something like "new generation wife".

For God's sakes they never liked you & the only way to make amends is to spend time with them during your child birth. In my side, when you have a child, your mother comes over for omugwu not the other way round.
If I may ask, So your fear is that your MIL cannot take care of you & your new born baby? Or that your mum cannot come over & stay with you guys while taking care of you?
You better amend things with your new family. You are there to stay & will one day act like her if you don't like your son's wife to be.

Amend what for heaven's sake? Let her live her life tthem live theirs abeg.
You can't tell the heart who to love

ATMC:
I disagree with you. For heaven's sake it's her first child and her mother must have looked forward to the omugwo. You heard her that after her time with her mother she wanted to go spend time with her mother in law but she bid her not to come. Who does that?

The mother in law ought to know better that this girl will be displeasing herself if she be with her first instead of her mother. This is sheer case of you can't tell the heart who to love.

It is clear that she was hated before she was chosen and not even the husband can salvage the situation. There's a limit to what he can do.

thank you jare

Cutehector:
oh just come off it please! All these new generation women Dat just like to cause problem in their own marriages by themselves! Mchew

you are wrong. What of all these old generation MIL that are too sentimental all in the name of tribe?

Iolite:
Just as Cutehector said, you where wrong, should have let her spend sometime with you, then go to your mother for the rest. In my case, my husband was the one telling his mother no need but I insisted she comes, which she did. Your mum can be very tolerant but not MIL. So I suggest you and your husband should pay a suprise visit to MIL home and try to make amend by appologizing for the obvious. Goodluck

that is because you were probably in good terms with your MIL, the lady need much rest after delivery not someone that will carry a masquerade face for her all in the name of omugwo

ATMC:
Twinkie8 can you do this one thing? Listen to your husband and ignore them.

Again, another thing that might help is imagining your husband was the one in your shoes, what would you have done for him? You may do something close to what he did...'pls ignore them, Ihave your back'.

If you can just try and ignore them for now, in a matter of time they will tire.

Bear this at the back of your mind, IF PERSON NO LIKE YOU, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. Let them deal with the hate when it's time for PEACE, not even their warrior hearts can withstand.

Love your baby, respect your man, listen to the still voice in you and be good. It will come to pass.

thank you dear.... This is what I just wanted saying

Cutehector:
Well the husband is wrong.. very wrong.

In the igbo culture, I duno if it's everywhere, it's said Dat ur not only marrying the husband but his entire family, likewise him to ur family as well..


he really should be concerned abt this as its not a matter to be swept under the carpet. This is ur mother in law for christ sake, she plays a very important role nw in d entire family even though she is distant and as such, the relationship between u and her has to be somewhat good at all times.

He really needs to call all of dem to order! Like really!

he knows the type of family he has and since he said time will take care of everything, no qwams

Tallesty1:
You misused the opportunity to make things right

no matter the distance a goat travel to another country, it still remains a goat.
Some good for nothing mother-in-law are just of their own interests.
Only God knows what/how she would have handled her especially as she was never from their tribe

mydream23:


sorry I don correct am. the brain dey hot na him cause am

sorry I don correct am. the brain dey hot na him cause am

thumb up for you

mydream23:
wow thanks man

man?

Samuel89:
March 30... Rare breed...

happy bday in advance birthday mate

OneManLegion:
March 30

happy birthday ib advance to us

obyrich:
30th March

waoooo my birthdaymate.... Happy Birthday in advance

It takes real guy to do dat not mummy/daddy's boy

dikeigbo2:
With veil or no veil,no peace for the wicked.

thank you jare