₦airaland Forum

Omon605:
1. Is a pure lie because i stays in abuja and my friends do come to visit most times and stay with us for few days. They used my wife wrapper to cover at night. Is fully accepted unless you have and interior motive. Is not forbidden in Ishian culture as you portrait

2. In Ishian once you are married nobody cares when you sleep with your wife. Anytime is allowed. No time is restricted and you are even encourage by both families to do it quick so that you can start having children, because that's the only problem I can't find in Ishian marriage. It is expected once you are married children should follow

3. Here to a large extent you are correct but no barbing of any hair and if the woman didn't confess on time she might loose her own life but for that of the children that had been revised and if the man or his suspecting the woman at all without telling his elders the man may also loose his own life. But if the man didn't know or suspect the wife in anyway he had know problem

4. If the woman confess to the husband alone without the husband family, the husband may loose his life. Once the woman confess to the husband or the husband suspected the woman at all he had to quickly alert his people and explain to them. If the woman didn't really do anything contrary she will be set free instantly and given some advice not to indulge herself in such unholy behaviour and sometimes the man will be punish for suspecting the wife. But once a woman indulge in the act and she confess and the husband still agreed to take her as his wife that's why they performed that ritual, naked the woman and takes her round the village by the women. Note : this is not a must but depending on the circumstances

5. Hmmmmmm, I understand why you missed this. Once the word cross a woman is mentioned in Ishian what everybody believe is you have slept with the woman. That's doesn't mean mere walking across a woman's legs is a taboo. You can walked across a woman's legs but you can't cross a woman (sleep)

6. That's is arm robber lie. This is just lie, if you steals your husband's money is between you and your God. Nobody cares, is not a taboo

7. Not truth at all. Anybody can sleep on your bed. Is not forbidden at all. Sometimes if the heat is too much I bring my foam outside and share with my friends. Is not forbidden if you wish to share with anybody. Fully accepted

8. Yes is forbidden if only you say it out. Is not a taboo, is just that some men used it as a means to punish their wives. No sting attached so long the man didn't announce the woman

9. I only had of this but never witness it. Even strangers bath with the same buckets th couples bath with

10. Sorry I just help you to number this. Is a lie my friend. Nobody tells you when to sleep with your during and after birth. I had a cousin whom first child is barely 11 months old and the have given birth to another baby. Am seeing some Ishian marriage attires on this your post and I believe if really you knew that couple very well it will help to provide an answer to this

though the op doesn't understand very well what he pasted about the bathing bucket, even as Christianity and civilization is dominating these traditions, some men still hold it like kilodo.
The bucket thing i know of only appled to first sons that has done 2nd burial for their father because they now believe they are always in line with the fathers spirits. Like I said its still happening to those that have refused to embrace christianity wholeheartedly, not church goers

whytfaz:
Lol just finished having sex between and I am Esan

that part of not having sex in the afternoon applied to some special people. Not that there is really something bad that will happen, it will only give them ailment for sometimes before they will get relief

nefertitiram:
These taboos only relate to you when you marry an Ishan man!

As an Ishan woman when you marry another tribe, you are free from this bondage!

Yes, the taboos are real. I heard em all from my Ishan parents when growing up, and as a matter of fact, my cousins died one after the other because their mum committed adultery. My uncle is still alive because he chased her away, but the children continued visiting their mother and died strange deaths.

I knew I was never gonna marry ishan man sha! Their wahala sef too plenty. Arrogant bunch! They believe that a woman was created to serve them.

did you really grow up in ishan?
If yes, what part of ishan?
Because, the last time I checked, most of the the ishan men i know takes good care ttheir wives and never believed the women are created to serve them but instead they see themselves as the head and takes care of their homes like the head

Young03:
Op dos things no de work again
wetin der women de do dey fear mi


infact make i go ask mama kelvin


bt op, y e be say benin pple dey fear to marry ishan girls cus iam warned not to friend their girls oo

because if you do any how, you see anyhow.
Ishan girl no dey take last, and benins are afraid of ishans as a whole especially the uromians

kceewhyte:
you guys have 99 problems

And you have 101problems because he that beats the drum for a madman to dance, is not better than the mad man

No big deal there nau.
Old things have passed away

See as fear grip me
What is he doing with those things in this 21st century

Better for them

Issorite

May his soul rest in peace

queencalipso:
well I don't know who you are. whatever your thoughts or opinions are, they are entirely yours, you can keep them to your self thanks.

so many children on this forum, just modify your post since the message has been passed...
Just move on with your life and I pray God will give you a man that deserves you

I wish her quick recovery

Mouth open

favoured234:
Let him study whatever he wants to and try as much as possible to invest in his education and encourage him to do the best..

That he studied medicine does not guarantee that he will not be a burden on you..
Or he studied biochem does not mean that he will not be super-independent and prosperous financially

Truth is that I understand your concern but then, lets not try to show so much concern and end up playing the God of mans life...

Just encourage him, he can make 1st class in biochem

thank you

favoured234:
Its Career

thanks...
Your contribution is needed too

Acidosis:
Why are you all forcing/pushing your brother to become a medical doctor? The boy must be so confused right now.

You need to erase the thought that he may end up jobless after school. Anatomy or no anatomy, if he succeeds and determined, he'd not depend on you after school.

I studied a sister course to Anatomy, and I don't even know where my certificate/cv is as I type this. Mind you, I'm not depending on anyone for survival. Allow the boy make his decision, he has wasted some years already due to insecurity on the path of his sisters.

As far as Nigeria is concerned, nobody will beg you to take up a job because you studied a particular course, everyone applies for jobs after graduation and some excel depending on availability, grade or experience. Even doctors are not exempted, and that's the reason some earn close to N300k and some manage N80k in private clinics.

thanks but we just want to know the one he should go for out of the Anatomy and biochem that he is having now

We have always wanted our brother to be a medical doctor.
He wrote jamb in 2013 and was given botany, i refused to let him go because it was his first time and we all want him to study medicine, he later applied in health school and was given environmental health but he refused that he wanted medicine.
So this year, he was given biochem and we had no choice than to let him go, but somebody suggested that he can work it to medicine which he did but unfortunately, he was given Anatomy
Now he is confuse on which one to go for, especially in case of employment after school
Please nlders with experience in these fields, which one should he go for?
I don't want to sponsor somebody in school and the person will still be a burden to me(God forbod) after school

Oversabi pikin

I'm secured with all except point number 3..
I can only trust my mum on that

It was just like that
I knew /see nothing about him when we met

I cut the story half way
Someone should please help me with the summary

Just see a psychologist

I will smile ,draw Her close, then tell her I love her too and warn her to be writing it in her books not my car

lekan29ice:
God help them with their lies

HBD to him

May her soul rest in peace

i swear

She won the guy to herself not christ