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21 is no old. Your state of mind makes you old. It's due to the fact that you have been in a long term relationship. You need to give yourself time and get back to better emotions. Take care of yourself and do you only for a moment. You will see that you will feel more proud of yourself and please learn from your mistake.

You also feel dirty because you are a christian and you are probably blaming yourself which you should not do. you will find a better person.

Personally I wouldn't go back with her. Just be her friends and if she doesn't listen to your advice don't bother given her advices.

Nautillus:
Its not worth opening a Thread on. . . .

DEFINITELY WORTH SINCE THE FORUM IS NOT ONLY FOR TELLING STORY BUT ALSO DISCUSS IDEAS AND BEHAVIOR TO BETTER ONESELF IN RELATIONSHIPS,

liksy:
my dear u dont have to convince her to stay, but u must find out from her why she is breakin up wit u,try and but urself in her shoes, if its your fault and u truly love her and u want her. try and make tins up with her and change from your atitude. But if its not your fault in anyway, let her go.

i dont belive in stayin a relationship and nt happy wif

I ALWAYS TRY TO FIND OUT WHY THEY WANNA BREAK UP AND THEN TELL THEM THAT I CAN'T FORCE THEM TO STAY WITH METHAT WE SHOULD REMAIN FRIENDS .

Is it worth it to try to convince a girl that she should not break up with you?
I've never tried to convince a girl to stay with me if they want to go. Somehow I believe that if a person truly loves you, they will not brake up with you or they will come back. Is that a good attitude/.

Still water , you should go back and re-read what she wrote. And she is realizing it too. Her choices related to the position of those man. And it is a habit!!!

Something will attract you to those men. It could be intelligence, the way the person dress or talk but not always the president, the first of the class, do you see the pattern?

NB : A president or the first is not always intelligent or saavy, Some people are 1st of there class just because they can memorize so well and don't really understand the material.

She just wanna see if you are loaded man!!! you have to have money to date her. And before you hit the promise land your credit card will be all full and creditor will be calling,

Everything in your story shows that you are not falling in love but just golddiging!!! Your falling in love is conditional to the success of the people you are dating. It isn't love, !!!!!

Why would a women lie about her age? Somebody that can't even tell the truth about her age is problematic but I will give her a second chance

Yeap, My first ever. She broke up with me bc I didn't wanna have sex with her. I learned my lesson, I don't cry over anyone anymore!!!!!!

So you want to get marry without knowing really who the person you are going to marry is? Please Meet somebody get to know him at least a year before you marry ,

lol lol lol my eyes are wide open man. I rather get a white women than this kind of behavior. It seems to me like something is off with her!!!

I've know this igbo girl for 6 months. She is 2 years older than me. Everytime I ask her out she will find an alibi not to go. But we do hang out at her place time to time or at my place for a movie or something. HEr toughts when we met is she won't marry or go out with somebody that is making less than $250K or is still in school trying to get his doctorate or something. Somehow after discovering my quakities and my plans she changed her mind. We started dating. the first week we made out and she slept at my place a couple time and me at her place without having sex. Two weeks later she took me to her parent's house without introducing me to any of her friends or anything. I'm not nigerian but from West Africa. She started talking about ring and marriage. Whenever I ask her any questions before she won't give a straight answer. She can't talk about her past and she hid herself all the time from any pertinent questions. The third week she changed her behavior like she didn't wanna do anything with me posing on the table that no sex before marriage. I ask her if after dating for 3 weeks I should give her a ring or something? THat where I come from we do date get to know erach other and develop that bond beyond sex, hang out and find common activities we can enjoy together and build history before we get into serious stuff such us engagement and marriage. Because After marriage there are more responsability and things get complicated from there. That she need to decide if she wanna be in a relationship or not.

My question is : Is this how Igbo girl date? What do I take from this? I've never dated a nigerian before. All she talks about is she is old and she is not married yet and money. Are Igbo girl only greedy and marry for money without getting to know who they are marrying or dating?