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If you add what I said and what foolinlove said........... then I think you got a bright shot at this

In my opinion it depends on your ex.... dating her friend may lead to so many bad ills.... her conscience might prick her that she is betraying her friend.... The relationship could become uncomfortable whenever your ex is around....

Think of it you smooching with her friend when she is around and she remembers you used to do that to her.... That might make her regain feelings for you once more and decide to get back into your life...(then you will come to nairaland and ask another confused question)....

Okay, In my second opinion, its better you realize friendship with her friend (thats if you ex is someone who would consider this weird and would behave totally the way I said above)... In relationships we look for the beauty of life and companionship and not more trouble....

If you had a quarrel with the friend while you guys were dating and she runs to your ex for advise what do you think you ex could adivse her...

I will say if you ex is a cool person this relationship should be given a shot...... If not avoid all unpleasantness and go for others........

So what made you to go through people messages in the first place

kk waiting

DJHANDSOME:
my first girl got really mad after almost a week without sex!

She must be an ex prostitute then (Or still a prostitute) or community hole

Hyfer:
I don't have any idea y she said that.. The last time we met she sounded differently.. When I asked her why she is acting strange that that was her reply.

you have to let on more than that.... I mean you have to tell me more than that....

How am I to know
If this girl is asking for smoochy smoochy and cuddle poo (if she is talking about material things)
If she is asking for you to be more closer and warm towards her

She might be asking for you to spend more on her (in this Buhari period) or she might just be asking for more love...

So how am I to know which one if I don't know more about your story

Pandorabox:
Take her on a romantic dinner, surprise her with gifts, tell her she is the best and other sweet talk. If you guys are into a sexual relationship, the do it well but I'm a mind blowing way.

thank me later.

I checked your profile and you are a gorgeous lady i have to say..... But why the many blunders in your sentence............... Also all the things you said make sense... But making a woman love you more based on material things would never suffice

Maybe she means you treat her like a friend... Just ask her out on a date and ask her what how she could want you to treat her .... If you don't want to that then just tell us everything that led up to her saying this....

without this information you are o.y.o

foolinlove:
Self improvement is not changinh WHO you are, it changes your skill set.

Quality of life is better with bettet skills. For anyone.

Isnt smartnsensible not better than foolinlove now?

That right also... remember to hide the year of your birth

foolinlove:
Everyone should *try* to improve on their weaknesses, but not to the point of craziness.

An interesting point...

But you should know that improving on your weakness doesn't mean you should change who you are..... But it means you should not let people use it as an advantage over you....

foolinlove:
I disagree.

Not all ladies.

I consider myself economically minded. Maybe not wise when it comes to love. But every individual has different strengths and weaknesses.

That's interesting... A woman thats economically minded would lead a family and even a nation..... so do you think we should improve on our weakness or conclude on it and leave people to use it to control us?

pedrilo:
i feel this way too but i'm worried cos i dnt know if she is trying to test my love for her.

Do what I said at first.... But do it because you want to do it and not because I said it

foolinlove:
Maybe. Who could ever determine based on one side of this story. Op let is know how it goes.

thats right

foolinlove:
There are some operations depending on the type of epilepsy. Success isn't guaranteed in any brain surgery though, it's dangerous too.

Maybe that's what this girl is after... money for brain surgery.

In Nigeria I don't think the Medics are capable of performing such an operation.... she could have to be flown to the States or maybe India... But still if she is returning to him for such money, I think he would see through that...

Maybe she is coming back because the person who she was with (the one who took away her virginity) did not accept her when he found out that she was epileptic. so she is returning to somehow who she thinks could accept her at her current state.

foolinlove:
All true, except epilepsy cannot be cured only managed.

Thank you (that why i said I would do more research)

thesicilian:
Ladies are not weak, they just pretend to be weak when they need something. If you see a lady in a position of authority you'll understand, even if its just a WhatsApp group admin self!

Authority does not make you stronger... its just what you do with it.... A wise man would use his authority to build bridges and create establishments which could sustain him whenever he loses his authority...

But a lady would use that authority to enjoy the things of life and get back at everyone who made her suffer... When you loses it... she become a nobody...

So Why are Ladies so Weak when it comes to relationship matters and economic matters

raph101:
Generalization of ur supposed presumption would certainly be incoherent and erroneous. Ladies ain't weak, their seemingly frailty is their strength. Ladies could actually act weak in order to get through to the soft sport in u. They could only be termed fragile but not weakness, cos weakness is of the mind. DON'T LET A WOMAN FIGHT YOU.... life go tire u.

You speak like a virgin... like someone who hasn't felt a woman's warmth... Yes some ladies can be strong.... But weakness is part of their social order.....

Explain to me why more than 70% percent of ladies allows the society around them to influence them rather than influence it.... Isnt that a state of weakness?

DRISKLEF:
Why the generalization? Who says there aren't ladies who are strong and much more emotionally stable than you, yourself?

Ladies are naturally emotional, that's why they're mostly referred to as the weaker sex but that doesn't stop that fact that there are some really strong and intelligent ones.

You just spoke gibberish... Did what you said change the fact that their are ladies out there who refuse to work and wait for some boyfriend to fall into their net...

Forget the generalization and explain to me why some ladies.... Stop being a know it all... Because my mother is one of those women who are strong...

PunkyV:
Weak how?

So Why are Ladies so Weak when it comes to relationship matters and economic matters

First of all we know that another man has eaten her cake...
Secondly, Epilepsy can be cured (Just let me do some more research)

Thirdly, I think the fault lies in you mostly, because you gave her some space (maybe too much space) and this made someone that has been trying to get her for so long to get a chance....
Fourthly, Although it would be nice to know a good woman through the fact that she is a virgin, its no longer a requirement....


So, I think you should allow the your mind to give her a second chance...... But be more watchful this time

Lastly, Check her health status, (when some girls lose their virginity, they do it without condom. Wanna know if she is clean)

If she is testing you then you have passed right. If she isn't... all still ends well

Quick an interesting review from the person who commented before me....

Hope the other viewers will be able to understand your words... seems they seem to be more grammatical rather than simple

Your blog needs a lot of work more than just the mail...

when i saw it I wasn't impressed ................there is a lot you need to do

go to your blog layout.... then click add gadget then scroll through the gadgets until you see subscribe by email....

Simple

Am just trying to understand why Ladies are so weak...

Although some men are still so weak (especially when talking to a lady)....

So Why are Ladies so Weak when it comes to relationship matters and economic matters

Stay Healthy, Stay Wise Mikykinz and Lykar

The thing wrong with ladies is the fact that their will is not strong enough....

the society today expects a lady to be pretty in all aspects (natural aspects such as butt and breasts unnatural aspects such as makeup clothing etc) Ladies are unable are state who they are or want to be and allow nature to lead them...

So you telling ladies be original without knowing what being original is yourself is a waste of time....

Original does not mean rub palm oil because you want to keep your complexion... Original does not mean drop your makeup and lipstick which primary purpose is to amplify your beauty ....

But the important thing is to build a lady, her mind and might... to be a self sustaining person.... and not someone lead by the mights and prowess of the society today.

Stay Healthy, Stay Wise

BrainnewsNg:
Thats right

It is possible

But you are in entertainment news like everyone out there in the world.... What will make you stand out

just2okworld:
Yes he wants to
I'm sorry but is this OP a man or boy?

naming yourself after your blog.... How would I get to know the real you....

foolinlove:
Iy wasn't one romance, it was all of them were pretty bad. The most recent was just the very last in a long string of bad men. He wasn't the first to break my heart buy he'll be the last!

Maybe the good guys cant stand up to you because they think that you are above their level.... If that is true.... closing your heart to all the men wouldn't do any good... Women are normally more intuitive than men, so they will be able to understand what a man want from them, and how the relationship could end before it ever began...

So am not saying its your fault... But am saying that be a stronger woman working things because of reason and understanding not pain from the past