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I always pity the unfortunate team that happens to play us at any league opener at Camp Nou!

Winning a league title will always be my number one priority, and to me, it supercedes every other trophy out there(however glorious the UCL is).
The league title is simply the crown of a work well done.
Again, we Barcelona fans are spoilt ah swear!
Just saying!

Ighoga898:
@ number 2, I wish I can see d millions I always think about winning in bet9ja.. Nice facts though

LOL..

ddippset:
Only you do graduation, only you do birthday. You just dey monopolize everything O. You suppose declare something O. A little too late to say happy birthday, but CONGRATULATIONS!

Thanks bro. August just happened to be my month!

1. If you want others to open up to you or like you, make them the most important thing in the world*
In Psychology this is referred to as “Active Listening”. All you need to do is give your entire attention to them when they talk. There are various ways you can implement this:

Think that you have to give an hour long presentation on what they talked about the next day.Act like they have something to share that will give you a million dollars.Listen like you would if you were talking to your hero or god.

Doing so will make sure you pay full attention to what they say. The difference is minute in your eyes, but the subconscious effect it has is massive! People will feel it and will love to talk to you, because you make them feel like they matter. Which is one of the most sought after feelings in the world.

Try going an entire day with paying full attention to everyone and get their responses the next day. You will be surprised by the difference it made for them.

2. You see what you think about.
Let’s use an example for this. A driver who believes the stereotype that women are bad drivers will see both bad drivers that are men and women, and good drivers that are men and women. But, even though he sees about an equal amount of each, he will only consciously be aware of the bad women drivers and the good men drivers.

This is a security mechanism in our brain to confirm that we are right and to boost our ego. The interesting part comes in when you realize that this works for everything!

When we think about positive things, how great the world is and how amazing our life is, we see more proof of it in the real world. What might be considered normal will be considered great in this Point of View. The same way when we think about how bad everything is and how Life is going against us, we see normal events as being negative and small problems as being gigantic.

The best way to use this to our advantage is to think about how we want the world to look like. Because we find proof for everything we look for it is up to us to decide how we want to see the world. If we do not do this, someone else will decide for us.

Using this effectively can lead to a happier life, filled with gratitude and amazement. But it does take practice and effort.

3. Motion creates Emotion.
It is a common Research subject in Psychology and has been studied in many different aspects. The most popular one is “How to feel more confident”. Studies in this area have shown that the more space you take up, the more confident you feel. When you sit, sit with your legs open and arms outstretched, when standing, stand up tall and wide.

What’s even more amazing than these findings is the fact that this works with every Emotion. Whenever you want to be happy, excited, confident, sexy, loving, or whatever else, just think about what a person with those qualities would do. Imagine that person in the same situation, how would they act? What would they say? What would they think?

Ask yourself these questions and then simply copy that person in your head. Depending on how you move and behave your brain will activate the areas in your brain corresponding to the emotion you portray and release the corresponding hormones to make you feel that way!

4. Reality Testing
. A lot of our daily problems arise from us overthinking. We make the problems bigger or smaller than they actually are and need the help of these strategies to actually see the reality. Without this we cannot solve the problem because we either get too scared to try, or think the problem isn’t that big and do not think it is worth solving.

In Reality Testing, Psychotherapists encourage clients to look at their problems objectively and to back-track to the negative thoughts and analyze them. Some common ways we tend to do this are:

- *Over-generalization* . Thinking that one negative event will lead to more and more negative events is something we cannot know. We generalize the meaning of what happens even though we have no idea. Instead think that this is one event, period. It is just one event and the next event is completely separate from it. Even though in your experience that may not have been the case, if you think this way you will go into more situations feeling empowered and will believe in your ability to still change the events.

-*Comparing to others* . This is an extremely common occurrence. To be honest, we have no idea what the other person has gone through to get there. They may have worked 18 hours every day for the last year, crying and sweating, to get to where they are today. Do not assume that they got to where they are with the same effort you did. There is no point in comparing to others because, unless we actually lived through their life, we have no idea what it took for them to get there. Even if they tell us they will have a skewed perception and we will receive it through our point of view, which also skews the reality of it. Instead of comparing yourself to others around you, compare yourself to how you were a month or year ago. The only real reference point you have is a past self.

- *Blaming others*. We wish to make life easy on ourselves. And what is easier than saying that we are not at fault for anything that happens? It is so easy to push the fault onto others, or onto life itself, because they cannot defend themselves. When we blame others for our misfortune, Therapists will intervene and start a paradigm-shift with the clients. They encourage clients to take responsibility for everything for a while. Obviously this can lead to the other extreme, but the point is to first get out of the habit of blaming others. When we take responsibility ourselves it is more likely that we will act to correct it.

- *Thinking in “All” or “Nothing”* To overcome this you should be very precise in what you say. This is also how a lot of fights start with couples. Phrases like “You always do this” or “You never do that” lead to a skewed perception of Reality. Instead think about how often something occurred in the last week or month and count the exact number. This will remove the extremist thinking, getting you closer to the solution of the problem.



Cc, lalasticlala

jstbeinhonest:
Happy Birthday bro, wishing you long life, good health and prosperity. Stay Cule.

Thank you

sebod:
Happy birthday philfearon, many happy returns.

Thanks

Chanchit:
is the year running that fast!? just like yesterday when I wished you a happy birthday last year. happy birthday again. cheers.

Thanks my man.

10d0ve:
Happy birthday! Long live thee; live long sir!

Thank you

TRendlona:
HBD Barrister and upcoming SAN. Have a good one.

Thank you bro

All this quick successive releases... INFINIX wants to gain the market asap.
Anyways, Happy Birthday to myself. Hope INFINIX gives me a call with this phone as my birthday gift!

dmcdad:
Happy Birthday bruv!!! May God grant you all your good heart desires. Amen!

Make the most of the day. Cheers!

Thank you oga

stuff46:
Happy birthday. Wishing you LLNP

Thank you

Our dear club decided to give me an early birthday gift for today
Happy birthday to myself!

This people are very wicked and heartless. They left all the problems Nigeria is currently facing and be destroying an innocent plant that make us average Nigerians happy, and release stress too.

dmcdad:
True jare... The trolling, rivalry between teams, throwing of tantrums, the celebration of winnings cum trophies, the mourning of losses... All these are just some of many factors why footie is such a lovable and enjoyable sport.

Am telling you bro.

sebod:
I am glaad we have a lawyer in the house. Over to you @philfearon, check the case file and see if we have a strong case to press.
Oga Airmak, you need to get a lawyer because we are gonna press charges

LOL.. This unending arguments in football is what makes it such a great sport with large following!

kingsilly:
Thought you on PC, use koice Link then if for mobile

No problem. My Pc ain't good for now.

noob03saibot:
Abeg, please, where can I get botched tv series to download. It's an E plastic surgery series.pls.

Try following the link koice shared for me.

kingsilly:
season 1
https://www.keeplinks.eu/p90/56d91c1c8df6f

season 2

https://www.keeplinks.eu/p90/56d91cea18bac

season 3

https://www.keeplinks.eu/p90/56d91d69d75f6



bykebyke do rest

Thanks bro. It's in rar format though

koice:
Hmm... I don't do direct links cuz mostly they don't work. It's either the file format is too compressed (grainy pixels), the link path is corrupted (nice way to download virus inadvertently) or the server speed is throttled.

I'II give you options anyway...

- Option 1
- Option 2
- Google & download MegaBox Android app from the web
- Google & download Showbox Android app from the web.

Thanks bro.. Will check it out

bykebyke:
Philfearon.

I replied your mention in the other thread,but got banned by antispambot with my post hidden.

Alright bro.

Do you have any fast direct download link for DAMAGES
.. .
koice..
Bykebyke.
Kingsilly.

Really appreciate. Tnx!

I VOTE IAMKINGZLEE.
Cc, NLJEGA

scantee:
My people i greet u all, good to be pre-back here...

Welcome back

kinggogo:
Hey guys dis our gk issues don start again oo. Ter stegan and Bravo both wnt 2 start all competitions. It's a really complicated issue. Whats d way forward to dis problem guys?? For me ter stegan should b d one to start all competitions now but bravo is a gud guy and still performing very well.

http://www.barcablaugranes.com/2016/8/2/12361398/report-barcelona-goalkeeper-bravo-ter-stegen-transfer

And congrats to d cule dat jst graduated. May God keep blessing us

Amen

usbcable:
Congratulations.

Thanks bro

Johnpaul88:
Big congrats, nwanne m nwoke! U are nw a learned barrister at law.

Imeela nwanne made!

Chanchit:
Been around bro. Never knew you studying law, no wonder at all, its in you.

Hahaha. .. no problem. How things na

Chanchit:
congrats bro.

Oga mi. Been a while now.
Thanks too

TRendlona:
Congrats my man

Thank you bro

obiorathesubtle:
Congrats bro.. Na you dy check that girl out?

LOL. You eeh! How your eye take reach there.