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sanb: It might not necessarily be a mutual thing between both parties as one party might engage in it whilst the other party won’t or probably wouldn’t approve of it...

Simply put.... Its never an open relationship wen its nt consented n agreed upon by both parties....


Its plain cheating doing it in hiding... Gbam!

sanb: Yes it's disrespectful to the innocent partner...

If d issue of disrespect is coming up... Then it was never an open relationship in d 1st place...


I tink U've misunderstood d concept of an open relationship..... Its a mutual tin btw both parties....

claremont: There is love in sharing ma guy! As long as you don't mind if I drill your sweet-looking chikala as well.

I guess we are of matured mind...


So hw far? Wia n wen?

claremont: There is love in sharing ma guy! As long as you don't mind if I drill your sweet-looking chikala as well.

I guess we are of matured mind...


So hw far? Wia n wen?

MRbrownJAY: hey dont worry sista, i am happy to have made you realize that deep down inside, what you were saying is no different than being in an OPEN R/SHIP......until your changed your tune, lol!

Lol...

sanb: Good you've made the point "IF I STAY WITH HIM" and the word “IF” has just determined the choice for me and I DON’T have to stay with him; like I said previously, it all comes down to choice. An open relationship will always remain a NO NO for me cos it doesn't make sense and to top it all it’s disrespectful...

Disrespectful to who or what?

claremont: I absolutely love open relationships. It gives you all the benefit of being in a relationship but without the hassle of someone always breathing down your neck.

Bravo bros.... That's to say U won't mind me shagging ur fine ass gf rite?

[quote author=Mrs.Chima]You failed school didnt you?

Its okay somebody have to be dumb and you filled the position![/quote]Lwtmb.... Looooooool....

[quote author=Mrs.Chima]Huh One person doesnt represent all certainly not the bleeped up ones!![/quote]That's Y she said most naija men n not all naija men...

hunkydory: Open relationship is good.

Meaning U can share ur HOTASSFINEPLUSFIGURE-EIGHT gf wit anoda dude?

fapcrook: abi o. And even HIV and STDs are still in town

U guys knw what safe sex means?

caukerzee: People here don't really understand the dynamics of an open relationship. It's not just all about s3x, it's about acknowledging the fact that you cannot statisfy and cannot be satisfied by your partner in every area, therefore going to get it and allowing your partner to go and get it elsewhere 'sometimes' through mutual agreement. Its more of honesty than unfaithfulness. Unfaithfulness is making your partner think you are something else when you are not. Having said that, it can only be practiced by matured minds, people who are not emotionally feeble and people who dont get jelous easily. Its just the perfect way to aviod cheating and heartbreaks. I reccomend it for y all. Its better than knowing your partner is suffering and leting him or her all in the selfish name of faithfulness. But this shouldnt be practiced in marriages especially if you already have kids. No kid will be proud of a dad or mom who sleeps around with other women or men respectively.

Are U implying that married couples should continue wallowing in sorrows n continue wit d torture of "un-satisfaction" cuz dey r pretending to b coping making d marriage wrk?...

hardbody: As much as I pride myself to be experienced in the ways of the world, I must humbly admit that I do not understand the intricacies and dynamics of open relationship. From what I am reading, it seems to mean, being in a relationship but leaving a window open for phocking another. If I am right, then such is anathema in our culture. However my views are that you can sleep around if I don't ever get to know, I will too and make it real discreet, what you do not know will never hurt you.

You r indirectly saying its ok to hide n nack than to openly nack with ur partners consent?....

dmcdad: Does it necessarily leads to paranoia? That means you don't really know what it takes to have self control.. This might also mean that there is nothing like self control in your encyclopedia, which means also that faithfulness is not something you take in high regard. Because faithfulness entails self control and or self denial according to you and which momentarily takes you to a point whereby your partner feels safe with you. Besides, I never knew faithfulness could bring about one being paranoid (That is according to you).... It can be deduced therefore that there is a misconception about what you see faithfulness or self control to be and until you re-direct your mind and think outside the box (That is going beyond your perimeters), then you might have lost the right path...

Knw fully well what U want n how to get it but can't cuz of an arrangement... Can lead to frustration.... Frustration on d oda hand can lewd to paranoia... That on its own definitely is nt gud in any relationship...


Dnt U agree?

[quote author=ibehenry@rocket]A very good way 2 spread “AIDS” & d likes. Make una thumbs up. And remember 2 smile not cry 4 d camera. When ur infected[/quote]With d loads n loads of safe sex practices around.... Haba nau!... What era r U frm?

dmcdad: Ha ha ha ha ha... Newsflash! I am SINGLE AND PROUD... The fact that I can't take unfaithfulness thats why I had to remain single but hey! It doesnt change a thing. I will remain the faithful guy for life. Besides, them dey pay person say him don sleep with 100 gurls? At the end of everything, if you are to be sincere with yourself, you will realize that there ain't any gain whatsoever in being unfaithful. Tell yourself the truth brah.. I am not in a relationship, but even if I were to be in one, I would still remain faithful. Its my logo...

BRO U jst simply put our earlier convo to rest that.... This type of relationship doesn't wrk in this part of the world...

dmcdad: Ha ha ha ha ha... Newsflash! I am SINGLE AND PROUD... The fact that I can't take unfaithfulness thats why I had to remain single but hey! It doesnt change a thing. I will remain the faithful guy for life. Besides, them dey pay person say him don sleep with 100 gurls? At the end of everything, if you are to be sincere with yourself, you will realize that there ain't any gain whatsoever in being unfaithful. Tell yourself the truth brah.. I am not in a relationship, but even if I were to be in one, I would still remain faithful. Its my logo...

BRO U jst simply put our earlier convo to rest that.... This type of relationship doesn't wrk in this part of the world...

AyaSammy: BWAAAAAh see this one talking about prayers!!!! as if prayers have ever stopped a man from cheating?! nonsense!
if you knew anything about the BIBLE, then you would know that many well respected MARRIED men in the bible had concubines mistresses sugarbabies and what not....so if it is ok for THEM to get their groove on, then i am sure it would be equally ok for women to do so too in marriage so long as hubby fully well knows.....or is it not?

since you are a lost sheep, let me say it one more time to you: MANY WELL RESPECTED MARRIED MEN IN BIBLICAL TIMES OPENLY HAD CONCUBINES/MISTRESSES/S.EX SLAVES AND WHAT NOT, and there was NO PROBLEM with it whatsoever (so long as the person they did the do with was NOT married)!

Let me give you a better insight about this your open relationship, most people involve is because of their inability to be faithfull and ofcos their decitfull nature, coupled with inferiority complex.

And mind you, those men in the bible were never describe as weak or not capable of satisfying their partners.

Then why do U tink they where doing it?....

ballabriggs: Errrr yeye dey smell. Dey there dey deceive yourself while the 'Sister in the Lord' wey you wan marry or done marry dey carry am go give Pastor.

Lmao.... Lwtmb.... Roftl.... Loooooool....

[quote author=Mrs.Chima]Exactly! They think they represent everyone that is trifling like them. SMH. Some people DO KNOW HOW TO PRACTICE SELF CONTROL. [/quote]Self control simply means self denial... Which leads to paranoia...

vikeb: It sure doesnt make senseeeeeeeeee

Can U xplain pls?

warrior101: those people where noble people who could afford to have them, why? because its not socially accepted. PERIOD

Are U saying that its generally wrong regardless of race to engage in an open relationship?

ballabriggs: Hehehehe Mrs Chima, muruanya O. No go dey inside water make soap dey enter your eye.

In fact naija babes, person wey dey cry dey see road O. Make una shine una eye like Bola Tinubu. Faithfulness just like truth in brother done die. lol

I believe U jst implied clearly that U dnt believe in TRUST in any relationship U r in....

Kemaona: Listen to urself. Cos solomon was recomended 4 that? What is bad is bad. Period.

Are U saying its bad n that U can't ever see ursef practicing it?....


What if d person U so love dearly wants it?

Kemaona: Listen to urself. Cos solomon was recomended 4 that? What is bad is bad. Period.

Are U saying its bad?

Myne White: If it works for the couple, that's their choice. For me, we shall cross that road when we come to it.

Are U in anyway saying that if d situation is right U can go into an open relationship?...


Or lucidly put... If ur partner wants it... U'll condone it?

[quote author=Mrs.Chima]Good thing you don't represent all Nigerian men. [/quote]But he/she has a clear pics of what he/she is saying...


Like I said earlier U can give or base ur statistics on aggregation....

Billyonaire: How many Nigerian men do you know ?

Most statistical facts r nt 100% rite... Neither r sum science... But frm aggregation....


So to sum extent she can base her opinion frm past xperinc( both personal n frm oda ppl)

ballabriggs: Look Mr Man my father was a member of Island Club and the Lagos Tennis club. I used to attend club events with him as a teenager. If I remember what those men used to do then, I loose respect for most naija men. These men were the elites in the society.

Why are women in naija dulling themselves and forming closed relationship when your partner is all open to even young UNI girls.

My point is sha.g whoever you want to sha.g without looking back. It won't bring the world to an end.

And as they say, YOLO.

Does that mean U can condone ur partner(who's very virile n satisfying) to sha.g oda ppl?...

ballabriggs: Kpele O, Mr Offensive and Personal.

I give you the average naija mans life you say offensive and personal, na you know O.

U see... Wit the kind of response U got for saying it as it is.....

Dnt U tink, to a large extent.... Our society/culture plays a great role in determining its workability....

Billyonaire: I like your courage in propagating this 'civilized' s3xism. But does it occur to you that, you are actually propagating 'legalization of cheating' ? If Open Relationship is acceptable, why not polygamy and polyandry too. I guess there is confusion in your camp. You are proposing what is happening in the goat and dogs Kingdom to humans. How nice will it be for you to get home after a hectic day from work and your wife is not home, only for her to return tired and saying; "I went to fvck Mr. Richard, I really needed it". Its shameful.

Still lol.... Lwtmb...

james1: Open relationship is not for the feeble minded.

Are U saying that d strong minded dnt get jealous, dnt feel challenged( wen dey knw dey can't perform n sum1 else can),......?

dmcdad: Lol... Nope definitely. I was only kidding. My kinda person forbids that entirely. I cant even imagine that in my wildest of dreamz. Infact! I'd rather remain single for the rest of my miserable life. Lol. I stayed as a single for 4 years and I am telling you that its still great with me, but to stay in an open relationship for a week knowing fully well that the one I call mine is exposed to sexual adventure with the rest of the world, no way!!! So, if I can find that fine-ass-chic and she ain't crappy, then its me and her for life... Lol

Open relationship kor, closed relationship ni

dmcdad: Lol... Nope definitely. I was only kidding. My kinda person forbids that entirely. I cant even imagine that in my wildest of dreamz. Infact! I'd rather remain single for the rest of my miserable life. Lol. I stayed as a single for 4 years and I am telling you that its still great with me, but to stay in an open relationship for a week knowing fully well that the one I call mine is exposed to sexual adventure with the rest of the world, no way!!! So, if I can find that fine-ass-chic and she ain't crappy, then its me and her for life... Lol

Open relationship kor, closed relationship ni

Lwtmb.... Still roftl wit lafta....

okpara ugo: Yes, it's not for us. Ours is closed.

Meaning, no mata hw poor(in every ramification) ur partner is, U would stick to them n b dying slowly of lack?...