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so?

And the nigga is just a fucking lance coporal
probably a new recruit

jaxxy:
Nice advice bt I really don't have dat time time to waste. I wud rather ask her bluntly if she like my frnd? And probably encourage her to say yes if its her true feelings or to know if it just infatuations or she just been carried away by smtn. Bt man up and be prepared for watever answer. I suggest this so can be honest and theres no pretence.

Phpfx

thanks guy

SenatorAiyzik:
OP all these advises and u are still here?? Go and practice any of them

lmaooo..

I know what to do now..just weighing options

Dasuks:
Brody not sure how old you are but i can imagine you're still a bit young. You should tackle things head on, both internally and externally.
First rule: Maintain your self. Your preservation first. What is at stake here is whether you trust the woman. If you do not think so, then cut off. Also monitor your buddy. Is he hiding it from you ? As a man you never trust another with women, money or power. Dangerous terrain.
Second: Grow some extra thick balls. There's so many shawties out there( not that you should be an active casanova, I mean if you can why not, but then again...). Do not let another human take away your peace. Confront her/them/ whatever u deem appropriate and smart. Gotta act like a boss to get boss results. You're a grown ass dude, take charge and relax your mind. There's more important things waiting for you in the future.

Real talk!

jfleece:
Is ur friend good looking and hot Pls stay away from him... Everybody is attracted to diamonds, do u always play the role of a good guy Pls spice up ur personality with a little ruggedness... Do u f. U. C. K her like there's no tomorrow If u do not start now... Do u whisper gibberish into her ears often? If u do not learn it... Women loves craziness and despise boredom, they crave for new adventure.... Make ur relationship work.. I wouldn't want u to lose dis war....

thanks bro...thanks

osenidvdg:
Many question for u! Are u sure u are not the girlfriend snatcher if she has being ur friends girlfriend before u met her. Are u sure the guy is ur friend that u can not let him see u in romatic play with ur girlfriend so as to know she is urs.Are u the secret lover type that make her doubt ur love to some one with more confidence

she told me she was single before we started dating..
the is not much that of a friend tho...he is among peer friends
tho our relationship is not much of a public one but its not secret too

tobianthony:
Hold on ...how come no one asked what was the content of the chats he saw between them

What where they talking about specifically ?

you know the kinda chat people who have on each other have..

I miss you..

you are handsome..you are beautiful..

I owe you a kiss..

and so on..

I was weak..

Fkforyou:
First of all, access your self to find out if you are not been insecure. If you are not, then let her know you are not comfortable with closeness with your friend and be serious about it, if she wants to get defensive, don't lose your head and engage her in the fight, just be calm, firm and straight forward like a boss, she is going to mellow down if she loves you and try to clear the air.

Also, make sure you are very level headed and try to hear her out.

But if otherwise she trys as much as possible to pick up a fight with you, just give your self a break from her and focus more on your self because it seems you are losing yourself in the relationship already. (Just 3 months and you are already losing yourself).

That's what I do, anytime I'm beginning to lose my self in a relationship, I step back a little and focus more on myself.

Like I earlier stated, I hope you are not being insecure because if you are, you might end up ruining the relationship. My advice, take a chill pill and just enjoy your relationship, just trust her and keep your emotions in check.

bro thanks a lot for this..I appreciate... but the thing is anytime we both three meet..it always shows she got something for him..I was beginning to think she was not proud of letting people know about our relationship..

corbanstevee:
Dear phpfx,

Top of the day to you.

I understand your position in this matter. However, the first thing is to carefully confront your babe and let her know your feeling stating your relationship with the other guy and that you want her to clarify to you whats going on between them; also establish that you're not accusing her of any wrong doing just an expression of your feelings.

Obviously, no one making comments here will be there to judge what the outcome reactions will be but then you have to man-up and decide what you want to do. If you are sure you can't deal with her like that perhaps she's an extrovert and she's attracted to someone like herself. This may require you to also up your game like someone said, and in the ultimate candid but difficult to do decision is you can opt out because I can tell you if you're feeling this way while you're not married, you will have harder challenge to deal with it when you're married and you will not love it if she's just an extrovert eventually.

My candid opinion.

I wish you Gods speed!

may God bless you for me!!

sisisioge:
You are a nice person. You are kinda cool bro, wanting to step down for the two to get hitched...Groovy.


I would advise you call a meeting... If they own up to their attract just give them your blessing. It's what I would do...better than them sneaking behind my back.

thanks man..dope!

Stanleywaxy:
Now , I'll take my time to explain things to you and as well give you some advice .

This happened to me around November 2016 , she was so nice when we first started talking , sounded so mature and before the end of that month , we met and that was it .

She openly told me but she roll with the guys a lot and as such one or two of those feelings have rubbed off .
She enjoyed being with the guys , not just for "being" sake but I observed something ... She was like that , a flirt . To her , sex was like food .


Flashback to December , school went on Xmas break and we all left in peace .
Few days after we left school , her attitude changed , her posts on Facebook , failure to pick my calls and won't even call back .

I decided not to call her for some days , my brother ...this girl didn't even bother to give me the least flashing .

After I fooled myself thinking she would call and she didn't , I decided to call her myself and she picked and was like "Hello " ... I just respected myself and acted cool and that was when I knew she wanted out but I couldn't let go cos I was drowning in love .

January came , I went back to school ; bitch acted like she didn't even know and that was when I made the mistake of my life by calling her indoors to have some talk as to what the problem was , she didn't want to talk and that was it , that was the last time we talked or looked into each others eyes .

She hanged out a lot with my guys and still had all those dirty chats with them , takes their calls in my presence and didn't even bother what my reaction would be .

Even most articles here on NL related to my conditions then , which most comments in it read : Break up with her , move on , bleep her and push her away and so on but I still paid deaf ears .

So my brother , the bottom line for this my story now is for you to leave that girl and get on with your life .
She doesn't give a damn sh*t about you , you'll be the one to get hurt if you decide to continue .

And if you're a student , I'll advice you to pay close and more close attention to your studies , get the money and you'll get your own Fine Lady .

These girls ain't loyal , man .

bro seriously I owe you a crate of Heineken..

this makes a lot of sense to me

I just graduated waiting for service.. but working tho..

what kills me is her everyday calls..messages et al.
but never shows we dating in public

Sincere4u:
I can see why u may be confused. At one time it seems you are standing in the chance of something great and at another it seems you might lose something great.

Dear if you were wowed by their chat history i think you are actually standing in the chance of something great specially if you weren't thinking seriously about marrying her yet.
my advise is that you step aside and support that great thing you see to be budding between them.
Whatever great thing you think you could lose, which you are not even sure exists, you will find in some other girl.
For all i care, the girl might turn out to be an unfaithful partner going by what is going on between her and your friend
Finally, the loyalty of your friend is also questionable.

thanks so much...i think you are very on point with this....I've realized my fear...it is getting another supposed "good" girl.

I'll weight your opinion!

girl4rmspace:
just ask her deeply if she would love to continue with the relationship with you or would rather be with someone else. Her body language would tell you the answer if she dsnt tell the truth, that's if you are experienced enough to read a girl's body language

hmm...made sense!!

ChristyB:
Please break up already, just yesterday january and we're having to advice.
We all do need relationship advices too but not this type, you checked your friend's history and you were wowed? Congratulations after that did you ask him any question?

Infact it's settles cos you said "Your GF LOVES you but you LIKE her"
She wan follow we LOVES her. find another girl ASAP.

I love her too...that's just variety English bro

thanks tho

Threebear:
You sound like a loser that's why. Any woman in her right mind would search for something better.
The fact you opened an account today just to whine about how your girl is already planning to cheat on you, tells me all I need to know about you. Go get help, I see many unfaithfulness from your partners in the future. And get rid of that name. Gosh!

bruh you don't know me a bit!!..I'm sorry

but thanks anyway

Afam4eva:
My friend, what will be will be. All you have to do is confront her and hear what she has to say and if she denies it and you still feel an affinity between the two of them, then it's in your best interest to break up with her. Atleast you've already prepared yourself mentally which shows that you're a good person. She doesn't deserve you.

thanks bro...thanks a lot...you are very right

pweetychyka:
I 'll advice u to confront her!

Ask her wats between she n ur friend! If she wants to pick up a fyt about it, bro pls break up wit her! Ur relationship wit her is still very fresh n it's beta now dan later!

thanks dear..

I'd weigh options!

Lionessza:
I'm no relationship expert but I think she clearly likes your friend better hence she is giving him much more attention and texting him constantly and ignoring you. Stop being in denial you can see the truth let them be cus he clearly has a thing for her as well. My advice; don't be bitter , let her have what she wants which is clearly him even if she denies it to your face leave her. He probably caught her attention in many ways than you did and that my friend can't be swept under the bed, let these people enjoy themselves and find yourself a new girl ..these kinds of things happen, Maybe you actually found your friend a wife , atleast this was still new. Soldier on.

babe...I wonder how I can ever reward you for these words you just said..it seems like you were physically present..these are exactly my thoughts...Thanks alot

Lawless101:
Some girls don't like lonely relationship. You have to step up. Give her lots of attention and she will always have you in mind, but always be your self so that she will like the real you. If she cant take you for who you are you better let go ontime to avoid stories that touch.

you make alot of sense bruh...but I don't know how much attention she want than I already give her

kimbra:
Then your problem is your girlfriend and not your friend. You know what'll happen later is inevitable from the chats you read. She isn't trust worthy and is using your head.

thats true..thanks..

so what do you suggest I do?

kimbra:
Does your friend know this girl is your girlfriend?, and does your girlfriend know the guy is your friend?.

that was where I know I had lapses...I never told him..tho I was in school..I just came back by early march

but my gf knows we are friends...that's the painful part...even when she knows he wants to make advances to her she never told him we were dating

hmmm...

pweetychyka:

pls say something

lol...bruh...I'm not that typa dude

lol...bruh...um not that typa dude

Gflat:
Reading through your text i see a jealous man. You are just being insecure for no reason.

Why don't you sit her down and have a conversation like adults

hmmm...another good opinion I'm truly a jealous guy to be honest the more reason why I can't stand their friendship anymore...it burns my Heart.

sorry I had to create another thread

LethargiQue:
Break with the Ho but keep the nigga even closer so you can have your revenge when they eventually break up and he's dating another girl..


Disloyalty has a death penalty or a cold ass treatment..

thanks so much...I see sense in this

sorry I had to create another thread for some personal reasons

Please, I'm dating this girl since about January. she loves me and I like her too. but the problem is she seem to be giving much attention to my 'not too close friend' whom I feel they've developed feelings for each other. it makes me feel im standing in the chance of something great. I recently stumbled upon his inbox and was wowed with the kind of chat history they had. but I know they aren't dating yet.

im thinking of a break up now cus I'm not sure my emotions can stand their friendship and plus I get so jealous at every slight thing.
but the other me seems to say I might lose something great.

pls drop your candid opinion.