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Excelboi: My sister

my dear,why would u save ur sister over ur wife.

wolexojo: @Pinkstar : hmmm its actually a difficult question to ask,but like u put it u dnt say My gf u said Wife. Once a man is married d wife becomes ur responsibility cos u took her from her family and u guys made vows in church or whereever, and sworn to protect her. So that's exactly wat m doing. My sisters case is of course not sth I can help and if u read my post properly I said I'll love to save both. So that's it.

.I respect ur opinion.But if u remember growing up with ur sister.....,she is some1 that has been a part of u all ur life & ur wife,a lady u fell in love with....yes u love her,but she never started from genesis with u but u from Exodus.Except their is no love btw u & ur sis as in some homes.I pray such doesnt happen for it is indeed a choice of sacrifice,save/die.....both are important,it will be difficult.....but sometimes,we should faced ouselves with thoughts as this....getting prepared 4 d worst whenever it comes.....U have made a good point & i respect it.

plaetton: Pls dont pretend that you do not understand human nature. men can chop and look away, women cannot. men and women are different in the manner they approach infidelity. If a woman's heart belongs to one man(her former lover), then the op is the ultimate loser in this drama. No sentimental story book bs is going to change that. Which man in his right mind wants to take a life long journey with a woman who has expressed her love for another man(and left the doors open for further adultery in the future ) on the eve of her wedding .

made no point to me,she was wrong....what she did was inhumane as she has murdered some1 emotionally,but it is time men stop crucify men,4 women keep such things as this as secrets.

La Parisienne: Sorry, but your ish is very incomprehensible. Duh

u as a person is very incomprehensible,how do compile problems for urself,bringing to our knowledge that u have issues & u're cunningly cutting it to ish,pls try sometin interesting/a better trick.

wolexojo: I think there has to be a way of trying to save the 2,but if i cant i'll try and save my wife. *please dont let my mother read this*

.....lol,so u wud sacrifice ur sister & save ur wife,whoah.....but if i may ask why?

sexkillz: [color=#000030]What are the risks of loving wholeheartedly?[/color]

sexkillz,ije has nailed the points,the rest are my privacies.

ijebabe: Waking up every morning is a risk as well because we do not know how the day will end. We have to take risks (wisely) and hope for the best. If it fails then life goes on, we become stronger and smarter individuals by these lessons. Good luck.

ije u will make a good marriage counsellor,thank u greatly.

Roland17: Many unlucky hearts dive into marriage without realizing that LOVE is definitely not enough to hold a relationship, let alone marriage. Love should be considered, but to me on a peripheral angle, there are soooo many other factors that seem irrelevant at the initial stages of any relationship, but become the corner stone and deciding factor months/years into the relationship.

thank u dear.i have noted this.

slimyem: Blah is synonymous to balderdash,rubbish,offscouring...and that's what your initial post is about.BLAH!

never new u had a little knowledge of English words.Though ur comment wasnt necessary 4 i know u will go off the content of this post.U made us know ur middle name blah......

La Parisienne: English PLEASE?

are u reading french from d post or u want to be noticed.

I am not doubting ur points & besides,i am certain over the arguement....loving wholeheartedly could be risky & judging from two major experiences of this individuals i learnt that loving whole heartedly is risky,but all depends on God's say & presence in every marriage.thanks....

Onchedu: Meanwhile, all these people taking of past burying the past let me inform U that the past is like a fertile ground nurtured in the present. Weeds are the seeds to evil we sow and wheat is the seed to good. Weeds don;t need to be nurtured, as long as nature provides them the right environment they will spring and multiply. Wheat however need to be nurtured and catered for to fruit.

The fields U leave to fallow will be fruitful tomorrow. If U don't want weeds springing U have to root them up and make sure U don't leave a trace of them behind; having done that, U will need to continue to make the field uncomfortable for them to resurface and at the same time conducieve for the wheat to grow well and fruit.

What I'm saying is it's best to thoroughly deal with issues in the past otherwise U should expect them to show up late in the future. Things don't just go away they have to be told to go away and shown that they are unwelcome otherwise they will keep coming back and one day they will meet U when U are weakest and they will do damage to the important things to U leaving U in a worse state than U can imagine,  bla bla bla.

u are a good marriage counsellor filled with so much wisdom.God bless u.

plaetton: op: Sad to hear ur story.
Wake up. You have married the wrong woman.How could you have gone on with the wedding after that. It is not going to get better for you. You are now condemned to a life of suspicion and uncertainty. Thats not a good way to live. A stitch in time saves nine. The rtuth of the matter is that she has in writing that she loves and has someone better than you.You are just a convenience. what more do you want her to tell you.
Dump her and move on with your life. anyone that advises you otherwise is sentimental becaus they are not in your shoes. No man, I repeat, no man, should play second fiddle to a woman whom he calls a lifemate.

why is it when a woman is caught in infidelity,men think of quiting,why the women endure,take decision & accept their faith......MEN

Yes dear u're right,but do u know there is loving from ur heart & loving with ur whole heart,these two have their meanings.Yes everyone loves from the heart,when it begins to grow,but the aspect of whole is where the complications lies,4 it involves,you the lover,your Emotions & Life.Will u jeopardise any incidence that will involve ur life...........this is the reason i asked,if loving with our whole heart is wise.

@190,like what dear......

@Ijogz.....lol,i see say,u 2 like bad thing.

If in a tight situation where u are with two most important people in ur life & u are left with only one option saving one person.Who would you save between this two.For the men:Wife & Sister. For the women:Husband & Brother.

Apologies accepted......we're friends......shabiiiiii.thanks all the same.

@sexkillz babe u have 2 hide,when there is no understanding of what one has updated.I believe u're inexperienced,this the reason not only is bull shiting but dog will be pissing 2.If u have notin reasonable contribute,pls do with leaving this topic for another,thanks dear,for the much,u have added,i am a babe.

@slimyem,Blah is it another English word or u feel is synonym of Love......i need reasonable counsel,

@slimyem,Blah is it another English word......i need reasonable counsel,pls........

In ur opinion it is incoherent,keep it to urself.U speak from ur own understanding,i speak from mine.Either u say something helpful or save ur typing energy for other puropse(s).

@sexkillz,the fact,u wish 2 make a point,doesnt warrant u been rude....Err ur opinion or keep it to urself.I wnt update a post as this if i havent learnt from experiences of person(s) around me.....It seems,the guys are only taking sides & altering whatever ill that comes out of their mouth.Sexkillz,whether a post is as u put it,'incoherent shit' or not leave it to the one that posted it.U guys are wicked & insincere only a few stand out......they more u feel irritated the more u know how many homes are suffering silently.The main meaning & motive of Love has been misused by many & understood by a few causing so much heart-break,broken home or even death today.There is only a good man/woman,but can never be a perfect man/woman,4 God is the only perfect one & everyday of our life,there is an opening for learning & mistakes.

@sexkillz,the fact,u wish 2 make a point,doing warrant u been rude....Err ur opinion or keep it to urself.I wnt update a post as this if i havent learnt from experiences of person(s) around me.....It seems,the guys are only taking sides & altering whatever ill that comes out of their.Sexkillz,whether a post is as u put it,'incoherent shit' or not leave it to the one that posted it.U guys are wicked & insincere only a few stand out......they more u feel irritated the more u know how many homes are suffering silently.The main meaning & motive of Love has been misused by many & understood by a few causing so much heart-break,broken home or even death today.There is only a good man/woman,but can never be a perfect man/woman,4 God is the only perfect one & everyday of our life,there is an opening for learning & mistakes.

Today many marriages that married for Love are regretting their marriage and been married,caused by infidelity & other factors,especially,the high rate of infidelity in married men to women.Most spouse(s),have lost their life,in the fight & believe of Love and Trust.I believe so much in Love,for God is not only Love but in him to obtain True-Love.......But it is a thing of the heart and head....love and trust is all God's grace,that is sufficient & will be sufficient in homes.

Now i agree with people that guy gossip too.You guys are criticizing the girls,do you have sisters at home.

Well handsome is higher.Cute is a general term used 4 guys.A beautiful lady is fine as a lady while a pretty lady is as fine as a goddess her beauty is so attracting

dnt mind them they are the same everywhere lying and cheatn bastards,bt life must surely go on.tk heart

4 d ladies 24 is 2 old 4 marriage,guys 25is okay even most guys marry at the age of 21 as long as the can take care of the girl and family 2 come

rickie4us u are wise and i share with you in your point,dnt mind the guy,he has not told Nairalanders the full details

cos they have experienced love but not true love before and find it difficult to see true love