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pocohantas:
"Months into the relationship I started noticing some feminist attitudes"

The breakup line of 2019

Pls I used the word 'feminist' to generalize her bossy and controlling behaviour and not an intended breakup line. I

Ray97:
lol. Why do i have a feeling u wanna stay in the relationship because of her visa.

look, She dosent abuse you, she dosent disobey you, she's not arrogant, she dosent lie, she's not a cheat.

if she's dosent do any of this things then all u gat to do is tolerate her. if u cant, call it quit.

She does not lie or cheat, it's just the abuse, disobedience and arrogance that's the issue. Apart from the later she is a wonderful person.

And I dont care abt the Visa. My only fear now is making her hold on to a relationship for years and when she returns I will refuse her marriage cos time is not on her side, and also the fear of marrying the wrong person.

I met my girlfriend like 19months ago, and everything really happened so fast and we started dating, we really understand ourselves and our conversations are neva boring. From all indications she truly loves me and even ready to do anything just to have me by her side. She is the best friend anyone can ever wish for cos she is very smart, lively and friendly with everyone and there is neva a dull moment.
Months into the relationship I started noticing some feminist attitudes, most time she will never listen to me, always wanting to control me, even refusing and asking me to do the dishes most times after cooking. At first I saw it as nothing cos I love washing dishes and doing other house chores, but it went on and on and we even quarrelled about it and all her excuses was she is not an organised person and she does not like washing dishes and cleaning, that I should bear with her and expect changes.
One of the worse parts was when she knew I know how to cook, she automatically reduced her cooking, my people that was how i turned an offical cook, with the excuse of "she does not like eating her food and likes mine more". We usually have fights abt this, and we will end up eating outside since nobody wants to prepare the food at home, which in turn ends up stressing my limited resources, and she is someone that hates managing things.
During this period, she was really going through the worst moments of her life, and things was not really going well according to her plans, fast forward to few months ago she go her Visa and she traveled to a European country and things are now really going well for her, bt be4 she traveled we entered into a serious fight about her controlling nature which increased the moment she got her Visa. This got so ugly to the point that I had to tell her to her face that I cant marry her because of this her attitude, she started pleading with me saying, she cant lose me now when things are going fine and I should calm down that when there is money I will not even notice any of this attitudes.


All this happenings got to a stage where i started asking myself questions of; what is it that I really made me go into a relationship her?, what do I really love abt her?, will things change for the better or worse when she comes back?.

Have talked to friends abt this issues and they have been telling me to still keep her as my girlfriend especially now that she is outside the country and have another girlfriend, because ending the relationship with her means I will lose all the gifts and stuff she will be send to me here in Nigeria and even a possibility of going out of the country to meet her.

NOTE: we have not had sex and she is still a virgin.

Pls, Kindly ignore my typo errors.