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SmartPolician:
My argument is that the money spent on that road should've been channeled to power generation, transmission and distribution.

Tinubu asked state governors to start taking care of those areas, but he didn't bother to check how many is investing in it. How much do states have to invest in power?

Those trillions he's wasting on that useless road should've formed a counterpart fund for states willing to invest in power. The FG pays 50% and has a 50% stake in power project proceeds, while states and private players will pay the 50% between them.

There can never be rapid growth without adequate power generation. In fact, tech cannot even thrive in an environment where there's no power.

Running a country isn't rocket science; we just have the dumbest of us leading us with their even dumber supporters hailing everything they do.

Power sector needs more hands, power generation is not something only the government should run, it’s a capitalist economy, there should be competitions. The state governments won’t be successful either if they don’t partner with private bodies..

The hope the nation has is private bodies to invest in that sector and not just importing generators and solar panels. Power generation investment is beyond importing generators and solar systems. If there’s no solid competition in the power sector, the power grid will never be something the nation will be proud of.

Quest7777:
How does your response justify wasting scarce resources on a grossly expensive coastal highway that is not priority to Nigerians.

What is the priority of the nation?

Klington:
You mediocres and bare minimum lovers are not ready for this convo

Lol, you are obviously not ready for the convo as a citizen that has nothing to offer to his country than just votes..

Who blame government for everything, forgetting it’s a democratic nation that everyone citizen has got a price to pay than just the citizens voting, making themselves politicians toy.

Klington:
Everything about this disgraced country is always faulty.

Even the citizens, which includes you.

Sonnobax15:

My own is that I'm waiting patiently for the COAS to come and force me to come and enlist into the Nigerian army. .... whether na him give me life,na then we go know

I know some people may say I'm unpatriotic but the truth is that whenever I see young men currently enlisting into the Nigerian army,I feel pity for them . Imagine using your own hands to sign your own death warrant all because of hunger and poverty

Lol, Nigerians and funny thoughts.

You salute other countries military, and you want them to die for the crime committed by Nigerians against Nigerians, you wan them to come and risk their lives for you to live a peaceful life, that’s the highest joke.

You refuse to give the respect the army deserves to them, even if they went there because of poverty, they are far better than those that went into banditry, ritual killings, and hookups because of the same poverty. If in this country, we refuse to understand the religions that guide human which army is one of them, then we are still going to keep facing this insecurity issues.. Another man shouldn’t die for my troubles, they are not Jesus.

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Communication is great, I don’t dispute that as it strengthens relationships not just marriages and even makes trust a big deal, but that still doesn’t erase the fact that endurance should be considered. Human being are prone failure, before getting to success in most we get into. If a woman gives up easily while a man try things would not be as easy as you laid it out, I believed you’ve watched the movie “acrimony”, the woman couldn’t endure anymore even though the man was communicating to her every move he’s taking, she was supportive in all ways, but she gave up on her endurance which is what made her push for divorce.

We don’t have to be biased, both parties deserve to be endured, not just man, being tensed too is more an hormone things, you can hardly control yourself if not well disciplined and this is applicable to both parties. The example of pregnancy was just an highlight not that it is the only thing a man should endured. Marriage is a long journey together, so much will come into the way affecting one party than the other at a particular time, whenever that happens, communication, support, and endurance is required from the party that is less affected at that moment.

Submission is not something a man should demand, it should be earned. The master and slave marriage thing has always been something I hate to believe exists.

Touchaheart:
All we ask is that partners display emotional intelligence, women during pregnancy cannot be compared to a man going through financial strains. The pregnancy stuff is hormone flares beyond her control (except she wants to aggravate but if she knows the man she married and his lack of tolerance, she would probably not push it). She can't control how she cries or easily gets overwhelmed but that is just for 9 months... and possibly some time post partum... Una agree to be pregnant, the pregnancy hormone thing is everywhere so you know what you're up against from the very beginning. A man/woman who cannot their emotions do to whatever secondary situation is not right. Financial needs will be there most times even after the kinds have gone on to their own houses, rather than endure, communicate... it won't be like endurance if you both have talked extensively, not with arguments or defensive nature, talk it out, this is what we have, let's be realistic and maximise it. Don't take them to where you can't afford but you can ensure they are better my using YouTube videos, teach them what you feel their school is lacking, buy the books because school fees will not be drowning you, make the children themselves understand, they are smarter than you think, they will sit up and bring the best results, when the school sef knows their worth to the image of their school they will not be hard on you. Communicate!! That you are the head does not mean the woman won't have nice ideas or opinions, na she dey go market, her fellow women can tell her what their husbands are doing to get by and it could be applicable to you too. Even a king has advisors. When you people are intentional about supporting each other, that word endurance will not come in. Cause even when you're struggling she will protect you with a smile and with pride. Women who are well managed submit and submit well...

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Touchaheart:
I don't know the basis of the conversationbut why would a woman endure in a marriage that she supposed ro enjoy, to have found a partner that becomes 1 with her.
For example; If she has to endure hard times with you and step in when things aren't as rosy, okay no problem...
That shouldn't include you carrying out your frustration on her in any form that will now cause her to endure... the same stress that is gnawing at you is the same gnawing at her, why should she be forced to include the stress of your frustration... no matter the meaning of endurance,
Someone is having headache and you want her to wait till it becomes a head pounding migraine before she seeks help all because as a wife she should have the ability to endure... Haaa


Then stick to a side and don't try to make excuses for a side you are not on.. There will be girls who don't want to endure anything but that doesn't mean that there are not women forced to endure rubbish, it wouldn't be a problem if the alapa stainless outweighs the abused... bit the type of rubbish women are forced to endure all in the name of marriage is alarming, most times sef the emotional and psychological parts are daunting because of our culture and system, most people do not believe what they don’t see until it's too late. When the person dies now, we'll be quick to say ah see what her desire to endure and protect her family name has caused.

I did not emphasize on woman alone enduring in marriages, both the partners are entitled to enduring what life brings, which I tried to point out so well “not any form of abuse from either”. Women are vulnerable and can be tensed when going through pregnancy stages and their menstrual cycle, a man should understand and endure her at this stage, not going around because she’s not being who she used to be when not in this situations. Likewise, men can be tensed when responsibilities pile up, or maybe his job gets ethic or some other things, that could make him not to be as available as he used to be, woman should understand what’s going on and not just complain about him not caring as used to knowing fully well he’s going through situations like this. There are so many occurrence in marriages beyond the domestic violence we see and most of this little things if not endured are what leads to what we see.

I am open to be corrected, if my view about that is wrong.

Kobojunkie:
I believe a better marriage would be an non abusive marriage where both partners (not Master-slave situation) mutually respect each other, growing together with both able to individually thrive all while enjoying the the shared connection and safety that being in relationship provides them.

2. A good measure would be the mental, emotional and social intelligence of the individuals in the relationship as well as the degree to which they have been able to fulfill individual goals, dreams, etc , during the period of the marriage in additional to shared goals.🥱🥱🥱

I think I get what happened just now, if you had read the full the article, you would have seen that all that was included to what a marriage must be built on not just sex.

Kobojunkie:
Why would it be difficult when the definitions noted clearly reveal that Endurance is related either to some hardship or difficulty, or— the typically figurative expression —enduring friendship, which does not describe most endurance marriages out there.

2. How can it be about sex when your topic literally indicates it is beyond sex, meaning sex takes a back seat as far as the subject?

3. That is an excuse people typically use to brush human ills and wickedness under the carpet. For instance, you keep insisting on domestic abuse alone as if to suggest we are to turn a blind eye to every other kind of abuse that also occurs in marriages and homes across the way. Isn't that part of why your many endurance marriages are literally nothing but toxic/abusive examples of marriages?

Okay, kindly highlight what a better marriage should be about, or you are totally against marriage?
And what you feel is best to measure a successful marriage, your points will be appreciated

Kobojunkie:
Oh, so the only kind of abuse against women and children is the violence that you see(not even that which you have heard of) for yourself and not that which goes on even behind closed doors? Or are those parents/wives/husbands who perpetrate those not to be considered? 🥱🥱🥱

2. Endurance, which literally means hanging on to that which is debilitating/difficult/unpleasant, is to be given a different meaning entirely where marriage is concerned? It seems we need an entirely different dictionary made for marriage, which is what I sense you are insinuating here. 🥱🥱🥱

3. Life hits a couple differently from the way life hits individuals outside of marriage? That is some amazing sheet you marriage brokers like to spew. So, marriage is an entirely different configuration of life, is what you are insinuating? 🥱🥱🥱

4. I don't recall mentioning sex in my previous response to you, and I don't even know how you came up with the idea that I am suggesting a pillar for your concept of marriage. 🥱🥱🥱

If one meaning is what you can tie to endurance, it will be difficult to have a great conversation with you.

And why I said if your argument is about sex being the only pillar is because, the topic was based on that.

But, try to know that there’s always more meaning tied to a word, I don’t support domestic violence and I will not encourage anyone to endure such and cheat in a marriage. Thank you.

Kobojunkie:
This is what you wrote.
2. Most of our African mothers, grandmothers, and great-grandmothers were married to abusive men who treated them like punching bags for many decades of their marriage. Those marriages were held together for as long as they were because those women literally accepted the abuse, excused much of the bullsheet, all in the same name of maintaining what Africans mostly refer to as successful marriages — the endurance marriages you speak of.

3. You never consulted your dictionary on this before, have you?

Most in your view, the community I came from, most parents were too busy and they supported each other, the violence marriages I have seen in my life are the younger ones not that of my parents or of my grand’s.

And 😂, I don’t have to go back to check dictionary to use the word “endure” right, like I said, endurance in marriage does not necessarily mean you are enduring the worse, which is domestic violence! There are various differences in marriage to endure, and when life hit at a marriage, couples endure (endurance in marriage is not meant to be one sided).

And, are you trying to argue that “sex should be the pillar of marriage”?

Kobojunkie:
By your submission, even a toxic/unhappy/unfulfilling marriage, as long as both parties endure within it, is a success marriage. Am I correct? 🥱🥱🥱

2. Women, in the past, have mostly proven themselves to be great py punching bags in those endurance marriages you mentioned. But, don't we know better now to stop recruiting women for these hell-hole marriages at this point? Why must the damage done our mothers and grandmothers continue as the norm for the sake of claiming more of these successful marriages you love so? 🤔🤔


I mean, considering your definition of what a successful marriage would be, the marriage of Dominique Pelicot & Gisèle Pelicot was very successful since they were both married for almost 50 years — since 1973.

How is my submission about recruiting a woman to be a punching bag in marriage?

Why will a woman marry a man that abuse her in the first place, talking against lust is talking against domestic violence, because when what you want is all physical and they fade away due to occurrences that was mentioned (parenting stress, aging, etc), partners begins to find it difficult to tolerate each other.

Endurance doesn’t mean you endure the worse, but the process of life which is not often an easy task.

A truly enduring marriage is a complex and multifaceted bond built on a foundation that extends far beyond the physical. African tradition played a significant role in shaping the concept of marriage, viewing it as a partnership between couples aimed at enhancing their productivity in all endeavors. They believed that women were the ideal complement to men on their productive journey, and together, they could overcome life’s challenges. While sex is a powerful form of communication, it is not the sole factor that sustains a marriage and, often, it may not be the most crucial. A lasting marriage is constructed on a partnership that flourishes in the light of day, even in the mundane moments, and during life’s most demanding storms. It is woven from stronger, more resilient threads.

https://agbole..com/2025/11/successful-marriage-is-beyond-physical.html

correctyourself:
The remaining people you guys left for terrorist to keep should pay tax to you right?

lol, how do you demand for accountability without paying taxes?
Politicians has been doing the worse to earn people’s vote, which has got us here, the north are powerful not because they generate more money for the country, but because they generate more votes!

Any citizen in a democratic nation expecting the government to provide all for him or her isn’t democratic!

We’re taught from a young age that our power in democracy, as a part of the people who built it, lies in our vote. We stand in line, cast our ballot, and feel a sense of civic duty fulfilled. We believe that this single, fleeting act is the ultimate expression of our power as citizens. However, we’ve been deceived and have been focusing on the wrong lever of power.
Your true, ongoing, and most tangible influence doesn’t come from the vote you cast every few years. Instead, it comes from the taxes you pay every single day. Your tax is not a burden; it’s your capital. It’s not a loss; it’s your investment in the society you want to live in. In many ways, your tax is your real power, not your vote. To be part of the development your country attains, you must be prepared to shoulder some responsibility for making it a better place. This responsibility lies in investing into society through your tax.

https://agbole..com/2025/11/your-tax-makes-you-powerful-than-your.html

You really need to act fast when your secrets become a gist in town, and all that happens in your household becomes content that everyone learns from. This tells you a big story that the wall has ears. When your wall begins to develop ears to listen to all that happens in your household, both the privacy and the ones you are willing to doctor before people could hear from it, and share all this to outsiders you are particular about, then there is a mole. You are not safe anymore, and not anyone in the household of yours is safe. Everything will eventually get out to the people you do not want to have an idea about what is going on with you. So many things will be kept unsafe till you fish out the mole. Stay safe till you get that done.
https://agbole..com/2025/11/there-is-mole-in-your-space.html

WTF!!!

Can you please talk about how your religion doesn’t support terrorism, and stop bringing other stuffs that made your religion have more gullibles that will go extreme all because they want some amount of virgins after life!!!

Your polygamy is lust based!! Talk about how you earned the religion of peace!!

Kobojunkie:
1. Tradition and religion are pretty much the same, and since your idea of polygamy comes from tradition/religion, what do you think you have been arguing all this time?

2. Skills? You literally said that productivity was pegged on having so many kids who were, in turn, considered farmhands. Where did their skills come into all of this? How farm hands dey gain whatever skills they had then if not from being born and dragged to the farms from as soon as they popped out of their mother's uterus?

3. Nonsense! Skills were gained from being repetitively beaten by work that was available to be done. Most of your fathers have no farms and hence no work, and so no skills to pass to their kids. Sending the kids to school is the best way to get them the skills needed in today's world. So what sort of B.S. are you trying to shove down our throats here?

4. Unbeweavable! So, your only argument for polygamy — a system that has proven dangerous given the almajiri scourge from the North that has now reduced Nigeria to a failed state overrun by bandits — is that it is best for curbing lust in men? Are you f-king ok in the head?

Maybe you should go back to the conversations!!! Agriculture was not the only thing mentioned, trade was there and what made you feel farming isn’t a skill?

Traditions and religion are two different things! It will be a difficult task to argue with you when you can’t differentiate between religion and tradition.

And Productivity isn’t a term for agriculture alone, you really need to get a lot of things right before getting into arguments.

Kobojunkie:
1. Your forefathers produced liabilities, and that custom continues to this day, where the polygamous setting is notorious for producing just that.... liabilities who have nothing to offer society as a whole other than more unskilled bodies.

2. So, the northerners in Nigeria who notoriously breed some of the most liabilities— almajiris, many of whom are now into banditry— are thus because of Western education?

3. You tell me cause you came in attempting to argue that there is still value to the tradition that has now helped the country turn from a failed one in less than 70 years.

I wouldn’t like to bring in religions to this, that’s why I am so much staying clear with traditions and western education.

Skills are essential during our forefathers era, and it was the form of education they had. Maybe you forgot this forefathers’ were relied upon by the government (kings), not them relying on the government.

Skills became something people avoid when western education came it, it was meant to be an upgrade, but people took it differently, sadly the skills are now what they fall back to after they couldn’t get a job.

I am not trying to tell you people should compulsorily practice polygamy, no! The case of lust in monogamy is worse not to talk of lust in polygamy….

Insecurity became a prevalent issue in a once peaceful and mutually supportive nation that eventually descended into a nation plagued by terrorism and banditry. Religion, tribe, and class are increasingly dividing people. This is fueled by politics and a growing obsession with money over value.
https://agbole..com/2025/11/insecurity-became-thing.html

Kobojunkie:
Human love does not last forever. Let's stop telling that particular lie. Even a marriage built on a foundation of love— whether chemical love, duty-bound, or whatever kind you can come up with— can and do end. We need to accept that where humans are concerned, everything is temporary—for a time— and that is the reality of life on this earth for us all.

You’ve got a mindset towards love already, but sincerely it’s a misrepresentation of what love is.

If love forgives and heal, then why will it end?

Most men are chanting spec, that’s lust not love! Because immediately the spec fade, the feelings goes with.

Kobojunkie:
It was for productive purposes yet many of them failed to produce anything in their lives except children that they could not feed or raise well?

2. If it was so good, why didn't the people fight to keep those traditions going?

I wish I could emphasize more on that, but you need to realize how crucial population is to every economy if they are not liabilities. Western education made the country’s population became liabilities which was not its purpose, education was meant to make the population improve their crafts and eventually increase their output, but instead, people chose to be educated to secure job rather than creating one!

So, why keep the tradition when the population goals of being more productive has changed overnight to being a liability by seeking jobs from the few that creates?

Dtruthspeaker:
Show me a polygamous man of the past whose wives were his partners beyond sex.



See, you said "a lady", which is monogamy.



And we all agree on this but AdvanceDNA was simply trying to remind you that polygamy means lust.

Marriage (be it monogamy or polygamy) can mean lust. That’s why I said the foundation of marriage should not be lust.

Monogamous man with a high sex interest will cheat and eventually have several baby mamas.

I’m not someone that will advice people to go polygamy without a tangible need for it, an instance of tangible reason is that of Abraham having another woman to have a child and there are series of them, that even the wife will be the one to push for it.

I’m polygamous for growth, just as I am doing my best to have multiple sources of income to be a better child and a better father, not to impress!

Dtruthspeaker:
Where did I mention that slavery was in accordance with Arab nation practices?

Secondly, it is God through natural law Who made it very solid and sure that wives and children must/should inherit the husband and father's property. So, this is off point.

And the main point is that you cannot counter that men acquired wives the same way we acquire cars. And funny, the wives are treated exactly how their cars are treated, which is reign today discarded tomorrow. Not to talk of where they now even said that women cannot inherit their husbands property.

https://www.nairaland.com/7476032/does-wife-right-husbands-property#119087975

The thing about people taking wives as a car wasn’t a tradition here, men marry wives as a partner in the African tradition. Which is missing today.

Imagine marrying a lady that supports you in what you do brilliantly, women were part of everything here because their importance is well known.

The moment people started acquiring wives as cars because of their sexual appetite change the purpose of marriage (be it polygamy or monogamy)

The main point is, marriage should be based on love not lust. The ancestors didn’t marry wives based on how beautiful or how sexual active, but how helpful she will be in achieving dreams and raising kids!!!

advanceDNA:
I was not told anything ..its basic common sense that a man must at some point have control over his carnal desires otherwise there will be no limit to how he surrenders to his lust...this is the reason we now have gay men and pple that sleep with animals and other forms of sexuality.....lack of discipline
Baba.....U cant be a polygamist without continuously lusting.... because that's how your number of wives increase from 1 to 2 to 3, 4 ...and so on....


Lol.....unless you are king that pple bring wives to, to marry for ethnic, trade, peaceful and other forms of alliance and collaboration, an average man increasing the number of women he's sleeping with is just a man full of lust with no discipline over his sexual desires.... It has nothing to do with productivity

your attempt to justify having many wives with increased productivity is lame

..this is 2025... people engage in modern technological drive. principle of farming and trade .....
Having many wives & being more productive are mutually exclusive things ......please try to sound more factual....u are online with a large audience

marriage has always been based on traditional values, it's one of the oldest institutions still alive.....but sadly u are the one trying to paint polygamy as core principle of traditional marriage ....which is not ...

.while some of our forefathers married plenty women, because many of them tried to copy kings and men of affluence in their society, the truth is many of our fathers and great grand fathers did not have plenty wives....many were monogamist even before the white men came.. but pple like you to paint picture that white me brought monogamy........


again.....u cannot be a polygamist without lusting around...ur sexual discipline must be very low and u must be a highly superficial person ....it is uncontrolled lust that makes u see another woman and decide to have her in addition to the ones you already have....

You made a lot of sense which answered the fact that marriage wasn’t all about sex, for everyone that believes marriage is all about sex then polygamy is a way to feed his sexual cravings, which is what the article is all about!

You said something about the kings been given wives for some purpose which tells a lot about marriage in Africa as it was not basically about sexual fantasies.

And also, I appreciate that you made mentioned of grandfathers not having more than a wife, that’s because the culture was not mandating it as maltreatment of women was a big crime here in Africa.

Sane married people will tell you marriage is beyond sexual fantasies and all.

Dtruthspeaker:
And you did not have the sense to know that this was a lie and a stew ..... excuse to cover their lusts and greed and in slavement of women?

Lol, funny how you are the one that failed to do your research, why are women and their kids entitled to the properties of their husbands?

If they are slaves they wouldn’t be entitled to it, do your research well and know how polygamy works in africa not in the Arab nation!!!

advanceDNA:
U support polygamy but preaching against lust and cheating??

Lol, you were told to believe polygamous was all about cheat and lust.

According to elderly ones, polygamy in the tradition of Africa was not because of lust, but because of productive purposes. People with many wives are more productive (amount of land they cultivated or the amount of trades they own), people don’t just marry in African traditions if they are not capable to take care of wife or wives and the children.

If marriage is still based on the traditional knowledge, it will be far better.

Polygamy is for growth not for lusting around!!

Numerous selfish interests have resulted in numerous failed marriages worldwide. God forbids blasphemy as the greatest sin, and love prohibits cheating because it can lead to more serious crimes and negative consequences within marriage. When love forms the foundation of marriage, it tends to last forever, eliminating any reason for either partner to cheat.
https://agbole..com/2025/11/marriage-should-never-be-built-on-lust.html