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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by uche393: 8:40am On Mar 26, 2021
I feel like crying after reading this, marriage dey fear me.
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Nobody: 8:40am On Mar 26, 2021
MEGA4BILLION:
The marriage was built on a false foundation and it is shaky.

This a great lesson for men.
NEVER NEGLECT YOUR FAMILY FOR VIRGINA PEOPLE BECAUSE VIRGINA PEOPLE WILL NEVER NEGLECT THEIR FAMILY FOR YOU.



Peter okoye is yet to understand that, leaving his own family just for a woman, that useless bible that said "leave ur parents house and cleave to ur woman was made by a mad man! Marriage doesn't necessarily mean u should drop ur own parents and siblings in the back burner and take on someonelse's family affair is just plain stupidity! Love ur own immediate family too! Though some are wicked!

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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Hassanmaye(m): 8:43am On Mar 26, 2021
AlphaStorm:
If u are still eating her food, then u are a very mumu man. it costs her nothing to eliminate you at this point.
I swear

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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Bambam321(m): 8:43am On Mar 26, 2021
I salute your level of maturity in handling this unfortunate situation..✔️
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Nobody: 8:44am On Mar 26, 2021
ikllbrokehoes:
Fear greedy women



Everybody's greedy including u! But the problem here is, to what extent can u curtail ur greedy nature from affecting people important to u in ur life
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by slevan: 8:44am On Mar 26, 2021
Hassanmaye:

QHaha tell us your experience na
Lol
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Hassanmaye(m): 8:44am On Mar 26, 2021
brownemmanuel43:

Having gone through your statement, I must confess u are good and gentleman with a bad and evil wife.
If I were u, I would tell her to escort me to somewhere then I will drive down to her father's house and drop her their, then I will run locate somewhere with my kids. I hate nonsense and I HV never have her taken nonsense from any daughter of eve
Your last statement will make you stay in peace with daughters of Jezebel then, once they perceive you are a good man you are dead
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by EmmySparky(m): 8:45am On Mar 26, 2021
Hassanmaye:

Who knows my guy? Do read about daughters of Jezebel in the bible?
very true...women has a stronger heart than a man...forget all these macho things we do...those creatures can make or break a man effortlessly

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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by mondayaudu(m): 8:45am On Mar 26, 2021
The only thing I have to say is that you married from a very poor family. Remember, poverty is not about abundant rather the thing of the mind. Your wife and in-law are mentally poor. I know of a man that refused to allow her daughter to marry simply because he trained the girl and she secured a well paid job. It took years for this girl to liberate herself.
Solution:
You are too predictable as a man. This gave them the opportunity to treat you the way they did. You easily trust people which is good but could be detrimental to yourself. Wear some elements of unpredictability from now on. Speak less. Don’t divorce her but but save it in your memory that she is from a very poor family that can go to any length including deception to acquire wealth. Be careful, that family has the capacity to eliminate you.

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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Nnatuu: 8:46am On Mar 26, 2021
crazyinlove:


This is totally a very bad mindset, you can't say she will do the rest just like that. You guys need to agree to move the family in love and understanding. You guys should agree on how much each party will provide. Your statement can also mean that you will only do 10% because that's what you can do and then leave the 90% for her to carry.

As far as I am concerned the journey of marriage is not easy on both the man and woman. The society has placed a lot of responsibilities on both parties and when they focus on fighting who should do what it doesn't help. Women has their own responsibilities which they carry and they men don't get to talk about.

The goal should be for couples to have a mutual understanding on how they should run their home, financially and otherwise.

Well, you spoke well. But theoretically.

And it’s not a one-size-fits-all situation. What is fair in most situations is you put yourself in your partners shoes and carefully examine what will be done to you that’ll be fair, then do it for her.

Also when you deal with a partner who has other ulterior motives separate from the common goal of the family(as the OP mentioned), then the leadership of the home has to be redefined. And that simply means you have to do what is right for everyone. What she thinks or feels doesn’t apply anymore.

You can go with the Bible if she lives according to the principles of marriage as explained in the Bible, or you run your home like a corporate organization if she doesn’t. The ship has to move forward.
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Myself2(m): 8:46am On Mar 26, 2021
izito:
*

In 2016 she told me her salary was #50.000 And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only #5000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. #400,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine. 

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.” 

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?” I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?”  He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”


My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Last she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a divorce, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions. 

*What's your take?*

Is this a super story ?
OP, did it really happen to you ?
Why are.my even asking, have some wives not done worse ?
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Nobody: 8:48am On Mar 26, 2021
pocohantas:
When a Nigerian/African marriage crashes, the woman leaves with just her box. You guys would be happy. You even encourage yourselves to marry back home so that the standard can remain. You don’t fail to threaten her with second wife or getting thrown back to her father’s house.

Women are watching... The

Yet you expect these same women to bring out their money, time and heart to build an “empire” with you? Lol. Y’all are quite delusional or just being fish-brained as usual.



How is it done then in Europe?! Shey the man leaves his house he built for someone that came in with box filled with assorted pants! Guess its even!
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by totalhouse(m): 8:49am On Mar 26, 2021
izito:
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In 2016 she told me her salary was #50.000 And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only #5000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. #400,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine. 

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.” 

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?” I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?”  He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”


My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Last she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a divorce, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions. 

*What's your take?*

Though it will take time to heal on this trust matter. I salute you for your maturity. My advice to you is that as you are taking time to heal, please forgive her since she has already realized her error at least for the sake of your kids
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Hassanmaye(m): 8:51am On Mar 26, 2021
ukandi1:


Amen.

But I know from experience that no man ever comes out of it healed. It's marriage trust killed here, not boyfriend girlfriend.
Best is that he will stick with the marriage and pretend along.
What do you mean no man comes out of it healed you are scaring the hell out of us o
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by petitejolie(f): 8:52am On Mar 26, 2021
meetme01:
Every human will definitely be furious on this issue. However, every problem can never be the same hence, they cannot have the same solution.

This is an issue that has to be handled maturely. Yes, she f-up but, can you just look inwards and see if you can pick something positive in it to make you forgive her.? I believe you should.

It's just a lesson learnt. Don't use it against her if you decide to forgive. Your maturity will make you see steps to take to ensure you don't fall victim of such again.

What I see is, she was ill/badly advised by her greedy father. The man knew the lady was doing very good and in order to keep his architect/builder/contractor job, he had no option that to twist the feeble mind of the young lady.

The man couldn't scold her daughter. He was the cause of the problem.

Brotherly, sit her down, tell her how you feel. Let her correct every step without coercion. Give her a free mind/hand to handle everything. Let her know, whatever she decides should be of her own interest because her happiness is what you desire.

Accept her apology. Call her Dad and also accept the apologies. This is will also give you rest of mind to focus on bigger things ahead.

It is well..
call wat dad? He should stay away from that family. He can settle with his wife but set conditions and have nothing to do with her family . No third party
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by petitejolie(f): 8:54am On Mar 26, 2021
Hassanmaye:

What do you mean no man comes out of it healed you are scaring the hell out of us o
he’s or she is right. For a man that gives his all? It’s hard to find this kind of men but wen u hurt dem to this extent? No going back. Even if he forgives her , his life around her will never remain the same

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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Rapture4real(m): 8:55am On Mar 26, 2021
I notice that the more you love and faithfully cherish a woman, when she breaks your heart, the greater will be the wounds/pain and the more difficult to forgive her. Don't commit your heart to a woman, give it all to God so that there will be nothing to break again.

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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Hassanmaye(m): 8:56am On Mar 26, 2021
[quote author=Karemarealty288 post=100215919][/quote]
You should not make all this mistakes before you become wise, that's why we learn from the experience of others, "smart men like us", some guys think reading Romance section is a waste of time they prefer to go to Technology and the like until they marry and they see pepper. AHA.
They think we reading Romance section are fools Hmmm until they meet daughters of Jezebel
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by IamBroke(m): 8:56am On Mar 26, 2021
izito:
*

In 2016 she told me her salary was #50.000 And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only #5000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. #400,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine. 

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.” 

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?” I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?”  He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”


My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Last she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a divorce, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions. 

*What's your take?*

Oga abeg no do something were you go later regret unto sey you dey vex...abeg I take God beg you..no take actions while angry cos you fit cm regret am... that car were you buy gv am it was out of love I know it hurts but pls don't sell it..
I am not in support of what your wife did but forgiveness is love...
Abeg no sell the house too...

Women are so greedy... na why me dey always tell ma mama "I no wan marry woman were I go later regret cuz like to this like this na baby mama sure pass and if I should marry I go make sure sey the girl is from a rich family cuz IamBroke
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Nobody: 9:03am On Mar 26, 2021
Bambam321:
I salute your level of maturity in handling this unfortunate situation..✔️



Maturity here is playing stupid ! Not everything requires maturity, sometimes people need to be dealt w the things they dish out! Stop all this maturity nonsense! Wasn't she matured enough to know that she should have carried her husband along about Her finances, now the man has found out and u are encouraging him to be matured (To play childish and be a victim of circumstances) I'm sure if op had continued like this for the next 6yrs he would av been a poor mad wretched man roaming the streets looking for what to eat and people pointing him saying this man was once rich! And the wife would have left him and divorced him saying t her boss lady friends "I didn't come to this life to suffer abegii! Leave that poor wretched church rat alone I'm done with him? If op is afarid or emotionally unbalanced to see the long term consequences her actions might he cost him, let me that is more balanced and logical tell him that!!!!! What op should do now is

1. Both of them must declare their assets
2. Both of them must open a joint account for family upkeep, for a disastrous mistake she has to bear 60% of home bills for the next 4yrs as restitution and op take 40% of all home bills to help balance what ever has been stolen, this agreement must continue until death! Anybody that fails to oblige this agreement would be deemed to have faulted in the agreement and has to be sanctioned in anyway the agreement they make such punishments fits
4. The houses and all she has built has to be shared into two and both are proceeds of both of their money's, the houses and cars and whatever op has to be a legal backed by law shareholder and if the estate is to be shared, op has a percentage share
5. Op and wife needs to meet a lawyer that can draft this agreement and an estate and property lawyer to ascertain how this would be shared "Equally"
6. Op should do further underground investigations and from hence forth, spy on her private life, clone her WhatsApp and all that to ensure he's not being made a poor man before his death!
7. Op should be careful of his life from now henceforth
8. Begin to write a will if he has properties
To share if he suddenly dies, cos if he dies by accident suddenly all his properties would go to his wife and her family members ad village people, so he should start early to make sure his children are made heirs of his estate!

Remember, trust issues has set in, if they can meet a counselor to help them the better!

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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Hassanmaye(m): 9:03am On Mar 26, 2021
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Why are you posting photos of daughters of Jezebel all the time
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Hassanmaye(m): 9:04am On Mar 26, 2021
atakamus:
Frankly I have been a fool to this kind of thing. I am seriously trying to rewrite the wrongs. I am married with 4 lovely children. I wont like to bother anybody with details but my advice is for you to learn from this.
My own wife is a lying machine. She is realising that I am smarter. It is just bad because I don't believe her. Even her "good morning" to me sounds like a lie.
Hahahahahaha my stomach grin grin grin
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Infoay: 9:11am On Mar 26, 2021
Outright wickedness and greed.
Such a woman can even plan your death.
God should grant the man wisdom to make a sound decision.

Some marriages though hmmmm
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by potent5(m): 9:12am On Mar 26, 2021
Bald headed Balaam the curser, I see you o. .
Isinkwocha:


You have decided to bring curse upon yourself by using the image of a priest and prophet of God. Go ask for forgiveness. Or see the repercussions in no later time.

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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by nairamaniac: 9:13am On Mar 26, 2021
op, izito, please how often did you communicate or cross paths with here father/mother/brother?


if u cross paths with them often or speak with them frequently, then there is no way they would deny not knowing that your wife left you in the dark on those projects.

in that case, they all planned and agreed never to tell you.
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Vincigreatest(m): 9:13am On Mar 26, 2021
Too much lies, saw the original post on Instagram.
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Hassanmaye(m): 9:14am On Mar 26, 2021
kushme:



Can some of you see why I don't support giving women same level of opportunity as men..

I believe Op is one of those men who want females to have their own money so that they could support their husbands..

This is just the beginning, men supporting women by giving them juicy jobs over men are not free from the pain and betrayal the Op is currently feeling.
Most Women are not loyal. Stop helping them. They want independence only to betray you someday.

If men truly want peace of mind in their homes, they should limit the amount of money and reduce job opportunities for females.

Where is that Mr 9jafakeness who called me a crude and primitive misogynist.

He should come bite me. Pvssy Nigga. I'll only say it the way it is.

Even nature knows that, generally,the stronger genders(physical and intellectual ) are willingly and stupidly tolerating the manipulative styles of the supposed weaker genders. Una never start complain. No be today.

Men, y'all need to wake up from this pussified era of female resource control.
Leave them stupid men, even in jobs interviews they prefer women, do they think if you help a daughter of Zion and one day you are on your dying bed she will come to your rescue? Give a man a bread and he will thank you for the rest of his life, give daughter of Zion mountain she will forget you next week if you can't provide what she wants now even if it's 300 airtime!! I heard bajamila saying they will give equal opportunity to women I just laugh at the fool, do you think if men stop tolerating this gender they will survive??

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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Hassanmaye(m): 9:20am On Mar 26, 2021
Cleanworld:


You are a man and indeed a true son of your father but let me borrow you my2cent advise...to err is human and to forgive is divine. in Africa to be a complete man and husband is to take care of all responsibilties in your home this is No1 thing that makes you a a man and the head of your home.

African women look up to their husband as tradition implies. she values that small ''money'' you are giving her more than her whole salary. sir, you are her pride and her crown. once you allow your wife to be paying 50/50 bills with you ....mark my word today , all respect for you as husband will go down the drain because both of you are now in charge and there is no head of the home again.

you can ask your counterpart in other part of the world where families break up easily just beacuse of this bill sharing

you perspective of the matter is black and white but believe me it is deeper , don't allow any one to take your place because of money .There's a way men collect money from their wives without loosing their respect.

Give her the car back,buy pads and pampers and see how much she will submit to you.

your wife can even earn more than you but must not know how big or little a man you are.

It is good to have personal project but she failed by not telling you thinking that you are one of those men that are jealouse of their wife's progress

keep your head up and FORGIVE now..then chanel your energy in your own personal project and call her whole family to celebrate with you.

life is to short to make a mountain out of a mole.

PEACE
I believe with you sir but if your wife has a property she is managing while you are living in rented apartment or your salary is 10,000 while her salary is 50,000 you still take care of her everything including pant, or you are living in rented apartment and she is giving her brother a car with your salary despite earning more than will you will you be happy? Must you support daughter of Zion all the time, na your type they shout equal opportunity for sexes until daughters of Jezebel show you pepper
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by gly(m): 9:20am On Mar 26, 2021
This too bad!!!
God will surely heal and restore the marital love and trust you both shared from the inception!
I Will advise this, for the sake of the kids and uncertainty of life, tell her not under cohesion to change the name of ongoing building asset to your nuclear family (you and her) name.
May GOD bless your home Izito.
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by jerriecesar: 9:21am On Mar 26, 2021
You can't really view the picture when you re inside the frame. Take a step back and look at it closely, and you will see the bigger picture. Do you love God?!!!. Women are dimension of God, just as God loves man and will give everything to man so a man will love his wife and give everything to her. But then how's ur relationship with God?, How well have u been faithful and sincere to him?. I believe God is trying to teach how to love him, I can only imagine how u feel now but imagine how God feels everything time u break his heart, everytime u refuse to love him back. Forgive ur wife, go back to God in love and he alone can teach and guide u through all this. 08054591148 you can contact me anytime
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by cocolacec(m): 9:23am On Mar 26, 2021
dermmy:
Relationship is a transaction for women. No woman in this world will genuinely love you. Never fall blindly in love with a woman. Don't be the good guy.

I leave the rest to Mosdii .

This is not true ,i know good women who gove their savings to their husband only for the mam to squander it and come home with stories.
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by buJu234: 9:32am On Mar 26, 2021
but most times don't blame the ladies especially at the beginning of the relationship.

cos if a lady tells a Nigerian man how much she is earning, and the man discovers that hers is higher than his monthly income/salary.

out of inferiority complex or fear that she may dominate him in the marriage or relationship, the man will call it a quits.

so for her to safeguard her man.. since the competition for men is very high these days (average/good men are hard to find, best/better/perfect men hardly exist); she had to let go of something,, and based on the current economic condition, u don't expect her to resign but rather she will double down on her take-home i.e salary..

so for me as a man, I don't see any wahala with that especially at the beginning of the relationship or marriage. but if after 3-5yrs she still continues the lie and I found out then I will b angry but not divorce.,

divorce will only come when she is trying to oppress me with her wealth.. ( although am not interested in woman`s money.. my father taught me.. that the man`s money is for the family.. not the woman`s own)

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