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Think of this scenario.

You have been dating a girl for some months or years, planning future with her. All of a sudden, she started giving you attitude. When you talked to her about her recent attitude, she told you to give her a break. You respected yourself and withdrew from the relationship.

After some weeks, you started seeing her with a new guy. Someone that is way below you (-r status) in social hierarchy. No exaggeration. The relationship would later lead to marry.

What will your reaction be?
How will you feel?

Or as a lady, how will you feel?

below my status?
Truth is I never viewed people from that angle.
No matter who she dates, I'll not be happy but I really give little or no fvck about status, I never see status as a big thing.

let's assume the new guy is uglier than I am

Its actually none of my business who she marries!
You dnt plan future with any girl.
Future planning is a one man thing!

The f I would have given had a fatal motor accident.

I will laugh and mock him,that's a good riddance

That's why "Compatibility" is very powerful.
Always go for someone you're compatible with.

When you guys are not "Compatible" and you think Using "Status" to Influence a woman thinking it will work in the Long term always leads to failure. that's the reason why she went for a man of "Lower Status" because she feels she's more "Compatible" with the man than with you

Zzor:
I will laugh and mock him,that's a good riddance

the fact he left you for someone below you should be enough reason to ponder on your life

To be frank.... No matter the status below or above .... it will pain pesin

Where did I keep my "ion give a Bleep"

Lowers status cannot be low forever, you cannot be where you are forever so definitely he sees something in him or her

Knowing she left you to be with someone below your status won't put a single dent on your ego. As a matter of fact it'd make me feel good and relieved.

But it's very debilitating to leave you to be with someone above you.. Your ego would be shattered and everyone knows all what makes up a man is his ego

Once a lady is out of my life, i honestly don't care about her and what she does with her life. i have more important things to think about, my mates are making it even in present day Nigerian economy and you think an ex girlfriend should be my worry?

nope I wont give a shit cus am better than his new catch so why would I feel bad

DaddyRochie1642:
That's why "Compatibility" is very powerful.
Always go for someone you're compatible with.

When you guys are not "Compatible" and you think Using "Status" to Influence a woman thinking it will work in the Long term always leads to failure. that's the reason why she went for a man of "Lower Status" because she feels she's more "Compatible" with the man than with you

What if they were compatible before, but later developed some differences?

They say "water seeks its level."

Cousin9999:
They say "water seeks its level."

Words!!!

The male brain is not designed to think in status, that's a female thing. But in the spirit of the question, I will probably becomes curious and wonder what made her migrate to someone I'm economically better than, that my sophisticated self could not offer.

The reverse actually happened to me. During uni, my girl stayed with me all through, and richer guys were coming for her, and she declined them all, making people wonder (even me) what she saw that made her stay. There is an old saying that says "lots of people are so poor, the only thing they have is money", which explains why a lady will leave a wealthy man for an ordinary one.

Which brings me to my last point. Women are naturally equipped with a visual lense to see past the wealth and determine if a man is quality enough. Same way heterosexual men do not find other men attractive, its also the same way men cannot see themselves through that lense women are naturally equipped with. Men also have their own lense they use in filtering women, a lense women will also never be able to see themselves from.

Everyone have three layers of visuality. Whom you are, how you see yourself, and how other people sees you. The way a man sees himself is not the same way women sees him. He might consider himself a speck, a ladies man, and women just will not feel him, same goes for women as well. So many hot single ladies but men just do not feel them. One of the superpower anyone could harness is to have the ability to know through which lense people view you from.

If you've ever wonder why someone is not feeling you no matter how good you are to them, it's simply because they could not see you in a favorable light through the scrutiny. These are reasons why women will leave rich men for average dude. Most women will choose Christian Ronaldo who is poor when you compare him to the older bald Jeff Bezos who is a billionaire. It is not only about the money, the money is merely a slice in the whole pie.

What if she finds somebody above you status?

chatinent:
The f I would have given had a fatal motor accident.

Druggie spotted..

The bolded,
that is for men that keep shouting, "make money!! make money!!!"

pansophist:
The male brain is not designed to think in status, that's a female thing. But in the spirit of the question, I will probably becomes curious and wonder what made her migrate to someone I'm economically better than, that my sophisticated self could not offer.

The reverse actually happened to me. During uni, my girl stayed with me all through, and richer guys were coming for her, and she declined them all, making people wonder (even me) what she saw that made her stay. There is an old saying that says "lots of people are so poor, the only thing they have is money", which explains why a lady will leave a wealthy man for an ordinary one.

Which brings me to my last point. Women are naturally equipped with a visual lense to see past the wealth and determine if a man is quality enough. Same way heterosexual men do not find other men attractive, its also the same way men cannot see themselves through that lense women are naturally equipped with. Men also have their own lense they use in filtering women, a lense women will also never be able to see themselves from.

Everyone have three layers of visuality. Whom you are, how you see yourself, and how other people sees you. The way a man sees himself is not the same way women sees him. He might consider himself a speck, a ladies man, and women just will not feel him, same goes for women as well. So many hot single ladies but men just do not feel them. One of the superpower anyone could harness is to have the ability to know through which lense people view you from.

If you've ever wonder why someone is not feeling you no matter how good you are to them, it's simply because they could not see you in a favorable light through the scrutiny. These are reasons why women will leave rich men for average dude. Most women will choose Christian Ronaldo who is poor when you compare him to the older bald Jeff Bezos who is a billionaire. It is not only about the money, the money is merely a slice in the whole pie.

pansophist:
The male brain is not designed to think in status, that's a female thing. But in the spirit of the question, I will probably becomes curious and wonder what made her migrate to someone I'm economically better than, that my sophisticated self could not offer.

The reverse actually happened to me. During uni, my girl stayed with me all through, and richer guys were coming for her, and she declined them all, making people wonder (even me) what she saw that made her stay. There is an old saying that says "lots of people are so poor, the only thing they have is money", which explains why a lady will leave a wealthy man for an ordinary one.

Which brings me to my last point. Women are naturally equipped with a visual lense to see past the wealth and determine if a man is quality enough. Same way heterosexual men do not find other men attractive, its also the same way men cannot see themselves through that lense women are naturally equipped with. Men also have their own lense they use in filtering women, a lense women will also never be able to see themselves from.

Everyone have three layers of visuality. Whom you are, how you see yourself, and how other people sees you. The way a man sees himself is not the same way women sees him. He might consider himself a speck, a ladies man, and women just will not feel him, same goes for women as well. So many hot single ladies but men just do not feel them. One of the superpower anyone could harness is to have the ability to know through which lense people view you from.

If you've ever wonder why someone is not feeling you no matter how good you are to them, it's simply because they could not see you in a favorable light through the scrutiny. These are reasons why women will leave rich men for average dude. Most women will choose Christian Ronaldo who is poor when you compare him to the older bald Jeff Bezos who is a billionaire. It is not only about the money, the money is merely a slice in the whole pie.

Wow if I may ask, how does one have the ability to know the lense people view you from ?

Is her choice

Degrezhaa:
Wow if I may ask, how does one have the ability to know the lense people view you from ?

By their fruits you shall know them. In other words, by the way they treat you, you shall know which lense they are viewing you from. It also helps to develop your emotional intelligence, that it becomes sharp in detecting accurately what lense you are in.

People can fake what they say, but they mostly can't fake their actions towards you. Also trust your intuition, it is older that your conscious mind. If it feels a certain way, it probably that. It's that simple.

Who your ex gets married to is none of your business!

E no Concern me

pansophist:
The male brain is not designed to think in status, that's a female thing. But in the spirit of the question, I will probably becomes curious and wonder what made her migrate to someone I'm economically better than, that my sophisticated self could not offer.

The reverse actually happened to me. During uni, my girl stayed with me all through, and richer guys were coming for her, and she declined them all, making people wonder (even me) what she saw that made her stay. There is an old saying that says "lots of people are so poor, the only thing they have is money", which explains why a lady will leave a wealthy man for an ordinary one.

Which brings me to my last point. Women are naturally equipped with a visual lense to see past the wealth and determine if a man is quality enough. Same way heterosexual men do not find other men attractive, its also the same way men cannot see themselves through that lense women are naturally equipped with. Men also have their own lense they use in filtering women, a lense women will also never be able to see themselves from.

Everyone have three layers of visuality. Whom you are, how you see yourself, and how other people sees you. The way a man sees himself is not the same way women sees him. He might consider himself a speck, a ladies man, and women just will not feel him, same goes for women as well. So many hot single ladies but men just do not feel them. One of the superpower anyone could harness is to have the ability to know through which lense people view you from.

If you've ever wonder why someone is not feeling you no matter how good you are to them, it's simply because they could not see you in a favorable light through the scrutiny. These are reasons why women will leave rich men for average dude. Most women will choose Christian Ronaldo who is poor when you compare him to the older bald Jeff Bezos who is a billionaire. It is not only about the money, the money is merely a slice in the whole pie.

Well said

How is that my business?

romunu:
What if she finds somebody above you status?

That's also possible as well. What will your reaction be?