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Slimslimqq:
Dear Parents/Guardians,

I want to believe almost all of us has read or heard about how a young girl of 14yrs old has been defiled by a popular actor.
Whether *the story is true or not*, can we parents learn One or two more lessons from this pathetic story.

Firstly, We must acknowledge the fact that there are Pedophile in our society.

What is Pedophilia?
Pedophiliaalternatively spelt paedophilia) is a psychiatric disorder in which an adult or older adolescent experiences a primary or exclusive sexual attraction to prepubescent children.

The case mentioned above is *not the first but it can be the last if we all stand up to our responsibilities as Parents, and understand what a child is.

A child is a gift from God and He expect us as earthly guardians to take proper care of each and every one of them.

One of our major duty is to keep them away from this psychiatric patients called pedophile.
May God help us all
Below are children care tips

CHILD MOLESTATION!

Child Molestation is also known as child sexual abuse. It is a secret crime involving a range of indecent sexual activities between an adult and a child.

According to the National Violence Against Children Survey, it established that 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 10 boys experience sexual violence before the age of 18 in one way or the other.

TYPES OF MOLESTATION:
-Defilement
-Rape
-Fingering
-Making a child watch pornography
-Exposing the genital to kids
-Indecent touching
-handling etc

WHO COULD ABUSE YOUR CHILD?
ANYBODY
Studies show that over 95% of sexually abused children are abused by persons known or close to the child or the child's family.

ABUSERS ARE MOSTLY NOT STRANGERS.
They are right there in your house, co-tenants, family members, lesson teachers, neighbours. Their friends in school, hostel, classmates,class/school teachers, cousins, uncles, nephew, niece, fathers, step fathers, grand fathers, imams, Arabic teachers, choir masters, pastors, confidants, security guard, maids, family /school drivers, After school teachers, teachers, mummy's friend, daddy's friend, caregivers, strangers........ the list can go on.
Please, do not ask if any of the above is possible because, there is no case of any of the above that has not happened.

CAUSES OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE
Parental negligence, carelessness, nonchalant attitude.
It is as bad as No one can be trusted.
We have a child presently carrying a baby that belongs to her father.

OTHER CAUSES:
Absentee parents.
Parents who do not observe.
When the kids are not informed.....
What you watch with your kids.
Indecent dressing by our children.

WHERE CAN YOUR CHILD BE SEXUALLY ABUSED?
✓On your bed
✓Right under your nose, under your roof
✓In the school environment - class, toilet etc
✓Hostel
✓Parties
✓In their room (siblings)
✓Deserted/Abandoned places
✓ When you are distracted etc.

Perpetrators look for opportunities.
5mins is enough to cause a life long damage.

HOW DO PAEDOPHILES GET THE VICTIMS?
1.Grooming
2.Baits
a. Emotional bait
b. Gift bait
c. Financial bait
d. Familiarity & Respect bait.
3. Child grooming
Befriending and establishing an emotional connection with a child, and sometimes the family, to lower the child's inhibitions with the objective of sexual abuse. -Wikipedia-
Gaining the trust of a minor with the intention of having sex relationship with them.

HOW TO IDENTIFY A POSSIBLE ABUSER:
A. Always trying to be around your child or vice versa
B. Child feels uncomfortable when he/she sights the abuser or when the abuser is around.
C. Easily and conveniently accept to care for your child while you are away.
D. Can be hard on the child especially if the child is rejecting his moves.

If any of the above is observed, please, shine your eyes. Or sometimes, your child might feel uncomfortable/rejecting to go to the person when you send him or her Or even go for holiday.

Sexual abuse happens among siblings, set rules, separate their rooms, separate their beds.
We had a case of twins having sex with each other. When they were asked, they said: we see mum and dad do same.

Why should we be that careless?
Because of the carelessness of both parents, their innocent minds were polluted and their lives were destroyed.

WHAT A PERPETRATOR SAYS TO A CHILD WILLING TO SPEAK OUT:
•I will kill you
•You will die
•Your mummy will hate you
•Your mummy will beat you
•Your mummy will blame you.
•Your mummy and your daddy will die.
•He could cut the child, lick the blood and say: "this is a blood covenant between us, the day you tell is the day you die."

Teach your child The SRR action.

S - Shout/scream
R - Run
R - Report

POSSIBLE SIGNS THAT YOUR CHILD HAS BEEN ABUSED:
✓Isolation
✓Aggressiveness
✓Anxiety/Fear
✓Difficulty in walking
✓Sudden drop in academic performance
✓Poor social interaction
and so on.

OTHERS
✓Sexually Transmitted Diseases.

Their dressing is important, dress to cover them please. Teach them privacy. They must knock and seek permission before they enter your room.
It is wrong to bath them together irrespective of sex.

PLEASE NOTE!
children never lie about abuse If your child tells you someone is trying to mess with him or her.... Please believe the child and respond appropriately.

EFFECT OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE
-The abused child could become a serial abuser
-Depression
-Suicidal thoughts
-Stigma
-Guilt
-Lifelong psychological trauma
-Aggression
-Withdrawn
-Infected with STDs
Etc

THE BOYS
More often than not,we pay more attention to the girls than the boys.
With my years of experience, boys are mostly victims of anal sex but because we do not pay attention.
For them, healing is a terrible process.

WATCH OVER YOUR BOYS
Something might just be happening and you perceive not. Do not be a hard mum. Strike a balance between love and discipline.
Give your children Sex Education proportional to their age. A child of age 2 or even less is due for Sex Education.
Tell them what nobody must do with their body.
Tell them to speak out.
In the house, everyone must respect one another's privacy.

Child molestation is real, it is more painful if it happens under your very nose.
Please bond more with our Jewels, we want to receive them back to school bigger and better than they left. Above all, pray for them always. The child molesters will not go near them but we must play our part

Thank you all.

Keep staying safe.

Great article.

Some observations. Some balancing is required.

When you list fathers, list mothers too. It's a mental problem and therefore not gender specific. I've had mothers confess to me that they have an inexplicable sexual feeling for their male child, even though they haven't acted on it.

When you mention anal sex for underaged boys mention sexual molestation by women on these boys too. These are very rampant and remain largely unreported.

If only this write up can reach everyone

WiszyFraud:
Did you know??

A person turns 10,000 days old when they have lived 27 years, 4 months, and 15 days.

so nobody lives to ordinary 50,000 days. Chai

Ask4bigneyo:
Akn

wetin make u quote all that post??

Wow. This is a most read for all parents.
Thanks for this educative piece

Ask4bigneyo:
Copy and Paste

Im blessed just by reading it..

BigDawsNet:
Safe your kids

Get a cctv

May God protect our kids away from those psycho

Nice.! Parent children relationship matters alot too bro. Some parents you go see dem forming General on top their children head as if na military school.

Relationship like this can make a child to drift far away from parents.

You write full text book for girls come write a single sheet for boys.
Well done!

tunize:
Nice.! Parent children relationship matters alot too bro. Some parents you go see dem forming General on top their children head as if na military school.

Relationship like this can make a child to drift far away from parents.

Absolutely

Parent diz days don't really see their kids as friend rather apprentice that they can order to carry out an assignments even tho they love them more than anything in the world.

Bless u OP for this wonderful write-up. We all need to safe guard our children against such ugly occurrence...

"Heaven help those who help themselves"
"To be fore-warned is to be fore-armed"

Teaching one's kid is very important.
But many of this "suspicious" acts are harmless in the right contexts. Normal cheerfulness
around kids can be misread as "grooming".

You are better off locking up your kids and following them everywhere.

useless post, he didn't defile her Mr man, the mod should bring this rubbish post down

BigDawsNet:
For people who have domestic workers around.

Ok you mean something more like in home camera that you can Watch live from your smartphone. Yeah that’s now a norm in USA for homes with kids.

No Wonder AY the comedian wifey was traumatized....I'm sure there are more of this vice that gets public hearing or know.


@Seniorwriter

smile11s:
Ok you mean something more like in home camera that you can Watch live from your smartphone. Yeah that’s now a norm in USA for homes with kids.

It's common too in Nigeria

More of 13% Nigerians have CCTV fixed in their home

Slimslimqq:
Dear Parents/Guardians,

I want to believe almost all of us has read or heard about how a young girl of 14yrs old has been defiled by a popular actor.
Whether *the story is true or not*, can we parents learn One or two more lessons from this pathetic story.

Firstly, We must acknowledge the fact that there are Pedophile in our society.

What is Pedophilia?
Pedophiliaalternatively spelt paedophilia) is a psychiatric disorder in which an adult or older adolescent experiences a primary or exclusive sexual attraction to prepubescent children.

The case mentioned above is *not the first but it can be the last if we all stand up to our responsibilities as Parents, and understand what a child is.

A child is a gift from God and He expect us as earthly guardians to take proper care of each and every one of them.

One of our major duty is to keep them away from this psychiatric patients called pedophile.
May God help us all
Below are children care tips

CHILD MOLESTATION!

Child Molestation is also known as child sexual abuse. It is a secret crime involving a range of indecent sexual activities between an adult and a child.

According to the National Violence Against Children Survey, it established that 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 10 boys experience sexual violence before the age of 18 in one way or the other.

TYPES OF MOLESTATION:
-Defilement
-Rape
-Fingering
-Making a child watch pornography
-Exposing the genital to kids
-Indecent touching
-handling etc

WHO COULD ABUSE YOUR CHILD?
ANYBODY
Studies show that over 95% of sexually abused children are abused by persons known or close to the child or the child's family.

ABUSERS ARE MOSTLY NOT STRANGERS.
They are right there in your house, co-tenants, family members, lesson teachers, neighbours. Their friends in school, hostel, classmates,class/school teachers, cousins, uncles, nephew, niece, fathers, step fathers, grand fathers, imams, Arabic teachers, choir masters, pastors, confidants, security guard, maids, family /school drivers, After school teachers, teachers, mummy's friend, daddy's friend, caregivers, strangers........ the list can go on.
Please, do not ask if any of the above is possible because, there is no case of any of the above that has not happened.

CAUSES OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE
Parental negligence, carelessness, nonchalant attitude.
It is as bad as No one can be trusted.
We have a child presently carrying a baby that belongs to her father.

OTHER CAUSES:
Absentee parents.
Parents who do not observe.
When the kids are not informed.....
What you watch with your kids.
Indecent dressing by our children.

WHERE CAN YOUR CHILD BE SEXUALLY ABUSED?
✓On your bed
✓Right under your nose, under your roof
✓In the school environment - class, toilet etc
✓Hostel
✓Parties
✓In their room (siblings)
✓Deserted/Abandoned places
✓ When you are distracted etc.

Perpetrators look for opportunities.
5mins is enough to cause a life long damage.

HOW DO PAEDOPHILES GET THE VICTIMS?
1.Grooming
2.Baits
a. Emotional bait
b. Gift bait
c. Financial bait
d. Familiarity & Respect bait.
3. Child grooming
Befriending and establishing an emotional connection with a child, and sometimes the family, to lower the child's inhibitions with the objective of sexual abuse. -Wikipedia-
Gaining the trust of a minor with the intention of having sex relationship with them.

HOW TO IDENTIFY A POSSIBLE ABUSER:
A. Always trying to be around your child or vice versa
B. Child feels uncomfortable when he/she sights the abuser or when the abuser is around.
C. Easily and conveniently accept to care for your child while you are away.
D. Can be hard on the child especially if the child is rejecting his moves.

If any of the above is observed, please, shine your eyes. Or sometimes, your child might feel uncomfortable/rejecting to go to the person when you send him or her Or even go for holiday.

Sexual abuse happens among siblings, set rules, separate their rooms, separate their beds.
We had a case of twins having sex with each other. When they were asked, they said: we see mum and dad do same.

Why should we be that careless?
Because of the carelessness of both parents, their innocent minds were polluted and their lives were destroyed.

WHAT A PERPETRATOR SAYS TO A CHILD WILLING TO SPEAK OUT:
•I will kill you
•You will die
•Your mummy will hate you
•Your mummy will beat you
•Your mummy will blame you.
•Your mummy and your daddy will die.
•He could cut the child, lick the blood and say: "this is a blood covenant between us, the day you tell is the day you die."

Teach your child The SRR action.

S - Shout/scream
R - Run
R - Report

POSSIBLE SIGNS THAT YOUR CHILD HAS BEEN ABUSED:
✓Isolation
✓Aggressiveness
✓Anxiety/Fear
✓Difficulty in walking
✓Sudden drop in academic performance
✓Poor social interaction
and so on.

OTHERS
✓Sexually Transmitted Diseases.

Their dressing is important, dress to cover them please. Teach them privacy. They must knock and seek permission before they enter your room.
It is wrong to bath them together irrespective of sex.

PLEASE NOTE!
children never lie about abuse If your child tells you someone is trying to mess with him or her.... Please believe the child and respond appropriately.

EFFECT OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE
-The abused child could become a serial abuser
-Depression
-Suicidal thoughts
-Stigma
-Guilt
-Lifelong psychological trauma
-Aggression
-Withdrawn
-Infected with STDs
Etc

THE BOYS
More often than not,we pay more attention to the girls than the boys.
With my years of experience, boys are mostly victims of anal sex but because we do not pay attention.
For them, healing is a terrible process.

WATCH OVER YOUR BOYS
Something might just be happening and you perceive not. Do not be a hard mum. Strike a balance between love and discipline.
Give your children Sex Education proportional to their age. A child of age 2 or even less is due for Sex Education.
Tell them what nobody must do with their body.
Tell them to speak out.
In the house, everyone must respect one another's privacy.

Child molestation is real, it is more painful if it happens under your very nose.
Please bond more with our Jewels, we want to receive them back to school bigger and better than they left. Above all, pray for them always. The child molesters will not go near them but we must play our part

Thank you all.

Keep staying safe.

great write up

fathers, step fathers, grand fathers

So mothers, step-mothers and grand mothers are free from this?

But this happens in the north all in the name of marriage

datola:
All these strange things are signs of the end time. May we never be victims of the vices of the enemy.

Amen to your prayers but please leave end time out of dis.....I used to have an uncle that derived joy from pressing our breast when we were small, and that was many years ago, the idiot is late now, only God can forgive him

Solexgzy:
great write up

Ask4bigneyo:
Akn

hstar:
Thanks for the fantastic write up

You people had to quote the long write-up to to say something as short as this! If everybody quote the write-up like this, how will others read through the thread?

Slimslimqq:
I am also a victim of sexual abuse. That's more reason I had to create this thread, so a lot of parents can learn to guide and educate their children /wards

What do you mean by victim of sexual abuse. I am assuming you're a male. I honestly want to understand

Mustiboy:
My aunt sexually abused me at a young age, although[b] I wasn't a virgin when she did. I was age 8 then.[/b]

I told no one till this day, but she didn't threaten me.

You weren't a virgin at age 8?

merits:
the person above is me.me I have nothing to say rather than to congratulate me to be there for myself at this crucia time.

Lol

shegun4sur:
What do you mean by victim of sexual abuse. I am assuming you're a male. 8 honestly want to understand

Males can't be sexually abused?

DeeMain:
Great article.

Some observations. Some balancing is required.

When you list fathers, list mothers too. It's a mental problem and therefore not gender specific. I've had mothers confess to me that they have an inexplicable sexual feeling for their male child, even though they haven't acted on it.

When you mention anal sex for underaged boys mention sexual molestation by women on these boys too. These are very rampant and remain largely unreported.

True.

Slimslimqq:
I am also a victim of sexual abuse. That's more reason I had to create this thread, so a lot of parents can learn to guide and educate their children /wards

Sorry for your bad terrible experience. That's how one house made at abuja convince my elder sis to com and suck her breast.

When I saw it , something told me this thing is not normal but my elder sister say I should come and we were sucking Hausa girl breast.

Pedophile everywhere

Slimslimqq:
Dear Parents/Guardians,

I want to believe almost all of us has read or heard about how a young girl of 14yrs old has been defiled by a popular actor.
Whether *the story is true or not*, can we parents learn One or two more lessons from this pathetic story.

Firstly, We must acknowledge the fact that there are Pedophile in our society.

What is Pedophilia?
Pedophiliaalternatively spelt paedophilia) is a psychiatric disorder in which an adult or older adolescent experiences a primary or exclusive sexual attraction to prepubescent children.

The case mentioned above is *not the first but it can be the last if we all stand up to our responsibilities as Parents, and understand what a child is.

A child is a gift from God and He expect us as earthly guardians to take proper care of each and every one of them.

One of our major duty is to keep them away from this psychiatric patients called pedophile.
May God help us all
Below are children care tips

CHILD MOLESTATION!

Child Molestation is also known as child sexual abuse. It is a secret crime involving a range of indecent sexual activities between an adult and a child.

According to the National Violence Against Children Survey, it established that 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 10 boys experience sexual violence before the age of 18 in one way or the other.

TYPES OF MOLESTATION:
-Defilement
-Rape
-Fingering
-Making a child watch pornography
-Exposing the genital to kids
-Indecent touching
-handling etc

WHO COULD ABUSE YOUR CHILD?
ANYBODY
Studies show that over 95% of sexually abused children are abused by persons known or close to the child or the child's family.

ABUSERS ARE MOSTLY NOT STRANGERS.
They are right there in your house, co-tenants, family members, lesson teachers, neighbours. Their friends in school, hostel, classmates,class/school teachers, cousins, uncles, nephew, niece, fathers, step fathers, grand fathers, imams, Arabic teachers, choir masters, pastors, confidants, security guard, maids, family /school drivers, After school teachers, teachers, mummy's friend, daddy's friend, caregivers, strangers........ the list can go on.
Please, do not ask if any of the above is possible because, there is no case of any of the above that has not happened.

CAUSES OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE
Parental negligence, carelessness, nonchalant attitude.
It is as bad as No one can be trusted.
We have a child presently carrying a baby that belongs to her father.

OTHER CAUSES:
Absentee parents.
Parents who do not observe.
When the kids are not informed.....
What you watch with your kids.
Indecent dressing by our children.

WHERE CAN YOUR CHILD BE SEXUALLY ABUSED?
✓On your bed
✓Right under your nose, under your roof
✓In the school environment - class, toilet etc
✓Hostel
✓Parties
✓In their room (siblings)
✓Deserted/Abandoned places
✓ When you are distracted etc.

Perpetrators look for opportunities.
5mins is enough to cause a life long damage.

HOW DO PAEDOPHILES GET THE VICTIMS?
1.Grooming
2.Baits
a. Emotional bait
b. Gift bait
c. Financial bait
d. Familiarity & Respect bait.
3. Child grooming
Befriending and establishing an emotional connection with a child, and sometimes the family, to lower the child's inhibitions with the objective of sexual abuse. -Wikipedia-
Gaining the trust of a minor with the intention of having sex relationship with them.

HOW TO IDENTIFY A POSSIBLE ABUSER:
A. Always trying to be around your child or vice versa
B. Child feels uncomfortable when he/she sights the abuser or when the abuser is around.
C. Easily and conveniently accept to care for your child while you are away.
D. Can be hard on the child especially if the child is rejecting his moves.

If any of the above is observed, please, shine your eyes. Or sometimes, your child might feel uncomfortable/rejecting to go to the person when you send him or her Or even go for holiday.

Sexual abuse happens among siblings, set rules, separate their rooms, separate their beds.
We had a case of twins having sex with each other. When they were asked, they said: we see mum and dad do same.

Why should we be that careless?
Because of the carelessness of both parents, their innocent minds were polluted and their lives were destroyed.

WHAT A PERPETRATOR SAYS TO A CHILD WILLING TO SPEAK OUT:
•I will kill you
•You will die
•Your mummy will hate you
•Your mummy will beat you
•Your mummy will blame you.
•Your mummy and your daddy will die.
•He could cut the child, lick the blood and say: "this is a blood covenant between us, the day you tell is the day you die."

Teach your child The SRR action.

S - Shout/scream
R - Run
R - Report

POSSIBLE SIGNS THAT YOUR CHILD HAS BEEN ABUSED:
✓Isolation
✓Aggressiveness
✓Anxiety/Fear
✓Difficulty in walking
✓Sudden drop in academic performance
✓Poor social interaction
and so on.

OTHERS
✓Sexually Transmitted Diseases.

Their dressing is important, dress to cover them please. Teach them privacy. They must knock and seek permission before they enter your room.
It is wrong to bath them together irrespective of sex.

PLEASE NOTE!
children never lie about abuse If your child tells you someone is trying to mess with him or her.... Please believe the child and respond appropriately.

EFFECT OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE
-The abused child could become a serial abuser
-Depression
-Suicidal thoughts
-Stigma
-Guilt
-Lifelong psychological trauma
-Aggression
-Withdrawn
-Infected with STDs
Etc

THE BOYS
More often than not,we pay more attention to the girls than the boys.
With my years of experience, boys are mostly victims of anal sex but because we do not pay attention.
For them, healing is a terrible process.

WATCH OVER YOUR BOYS
Something might just be happening and you perceive not. Do not be a hard mum. Strike a balance between love and discipline.
Give your children Sex Education proportional to their age. A child of age 2 or even less is due for Sex Education.
Tell them what nobody must do with their body.
Tell them to speak out.
In the house, everyone must respect one another's privacy.

Child molestation is real, it is more painful if it happens under your very nose.
Please bond more with our Jewels, we want to receive them back to school bigger and better than they left. Above all, pray for them always. The child molesters will not go near them but we must play our part

Thank you all.

Keep staying safe.

Thanks for the fantastic write up

shegun4sur:
What do you mean by victim of sexual abuse. I am assuming you're a male. 8 honestly want to understand

What do mean?
Male don't get abused

Good write up.

Even some parents are deliberately exposing their kids .

Imagine oh naija ladies are now bringing their kid's to twerk on Instagram.

I know you won't believe so let me post it

Instagram should be blocked in Nigeria i swear

Lagoon0:
Sorry for your bad terrible experience. That's how one house made at abuja convince my elder sis to com and suck her breast.

When I saw it , something told me this thing is not normal but my elder sister say I should come and we were sucking Hausa girl breast.

Pedophile everywhere

Damn! Like how old were guys?