Mustiboy:


Exactly.

I spoke with a mother some time last year, and what she said shocked me. She said she wouldn't mind her kids doing internet fraud as long as it brings them money. She said, after all, they are only helping Nigeria to collect back the wealth our colonial masters stole from us. Such disgusting mentality.


I wonder what parents teach their kids these days, no morals whatsoever. Have you noticed how kids just walk by you these days and don't greet? I personally don't mind that as the greetings don't feed me; however, it makes me reminisce the times when we greeted every elderly person we came by, not minding if we encountered as many as 20 before getting to our destinations. We never got tired of greeting. Up till now, I'll greet you as long as you're older.


All in all, I still feel the sitting room is the right place parents can leverage to instill manners into their kids. Let siblibgs bond together and spread love. I've seen brothers and sisters who hate each other's guts, and I believe it's their parents who failed to help them bond.

why should kids greet the elders that bleeped up this country?

DrFunmisticGlow:
why should kids greet the elders that bleeped up this country?

Ah

DrFunmisticGlow:
why should kids greet the elders that bleeped up this country?

You are thinking from a gynocentric Egalitarianistic-Equalism frame of mind working with these secularism dogma as your dominant ideology, sure western societies that don't have Culture have shifted from poliltcal conservativism to radical liberalism

We can see the results
1) Moral decadence via hook up culture
2) Decline in marriages and child birth
3)High rate of Divorce at 50% rate and women initiating about 75% of the divorce
4) 40% of children are born out of wedlock and In black American communities it's 60%

These all lead to the destruction of family values and units and children from single motherhood households tend to be criminals, drug addicts, strippers, illiterate, commit suicide,etc


At least our elders have kept family values intact and there is no incentive to divorce because our laws are still Patriachal

When there were no gadgets while we were little

The unity was always there
We play together and eat together

Very good observation. This is what this age lacks which sources for continual moral decadency

Hhmmm, in my own father's house, whenever I go there.... Everyone just do your thing... Mind your own business.... Long as you don't cross anybody's path.... We all happy fam.... No need to be extra nice... I don't even like it myself.... I looovee my privacy more

SportsHD:
Morals and standards are getting Ffucked day by day. And it ain't social media.

Not Right, Sir!! Social media killed Morals n many other things in Nigeria!!
You will see young pple posting Rubbish in dier WhatsApp status n even 6,7 yr olds watch it with dier parents..
Twerking videos, Immoral challenges on Instagram,tik tok, etc going on n everybody, including small children watches. So Dats it..

By kids, do you mean teenagers?

Before playstation and cheap phones, teenagers were always known to stay in their rooms. This is the time their lives get busier (school), then you add puberty to that and it doesn't get any easier until they are a bit older.

During mine, mum would ask my brothers to sneak on me and find out what I am doing. Then she moved to making me eat and stay in the living room. It wasn't a pleasant experience for anyone.

The best is not to alienate them.A couple of years more, they are back to socialising but not like before. With the amount of content these days, why should I watch the same thing with everyone?

Na Buhari and Desmond Elliott cause am

We need more intelligent discourses like this on Nairaland.

Mustiboy, You were making sense till you got to the threat. What do you mean that your child cannot have their privacy "under your roof"? Do you realise that people are different and some people like their PRIVACY? Even if you want to tell them to join, can't you do it with love and try and make them see reasons why they should?

It's your type that think because you are giving someone money you can do and undo and control them. People like you, when your kids have their own money eh, dem go show you! E go shock you!

Tv brought family together....phones took them apart

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Moral decadence is high

Kobicove:
Your observation is true, nowadays everyone just minds his own business.

When I was growing up I remember we used to converge in the living room to watch television especially those NTA soap operas and dramas of those days

you know it. the days of New masquerade chief zebrudaya, superstory, thislife,etc

I'm afraid you've just described how I live my life OP always in my room and only comes out when it's time to eat or do some minor things my mom always tells me to engage with em and the rest of the fams in whatever they're doing but ain't never felt the need to. Perhaps it isn't too late to change aye

Now everybody will be pressing phone..2 year old has his handset

budaatum:


In a sense, perhaps. Though, in my day, books served the same purpose. I mean, imagine my parents sitting me down in front of Nollywood when I can be reading a good book, I know which I would prefer, just as I am certain I would prefer coming on here to read intelligent posts like yours instead of Nollywood.

I was lucky. There was no Nollywood in my days, to start with, and telly even was no more than one single NTA channel, so my dad and I got quality time discussing books and world events courtesy of the BBC World Service and Voice of America and other radio stations from around the world as received on our Blaupunkt (see photo), while ma, a nurse, was busy doing shifts

If parents listen to their kids more their kids might talk to them more, is what I think.

Wow!

Nice to see someone like me here.

I also grew up listening to BBC and VoA with my Dad.

We had TV, but I listened to the radio more.

Now I have an internet radio app on my phone and still listen to BBC.

Rest on, Dad. I miss you loads!

obidevine:
We need more intelligent discourses like this on Nairaland.

unfortunately, the mod and owner of the forum get paid by traffic news

From every issue stated,I think everybody having phone doing not just only social media thing is the problem even when they gather,u will see everybody with their phone receiving notification
Notice:do u know they bond together when they are still kids,when they don't have phone of their own

Very educating...

Kobicove:
Your observation is true, nowadays everyone just minds his own business.

When I was growing up I remember we used to converge in the living room to watch television especially those NTA soap operas and dramas of those days

Yeah especially Frank Olise every Sunday

@OP!! Simply blame d Social media because in most homes diz days, Mothers re on Facebook n WhatsApp watching videos while Fathers may be in Vanguard or Punchng.com following online news during dier spare time!!

No time for their children!!
Later, dey will now blame Schools!!

Also, I Feel it's a Generational phenomenon!!
The world is moving away from d Circle of 'Responsibity' into a circle of 'Terrible irresponsibility n Anything goes'..

Dats y you see d rate of divorce, homosexuality, cheating in marriages, hypocrisy,etc is going High..

Our Family values is no taken seriously!! It is wat it is..

It's bound to happen. Best to accept it as the new norm.

Expect more changes in the next two years. But after that love will come back to families. People are too stressed up, no one is reasoning well any more, parents only want to make sure the kids eat at least n b getting to other things brother strength don finish o. Buhari brought much suffering joke aside..people are loosing hope everyday. Imagine a state dropping thousands of workers when they were elected to minimize unemployment n reason being that there is no money to pay. And if a state is such frustrated what do u say about families? Brother I'm not just happy, parents are going through alot this period. Pray for them

Things fall apart bro.

Same for my dad.
We must rush out to welcome him when we heard the sound of his car horn and if we don't do that then he felt disrespected.

I miss the old days.

Drabeey:
Let the new world come in peace and stop basking in old euphoria

And let the vices and failures that comes with it come in peace.
OP is particularly right on the subject of greeting, It has everything to do with respecting elders which children of this age lack and the beginning of moral decadence in the society.

Am just thinking out loud on my mind. How can I avail my kids the opportunity to enjoy the kind of sweet family life I grew up in?

This generation is fast drifting Into the shadow of moral bankruptcy.

Family ties is now almost gone extinct.

I think all this apply to those living in 2 3 4 bedroom flat,if na room and parlour abi one room dem no option,they end gather money to fuel I better pass my neighbor generator to watch BBN naija got talent show

Very true. My kids are permanently on their phones. Netflix (family plan) is to blame and unlimited wifi. The boy is on Playstation online, you will only hear his voice from his room when talking with his online pals on "fortnight". You hardly see them unless pizza time.
Thank God for their grandpa's house nearby. He does devotions (Bible stuff) with them on Saturday mornings.