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Why Ladies Hardly Change Their Surnames After Marriage These Days by BluntCrazeMan: 5:47am On Feb 04, 2021
In this Era of NIN, BVN and so on,, and with the amount of stress involved in doing even the simplest of things in Nigeria these days, changing of names on official documents had actually become very difficult.

First of all, you still have to swear affidavit as it used to be in the olden days, and then proceed to get the copy of the Newspaper Publication, and accompany all of these documents with your Marriage Certificate before you can even start to proceed with anything.

This is actually when your real stress starts.

You have to go to the NIN Office to change your surname, then you go to your bank in order to change your surname in the BVN, and then go back to change your surname in all your bank accounts, before going back to change the surname at your place of work.
(You might also have to go to your Network-Providers of your GSM lines in order to change your surname there, and also at FRSC Office in order to change your Surname on your Driving License)
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After checking the stresses involved in all these, you would decide to continue answering your Maiden name in your official documents without even bothering to add the husband's surname.
You only answer your husband's surname in unofficial places that doesn't require ID-Card or Documented-Identity verifications.

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Until that time comes when it becomes very very easy to change someone's name at one central source-point, and the change-of-name becomes Officially valid to be used anywhere and everywhere without being questioned, then people can comfortably and conveniently begin to change their names as they wished which still falls within the contents of the Law, and also, married ladies can easily change their surnames Officially to their husbands surnames without adding anything to it.
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In Summary:
What I am trying to say is that the Nigerian system itself is making the process of Name-Changing very very difficult highly stressful, even for people who are very willing to change their own names due to some crucial important reasons.

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Re: Why Ladies Hardly Change Their Surnames After Marriage These Days by BluntCrazeMan: 5:48am On Feb 04, 2021
The Argument In This Write-up Is Very Valid.
So Please, Stop Blaming The Ladies.
They Are Willing, But The Process Is Stressful.
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Blame The Crippled System.!!

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Re: Why Ladies Hardly Change Their Surnames After Marriage These Days by BluntCrazeMan: 5:55am On Feb 04, 2021
omonighoblessing:
I am currently facing this problem right now... I have done the affidavit, I have done the news paper publication, I went to nin to do my registration and nin is saying that the bank has to change my name first on my bvn before I use that name unless I use my maiden name. And the bank is saying get the new name from the nin then we change it. Just imagine the fix I am in
Na Waa Ooo.
Why would the NIN demand that the name on the BVN should be changed first?
NIN doesn't require BVN..
Rather, it is BVN that requires NIN.
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Why is it that our Nigerian system and our Government always making things very difficult for the citizens?
Who did we offend in this country?
NoToPile:
I have walked the walk it took me more than 6 months.

My eye saw wheen, GTB was using me to play ping pong because of BVN change.

First swear affidavit
Newspaper
NIMC - this one took less than a week for the change to be effected paid 1k charges.

After NIMC came out took it to the bank as a valid ID containing the new name, thats where wahala start. BVN change, they frustrated me to the extent that I had to carry my little baby to the
Bank.

Everything is so stressful in this country.
Na Waaa Ooo..!!
Nezzjnr:

Ohhhhh

I went with my International passport as govt issued ID

That change of name is seriously a big issue.... One man went to court to get an Affidavit... They told him to go back to Newspaper company get a name publication... He did so... He came back again to get his name changed... They told him to get a Govt valid ID.... He pleaded with his soul and blood... It fell on deaf ears.. He just threw the whole documents on the Customer care attendant table and left out of annoyance

A well aged man ooo.... It was seriously frustrating
I can relate very well.

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Re: Why Ladies Hardly Change Their Surnames After Marriage These Days by BluntCrazeMan: 5:55am On Feb 04, 2021
Seun
Re: Why Ladies Hardly Change Their Surnames After Marriage These Days by Cutehector(m): 6:01am On Feb 04, 2021
This shouldnt make one to relax in changing their names.

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Re: Why Ladies Hardly Change Their Surnames After Marriage These Days by BluntCrazeMan: 6:29am On Feb 04, 2021
Cutehector:
This shouldnt make one to relax in changing their names.
A Typical Average Nigerian Person doesn't like Stress..
Now, imagine A Typical Average Nigerian Lady!!
grin grin grin cheesy cheesy

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Re: Why Ladies Hardly Change Their Surnames After Marriage These Days by zeeatallied: 6:38am On Feb 04, 2021
Nigeria has been going backwards since 1960...argue with your keyboard

Meanwhile who the hell needs a name change when you are not processing your getaway visa?

SMH

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Re: Why Ladies Hardly Change Their Surnames After Marriage These Days by Cutehector(m): 6:38am On Feb 04, 2021
BluntCrazeMan:
A Typical Average Nigerian Person doesn't like Stress..
Now, imagine A Typical Average Nigerian Lady!!
grin grin grin cheesy cheesy
if i can go through the stress of paying Her bride price, TF should she be lazy to change her name

I will not tolerate a lousy wife.

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Re: Why Ladies Hardly Change Their Surnames After Marriage These Days by YoonSung83: 7:05am On Feb 04, 2021
I thought I was the only one who noticed it

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Re: Why Ladies Hardly Change Their Surnames After Marriage These Days by bukatyne(f): 7:22am On Feb 04, 2021
OP,

You are right and it would get worse.

We need a central database for name change.

If you get married now, you change your name at the bank you did the BVN and advise other banks, change your name at NIN, Tax office, passport, work/school, voter's card etc.

We copied the West in means of identification, we did not copy their centralized database embarassed

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Re: Why Ladies Hardly Change Their Surnames After Marriage These Days by LMS1(m): 7:55am On Feb 04, 2021
at least they can change nicknames on Facebook easily grin

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Re: Why Ladies Hardly Change Their Surnames After Marriage These Days by Klass99(f): 8:49am On Feb 04, 2021
smiley

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Re: Why Ladies Hardly Change Their Surnames After Marriage These Days by Mindlog: 8:56am On Feb 04, 2021
The system was designed to be stressful.

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Re: Why Ladies Hardly Change Their Surnames After Marriage These Days by bukatyne(f): 9:02am On Feb 04, 2021
Mindlog:
The system was designed to be stressful.

Hahahahahaha!

That's how civil service milks the populace.

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Re: Why Ladies Hardly Change Their Surnames After Marriage These Days by dangotesmummy: 10:11am On Feb 04, 2021
Hmm
Re: Why Ladies Hardly Change Their Surnames After Marriage These Days by ForeThinker: 10:12am On Feb 04, 2021
Bcux ......

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Re: Why Ladies Hardly Change Their Surnames After Marriage These Days by Brownpeanut(f): 10:12am On Feb 04, 2021
If, eventually, I get married to Dangote, I will change my name under 2 days

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Re: Why Ladies Hardly Change Their Surnames After Marriage These Days by Babatindan: 10:12am On Feb 04, 2021
The stress involved would discourage u.

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Re: Why Ladies Hardly Change Their Surnames After Marriage These Days by Brownpeanut(f): 10:12am On Feb 04, 2021
It's a very hectic process.

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Re: Why Ladies Hardly Change Their Surnames After Marriage These Days by Nobody: 10:13am On Feb 04, 2021
It is because most of the men they are married to are average or poor men.

I haven't seen a woman married to an influential family complaining about the stress of change of name.

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Re: Why Ladies Hardly Change Their Surnames After Marriage These Days by InvertedHammer: 10:13am On Feb 04, 2021
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Nigeria is a useless country.

Q.E.D

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Re: Why Ladies Hardly Change Their Surnames After Marriage These Days by Mrlouis: 10:13am On Feb 04, 2021
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Re: Why Ladies Hardly Change Their Surnames After Marriage These Days by Kwamecron(m): 10:13am On Feb 04, 2021
Not legally married




Baby mama’s

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Re: Why Ladies Hardly Change Their Surnames After Marriage These Days by BizBayo: 10:13am On Feb 04, 2021
Hnmm
Re: Why Ladies Hardly Change Their Surnames After Marriage These Days by Kingpele(m): 10:15am On Feb 04, 2021
Hahaha it of no use ,but it strange somehow knowing that your wife is still using her maiden name in all her official engagement ...after going through the trouble of paying her brideprice.but for me it ok cos of the stress involved

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Re: Why Ladies Hardly Change Their Surnames After Marriage These Days by YoonSung84: 10:15am On Feb 04, 2021
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Re: Why Ladies Hardly Change Their Surnames After Marriage These Days by GodtfatheBLUE: 10:15am On Feb 04, 2021
It's wrong though

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Re: Why Ladies Hardly Change Their Surnames After Marriage These Days by YorubaPrince: 10:16am On Feb 04, 2021
grin

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