Mustiboy:


Exactly.

I spoke with a mother some time last year, and what she said shocked me. She said she wouldn't mind her kids doing internet fraud as long as it brings them money. She said, after all, they are only helping Nigeria to collect back the wealth our colonial masters stole from us. Such disgusting mentality.


I wonder what parents teach their kids these days, no morals whatsoever. Have you noticed how kids just walk by you these days and don't greet? I personally don't mind that as the greetings don't feed me; however, it makes me reminisce the times when we greeted every elderly person we came by, not minding if we encountered as many as 20 before getting to our destinations. We never got tired of greeting. Up till now, I'll greet you as long as you're older.


All in all, I still feel the sitting room is the right place parents can leverage to instill manners into their kids. Let siblibgs bond together and spread love. I've seen brothers and sisters who hate each other's guts, and I believe it's their parents who failed to help them bond.

CharisEleos:
What do you expect in an era of computer technology where every one has access to and the sole control over movies and programs of their choice without having to be saddled with what every other person is watching even when its sore boring.

Technology has made us lose the bond we had and some common interests which shared which brought us together as a family like the days of Robbin hood, Telematch, Center Ring and those homely movies with the invention of mobile phones and Data bands. Giving them the monopoly to watch whatever they like at anytime without interference. And now all everyone wants is be on their own without any "disturbance" from family members or anyone.

I really miss those days. Even when you converge these days as a family, you'll still see two or three people getting drifted right there and getting so engrossed in their devices. So while they are physically with you, their mind is far away. So what's the point? Better to be secluded. lol...
I'll blame it all on technology.

Though, I won't encourage that in my own home and the change has to start with me by Immediately giving up social media life once I get married.

So help me God.

chatinent:
It's not always about the sitting room where parents struggle to remember morals.


There should be an organized family meeting regularly.


Parents are failing woefully in their responsibilities..most parents even make their children feel if they don't hustle and become rich like neighbour James’ son, they'll be nothing to write home about.

Mustiboy:
I've noticed how family convergence in the sitting room is quickly going into extinction. Despite that I had a playstation and personal computer while growing up, it was deemed disrespectful to remain in the room at night while everyone was in the sitting room.

Mum would make us watch Yoruba movies with her and harness those moments to bark life lessons at us, citing the moral lessons in each movie we watched. Dad, on the other hand, would ask how school went, ask after our friends, and stuffs like that. You must go out to welcome him at the sound of his car horn.

Today, you see kids whiling away on social media with the door to their room locked, not minding the presence of their father in the house. Not even the reality shows playing in the sitting rooms interest them anymore. How then will they bond with the rest of the family?

Kids nowadays can stay in their room all day and would only come out to eat, then they go back inside.


Being together in the sitting room is a great opportunity for family bonding. Some parents even allow locked doors in their house. You can't be my child and have your door locked. That's a privacy you won't be privileged to have under my roof. You must come to the sitting room to bond with your siblings and we your parents.

What do you think guys? Is social media the sole reason for kids locking themselves up in their room these days?

Mustiboy:


It's 80% social media.

People are getting exposed to nonsense these days.

Mustiboy:


It's 80% social media.

People are getting exposed to nonsense these days.

DrFunmisticGlow:
why should kids greet the elders that bleeped up this country?

okoroemeka:
my son and daughter in the university don't even bother to come out to watch dstv in the sitting room,they will press their phone until it runs down and they will plug power bank until it runs down,then you see them out from there rooms

okoroemeka:
my son and daughter in the university don't even bother to come out to watch dstv in the sitting room,they will press their phone until it runs down and they will plug power bank until it runs down,then you see them out from there rooms

Myer:


How is making your children success-oriented an immoral thing?

Perhaps you assume that all success is ill-gotten?

Ishilove:

We are on the same page and the same wavelength. Even till now I greet total strangers as long as they are older than I. The kids these days are nothing to write home about. There are some that will meet you on a pathway and expect you to give way for them.

I even had to warn the ones in my neighborhood that they are not to look at me if they have no intention of greeting. Eyes front!

It's quite shameful how this present generation of parents are bringing up their children.

DrFunmisticGlow:
why should kids greet the elders that bleeped up this country?

Mustiboy:
I've noticed how family convergence in the sitting room is quickly going into extinction. Despite that I had a playstation and personal computer while growing up, it was deemed disrespectful to remain in the room at night while everyone was in the sitting room.

Mum would make us watch Yoruba movies with her and harness those moments to bark life lessons at us, citing the moral lessons in each movie we watched. Dad, on the other hand, would ask how school went, ask after our friends, and stuffs like that. You must go out to welcome him at the sound of his car horn.

Today, you see kids whiling away on social media with the door to their room locked, not minding the presence of their father in the house. Not even the reality shows playing in the sitting rooms interest them anymore. How then will they bond with the rest of the family?

Kids nowadays can stay in their room all day and would only come out to eat, then they go back inside.


Being together in the sitting room is a great opportunity for family bonding. Some parents even allow locked doors in their house. You can't be my child and have your door locked. That's a privacy you won't be privileged to have under my roof. You must come to the sitting room to bond with your siblings and we your parents.

What do you think guys? Is social media the sole reason for kids locking themselves up in their room these days?

Farki:


This pressure leads to people like Uduak who kill and commit all sorts of atrocities to please others especially immediate family and in-laws.

franklingud:
My bro, many families have lost that sense of bonding. Only the word of God can bring it back.

BRATISLAVA:


Common politeness has been lost through parents feeling their children owe no one anything. That is true, but the end results are disastrous in the community project called Nigeria.

Modern children today are altogether way too disrespectful, and it is their parents that encourage and enforce the disrespect. How many parents teach their children to greet or how to be polite nowadays? They feel they want them to have a better life, and to them that means they lose societal norms and become aberrant, sometimes downright rude.

This lack of greeting/respect is noticeable in a particular socioeconomic background.

savcy:
You're quite observant. I'm not saying that the manner with which kids were raised in those days was particularly perfect, but this tilting to the Western way is dangerous. The results are there for all to see. Our family system is fractured and, I don't even think there's a way back from here. The change is irreversible. It's only a matter of time before a 10 year old would address his father's mate by his first name. The difference in social orientation between Nigerian kids born in 2000 upwards and downwards is so different that, you just don't understand it anymore. 80s and 90s kids know to greet seniors, stand up, if you're sitting down, before shaking an elderly person. They know to leave the room when elders are engaged in a discussion. 2000s kids don't know anything about these things because the system that's supposed to introduce these etiquettes to them is destroyed Parents now just want to buy every gadget available for their kids so they can be distracted enough to give them some peace and quiet.