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If I were in his shoes, I'm divorcing immediately.

UncleKoboko:


That's your cross to carry now.

If the new testament can correct many things in the old testament, then common sense should tell you that not everything you read in that story book is applicable to today's world.
Times are changing...
Change is constant...

With the level of immortalities in our society today, it'll be very stupîd of anyone to practice sex after marriage, especially with many of these girls that already have numerous body counts.
Most of them don't even have wombs again due to numerous abortions.
These waste products/use and dump girls/second hand material are only waiting for one UNFORTUNATE bastard to go down on his knees to still beg them for marriage.
I can never marry a girl I don't know her family history and sexual histories.
We must spend times together.
I must see EVERYTHING and be satisfied before concluding. Seeing everything DOESN'T really mean sex is inclusive...

If you claim to be a virgin, I must test you and see for myself that it's true.
If you're not a virgin, you've had more than one body counts, you were not defiled etc, you don't have a right to request for no sex before marriage in my own world o.

Test = Sleep with and if you decide not to marry her ? What happens ?

qtguru:
Test = Sleep with and if you decide not to marry her ? What happens ?

Medical test!

UncleKoboko:
Medical test!

Makes sense

It is really silly to marry anyone blindly these days...how in the world did you marry someone without making out at least and sleeping beside each other? This would tell you half the things sex would! Biko tell your people let them advise you. Back in the days, Yoruba folks used to do detective work on their prospective inlaws to check things like this.

Knew a friend who married a lady prone to depression. They even had sex and did everything before marriage. He didnt study her well cos she comes and go and didn't spend lengthy time with her or even ask her family questions....eventually, they got married and she had several episodes within the marriage until she committed suicide leaving him with two kids under 5years old and the scrutiny of the law. He was in the papers for a long time until he was exonerated. Biko check your prospective partners well....its not all about what you see on the peripheral!

MejiLoyon:
Nack before marriage
Do sleepovers before marriage

Sure.
Then after all the nacking and sleepovers, you can go ahead and call her ashawo, olosho, borehole, while advocating for virgins and low body count online.

Adesegzy91:
Pls advice this friend of mine,

He got married late last month and after marriage, he discovers that his wife can't see at night and also the wife has mental issues.....

Major mental illness can take a toll on people living with the sick person.
Does your friend really have the stamina to deal with it?

And what exactly do you mean when you say the wife can't see at night? Do you mean she has night blindness?

The right thing to do is to take her to the hospital. There are cure or mgmt to any ailments under the sun.

Nobody is perfect - show me your imperfections and I will show you my humanity.

Stand by your wife - you are already married - in sickness and in health.

Cakhama:
Sure.
Then after all the nacking and sleepovers, you can go ahead and call her ashawo, olosho, borehole, while advocating for virgins and low body count online.

More reason why she should be nacked. Test run the hole. An olosho has the width of Lagos Ibadan express way.
Borehole synonymous to the name
Ashawao high mileage.
It's better to know the condition before than getting married and knowing you've been duped
Nack before you marry ooooooo

UncleKoboko:


If you claim to be a virgin, I must test you and see for myself that it's true.
If you're not a virgin, you've had more than one body counts, you were not defiled etc, you don't have a right to request for no sex before marriage in my own world o.

A woman has the right to tell you yes , no or wait, EVEN IF she has had 1000 sexual partners before you. I don’t know where this xtupid notion came from that once a woman has sex with someone, then she owes every man who comes her way more sex. Una dey even think? It’s borderline rapist mentality.

If you don’t like her conditions, you can geddifok but she sure as hell has the right to set whatever conditions she wants to. It’s not by force.

Cakhama:
Sure.
Then after all the nacking and sleepovers, you can go ahead and call her ashawo, olosho, borehole, while advocating for virgins and low body count online.

The “logic” is out of this world

MejiLoyon:
More reason why she should be nacked. Test run the hole. An olosho has the width of Lagos Ibadan express way.
Borehole synonymous to the name
Ashawao high mileage.
It's better to know the condition before than getting married and knowing you've been duped
Nack before you marry ooooooo

And if your relationship with her doesn’t work out for some reason, the next man would want to test run too, to determine if he can call her a prostitute/olosho for having had a previous relationship right?

qtguru:
Test = Sleep with and if you decide not to marry her ? What happens ?

Then she becomes a “prostitute”. Unfit for another man with his probably overused p3nis

UncleKoboko:
Medical test!

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5958548/#sec1-6title

https://www.who.int/reproductivehealth/virginity-testing-elimination/en/

You will believe what you want to anyway. But if you’re even slightly open to being educated, you can google the rest for yourself.

“Virginity testing” has no scientific or clinical basis. There is no examination that can prove a girl or woman has had sex – and the appearance of girl’s or woman’s hymen cannot prove whether they have had sexual intercourse, or are sexually active or not.

Many researchers state that a broken hymen is not a reliable indicator that a female has been vaginally penetrated because the tearing of the hymen may have been the result of some other event.[15] Furthermore, in rare cases, some girls are born without hymens.[32][33]

There is no physical sign that indicates the virginity of a woman: in fact, no physical examination will be able to evaluate the virginity of a human being, man or woman. “What about the Hymen, doctor?” the hymen is an anatomical part, an elastic membrane in the vaginal canal. It is not a valuable nor scientific sign of virginity: It is sufficiently elastic to be penetrated without breaking, but fragile to be lacerated by activities other than sexual interactions.

Anatomically, the hymen is a membrane composed of solely connective tissue (mainly elastic and collagenous fibers) that hormonal levels are able to modify, so it can increase in elasticity or turn into a cornified thin string. The hymen also presents a range of morphological variations from congenital absence to microperforations and septa. Moreover, in the case of a laceration or notch, it is impossible to identify the cause of the damage. Thus, according to existing evidence, many experts believe the appearance of hymen is not a reliable indicator of virginity or vaginal sex

MejiLoyon:
More reason why she should be nacked. Test run the hole. An olosho has the width of Lagos Ibadan express way.
Borehole synonymous to the name
Ashawao high mileage.
It's better to know the condition before than getting married and knowing you've been duped
Nack before you marry ooooooo

Going by your logic, the one you're hoping to wife is being knacked and doing sleepovers as we speak.

After you're done with the one you're knacking and increasing her mileage, another man is also zipping up after increasing the mileage of the one you're hoping to pick.

Where will you find virgins and low body count when you all have to knack?

Adesegzy91:
The thing is that my guy is feeling cheated by his wife's family by not disclosing the problem their daughter has, and he is feeling the marriage is based on deception and therefore wants to quit.

From what I have learnt in my short life period,i realise we men have to be heartless and ruthless and be an asshole is some matters that involves a woman



Whenever a young man is broke and have nothing,woman will do anything to avoid you and whenever they realise they are getting old or getting damaged and need to marry ,or maybe you're rich and financially stable ,they will do anything to deceive you and make you marry them

Indeed woman Na black market


Her problem is not your problem because they have deceived you into marying her and not telling you her problem, the best thing you can do is to be selfish and heartless and dump her and , because if they can hide that much from you (if this story is really true ) then there are many more to come and it might destroy your life

If you're broke and have that much problem ,will any woman would like to get married to you ?I don't think so (IMO)

That man must run for his life
Don't say I don't advice you o

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cococandy:
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5958548/#sec1-6title

https://www.who.int/reproductivehealth/virginity-testing-elimination/en/

You will believe what you want to anyway. But if you’re even slightly open to being educated, you can google the rest for yourself.

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Keep fooling yourself with your nonsense, ignorance and delusions.

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cococandy:
A woman has the right to tell you yes , no or wait, EVEN IF she has had 1000 sexual partners before you. I don’t know where this xtupid notion came from that once a woman has sex with someone, then she owes every man who comes her way more sex. Una dey even think? It’s borderline rapist mentality.

If you don’t like her conditions, you can geddifok but she sure as hell has the right to set whatever conditions she wants to. It’s not by force.

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That's your fuckíng business and opinion that I don't give a fûck about.
I'm not a conformist, and I don't care about what you think is right or wrong.

I have the fúckíng right to know how many dicks you've fûcked in the past. How many skin-to-skin and how many protected. How many guys have cummed in your vagina. If you've committed an abortion before. And amazingly, even if you've used postinor before.
YOU WOULDN'T HAVE FÛCKED YOUR YOUNG AND FRUITFUL YEARS AWAY, AND PRESENT ME WITH A USED PRODUCT OR LEFTOVER.

Woe betide you that you lied and I find out later in time, no matter where the relationship is that time, I'll still make you regret that you lied.

I want what I want and that's the way it's going to be.

And if she says no, you carry your overused peniss and geddifok. It’s not by gragra

UncleKoboko:
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That's your fuckíng business and opinion that I don't give a fûck about.
I'm not a conformist, and I don't care about what you think is right or wrong.

I have the fúckíng right to know how many dicks you've fûcked in the past. How many skin-to-skin and how many protected. How many guys have cummed in your vagina. If you've committed an abortion before. And amazingly, even if you've used postinor before.
YOU WOULDN'T HAVE FÛCKED YOUR YOUNG AND FRUITFUL YEARS AWAY, AND PRESENT ME WITH A USED PRODUCT OR LEFTOVER.

Woe betide you that you lied and I find out later in time, no matter where the relationship is that time, I'll still make you regret that you lied.

I want what I want and that's the way it's going to be.

UncleKoboko:
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Keep fooling yourself with your nonsense, ignorance and delusions.

It’s quite painful to you that facts don’t agree with your archaic thoughts isn’t it?

You can run away and live in a cave under an island so that you don’t have to deal with the FACT that there’s no medically accurate way to test for virginity. I’m sorry that accurate information is hurtful to you and doesn’t fit your years of misogynistic brainwashing. But it’s a fact and you can do with it what you may. Facts don’t change to suit your wish.

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cococandy:
It’s quite painful to you that facts don’t agree with your archaic thoughts isn’t it?

You can run away and live in a cave under an island so that you don’t have to deal with the FACT that there’s no medically accurate way to test for virginity. I’m sorry that accurate information is hurtful to you and doesn’t fit your years of misogynistic brainwashing. But it’s a fact and you can do with what you may. Facts don’t change to suit your wish.

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Shut up!
Who told you there are no medical ways to find out?
How old are you?
I guess you can't see beyond your nose.

UncleKoboko:
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Shut up!
Who told you there are no medical ways to find out?
How old are you?
I guess you can't see beyond your nose.

Tell me you can’t read without telling me you can’t read.

Adesegzy91:
The thing is that my guy is feeling cheated by his wife's family by not disclosing the problem their daughter has, and he is feeling the marriage is based on deception and therefore wants to quit.

This ur story is not complete!
The two issue here is not seeing at night & 3 hours mental issue right? So all the while your friend dated her he didn't know she don't see at night?? A lot of us have high expectations before wedding, only for us to be disappointed. That is what is happening to your friend! He is just tired of the new life, tell him not to quit. The two reasons u listed is not enough reason for any one to quit marriage. Rather they should seek solution. Abi him be no love the girl at all??

Leave then and let's knack on jare - who no wan taste test

Cakhama:
Going by your logic, the one you're hoping to wife is being knacked and doing sleepovers as we speak.

After you're done with the one you're knacking and increasing her mileage, another man is also zipping up after increasing the mileage of the one you're hoping to pick.

Where will you find virgins and low body count when you all have to knack?

nwa mama, na you biko!
Let me send you a cold Alize on the rock
Good morning.

cococandy:
A woman has the right to tell you yes , no or wait, EVEN IF she has had 1000 sexual partners before you. I don’t know where this xtupid notion came from that once a woman has sex with someone, then she owes every man who comes her way more sex. Una dey even think? It’s borderline rapist mentality.

If you don’t like her conditions, you can geddifok but she sure as hell has the right to set whatever conditions she wants to. It’s not by force.

Tell your friend to carry his cross. He is in and there is no opting out. He should find solutions instead.

armyofone:
nwa mama, na you biko!
Let me send you a cold Alize on the rock
Good morning.

I’ll take two. Thanks

armyofone:
Leave then and let's knack on jare - who no wan taste test

Okay oo.
More grease to your manhood and the manhood of the man knacking your future wife during her sleepovers.

She's probably having an absence seizure disorder of some sort and not mental health issues. Not all seizures have jerky movements
Ask them to see a neurologist, because she may be having repeated absence seizures without anyone taking note.
As per the blindness at night, she may need glasses or perhaps she has some sort of cataract. She should see an optometrist for proper eye test to check the pressure of her eyes, check for cataracts and also check if she needs glasses.
They really shouldn't be deal breakers, but to each his own.
His girlfriend should have told him about her trance like episodes, but you say she isn't aware of it so she may not even have anything ot tell him.
All these things can really be sorted out with proper medical care

Serious.

Courtship is allowed between intending Christian couples now. so how come he was not able to notice all that? Or he mistook the 3 hrs silence for gentility? Hm.

Prayer is the only way out. He don enter, he don enter. It's too early to opt out.

Sounds like absence seizure, this can easily be controlled by anti convulsants. Let her go to a neurologist.
Let her see an ophthalmologist for the eyes.

In this case, the first thing you need to do is to consult a professional relationship advisor and tell him in detail about all the things. Next, you want to file for a divorce then you need to ask directly from a specialized divorce coach https://thedivorcesolutionist.com/ with whom you can discuss to further your relation or end it.

I wish you luck!