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Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by Onyi22(f): 10:03pm On Jun 03, 2021
baddosky1:
I can't answer your question because I am self employed.
Who ask you weather u r self employed or not?
Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by CrazyCrane: 10:03pm On Jun 03, 2021
my former boss was very rude towards us. he could insult you at any slight opportunity.
to cut the story short, I change am for em, my colleagues were shocked... cool

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Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by Onyi22(f): 10:05pm On Jun 03, 2021
Living in Nigeria is a big insult too, just calm down
Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by NwaforIgbo: 10:11pm On Jun 03, 2021
Where I used to work. The manager was notorious for molesting staffs.

He messed with the wrong person and she came to work with a warning from her barrister.

But she didn't survive the next retrenchment.
Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by peacettw: 10:11pm On Jun 03, 2021
It depends.

Is it a one-off encounter? Am I the only one he/she picks on in the office? Did I do anything at all to deserve the insult? Are there other stressor besides the one in my office? Am I being well paid?

The above determinants will inform my action which can range from exercising patience and restrain to going full on bat-shit crazy.
Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by RisenJoe(m): 10:19pm On Jun 03, 2021
eclectic90:
if to say with the anger and insult, them use something stone you or chuk you, shey you go dey grave dey swallow the pride? Depends on the kind of insults and treatment, protect your physical and mental health first because all the money in the world can't buy those. That's why some people have plenty money today but no self esteem because they have been abused mostly mentally

His question was based on only insults, don't try to yab me dis nite ooo.
Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by mdntiri(m): 10:25pm On Jun 03, 2021
But you guys can really insult o why Nigerians? The least thing people are insulting you left right centre. Why?People are too sensitive, too proud, too arrogant. I have a Ghana-Nigeria cousin who now live in Ghana and she's so proud/arrogant, talks to people anyhow, disrespects the husband, has changed househelps uncountable times etc etc. Why? Whats wrong with some of you?


Alero3Arubi:
Women have been chopping insult since time immemorial from husbands.
Its the theory of power.
Especially for people who lack empathy.
Demean, subdue and destroy the weak and less privileged, and keep them down to remain powerful.
Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by KoolBigk(m): 10:25pm On Jun 03, 2021
Insult the idiot back. E dey crase ?!
This remind me of a friend that was slapped by his boss in the midst of a crowd, he returned it with better slap. everywhere turned yam scatter pepper pepper .



spector15:
Good morning house,please what should an employee do if your boss insults you on a work WhatsApp group� for a brief misunderstanding embarassed embarassed embarassed.thank you very much.please i need a professional opinion���

Does working for someone give them the license to insult you in Nigeria over a basic error

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Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by ablejesus26(m): 10:47pm On Jun 03, 2021
You sip in the pain and infuse your mind on an escape root from the slavery,and then do all to start producing something yourself.

Working for people in a country like Nigeria, should be listed as one of the thousand ways to die.
Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by Emeka71(m): 10:53pm On Jun 03, 2021
1forall:
Ideally you should let the person know you don't appreciate their language towards you and that you want them to stop it, but in Nigeria, that move may end up working against you.

Is it a one-off or recurrent thing?

Ask co-employees about their experience with the person. Try and find out if you're the only target of the insults or others are also affected.

Overall let those you met there advise you on the matter.
I shall just accept the insult.
Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by Darkmode64: 10:55pm On Jun 03, 2021
RisenJoe:
Depends on where you are working and benefits attached to the work.

Like me now that served my oga for seven years, during the first four years insults was non existent but during the last three years b4 my settlement that was when this man brought out my case file of the things I did in last four years which I thought he has forgotten that I've been with him, the thing pain Sha but I got to mellow down because my settlement is near and if I dare raise my voice on him he might start beating me which I would be tempted to defend my self and retaliate back, but all along I kept quiet whenever he is barking at me like a dog, e no dey easy ooo but I know what I was looking for and I won't let my ego stand in my way, so I swallowed my pride and he trashed me but now am on my own after many years of serving him and recieving his insults.....



My advice to whoever is reading this is; [s]don't let your ego and pride stand in your way, words(insults) are nothing unless you let it become something for you,[/s] but be sure you are always trying your best at work so as to avoid insults and bad mouthing.....
I beg to differ. Insults are something as they can cause severe emotional problems. Everyone has a threshold with which they can withstand verbal abuse. Let's not justify uncouth behaviors.

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Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by leonard002(m): 11:23pm On Jun 03, 2021
He is the boss. Swallow it, sit up and move on. Keep working hard to make yourself indispensable and don't try to challenge the boss. It won't end well for you.
Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by Nobody: 11:24pm On Jun 03, 2021
Organicist95:
Who stole my FTC cry

Unkown Gun men of the Unkown Armed Republic (UAR)

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Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by braine(m): 12:09am On Jun 04, 2021
You need to meet my boss.
Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by Akharmony: 1:51am On Jun 04, 2021
Have forebearance.
Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by Akharmony: 1:53am On Jun 04, 2021
Have forebearance.

forbearance
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noun
patient self-control; restraint and tolerance.
"his unfailing courtesy and forbearance under great provocation"
Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by IYANGBALI: 3:32am On Jun 04, 2021
You kick his fokn assssss

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Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by frozen70(f): 3:58am On Jun 04, 2021
spector15:
Good morning house,please what should an employee do if your boss insults you on a work WhatsApp group� for a brief misunderstanding embarassed embarassed embarassed.thank you very much.please i need a professional opinion���

Does working for someone give them the license to insult you in Nigeria over a basic error

Understand that he is your Boss and some of them can talk to you anyhow and you are expected to remain quiet and accept it without returning the insult back

But the best way to go is, you have to stop being forward, mind your business and avoid any kind of error that will lead to open disgrace.
Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by tunwumi: 4:05am On Jun 04, 2021
spector15:
Good morning house,please what should an employee do if your boss insults you on a work WhatsApp group� for a brief misunderstanding embarassed embarassed embarassed.thank you very much.please i need a professional opinion���

Does working for someone give them the license to insult you in Nigeria over a basic error

Get yourself another job.
Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by Bigpat: 4:09am On Jun 04, 2021
Do you have another job? Can you do without the job? Is the insult killing you that you can't take? Is the Boss the person that cause the insult in the first place? If no, I will not advise you on how to keep your job
Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by doneback04: 4:20am On Jun 04, 2021
You have to over look it and walk away. But when the situation has passed that day you can approach him or her in a gentle manner and express ur mind to him or her in a gentle way of approach.
Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by LikeAking: 4:20am On Jun 04, 2021
spector15:
Good morning house,please what should an employee do if your boss insults you on a work WhatsApp group� for a brief misunderstanding embarassed embarassed embarassed.thank you very much.please i need a professional opinion���

Does working for someone give them the license to insult you in Nigeria over a basic error

You are gossiping about him, making some wrong moves, telling your personal secrets to some colleges who are in turn betraying you to the boss. The boss knows all your present and past secrets.

Some one is betraying in you to the boss.

People are jealous of you at the office.

Jesus:"He that deepeth with me shall betray me"

Your boss has a bad character, but the person/people betraying you are making maters worse.

Its an office thing.

Trust no one.
Stop talking with people in the office, use your head. You no come dia to make friends.

Beware of office friends.

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Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by Bossman25(m): 4:22am On Jun 04, 2021
God Bless you! This is what I was looking for.
Why will a Boss insult you, is it because you didn't do the work very well, or its just hatred.
At the end, the person in particular becomes so I'll mentally that he won't have the beat frame of mind to propel his on adventures.

My own case na when I dey work, I carry file for hand one open to gather information, na so this weere oga just come begin they curse O, on top file I carry....begin they use in mumu hand they nake me for head....Omo, ma that time I know say in be like say this weere oga they take drugs....



eclectic90:
if to say with the anger and insult, them use something stone you or chuk you, shey you go dey grave dey swallow the pride? Depends on the kind of insults and treatment, protect your physical and mental health first because all the money in the world can't buy those. That's why some people have plenty money today but no self esteem because they have been abused mostly mentally
Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by Bossman25(m): 4:28am On Jun 04, 2021
Have you worked in a workplace before?
Its not possible to be 100% efficient.....its not at least once a while you bound for an error.
But receiving insults that are dehumanising? Something that a boss can't say to his children?


frozen70:


Understand that he is your Boss and some of them can talk to you anyhow and you are expected to remain quiet and accept it without returning the insult back

But the best way to go is, you have to stop being forward, mind your business and avoid any kind of error that will lead to open disgrace.

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Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by kateskitty(f): 4:55am On Jun 04, 2021
spector15:
Good morning house,please what should an employee do if your boss insults you on a work WhatsApp group� for a brief misunderstanding embarassed embarassed embarassed.thank you very much.please i need a professional opinion���

Does working for someone give them the license to insult you in Nigeria over a basic error

I shove his head up his ass, so he can see shit clearly cool
Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by VeeVeeMyLuv(m): 5:01am On Jun 04, 2021
Next time in the WhatsApp group use diplomacy to tactically turn the table.

Reply the particular comment like this: tuale Sir, Baba the Baba, followed by 3tumbs up, then type noted Sir followed by 3 smilies emoticons.
Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by Sleekfun: 5:25am On Jun 04, 2021
I will abuse him back behind him and laugh over it because I know it happens most when month is about to end of when salary is just disbursed . Gbammm

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Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by emkz: 5:31am On Jun 04, 2021
I cautioned mine. He said he was sorry, but he continued. I chose to ignore until I exploded in anger and reprimanded him.

He became afraid because he could lose his job for unethical behaviour (of abusing his position). Our relationship went sour. I never worked with him again and he couldn't speak to me directly again.

So weigh your options. No one needs to work under a toxic person.

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Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by Frontdude(m): 6:12am On Jun 04, 2021
RisenJoe:



My advice to whoever is reading this is; don't let your ego and pride stand in your way, words(insults) are nothing unless you let it become something for you, but be sure you are always trying your best at work so as to avoid insults and bad mouthing.....
Yeah,
You have said it all.
Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by Lovestrong(m): 6:12am On Jun 04, 2021
Trust50:
Insult him/her in return. Fire for fire
MFM
Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by Mikester: 6:25am On Jun 04, 2021
RisenJoe:
Depends on where you are working and benefits attached to the work.

Like me now that served my oga for seven years, during the first four years insults was non existent but during the last three years b4 my settlement that was when this man brought out my case file of the things I did in last four years which I thought he has forgotten that I've been with him, the thing pain Sha but I got to mellow down because my settlement is near and if I dare raise my voice on him he might start beating me which I would be tempted to defend my self and retaliate back, but all along I kept quiet whenever he is barking at me like a dog, e no dey easy ooo but I know what I was looking for and I won't let my ego stand in my way, so I swallowed my pride and he trashed me but now am on my own after many years of serving him and recieving his insults.....



My advice to whoever is reading this is; don't let your ego and pride stand in your way, words(insults) are nothing unless you let it become something for you, but be sure you are always trying your best at work so as to avoid insults and bad mouthing.....

Pardon but what skill were you learning for seven years and how old were you at the time?

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Re: Verbal Abuse Of Employees by RisenJoe(m): 6:41am On Jun 04, 2021
Mikester:


Pardon but what skill were you learning for seven years and how old were you at the time?


I served my oga who sell building material for seven years and I started at the age of 18yrs

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