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Traditionally, women are to give up their maiden name after marriage, and subsequently carry on their husband's surname.

This is good, as it changes a lady's title from Miss to Mrs. Therefore indicating the lady is married to her spouse. It also lets the society know they are no longer Boyfriend & Girlfriend, but married couple.

However, in my opinion, I think a lady giving up her maiden name (surname) is like giving up her identity. This is why the demand for male child, children was high, because fathers wants a child that will carry on the family name and identity.

In conclusion:
Married Ladies should legally have their name as; Example: Jessica Parker Lawrence . Where Jessica Parker is her maiden name and Lawrence her husband surname.

As a guy, I would wanna get married someday if fate permits. I wouldn't want my daughter totally giving up her family name.

Modified.
By identity, I meant the identity of the family she's born into. She'll be starting a new home/family with the husband, and creating a new identity altogether. I just feel that the family name of where she comes from should not totally be forgotten because she's married.

But would you want your supposed wife give up her father's Smith to bear your Ndufreke?

it is called raising a family - hers not yours or your fathers - she will form a new identity and a new branch in the family genealogy not try to maintain at the base of the trunk

Well, I wouldn't call it giving up identity. It sounds absurd. I know feminists have this kind of mentality, making it seem like women are being sold off or making patriarchy seems evil.

Normally, I wouldn't worry myself much about a woman changing her name or including mine to hers but your idea of giving up her identity just because of a name change seems absurd. A woman I'm gonna live with will definitely answer my surname. If you're a high value man, she will do what she can to answer and change her name to yours.

Well, it's a tradition that brought about name changing when marriage is involved to differentiate married people from singles. Nevertheless, name changing means little when it comes to a lasting marriage.

chatinent:
But would you want your supposed wife give up her father's Smith to bear your Ndufreke?

It's a matter of choice, and only her can decide that. She can decide to totally give up her father's name and have mine or she can keep both. But she's definitely having my surname; that's non-negotiable.

ha, ur opinion tire me o, ur Daughters love is in the heart not with the name , the women will lose more if they go with ur opinion.
her pride
husband property incase of dispute
she'll not even get anything with her father name if there's a son.
Na loss o

javaguru:
ha, ur opinion tire me out, ur not helping them o if you think u are, the women will lose more if they go with ur opinion.
her pride
husband property incase of dispute
she'll not even get anything with her father name if there's a son.
Na loss o

That's if a marriage contract was involved.

TheUndercover:
That's if a marriage contract was involved.

what contract, am talking of natural tradition in Nigeria ur talking of contract, contract or no contract, u can't claim your husband property if your names don't tally, ordinary misspelled name in teller bank no go let u cash out, talk less of arrangement.

javaguru:
what contract, am talking of natural tradition in Nigeria ur talking of contract, contract or no contract, u can't claim your husband property if your names don't tally, ordinary misspelled name in teller bank no go let u cash out, talk less of arrangement.

Ooh, that's specific family issues then, I was talking about a marriage involving government.

javaguru:
ha, ur opinion tire me o, ur Daughters love is in the heart not with the name , the women will lose more if they go with ur opinion.
her pride
husband property incase of dispute
she'll not even get anything with her father name if there's a son.
Na loss o

Don't get me wrong bro.
I never said she will not have her husband's name. She'll definitely have it.

Here's an example: Jessica Parker Lawrence . Where Jessica Parker is her maiden name and Lawrence her husband surname

Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

Calm down boss

Op, have you eaten ??

Theboy21:
Op, have you eaten ??

No, man. You can take me out though, and give me some treats.

Any woman who doesn't want to bear ur surname but wud rather prefer hyphenating hers with urs or just bears hers alone shouldn't even b considered a wife material period.

By her doing all that shows she doesnt respect u, women can't love men they don't respect but they can tolerate men they don't respect for a while.

It also shows she sees ur SPERM and ur genes are invaluable and useless infact she will want a baby rather than want ur baby. Ur genealogy is useless and disgusting to her also.

DEMZEE:
Any woman who doesn't want to bear ur surname but wud rather prefer hyphenating hers with urs or just bears hers alone shouldn't even b considered a wife material period.

By her doing all that shows she doesnt respect u, women can't love men they don't respect but they can tolerate men they don't respect for a while.

It also shows she sees ur SPERM and ur genes are invaluable and useless infact she will want a baby rather than want ur baby. Ur genealogy is useless and disgusting to her also.

Having just your surname doesn't guarantee respect, neither does it prove she's a wife material. Her personality cannot be concluded based on her decision to carry-on her family name.

Besides, any lady that cannot respect me whether as a boyfriend or husband will not be tolerated. I value my respect more than anything.

If she can't treat me like a king, she's leaving. My kids stays with me. If she does treat me like a king, I treat her like a queen.

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If I have only one girl child, and she's getting married, I wouldn't want her to completely give up her surname for obvious reasons

I concur

iExplore:
Having just your surname doesn't guarantee respect, neither does it prove she's a wife material. Her personality cannot be concluded based on her decision to carry-on her family name.

Besides, any lady that cannot respect me whether as a boyfriend or husband will not be tolerated. I value my respect more than anything.

If she can't treat me like a king, she's leaving. My kids stays with me. If she does treat me like a king, I treat her like a queen.

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If I have only one girl child, and she's getting married, I wouldn't want her to completely give up her surname for obvious reasons

I didn't say it guarantees respect. All I'm saying is if u accept a woman hyphenating ur surname with hers or allow her to disregard it surname entirely it shows u are beta male simp and u are low valued period!

DEMZEE:
I didn't say it guarantees respect. All I'm saying is if u accept a woman hyphenating ur surname with hers or allow her to disregard it surname entirely it shows u are beta male simp and u are low valued period!

Define simp?

iExplore:
Define simp?

Simp is someone who doesn't know his worth and value, is someone who wud self degenerate himself and his value to please the other gender. Simp is someone who pedestalizes the other gender for the aim of being recognized and loved ie negotiating genuine desire.

A simp is a low valued beta male period!

DEMZEE:
Simp is someone who doesn't know his worth and value, is someone who wud self degenerate himself and his value to please the other gender. Simp is someone who pedestalizes the other gender for the aim of being recognized and loved ie negotiating genuine desire.

A simp is a low valued beta male period!

Good boy.
Firstly, I'm not in the business of pleasing any gender, if you've seen my other threads, you would know. You can't use my personal opinion on a particular topic to judge my entire personality.

In your mind, you think you are an Alpha Male? . Come lemme teach you how to game.

I could see you dancing to your phone each time I replied your mention.
I will not dignify you with another reply.

iExplore:
Good boy.
Firstly, I'm not in the business of pleasing any gender, if you've seen my other threads, you would know. You can't use my personal opinion on a particular topic to judge my entire personality.

In your mind, you think you are an Alpha Male? . Come lemme teach you how to game.

I could see you dancing to your phone each time I replied your mention.
I will not dignify you with another reply.

It's not about being an alpha male, it's about knowing and understanding reality.

A woman who doesn't want to take ur name or hyphenates her surname with urs doesn't respect u and doesn't desire ur SPERM inside of her. Ur DNA is useless to her period!

iExplore:
Don't get me wrong bro.
I never said she will not have her husband's name. She'll definitely have it.

Here's an example: Jessica Parker Lawrence . Where Jessica Parker is her maiden name and Lawrence her husband surname

so what is her surname

iExplore:
Good boy.
Firstly, I'm not in the business of pleasing any gender, if you've seen my other threads, you would know. You can't use my personal opinion on a particular topic to judge my entire personality.

In your mind, you think you are an Alpha Male? . Come lemme teach you how to game.

I could see you dancing to your phone each time I replied your mention.
I will not dignify you with another reply.

Typical of simps, always giving explanation for simping.

A woman must give up her father's name for husband's name to show that she is now of same identity with her husband through marriage. Together as couple they start a new family, with their children taken their father's name.