elay44:
Bro I only read stuff as a guest. this your post made me register on nairaland. I am in this same boat the, threats, jealousy, anger, no support financially,( I earn very well to take care of the family but it can be exhausting sometimes) etc. but we have Kids . I salute your courage bro. you need to be in this shoes to understand what this bro went through. you can comment and call names but you just can't understand. I feel you and I am very happy for you. thanks for speaking up and being an encouragement. a lot of men are going through shit all in the name of love. forget redplliers. we are not built to be violent, we geniuely care for people, that just how we are wired. but we are taken for granted and our nature taken for weakness.

Stupidquestions:
One last point....be careful with women with big yansh....cos most times..the yansh dey geh insurance for outside unknowing to the man.

Ishilove:
Op, nobody is perfect. Let he who is without sin be the first to cast the stone.

djon78:




Abegi make we hear word

A woman must bring something to the table when coming into marriage

A topic was trending on Twitter some days ago where one guy put his condition for marrying any woman includes her financial assets/ capability and her academic potentials

And many guys affirmed to that

Many guys are now considering a [b]woman's financial capability [/b]before marriage unlike before where they shoulder everything

Rozcol:
Please let us hear word and for your information she's right about that number 2,in marriage a man should provide everything and its solely depend on your wife's decision to assist you or not,its not a mandatory task.Women are care givers and not providers, you can't expect a woman to provide and still respect you it usually don't happen that way.She's not hear to say her own side so nobody has the right to condemn her yet. No be Nigerian men again mtchewww

rosalieene:

I was so surprised when I saw that number 2.
Nigerian men don't realise that women respect men that are providers more. Those kind of men don't even scream submission, it comes to them automatically because they have proven to be the HEAD.

Ikwerelastborn:


Lol the bleeding holes are gathering to have a feast

Pecoleee345:
She is in father house.....I don't expect her to spend her money.....her father should continue from where I stopped.

They want right but not equal responsibility...

djon78:



But in marriage
The man is the captain

The main issue is that many ladies no dey gree nowadays
And men too are becoming much hardened

So the marriage don already get k leg

rosalieene:

Now I see your problem.
Your problem is mainly centred on EQUAL FINANCIAL RESPONSIBILITIES hence why your problem escalated.
When you were courting, you were supposed to discuss this.
You're a man, own up to your responsibilities.

southniyikaye:
there are some of us that provides even to her underwear and still took pain in helping setting her up and what did we get in return?

rosalieene:

Now I see your problem.
Your problem is mainly centred on EQUAL FINANCIAL RESPONSIBILITIES hence why your problem escalated.
When you were courting, you were supposed to discuss this.
You're a man, own up to your responsibilities.

Made619:
You better drop this nonsense men taking up responsibility shit. So he should take responsibility for a lady that damaged hoe , who damaged her womb while sleeping around and aborting babies during her school days? you sound like a feminist.

Rozcol:
If you don't have any proof then eat all you typed and let it choke you.I repeat op is a liar,he's not saying it as it happened. To find responsible Nigerian men is a herculean task and this one come to cook stories for us.mtchewww

rosalieene:

Now I see your problem.
Your problem is mainly centred on EQUAL FINANCIAL RESPONSIBILITIES hence why your problem escalated.
When you were courting, you were supposed to discuss this.
You're a man, own up to your responsibilities.

ravensckar:
I think you're missing the point. Although I won't mind engaging you intellectually sha, but I just need to ask you one question; are you married? Unless you're married, you probably won't understand half of what the OP typed up there.

PS- I'm not in any way taking sides o, especially when I haven't heard from the lady involved. However, I hate to see someone miss the point of a discourse all in a bid to express his opinion.

Xilsbridalhouse:

Oh no...I am just not bias in my opinions, but having read so many stories here, it’s okay to feel many people come out here to act as saints.


Read this.

Susily:



The op is a FEMINIST SYMPATHIZER, so he's right with his assertion

Women now want equal rights with men but they forget that such rights come with equal responsibilities also

Op is a TRUE FEMINIST who believes that gender equality comes with equal rights and equal responsibilities, not the Hypocritical feminism most women subscribe to

Thereddevil:

Our forefathers married women for farm works.. They indirectly brought something to the table.. A hunter's wife probably worked as a hairdresser or sold bush meats at the market.. No one paid school fees then, all the children did was learn from their parents.. The sons became hunters like their father and the daughters learnt respect and management from their mother.. Don't make it sound like our forefathers carried all the burdens, they only captained the ship and their wives served as chief officers/first mates... Whenever it seemed the husband got broke, the wife from her managerial skill(savings from what the husband gave) or from her earnings(from making hairs, beads, market sales) would support her husband to make sure the family's shame is hidden until the husband is back on track.. Some days, a hunter would go hunting without a meat, a farmer would look stupid when there's no rain.. You didn't learn well from the forefathers

Ikwerelastborn:

Go and learn from your ancestors how to be submissive.bleeding holes

cayorday89:

Can you share link to this, let me update myself fully..

CharisEleos:


My response was not to this post here. after reading this, I knew it was an update of a previous post somewhere. So, I went to his profile and found the previous post. That was what I responded to.

Maybe you'll want to read that first so you can understand my submission better.


author=djon78 post=104184179]



Drop this mentality


Exactly my point.

Ikwerelastborn:

The test results are enough reason for him to leave her ,lol

Rozcol:
Mother Theresa well done ooo,you should have asked if I'm already engaged or not and I don't pray to ever meet the likes of your brothers who doesn't know their right from left.If its your choice to suffer with a man what's my own there? and if its my choice not to suffer with any man how e take concern you? The op is a liar and wisdom demands that we read both sides before passing judgement but he succeeded in winning you all to his pity party game.