| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Nweike1: 10:04am On Jul 29, 2021 |
Very very very, very, 100% correct |
| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by ehay(f): 10:05am On Jul 29, 2021 |
Michelle55:
Honestly, I try as much as possible to avoid your post because it reeks of bitterness and frustration. Where is it stipulated that the man should bear the brunt alone just because he married you?
Don't you know the meaning of helpmate? You had better change this disgusting mentality before marriage if truly you want to settle down.
Walai, I'm not sure the knots in your head is complete, please check well.
Aaarrghh! If you like be the best helpmate in world for your Nigerian husband, if you don't have children especially male children for him forget the marriage. Love no dey for Nigerian marriage. OP would have tried working out his issues with his wife if she did not have fertility issues. simple. 1 Like |
| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Juoflife1(f): 10:07am On Jul 29, 2021 |
Respect should go both ways. Some men because they provide for the house,are very rude and arrogant. Maobichek:
Good morning, I would have overlook your comment but immediately I saw "...before God all are equal" I taught it appropriate to say this:
(1) A husband and a wife is not equal before God. Use your Bible or Koran to confirm this.
(2) From this thread, he provides for the family so the wife should have done her part which is to respect him.
Lastly, most of the ladies who always shout that they don't take "shit" are taking it somewhere else, I said this from experience, thank you. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by LutanFyah: 10:07am On Jul 29, 2021 |
byinks:
No a simple procedure called cervical cerclage will prevent mid trimester abortion.
Pregnancy isn't the problem here but maintaining it to term.
How are you sure the abortions weren't for the husband ? According to the OP,she had multiple abortions while in school which has caused the multiple miscarriages. Nobody should bear the brunt of the foolishness of another, in the name of love or marriage, no matter how simple the procedure might be. The money and time spent on the "simple procedure " will be channelled to more productive ventures. Every action has their consequences and everybody must take responsibility for their actions. 11 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Nobody: 10:08am On Jul 29, 2021 |
Pecoleee345:
She is single now.....I can forward you her number... seems you know the best way to handle her and how things should be done.
Be forming redpill instead of you to go and apologize to your wife,take fully charge of your responsibilities and do all you can to save your home.Besides maybe you have neglect your body and you are not attractive to her again which warrant some of her behaviors (that's if there's truth in all you typed), big tommy,over weight,careless dressing, not taking her out like you do during courtship, no more pamperings,weakness in the bedroom,cheating etc try and fix all these things up and she will never disobey you.Do all you can to be attractive to your woman, a good man keeps his home and not destroy it. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by bigcee(m): 10:08am On Jul 29, 2021 |
Rozcol:
Please let us hear word and for your information she's right about that number 2,in marriage a man should provide everything and its solely depend on your wife's decision to assist you or not,its not a mandatory task.Women are care givers and not providers, you can't expect a woman to provide and still respect you it usually don't happen that way.She's not here to say her own side so nobody has the right to condemn her yet. No be Nigerian men again mtchewww Common sense you don't have. You only choose to pick the part he talked about providing for the family. But you ignored other part(abuse). Na kerosene dey ur brain. 11 Likes 
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| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Elsueno: 10:08am On Jul 29, 2021 |
Rozcol:
Its your own nut that's not working, there are men who also don't want their wife to undergo any stress,that's the kind of man every lady should pray for.You only read his side to pass judgement and by so doing you have sinned against the woman in question pls, can we see ur picture? , even if it's just a silhouette..I & my friends want to make sure to stay away from a woman like you  9 Likes |
| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by ObaKlaz: 10:09am On Jul 29, 2021 |
Ishilove:
[s] Op, nobody is perfect. Let he who is without sin be the first to cast the stone.[/s]
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| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Kabaz2: 10:09am On Jul 29, 2021 |
This guy talk true 1 Like |
| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by BROWNEMMANUEL26: 10:10am On Jul 29, 2021 |
Ishilove:
Op, nobody is perfect. Let he who is without sin be the first to cast the stone.
Ishilove nwanyi oma, u are more than this na |
| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by lordally(m): 10:10am On Jul 29, 2021 |
BiggyB242:
Very important, I know two brothers lets say A and B. A is chesting the whole bills because his wife isn't working even if he receives higher than the other brother B who is married to a professional.
Brother A salary is no match compare to the combined salary of B and his wife. Looking at them B is doing so so so well compare to A. I was advised, if I'm getting married I should make such she is working not because you want her money but it will ease you some financial stress. Me sef na doctor I wan marry their head they house, I dey try build myself to that financial level where I fit marry doctor.
My friend's elder brother left a Cool headed and respectful business woman he was dating saying he needs to marry a professional by the way , he's a doctor working at UCTH he ended up marrying a Doctor too! That is one of the greatest mistake he made in his life and he's deeply regretting it. The woman does nothing in the house! Even to cook na Wahala to even sweep na Wahala, plates go dey sink for 2 days. The woman's mum came for Omugwo and does absolutely nothing in the house. In the morning the wife go carry phone dey press the mama go dey follow the wife gist na this man go wake up to go cook. The wife has no atom of respect for the man! The man's mum too came for Omugwo this woman doesn't even care if she eats or not. But the woman would bath the baby , cook etc. Make I just stop here. See bro take your eyes away from Profession. Doctor , lawyer engineer , SSCE holder all na bullshit! You're not marrying the profession na the woman you dey marry! See let me tell you , a stack illiterate and a PHD holder all give the same wahala! Just go for one that gives peace of mind and sees her Helping you all round as her responsibility. 24 Likes 5 Shares |
| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by NairaMaster1(m): 10:10am On Jul 29, 2021 |
Pecoleee345:
Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/6653469/another-marriage-crash
So over last weekend.... I called family meeting my mum, elder brother and I went to my wife parents house... her family members were present.
They wanted to resolve things between us but no one gave a Bleep about me....they asked her to speak and she said alot of things both truth and lies.
I was lambasted from both sides and I let them finished properly before dropping the bomb......I looked into her eyes straight up and told her am divorcing you.
They were all stunned.... they were now interested in my side of the story.
I decided not to say anything.....am not the type that bad mouth people to score points or look good (my ex-wife is very good at that)....I just told her family to demand the truth from her.
My advice to young men.
1. Make sure u know the background of the lady u wanna get involved with....the way of life etc.
The mistake I made was not evaluating her background...... We came from completely different backgrounds....eg where she comes from people talking crazy and shouting at one another isn't a big deal but me it was a Taboo infact in my parents' house u can't talk with high tones for normal discussions.
2. See forget love and looks...... Make sure you know the main reason she wants to marry you.
I know she loves me but she had another motive which is am meant to give her everything she wants in Life.... She had that mind set of her responsibilities is totally dependent on me.
She told me she can only spare or borrow me money towards doing anything in the house but it is my duty to provide anything she wants even the riddicules ones.
3. For your peace of mind stay away from most ladies raised by single mothers because most her poison to hate men right from teens by their mother.
They are mostly insecure....they believe all men cheat and can never trust.
Comes with mad jealousy
They mostly have anger issue.... they will tell you I don't take shit... trying to show they are strong and can't take what their mother took despite you not doing any shit.....they want to have say in everything just to show you are equal.
They are always quick to be on the defensive
Just to mention a few
I once told my wife am not like your father when I couldn't take the policing, sneaking and threat anymore.
See as a man no one gives a shit about you..... people are sympathetic towards the female and expect you to take whatever she throws at you but you need your peace of mind.
The society has made it possible for women to get away with lot of things.
If you found a woman you want to marry please put love aside and get to really know her background well......cohabit with her for 6month......lastly even if you don't have money, please borrow and go for comprehensive medical check up with her.... (check your sperm count and the state of her womb) please. Your family made the most mistake by putting you in a tight corner. My elder brother and our dad tried that with our younger brother few months a go and I placed all of them including the lady where they belong. Move on guy. There are good women out there. I have been married for 15 years and my wife never gives me any trouble. Is your wife infertile? 3 Likes |
| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by TheWolfen(m): 10:11am On Jul 29, 2021 |
You don't wanna know.. muykem:
What do you know? |
| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Nobody: 10:11am On Jul 29, 2021 |
Elsueno:
pls, can we see ur picture? , even if it's just a silhouette..I & my friends want to make sure to stay away from a woman like you I also need to see your picture too so that I'll pick stone when a man like you cross my path 1 Like |
| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by EndRape2(f): 10:11am On Jul 29, 2021 |
U are a stupid man, you do not live her, you divource her because of the weak womb, nothing more nothing less, You are stupid, she should go and thank God you left her, because in marriage we need people that truly love us, and willing to go an extra mile for us , you can not put live aside in marriage , love is the only thing that can make you see strength in your partner's weekends, It is the weak womb, and abortion that made you see other weaknesses, A weak womb does not mean she can not give birth, ivf is there , surrogacy is there As long as there is no domestic violence , both partners can sit and resolve issues that comes with marriage, you think divource is a thing to celebrate , you are a mumu ,people praising you here have their own marital challenge , and they are solving it gradually. Let her dust her self and be happy, that you left, because every woman needs a man that genuinely love her because at old age she will need care and love, not a man that will dump her at old age and follow young girls . Give me her number let me celebrate with her. Pecoleee345:
Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/6653469/another-marriage-crash
So over last weekend.... I called family meeting my mum, elder brother and I went to my wife parents house... her family members were present.
They wanted to resolve things between us but no one gave a Bleep about me....they asked her to speak and she said alot of things both truth and lies.
I was lambasted from both sides and I let them finished properly before dropping the bomb......I looked into her eyes straight up and told her am divorcing you.
They were all stunned.... they were now interested in my side of the story.
I decided not to say anything.....am not the type that bad mouth people to score points or look good (my ex-wife is very good at that)....I just told her family to demand the truth from her.
My advice to young men.
1. Make sure u know the background of the lady u wanna get involved with....the way of life etc.
The mistake I made was not evaluating her background...... We came from completely different backgrounds....eg where she comes from people talking crazy and shouting at one another isn't a big deal but me it was a Taboo infact in my parents' house u can't talk with high tones for normal discussions.
2. See forget love and looks...... Make sure you know the main reason she wants to marry you.
I know she loves me but she had another motive which is am meant to give her everything she wants in Life.... She had that mind set of her responsibilities is totally dependent on me.
She told me she can only spare or borrow me money towards doing anything in the house but it is my duty to provide anything she wants even the riddicules ones.
3. For your peace of mind stay away from most ladies raised by single mothers because most her poison to hate men right from teens by their mother.
They are mostly insecure....they believe all men cheat and can never trust.
Comes with mad jealousy
They mostly have anger issue.... they will tell you I don't take shit... trying to show they are strong and can't take what their mother took despite you not doing any shit.....they want to have say in everything just to show you are equal.
They are always quick to be on the defensive
Just to mention a few
I once told my wife am not like your father when I couldn't take the policing, sneaking and threat anymore.
See as a man no one gives a shit about you..... people are sympathetic towards the female and expect you to take whatever she throws at you but you need your peace of mind.
The society has made it possible for women to get away with lot of things.
If you found a woman you want to marry please put love aside and get to really know her background well......cohabit with her for 6month......lastly even if you don't have money, please borrow and go for comprehensive medical check up with her.... (check your sperm count and the state of her womb) please. 4 Likes |
| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by NairaMaster1(m): 10:13am On Jul 29, 2021 |
TarOrfeeek:
My current GF is from a single mother home.
Immediately I finished reading this topic. I will break up with her mentally. Eyaaa, poor girl. Study her well. If she's bad you will know. Though, both men and women from single mother are not always stable. 1 Like |
| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Shalommy(f): 10:13am On Jul 29, 2021 |
What about men raised by single parents,we should avoid them too?. 1 Like |
| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Elsueno: 10:13am On Jul 29, 2021 |
Rozcol:
I also need to see your picture too so that I'll pick stone when a man like you cross my path Worry not, will never cross, even as a stranger  1 Like |
| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Nobody: 10:14am On Jul 29, 2021 |
bigcee:
Common sense you don't have. You only chose to pick the part he talked to providing for the family. But you ignored other part(abuse). Na kerosene dey ur brain. Mr common sense what have you achieved with your Yeye common sense? man ashawo rubbish 1 Like |
| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Nobody: 10:15am On Jul 29, 2021 |
Elsueno:
Worry not, will never cross, even as a stranger Cover your head in case 1 Like |
| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Ddeeda: 10:15am On Jul 29, 2021 |
Pecoleee345:
No.....she had miscarriage twice
It was two year into marriage I got to know she had an abortion while in school.
She has a weak womb according to test results. What test did you do that diagnosed a weak womb? What does that even mean? Even if she has medical issues can't it be fixed and if it can't is that why you married her? Importantly I will like to know what medical test diagnosed a 'weak womb' 4 Likes |
| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Nobody: 10:16am On Jul 29, 2021 |
Pecoleee345:
Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/6653469/another-marriage-crash
So over last weekend.... I called family meeting my mum, elder brother and I went to my wife parents house... her family members were present.
They wanted to resolve things between us but no one gave a Bleep about me....they asked her to speak and she said alot of things both truth and lies.
I was lambasted from both sides and I let them finished properly before dropping the bomb......I looked into her eyes straight up and told her am divorcing you.
They were all stunned.... they were now interested in my side of the story.
I decided not to say anything.....am not the type that bad mouth people to score points or look good (my ex-wife is very good at that)....I just told her family to demand the truth from her.
My advice to young men.
1. Make sure u know the background of the lady u wanna get involved with....the way of life etc.
The mistake I made was not evaluating her background...... We came from completely different backgrounds....eg where she comes from people talking crazy and shouting at one another isn't a big deal but me it was a Taboo infact in my parents' house u can't talk with high tones for normal discussions.
2. See forget love and looks...... Make sure you know the main reason she wants to marry you.
I know she loves me but she had another motive which is am meant to give her everything she wants in Life.... She had that mind set of her responsibilities is totally dependent on me.
She told me she can only spare or borrow me money towards doing anything in the house but it is my duty to provide anything she wants even the riddicules ones.
3. For your peace of mind stay away from most ladies raised by single mothers because most her poison to hate men right from teens by their mother.
They are mostly insecure....they believe all men cheat and can never trust.
Comes with mad jealousy
They mostly have anger issue.... they will tell you I don't take shit... trying to show they are strong and can't take what their mother took despite you not doing any shit.....they want to have say in everything just to show you are equal.
They are always quick to be on the defensive
Just to mention a few
I once told my wife am not like your father when I couldn't take the policing, sneaking and threat anymore.
See as a man no one gives a shit about you..... people are sympathetic towards the female and expect you to take whatever she throws at you but you need your peace of mind.
The society has made it possible for women to get away with lot of things.
If you found a woman you want to marry please put love aside and get to really know her background well......cohabit with her for 6month......lastly even if you don't have money, please borrow and go for comprehensive medical check up with her.... (check your sperm count and the state of her womb) please. The danger of a single sided story. You have now chosen to go your way that should be enough,hopefully you haven’t said anything untrue about her since she isn’t here to defend herself. The measure of maturity is how one speaks about someone they supposedly loved when things go south. Luckily Karma works for both Men and women so let them without sin cast the first stone. 5 Likes |
| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Folorunsho15: 10:16am On Jul 29, 2021 |
ehay:
Loveeeee your comment. It is now our duty as future father's to make conscious efforts not to be abusive to our wife's to prevent damaging our children. Yeah you're right on that, I actually come from a family full of love, my dad loves nothing more in this world than his children and our mother and I always want to have a happy family as well. I guess it all starts from the choices we make when trying to get married. May God help us in this as this can make or mar someone's life 1 Like |
| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Munzy14(m): 10:17am On Jul 29, 2021 |
TarOrfeeek:
My current GF is from a single mother home.
Immediately I finished reading this topic. I will break up with her mentally. Just few ladies raised by a single mom manage to make a good home.. Others are ticking time bomb...Including those whose dad died when they were underaged... There is need for a father figure in a child upbringing.. Another pointer is checking how your MiL treats her hubby...It is a tip of how the daughter will treat you. Some women will feel they are to tell their daughters who to be with and how to do it in their own way...very pathetic. 6 Likes 
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| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by tito44: 10:17am On Jul 29, 2021 |
Nancee4love:
May God deliver my brothers from ur type
Ur mindset is disgusting very bad a d crude, you are not matured for marriage and a disaster to any man who gets engaged to u with this kind of mindset
Better Don't marry please before you jeopardize the life of another man's son
What is marriage? Covenant partnership. A Partner is a supporter in their partnership, they may not have equal share but each partner had a share of responsibility to the agreement of partnership. Guyz run from a lady who does not see marriage from the angle and perspective of partnership that lady is not your wife. A woman who truly loves you supports you. My dad went dead broke and it was my mum who helped raised him back to life with no insult but still gave him his maximum respect during the darkest moment of his life, she made home comfortable and marriage easy for him till he bounced back. My father is late but all his properties after he bounced back was willed to my mum and us the children.
Goossh you are a disgrace to us women responsible women. Please go fix yourself before marriage. Guyz shine your eyes please we still have good women or ladies out their. I will never marry a man I can't support. It's not about it's my choice to support him or not it's my responsibility to support him. 2 have become one. You see this kind of mindset this lady has is toxic. As an adult do u know it's your responsibility to take care of yourself, keep waiting for a man to do that. May God not allow my brothers to encounter ur type.
Op pick up urself and move you met and plunged the wrong flower. Nancy, I love you for this piece. |
| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Olorilolo(f): 10:17am On Jul 29, 2021 |
All I can say is that, the woman, though not a saint, surely dodged a bullet from an arrogant, manipulative narcissistic spouse.
I can promise you that you will still have future complaints about more unfortunate women that will fall into your trap after this.
Best of luck because you're really going to need it. 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Afodot0022(m): 10:18am On Jul 29, 2021 |
Hmmm am just speechless with OP experience. Seems like we both are going through the same issues mentioned by you. Infact it looks like your wife is related to my own wife in some certain ways cos she exhibit same trait your wife display. You have said all and a word is enough for the wise. Single guys should open their eyes and pray real hard before settling down with any lady expecially those that were raised by single ladies and those that came out of polygamous home. They are really toxic and unbearable. My wife mom abandone them to their father when they were young and it was their step mom that raised them. The father had many wives and also her mum married multiple husband before she married their father and still left him to marry another again. So you can imagine how messed up their background was. I knew all this when i was still dating her but let me say i was carried away with love or probably lust and didnt make me consider those things.
The issue am facing now with my woman, when i maried her, i only did traditional marriage and didnt do any registry. After the traditional, madam show me hell o that i was even looking for a way out cos of peace of mind. Now after some years, my father inlaw just called me recently that we should go and do our registry which is court wedding. He mentioned that he gave me a week to get this done and if i dont have enough funds , he is willing to assist financially. Now my question is with the way my wife has behave in the past, should i still go ahead and do the court wedding now after 5 years we did our traditional. Pls i need answers and advice from matured married men out there cos if left to me, i am not doing any court wedding cos the way i look at it, i dont think our marriage will last with the way my wife had behaved. If its you, will you proceed to do the court marriage. 9 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by MrColdsweat: 10:19am On Jul 29, 2021 |
TheWolfen:
So what do you have to say about op predicament? Or is it his fault that his ex wife womb is weak? You can as well blame him for that Besides that is not the sole reason why he chooses to divorce her
Women have smaller cranium than men. This is claimed to be the reason for poor decision making and why they avoid responsibilities. You see how women on this thread stylishly avoided the fact that the woman tampered with her womb and kept blaming the man? They cannot clean their own mess. A man must do it for them. 12 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by DrayZee: 10:21am On Jul 29, 2021 |
rosalieene:
Social media men actually.
Those ones at Alaba market, main market or those with very busy job schedules mostly own up to their responsibilities.
Infact, those who are not social media Enthusiasts.
Social media have corrupted this ones mind. Is there a reason why all of you are picking this one part of finances while avoiding the fact that she lays curses on her husband all the time and also may not be able to conceive due to an abortion (and thinks it’s spiritual)? He clearly stated that those two were the major reasons behind his divorce, and you guys are avoiding it. Are you just looking for how to blame the man? Take note that this is a working class woman who expects her man to provide EVERYTHING (according to him, “even the ridiculous ones”), yet in the midst of him doing that, she was still laying curses. Are we to expect madness from women once a man doesn’t provide everything for them? 8 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by lovemorawo: 10:21am On Jul 29, 2021 |
Visocrate:
Are you okay is everyone the same your girl is different and you may not get another one like her if you break up because of what you are reading here, every one has his own problem you want to spoil a relationship you cultivated over time because of one post we shouldn't all make the same mistake my dear, the truth is 99.9% of single mothers raise toxic woman believe me . check the statistics starting from your own environment |
| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Deffjam: 10:21am On Jul 29, 2021 |
Rozcol:
Please let us hear word and for your information she's right about that number 2,in marriage a man should provide everything and its solely depend on your wife's decision to assist you or not,its not a mandatory task.Women are care givers and not providers, you can't expect a woman to provide and still respect you it usually don't happen that way.She's not here to say her own side so nobody has the right to condemn her yet. No be Nigerian men again mtchewww you don't have sense......if I see you I fit break your head. 4 Likes |
| Re: My Marriage Has Finally Crashed! by Hanibbal(m): 10:21am On Jul 29, 2021 |
Rozcol:
Be forming redpill instead of you to go and apologize to your wife,take fully charge of your responsibilities and do all you can to save your home.Besides maybe you have neglect your body and you are not attractive to her again which warrant some of her behaviors (that's if there's truth in all you typed), big tommy,over weight,careless dressing, not taking her out like you do during courtship, no more pamperings,weakness in the bedroom,cheating etc try and fix all these things up and she will never disobey you.Do all you can to be attractive to your woman, a good man keeps his home and not destroy it. Mitcheeew 9 Likes 1 Share |
