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debbydams:
thanks

Uwlc
How's your day?

debbydams:
thanks

I try calling you back but unreachable any p?

Fvckhypocrite:
I try calling you back but unreachable any p?

stop quoting me no make me vex abeg.. No quote this one o..

Hahahaha


Hahahaha

Kakakakaka


Kikikikikiki


Hehehehehe




Buhahahaha

SILENTandSMART2:
Hahahaha


Hahahaha

Kakakakaka


Kikikikikiki


Hehehehehe




Buhahahaha

is it funny

debbydams:
is it funny

yes ma,
it is very funny
hahahaha

buhahahaha

When next you decide to fall in love again, define it properly.

Don't just fall because the guy is wooing you non-stop and everyone is asking you to give him a chance. From my understanding, only chronic broke guys woo girls so desperately.

Make sure you know him deep, try to keep it on a friendship level, while you study him to assertain what he actually wants from you.

That way you'll save yourself from trusting your heart and body with the wrong person.

Take heart...you'll be fine.

debbydams:
stop quoting me no make me vex abeg.. No quote this one o..

lol, this thing is kinda funny. So, update us o. How's it been ever since then? have you been able to find someone, wether off Nairaland, or on it?
Awww, I just wish you happiness sha...I've seen the way you reply most comments and it shows you really just want to settle down with a good person for once. And, your body count self is not even too much, based on this our generation of girls that have even lost count of theirs. Just go close to your God, He alone can give you the best men available....Lol, I am not a motivational speaker ooo... I just want u to find your happiness, noni. But prayers for this kind of issue actually works. God knows our hearts desires.

Bleep love. It hurt

Love is wicked...

KevUnique:
lol, this thing is kinda funny. So, update us o. How's it been ever since then? have you been able to find someone, wether off Nairaland, or on it?
Awww, I just wish you happiness sha...I've seen the way you reply most comments and it shows you really just want to settle down with a good person for once. And, your body count self is not even too much, based on this our generation of girls that have even lost count of theirs. Just go close to your God, He alone can give you the best men available....Lol, I am not a motivational speaker ooo... I just want u to find your happiness, noni. But prayers for this kind of issue actually works. God knows our hearts desires.

yh sure, I met a guy here his story made me fall � for him, but mehn d guy made me gt tired of loving,, seriously im betta bin alone but well im not single o,, as a pretty lady what do u expect im in a relationship..but aint falling in love, I'm just me.. Nd m happy..

The guy came back tho but the love is not der again. Told him I dont feel like dating anybody nd he stopped talking to me,, nd im like who cares. Na money � nd happiness be my prioty. @

Pegi23:
Bleep love. It hurt

Love is wicked...

babe I don move o, who love epp..

KevUnique:
lol, this thing is kinda funny. So, update us o. How's it been ever since then? have you been able to find someone, wether off Nairaland, or on it?
Awww, I just wish you happiness sha...I've seen the way you reply most comments and it shows you really just want to settle down with a good person for once. And, your body count self is not even too much, based on this our generation of girls that have even lost count of theirs. Just go close to your God, He alone can give you the best men available....Lol, I am not a motivational speaker ooo... I just want u to find your happiness, noni. But prayers for this kind of issue actually works. God knows our hearts desires.

best doesn't exist again

debbydams:
yh sure, I met a guy here his story made me fall � for him, but mehn d guy made me gt tired of loving,, seriously im betta bin alone but well im not single o,, as a pretty lady what do u expect im in a relationship..but aint falling in love, I'm just me.. Nd m happy..

The guy came back tho but the love is not der again. Told him I dont feel like dating anybody nd he stopped talking to me,, nd im like who cares. Na money � nd happiness be my prioty. @

Thanks for updating.... Anyways,I can totally understand why you feel "best doesn't exist" and why you opted to stay single (dating but not for love) But, you should have a better understanding of men by now. I mean, after all the experiences you've had with them. So, you can see a good man from afar, and you can equally see a playboy from a mile away. You should be able to discern.
I, myself, am single. Do I like it? Well....... Let's just say I am very selective and scared of being used and played for a fool, or something. In essence, what I'm trynna say is that I prefer being single and u bothered, even if it means denying myself of the few pleasures having a partner has to offer. let's face it, it's mostly the physical gratification and pleasures that most of us go into relationships for, especially when we see that the person with whom we are dating is not who we would ideally want to end up with. We all know we have our parameters for choosing our "spec", as most like to term it.
In all, just let your current partner know how you feel about him, know your past heart breaks and know that you are not with him in hopes of marrying him. This way, expectations and hopes are not dashed/killed.
From what you've said, I deduced that you have given up hope in finding a suitable (since you said no more bests men exist anymore) man for yourself. You know look to money and self-happiness to as top priorities. Well, so why are you then dating him? Money? sex? Just know that you are human and if you keep having sex with him(let's assume you will) you will likely fall in love with him as time passes, even if he is not who you would consider your type of man, if you have one. Sex makes people think they live someone..it's all in the mind. That's not to underestimate the power of sexual oneness oo,and would ties arising from sexual intercourse. I'm sure you know what I mean here. Needles to go into all of that now.
Will you like it if a man was just dating you for fun sake, and not for the sake of love? Hope you can answer this truthfully. You don't owe me an explanation, but I'd just like us to be sincere here.
Because, this is what you are doing with whoever is your current partner right now. Is it fair? Does he know? Would you also like that to be done to you? Do some soul-searching and answer those questions to yourself.
If you ask me, I'll advice that you should break up with the man soonest. Why? Cause it's not what your heart yearns for. You won't love him, based off of the things you have made me to understand about you. Fornication won't do any of us too well, sweetie. It soon fades away and then we start feeling empty again. It's like nothing really satisfies. We still yearn for that fulfilment, that man that you can beat your chest and say, "this is a man I love without a doubt."
The "my own-man mentality" Until you find that person, you will see that nothing else will satisfy you as far as relationships are concerned. I know you want a good man. Why not search for him by being patient and commiting it into God's care? Yes o, God dwells in the affairs of men (Human beings) He cares about our well-being, even about us finding a good partner. But, we have to play by His rules, and not OURS. what rules, you may be asking? Well, to start with: You should not have physical sexual contact with a man you ain't married to.
As difficult as it may seem, it is possible. Self-control is learned. It's not inbuilt. One has to learn to want it, and then pursue it.
Deborah, I believe that's your name. You can turn your situation around, trust me. I don't know why it touched me reading through your comments , but I just feel you are searching for fulfilment. You want a good thing, but it seems you keep making the same mistakes and trusting your own judgements in a hurry. Be patient. Maybe you feel age-wise you are being left behind, due to the fact that you have friends who are already married. Well, sometimes we have to bear the consequences of our past actions and choices. Hurrying into relationships in the past does have its ways of making us miss who is good for us, especially if we now add sex to the equation. That one is just a recipe for disaster, albeit few people actually know this.
when I was still a bad boy, I'd date and hurriedly want to have sex with the girl. I even will seek other girls who were willing to have sex with me, just to get that thrill and satisfaction that a man feels when he is "conquering" different girls sexually. Little did I know that I was digging my own grave. Well, I still bear the consequences till date, but I'm thankful to God for His mercies, anyways. I should have been more patient, is the moral lesson here. If I was, then I won't have had sex and the hurt won't be that much if a break-up arose. It's the sex that usually makes us feel attached and betrayed.
"after I have him my body. Ahhh...See what he did! He cheated on me......" I used this as an example if what a girl would say.
But if there was no sex, we might hear things like
'Ah, thank God self that he did not see my unclothedness, even. He didn't choo me and leave.'
You get it now , right? Ehen.....
So, after all this long talk, I hope you can pick the vital points, if at all you feel there are any. I really want you to be happy and I want to hear that you found someone who makes you happy and complete. I'm not saying that a man must complete you oh, but you get what I mean here.
Hmmm, Deborah is the name of my immediate past, and last girlfriend. And we call her Debby too, for shorts. Eeya...Anywhere I hear this name I'm quickly reminded about her.
Try and take a few of my advice and see if it brings any changes. Let's just hope for the best, though.
Good luck, Debby. I won't mind an update later on in the distant future oo. I don't know why your matter concerns me....I wish age was not a determining factor, especially in a country like Naija.
Oh well,... *hugs* Be good.

KevUnique:
Thanks for updating.... Anyways,I can totally understand why you feel "best doesn't exist" and why you opted to stay single (dating but not for love) But, you should have a better understanding of men by now. I mean, after all the experiences you've had with them. So, you can see a good man from afar, and you can equally see a playboy from a mile away. You should be able to discern.
I, myself, am single. Do I like it? Well....... Let's just say I am very selective and scared of being used and played for a fool, or something. In essence, what I'm trynna say is that I prefer being single and u bothered, even if it means denying myself of the few pleasures having a partner has to offer. let's face it, it's mostly the physical gratification and pleasures that most of us go into relationships for, especially when we see that the person with whom we are dating is not who we would ideally want to end up with. We all know we have our parameters for choosing our "spec", as most like to term it.
In all, just let your current partner know how you feel about him, know your past heart breaks and know that you are not with him in hopes of marrying him. This way, expectations and hopes are not dashed/killed.
From what you've said, I deduced that you have given up hope in finding a suitable (since you said no more bests men exist anymore) man for yourself. You know look to money and self-happiness to as top priorities. Well, so why are you then dating him? Money? sex? Just know that you are human and if you keep having sex with him(let's assume you will) you will likely fall in love with him as time passes, even if he is not who you would consider your type of man, if you have one. Sex makes people think they live someone..it's all in the mind. That's not to underestimate the power of sexual oneness oo,and would ties arising from sexual intercourse. I'm sure you know what I mean here. Needles to go into all of that now.
Will you like it if a man was just dating you for fun sake, and not for the sake of love? Hope you can answer this truthfully. You don't owe me an explanation, but I'd just like us to be sincere here.
Because, this is what you are doing with whoever is your current partner right now. Is it fair? Does he know? Would you also like that to be done to you? Do some soul-searching and answer those questions to yourself.
If you ask me, I'll advice that you should break up with the man soonest. Why? Cause it's not what your heart yearns for. You won't love him, based off of the things you have made me to understand about you. Fornication won't do any of us too well, sweetie. It soon fades away and then we start feeling empty again. It's like nothing really satisfies. We still yearn for that fulfilment, that man that you can beat your chest and say, "this is a man I love without a doubt."
The "my own-man mentality" Until you find that person, you will see that nothing else will satisfy you as far as relationships are concerned. I know you want a good man. Why not search for him by being patient and commiting it into God's care? Yes o, God dwells in the affairs of men (Human beings) He cares about our well-being, even about us finding a good partner. But, we have to play by His rules, and not OURS. what rules, you may be asking? Well, to start with: You should not have physical sexual contact with a man you ain't married to.
As difficult as it may seem, it is possible. Self-control is learned. It's not inbuilt. One has to learn to want it, and then pursue it.
Deborah, I believe that's your name. You can turn your situation around, trust me. I don't know why it touched me reading through your comments , but I just feel you are searching for fulfilment. You want a good thing, but it seems you keep making the same mistakes and trusting your own judgements in a hurry. Be patient. Maybe you feel age-wise you are being left behind, due to the fact that you have friends who are already married. Well, sometimes we have to bear the consequences of our past actions and choices. Hurrying into relationships in the past does have its ways of making us miss who is good for us, especially if we now add sex to the equation. That one is just a recipe for disaster, albeit few people actually know this.
when I was still a bad boy, I'd date and hurriedly want to have sex with the girl. I even will seek other girls who were willing to have sex with me, just to get that thrill and satisfaction that a man feels when he is "conquering" different girls sexually. Little did I know that I was digging my own grave. Well, I still bear the consequences till date, but I'm thankful to God for His mercies, anyways. I should have been more patient, is the moral lesson here. If I was, then I won't have had sex and the hurt won't be that much if a break-up arose. It's the sex that usually makes us feel attached and betrayed.
"after I have him my body. Ahhh...See what he did! He cheated on me......" I used this as an example if what a girl would say.
But if there was no sex, we might hear things like
'Ah, thank God self that he did not see my unclothedness, even. He didn't choo me and leave.'
You get it now , right? Ehen.....
So, after all this long talk, I hope you can pick the vital points, if at all you feel there are any. I really want you to be happy and I want to hear that you found someone who makes you happy and complete. I'm not saying that a man must complete you oh, but you get what I mean here.
Hmmm, Deborah is the name of my immediate past, and last girlfriend. And we call her Debby too, for shorts. Eeya...Anywhere I hear this name I'm quickly reminded about her.
Try and take a few of my advice and see if it brings any changes. Let's just hope for the best, though.
Good luck, Debby. I won't mind an update later on in the distant future oo. I don't know why your matter concerns me....I wish age was not a determining factor, especially in a country like Naija.
Oh well,... *hugs* Be good.

well guy I think I v to focus of myself now build my career.

KevUnique:
Thanks for updating.... Anyways,I can totally understand why you feel "best doesn't exist" and why you opted to stay single (dating but not for love) But, you should have a better understanding of men by now. I mean, after all the experiences you've had with them. So, you can see a good man from afar, and you can equally see a playboy from a mile away. You should be able to discern.
I, myself, am single. Do I like it? Well....... Let's just say I am very selective and scared of being used and played for a fool, or something. In essence, what I'm trynna say is that I prefer being single and u bothered, even if it means denying myself of the few pleasures having a partner has to offer. let's face it, it's mostly the physical gratification and pleasures that most of us go into relationships for, especially when we see that the person with whom we are dating is not who we would ideally want to end up with. We all know we have our parameters for choosing our "spec", as most like to term it.
In all, just let your current partner know how you feel about him, know your past heart breaks and know that you are not with him in hopes of marrying him. This way, expectations and hopes are not dashed/killed.
From what you've said, I deduced that you have given up hope in finding a suitable (since you said no more bests men exist anymore) man for yourself. You know look to money and self-happiness to as top priorities. Well, so why are you then dating him? Money? sex? Just know that you are human and if you keep having sex with him(let's assume you will) you will likely fall in love with him as time passes, even if he is not who you would consider your type of man, if you have one. Sex makes people think they live someone..it's all in the mind. That's not to underestimate the power of sexual oneness oo,and would ties arising from sexual intercourse. I'm sure you know what I mean here. Needles to go into all of that now.
Will you like it if a man was just dating you for fun sake, and not for the sake of love? Hope you can answer this truthfully. You don't owe me an explanation, but I'd just like us to be sincere here.
Because, this is what you are doing with whoever is your current partner right now. Is it fair? Does he know? Would you also like that to be done to you? Do some soul-searching and answer those questions to yourself.
If you ask me, I'll advice that you should break up with the man soonest. Why? Cause it's not what your heart yearns for. You won't love him, based off of the things you have made me to understand about you. Fornication won't do any of us too well, sweetie. It soon fades away and then we start feeling empty again. It's like nothing really satisfies. We still yearn for that fulfilment, that man that you can beat your chest and say, "this is a man I love without a doubt."
The "my own-man mentality" Until you find that person, you will see that nothing else will satisfy you as far as relationships are concerned. I know you want a good man. Why not search for him by being patient and commiting it into God's care? Yes o, God dwells in the affairs of men (Human beings) He cares about our well-being, even about us finding a good partner. But, we have to play by His rules, and not OURS. what rules, you may be asking? Well, to start with: You should not have physical sexual contact with a man you ain't married to.
As difficult as it may seem, it is possible. Self-control is learned. It's not inbuilt. One has to learn to want it, and then pursue it.
Deborah, I believe that's your name. You can turn your situation around, trust me. I don't know why it touched me reading through your comments , but I just feel you are searching for fulfilment. You want a good thing, but it seems you keep making the same mistakes and trusting your own judgements in a hurry. Be patient. Maybe you feel age-wise you are being left behind, due to the fact that you have friends who are already married. Well, sometimes we have to bear the consequences of our past actions and choices. Hurrying into relationships in the past does have its ways of making us miss who is good for us, especially if we now add sex to the equation. That one is just a recipe for disaster, albeit few people actually know this.
when I was still a bad boy, I'd date and hurriedly want to have sex with the girl. I even will seek other girls who were willing to have sex with me, just to get that thrill and satisfaction that a man feels when he is "conquering" different girls sexually. Little did I know that I was digging my own grave. Well, I still bear the consequences till date, but I'm thankful to God for His mercies, anyways. I should have been more patient, is the moral lesson here. If I was, then I won't have had sex and the hurt won't be that much if a break-up arose. It's the sex that usually makes us feel attached and betrayed.
"after I have him my body. Ahhh...See what he did! He cheated on me......" I used this as an example if what a girl would say.
But if there was no sex, we might hear things like
'Ah, thank God self that he did not see my unclothedness, even. He didn't choo me and leave.'
You get it now , right? Ehen.....
So, after all this long talk, I hope you can pick the vital points, if at all you feel there are any. I really want you to be happy and I want to hear that you found someone who makes you happy and complete. I'm not saying that a man must complete you oh, but you get what I mean here.
Hmmm, Deborah is the name of my immediate past, and last girlfriend. And we call her Debby too, for shorts. Eeya...Anywhere I hear this name I'm quickly reminded about her.
Try and take a few of my advice and see if it brings any changes. Let's just hope for the best, though.
Good luck, Debby. I won't mind an update later on in the distant future oo. I don't know why your matter concerns me....I wish age was not a determining factor, especially in a country like Naija.
Oh well,... *hugs* Be good.

thanks dear I got your msg..i.understand everything don't worry gist full ground lets just keep it for u now,, send your numba lemme buzz u up.

Hmmm.

Pegi23:
Bleep love. It hurt
Love is wicked...

Na now you know?

Fvckhypocrite:
How i wish i can educate you about my past experience with ladies have experience diffrent failures but that doesn't mean i should give up on marriage or relationship


Is not a must we connect but you gat to change your thinking, just like the great thomas edison who failed more than 10,000 Times b4 inventing the bulb had it been he gave up the world will not notice him, what am saying is you don't fail when you fall you fail when you refused to get up, winners never quit and quitters never win think about it debby!!

So you are a male

debbydams:
M just so depressed.. I don't think I can love again.. Being alone is beta

"Where do u go when u by yourself? Who comes on around when u cry for help? I know can't change the past, but as the river keeps flowing, I will keep on moving on"

nisai:
"Where do u go when u by yourself? Who comes on around when u cry for help? I know can't change the past, but as the river keeps flowing, I will keep on moving on"

seriously? U went to dig my post? Clap for yourself..where do u work?

debbydams:
seriously? U went to dig my post? Clap for yourself..where do u work?

Why do u want me to stop quoting u?

nisai:
Why do u want me to stop quoting u?

nothing oooo

SILENTandSMART2:
Hahahaha


Hahahaha

Kakakakaka


Kikikikikiki


Hehehehehe



Buhahahaha

Hahahahahahahahahaha. Why are you laughing like this? You're crazy. I don't even know what's happening here or why you're laughing, but the way you're laughing is infecting me.

Kikikikikikiki.

My dear, so sorry for that, dnt too blame him, have been there before and hw it is. At times i thought i would my gal, bt she nva understood me .

debbydams:
I met my bf now ex sometime ago,he asked me out nd I accepts him but deep down I have love issue nd I don't want any guy to hurt me,so we get along nd we used to talk very nd I started falling in love with him..I told him about my past which I had 3 body counts nd his body body was uncountable dats not an issue tho.this guy is a broke guy nd I know nd I wasn't after money all I want is something serious. So about 3 weeks ago he went to Lagos nd I spents sometime with him before he left.when he got to Lagos we used to talk very well,all of a sudden he doesn't pick my calls because m d one calling he doesn't have card to cal,he started ignoring my chats too I asked him what happened he said m nagging I apologised the next day he told me he wants space, It was like a dream I cried my life out I couldn't eat I was dehydrated I wanted taking poison but my friend came to rescue me..I asked my ex what happened he said he is broke nd he doesn't wants to hurt me not asif I offended him, I said okay lemme send u money I sent 4k tho m not bouyant I m very broke the money I sent I borrowed it too.just to make him happy..we started talking normal but I stopped calling him because deep down the m thinking of how I will pay back the debt..so the next day he asked me to send him 2k I told him I don't v nd hes aware of everything m just managing nd even if i will it will be d next week he insist.I told him i can't nd he told me am I feeling myself because of 4k ? I was shocked nd I leta asked him if he has eaten he was ignoring my chats I called he didn't pick I text him he ignored nd I told him are u ignoring me because of 2k..he flared nd start inshulting me nd he blocked all my lines..seriously I can't even cry..nd for the past few days v not bn eating nd even now I havnt taking water..but why ar some guys so wicked nd heartless ehn..am I bad gurl nd u have Neva cheated on this guy o...why do some people just act asif there's no tomorrow ehn..

You don't hate love. You don't know love.

Please, learn to love yourself first. Until you learn to love yourself, you'll keep attracting toxic guys like him

Google codependency. That's the issue you're facing

My sister when a guy loves you and maybe for some reason he became broke,the worst he can do is distance himself a little bit so as not to give you d impression that he is broke so you can't leave him and chase other guys(not every guy think like this though),but for him to be avoiding your calls and insulting you cause you didn't have to give him when he asked showed that he never really loved you or he is feeling insecure cus of his brokeness

Magnoliaa:
Hahahahahahahahahaha. Why are you laughing like this? You're crazy. I don't even know what's happening here or why you're laughing, but the way you're laughing is infecting me.

Kikikikikikiki.

Lol it's been a long time I read this story but the way she said the story is just funny to me, like I'm just thinking if such girl still dey....


All is well...

SILENTandSMART2:
Lol it's been a long time I read this story but the way she said the story is just funny to me, like I'm just thinking if such girl still dey....


All is well...

E dey tho and some men are lucky to have one but won't value her

debbydams:
E dey tho and some men are lucky to have one but won't value her

Hehehe

Very true... But last line is not correct some will value her......

SILENTandSMART2:
Hehehe

Very true... But last line is not correct some will value her......

will not.. Some men are scum just that we can't do without them in some cases, I have a friend who's in a relationship for 9 years, they were already planning their intro, the guy just came up with infidelity matter nd started fighting my friend,he collected everything he got for her, nd want to kill her it was a boss that came to rescue her..she nearly killed herself..after 7 months the guy nd his mom came to beg her,she said no.. A lot of cases like that. It is well sha

debbydams:
will not.. Some men are scum just that we can't do without them in some cases, I have a friend who's in a relationship for 9 years, they were already planning their intro, the guy just came up with infidelity matter nd started fighting my friend,he collected everything he got for her, nd want to kill her it was a boss that came to rescue her..she nearly killed herself..after 7 months the guy nd his mom came to beg her,she said no.. A lot of cases like that. It is well sha

Hahahaha

That's girls for you ,you will always find a story that suit yaa victim card, i was sayin' some boys will value her but you insist, just because of the case of your friend that doesn't mean their won't be a nine years relationship that will be fruitful...

It's just simple rational thinking, it's for we scientist nah commercial class you ran to...... hehehe

Examples are -: is it every girl that expose their body be prostitutes ? Or because she's wearing nicub (Muslim girls) does that mean she ain't a prostitute ? So because a 9 years relationship failed around you does that mean all men scum ? Can't another relationship of 9 years work ? , Okay can't a relationship of two months be everlasting ? Is it time that matters in getting a standard relationship ? This are rational questions......


So if you can embark on this way of thinking you will have higher way of viewing things and look very smart when talking to people........

Create more logical questions on any issue that's bothering you and you gon' get solution without anybody's intervention ......

Hehehe

SILENTandSMART2:
Hahahaha

That's girls for you ,you will always find a story that suit yaa victim card, i was sayin' some boys will value her but you insist, just because of the case of your friend that doesn't mean their won't be a nine years relationship that will be fruitful...

It's just simple rational thinking, it's for we scientist nah commercial class you ran to...... hehehe

Examples are -: is it every girl that expose their body be prostitutes ? Or because she's wearing nicub (Muslim girls) does that mean she ain't a prostitute ? So because a 9 years relationship failed around you does that mean all men scum ? Can't another relationship of 9 years work ? , Okay can't a relationship of two months be everlasting ? Is it time that matters in getting a standard relationship ? This are rational questions......


So if you can embark on this way of thinking you will have higher way of viewing things and look very smart when talking to people........

Create more logical questions on any issue that's bothering you and you gon' get solution without anybody's intervention ......

Hehehe

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