kaboninc:


Don't you think we have people like the op, same thinking, same mentality in the West too?

bossinblack:



Sorry but shut up!

He should only marry when he's ready and able to. There are countless very irresponsible married men everywhere.

Op, stop your playboy lifestyle too. You're putting yourself at too much risk. But don't marry because of pressure .

seyz91:
This is wrong on all levels

Marriage is not and never a measure of maturity and responsibility! Marriage is merely a choice!

Won't say more than that!

Chuky7:
Has anyone experienced this. This is where I find myself. And I keep getting talks like it's a bad thing. Talks like your last has married before you shouldn't you be ashamed. Some even go to extent of proclaiming abomination.

For me all this one's no concern me. I am a playboy at heart and will marry at my own time or not at all. Depends on how I feel.

Peace of Mind and Freedom is Priceless. Don't Take it away from me.

So have you had similar experience please share

TOPCRUISE:

I avoid people like you who thinks been a man is getting married.
To you those that are not married are not men

edoairways:

You point is not valid. Have you for observed why many marriages are crashing?

yanabasee1:


You read and don't understand.... You need to work on yourself....

ekevwe:

What about first child that took responsibilities of younger ones?

litaninja:
You're talking in the nonsense.

yanabasee1:



This is a child's mentality....


This Africa and we hold some traditions.... if you don't by this... go out and claim citizenship of a foreign country and let Africa be...

You people will selectively agree to some Western countries traditions and abolish some.... Yet wants Africa to change and follow the white's traditions...

Henri8:

Does getting married qualify one as being a man?

2kurupt:

Do you truly know the percentage of how early Westerners get married, start a family & settle down? In comparison to the people with same mentality as the OP you're referring to.

The OP can choose to be undecided until he is 80 for all I care, hope you guys cheering him on will be here to console him when the chicken comes home to roost?

lexy2014:


So all d married men that are fooling themselves, carrying small girls and spending their hard earned income meant for their families on prostitutes are responsible and mature just because they are married

Kennyking1234:
its your type that liters children everywhere in the name of "marriage"

Glycolite:


You sure you're not "forcing " him to go get married ?
That the mental game you're playing here is not obvious to you doesn't take away the fact you're trying to employ shaming mechanisms to actually force him to go into marriage.

I got absolutely no business if he chooses to get married or not,but I hate when people claim they are not forcing you to succumb to a certain choice but are doing exactly that by trying to Manipulating you to do their bidding,though being covert about that.

You're playing mind games with him,and yes, you're actually forcing him to go get married so to hold unto some slavery tag of what it means to be a responsible adult ,by society standard.

Techguy96:

Omo see mentality, so poor.
No wonder the country is not progressing.

Kaeboy:


Man! You're drifting out of the topic and speaking nonsen se confidently.
We're talking about marriage, you claim in your first post a man who refused to marry is irresponsible and immature and now you're talking about a 35yr old man who still lives and feed under his parents roof.

In your bid to proof unmarried men are irresponsible and immature, you end up saying things that doesn't tally with what we're saying.

To put it straight to you or people that think like you, marriage doesn't signify maturity or responsibility. Say you marry born pikin full ground no mean say you dey responsible. Stop calling unmarried men irresponsible. People make decisions for reasons best known to them. No be everybody wan marry, some are not married but responsibility they shoulder is more than what some married people calling them irresponsible shoulder.

yanabasee1:


For many reasons.... marriage can crash... but keeping marriage is one fit that many have defeated...

Many people have tried giving up on their marriages... Whole some do others work things through....

Look at it this way...


Trying to get rich is difficult but giving up isn't an option... Some do, while others keep trying...

mmsen:


Marriage is no sign of maturity or being responsible. The two have nothing to do with each other. One is a societal convention, the other is a trait.

Nigeria is full of people who are married yet woefully ill equipped to be in a relationship or raise children.

Skullano:


Marriage is not a must, let's stop pushing ourselves for nothing..

RenerdsMedia:

lots of responsibility out there begging to be taken care of, must you follow crowd?

DoggoneDogg:



Verily verily I say unto you, My stupid mother and my useless father are dumb.

RodgersAkpafu:
Imagine what this one is writing

yanabasee1:



When you grow up... you will know what I'm writing...

scrolldown88:


Listen, you mistake my point. People don't have to be married to prove to society that they've grown. It's wrong to pressure them to, and even more wrong to shame them for not getting married.
Because you have a better life and in a position to afford getting married, doesn't mean people who can't afford it or simply rather avoid the complications of marriage for whatever reason are kids.
Getting married is a decision, at least for most men. For women it's not 100% in their hands because they can't simply will themselves to be married, will you say they are irresponsible too?

Stop shaming people for deciding to get married just because you are. And you are most certainly not a higher individual on simply on account of you being married

RodgersAkpafu:
That's all you and your type have to say. When you have nothing else to say

yanabasee1:


It's always the best answer for kids .....

edoairways:

One of the reasons why marriages crash is what op raised. This is a verifiable fact

RodgersAkpafu:

Which proves my point about you

2kurupt:

Do you truly know the percentage of how early Westerners get married, start a family & settle down? In comparison to the people with same mentality as the OP you're referring to.

The OP can choose to be undecided until he is 80 for all I care, hope you guys cheering him on will be here to console him when the chicken comes home to roost?

yanabasee1:


I don't care what your view of me is.... You only get this opportunity to chat with me here... in real life... you're nothing!