bjprodint1:
I wil call her now

Read my comment to you again...I really need to understand

mariahAngel:


Read my comment to you again...I really need to understand

She didn't detect the sarcasm

mariahAngel:


Read my comment to you again...I really need to understand

we just spoke.being without a man doesnt scare me.what scares me is training d kids without financial security and d stigma dat comes with being a single mom.

Ishilove:
She didn't detect the sarcasm

Lol,i for no answer.

Ishilove:

She didn't detect the sarcasm

I wasn’t being sarcastic.

bjprodint1:
we just spoke.being without a man doesnt scare me.what scares me is training d kids without financial security and d stigma dat comes with being a single mom.

Does being a single mum hinder cash from dispensing from the ATM if you have enough money in your account?

Have you ever taken the kids and dropped them with their father for the weekend and he refused to feed them?

Are you not tired of gambling with your life?
You even managed to secure a place for you and your children, he came back and you accepted him again...

Please enjoy.

bjprodint1:
we just spoke.being without a man doesnt scare me. what scares me is training d kids without financial security and d stigma dat comes with being a single mom.

That is no excuse!

What are those compared to what you both have been through?
The ridicule? The humiliation? Why do you still choose to either stay with the same man or are too eager to get it right with another man?
Can you correct a mistake with a mistake?
What if you were widowed? Wouldn’t you take care of your children?

A widow (my mother’s friend) who was left with 3 little children, 2 boys and a girl, she raised them by herself (not that it was easy).
She stepped up and worked hard because she had no choice but to be strong for her children.
What was she into? She started with fries (yam, potatoes, akara...), then her business grew into cooking jollof rice.
She made so much money(with the support of her children), she not only sent her children to school, she also completed the house her husband started before he died, and added two more blocks of 3bedrooms flat.

CharisEleos:
Are you not tired of gambling with your life?
You even managed to secure a place for you and your children, he came back and you accepted him again...

Please enjoy.

Deep down, she is still hoping he would pay her bride price!

mariahAngel:


That is no excuse!

What are those compared to what you both have been through?
The ridicule? The humiliation? Why do you still choose to either stay with the same man or are too eager to get it right with another man?
Can you correct a mistake with a mistake?
What if you were widowed? Wouldn’t you take care of your children?

A widow (my mother’s friend) who was left with 3 children, 2 boys and a girl, she raised them by herself (not that it was easy).
She stepped up and worked hard because she had no choice but to be strong for her children.
What was she into? She started with fries (yam, potatoes, akara...), then her business grew into cooking jollof rice.
She made so much money(with the support of her children), she not only sent her children to school, she also completed the house her husband started before he died, and added two more blocks of 3bedrooms flat.

I can cope,i can do this.

greenie77:


Deep down, she is still hoping he would pay her bride price!

With this cat and mouse relationship?
Some women though.

bjprodint1:
I can cope,i can do this.

Try and see how strong you become. You can.

Fries business is very lucrative, and new yam and sweet potatoes are available now.
If you want to, now is the best time to start!

mariahAngel:


Try and see how strong you become. You can.

Fries business is very lucrative, and new yam and sweet potatoes are available now.
If you want to, now is the best time to start!

May God help me

bjprodint1:
May God help me

God’s help is already available to you. All you have to do is take the chance and make that move, little by little...

Start by learning from someone who’s already into the business if you’re interested in it, so you don’t suffer much loss at the beginning. (You need to learn how to cut to size and all)

Go to someone quite far away from where you intend selling yours.

What do you want?
Should we replace the smashed phone?
Or come and push him out of your house?

gratefulme40:
What do you want?
Should we replace the smashed phone?
Or come and push him out of your house?

To inform you of the recent development in her never-ending tales of woes. It's not productive to advice this lady, because deep down in her heart, she loves and wants to continue living with this monster. Talk of a masochist with an exuberant taste for self-violence.

Me am confused here. Madam do you want this man to kill you before you apply sense? Wo! Settle your matter jare. Upon all what people wrote the other time, you still did what you wanted to do.

sisisioge:


The local champion's username is folykaze? Wow! Love is really a SOB!

Oh this? Now I understand.

I read the story earlier and it seemed unreal to me. How do you explain a situation where she called the police to evict an unwanted guest (or hubby) in an apartment she paid for and one so called chief tenant (not even the landlord) waded into the situation and paid the police off.
It didn't add up to me. The fact remains that only the police can help her evict an unwanted guest so if the first mission failed then she should report back to the police station.

Beloved3:


Oh this? Now I understand.

I read the story earlier and it seemed unreal to me. How do you explain the a situation where she called the police to evict an unwanted guest (or hubby) in an apartment she paid for and one so called chief tenant (not even the landlord) waded into the situation and paid the police off.
It didn't add up to me. The fact remains that only the police can help her evict an unwanted guest so if the first mission failed then she should report back to the police station.

By now we know shes not fully in control of her own mind hence the reason the nonentity can sway her life as he deemed fit. She should just go home to her family so they could help her help herself. You know how people always try to salvage marriages no matter how disintegrated it is? Guess that was why chief tenant took it upon himself to wade in and even the edit husband kept messing up. He knew some other edit will end up begging on his behalf....a sure cycle! But predators like him usually fail to realise that one day their preys will strike fatally to end at least one of the parties. Very lame situation!

Not again.

sisisioge:


By now we know shes not fully in control of her own mind hence the reason the nonentity can sway her life as he deemed fit. She should just go home to her family so they could help her help herself. You know how people always try to salvage marriages no matter how disintegrated it is? Guess that was why chief tenant took it upon himself to wade in and even the edit husband kept messing up. He knew some other edit will end up begging on his behalf....a sure cycle! But predators like him usually fail to realise that one day their preys will strike fatally to end at least one of the parties. Very lame situation!

Hmmm. I had felt going back home should only be the last option on the table to rely on when everything else fails. I believed she works and earns and has a supportive boss, but going back home would mean losing the job and putting pressure on the aged parents. (I read somewhere that her parents live in another town)

There's just too much noise in her head at the moment. Too much back and forth advices that she can't think straight and coordinate herself.
Ideally, after getting herself an apartment, she needed some solitary time to reflect on everything and the next steps. She most importantly needed to start thinking about how to strengthen her financial position, maybe by planning home lessons asides her teaching job or by trading.

So she probably still needs the police to evict him and then start planning for life without him in the immediate.

I tried my best not to read bjpr.... story after I got snippets of it from people I followed been similar to this and you both not taking to advice and here you are again opening a new thread with a brand new account to bring us updated episodes like it's Jenifa's never ending but exciting episodes... The winner in all these is just Seun...
We all have our personal issues too, the internet is just to chill for some of us make depression for no deal with us...

Dear single young ladies,
Make una shine your eyes o.
Can’t imagine a man doing all this to any of my relative.
Na better mending e go chop.
My relative sef go chop inside if she is stupid in love.

My sister in-law had similar experience, it took the grace of God and some close relatives to intervene, if not it would have been another sad tale,a man that claims he loved you will NEVER raise his hand on you, dear Op you better go back to your father's house now before you experience the one that won't make you type long epistles here!

dobnina:
Remember??

Lol!

E don do now.

Off your mike abeg.

cayorday89:
I tried my best not to read bjpr.... story after I got snippets of it from people I followed been similar to this and you both not taking to advice and here you are again opening a new thread with a brand new account to bring us updated episodes like it's Jenifa's never ending but exciting episodes... The winner in all these is just Seun...
We all have our personal issues too, the internet is just to chill for some of us make depression for no deal with us...

This is not for the OP, I wish her nothing but the best. These tips are for young people out there. A stitch in time saves nine .

Young women:

Value yourself, build your self esteem, never be desperate with/for any man.
From an early age, have a vision of your independent self doing well without a romantic partner so that you don’t spend your life chasing a man (or men) that has lost interest. You can be single, successful and happy. Marriage would just be jara.
Get as much education and/or blue collar training as you can. Build yourself up before jumping to marriage.
Learn about finances, how to budget, how to plan, how and when to spend wisely, how to save and invest.
Don’t go and get pregnant in poverty, do your suffering alone, not with innocent kids.
Never stop looking good, remember that poverty and stress will age you real fast. Do the absolute best you can with what you can afford.
KIDS ARE EXPENSIVE


Young men:

Have a sound plan for your future and stick to it. Sex is not worth future years of poverty induced lost dreams and frustrations. Don’t end up using money for your GRE, your master’s, your trade/business to buy diapers and baby food for an unplanned pregnancy.
Beware of girls that are willing to shirk family planning/contraception. You may already be targeted to become a baby daddy, whether you like it or not. Some girls are simply looking to hook somebody, anybody, rich or poor, ready or not.
If you did not intend marriage, don’t be forced to accept a baby mama to move in with you. Consensual sex is just that, don’t be railroaded into marriage.
If you are still struggling, flee from girls that are ready to get pregnant and “manage with you.” Let her manage without adding extra mouths to your already lean budget. A girl that is soaking gari with you and getting pregnant in poverty is not likely to be an asset.
Don’t sleep with a girl you cannot marry, one time is all it takes to become an involuntary baby daddy, forever yoked to a girl you may not respect nor like.
KIDS ARE EXPENSIVE


Both:

Never stop praying

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Newborn27:
Thanks so much for all the bashing....I never regret any way for posting my personal story on NL....the people trying to blame me for not going back home....I don't blame.....*he that wore the shoes knows where it hurts* I should go back home to be a liability on my parent's with two kids or start begging and prostituting to cater for them as there is no ready made job for my arrival.

My accepting my Boss's plea was not because I wasn't thinking in my right frame of mind, but this is my Boss, the man who still pay my salary and accomodated my kids and I for 12days... saying NO will make me look like an ingrate and give me a bad record at work for being adamant...I wanted Folykaze to prove to my Boss how beastly he can be under his sheepy clothed look....if many of you reading this sees Folykaze one on one, you'd never be on my side and will even scold me on his behalf cos of his *GENTLE* and calm looks.

Ok, so what do you want from us in clear terms?

Cos updating this series isnt necessary without any goal in sight.

- do you wany money to move out again or to complete ur rent?

- your post suggests u would be willing to reconcile with ur partner if he pays your brideprice which then makes me wonder, why you want to leave him?

Are you just leaving because you dont want to stay with someone who hasnt paid your brideprice or because he isnt feeding or housing you? Which is it?

You cant continue to involve nairaland and the police without being firm and honest to yourself and the public on what you actually want.
Remember what you need has to be practical, achievable and perhaps requires compromise from both of you.

ahnie:


Pocohantas part got me lolzzzzzzzzz**i'm too young to be a mentor on Marital issues**

Pocohantas guilty as charged? Did you say this?