Newboss:
You sound like one of those weak simps. You gats drop her ass and move so as to be the man that she can respect. This one na see finish o. She has zero respect for you, forget a those yeye "women are emotional" talk. That's manipulation.

UncleKoboko:

She doesn't mean it but you can tell her the same too for fairness and eveness so she she'd know how it feels like

EndRape2:
Every marriage has ups and downs,
Both parties moat exchange words,
as long as no Domestic violence , just mamnge your home, but if there is Domestic Violence , run run run....








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Divorce ke? She said shes not scared and ready to be a single mother

sparko1:


You may think so, but a little separation will do you some good, you don't have to go to an hotel, you can stay with a single friend, but that is just silly, why can't you stay in an hotel, if after 10 years she can't trust you, your guess is as good as mine.

omoharry:
Stupid advice from a child . The woman in question is a wife and not one of those Ur olosho that u do pick up from the street , that u strew and dump the following day . So he cannot dump her , because she is his wife and mother to his three children .Got that ?

sandra50:
Wrong advice..until he dies?

ademidedavid:


The truth be told, i no longer compliment her becuase she does not do same to me and does not like my job, doesnt treat me as a wife should do when the husband gets back from work...........the more reason i also stopped

adubiay:


]I have been with my wife for 20years, married for 10years. This is the most complete comment I have read here, most of the previous comments are one sided, @OP take this advice, use dictionary if u have to, if not at 70 years u will realised u stop living the day u got married

AsianTotal:


Bro, it will pay you more to focus on yourself and how to please your wife to forgive you for hurting you. Polygamists are known to live happier, healthier and longer than monogamists. Leave Ned Nwoko Alone and work on yourself. Just try your best to apologies to your wife, buy her more gifts and hand over all of your salaries to her so she can decides how much you need for your upkeep. You need to completely submit to your wife so that peace can reign.

ademidedavid:


Thanks so much my brother, i so much appreciate this piece...

God be with you and yours

solelymade:


Bros, you have no problem ooo... You need to switch you love language to words of affirmation. It has to be a deliberate thing, not an afterthought.

Start telling your wife how beautiful she looks and incomparable to any woman out there. Compliment every appearance, every look, every purchase, engage her with programs too. Buy gifts too, hang out more with her. Travel if possible within and outside Nigeria. But talk more about her and how much you still love and how great she looks.

She's feeling old and thinking in her mind you don't fancy her that much anymore apart from being your kids mother. Women as they age begin to feel less appreciated and threatened, their body means a lot to them, they see younger ladies and other women as a threat because you are an endangered species and the considerations in you is so great. You can see from her actions she's consciously trying to protect you because in her imagination she's at war with other women. She is only overreacting to her fears. Tell her she has nothing to fear, let your sane friends subtly tell her how lucky she is to have you.

God will give you wisdom ooo.

Boss13:
Chief you're in a toxic marriage. If the genders were interchanged and the story was posted here on Nairaland, these misandrists would advise your wife to leave you and claim you are toxic.

Unfortunately your wife has emasculated you and now controls you. Oga, you have been lied to by feminist movement group that they best way to treat a woman is to stay peaceful. I am married and I will tell you - they are liars and they aim to control and suppress men.

Your wife and you have invested over a decade in your marriage and have 3 children. Chief, if you are unaware of your manhood, let me be the first to tell you that your wife's value has diminished. No serious man will consider her seriously other than to have sex with her. Also, you are too predictable for her and in all honesty, she truly regrets marrying you - forget the lies being told she spoke out of anger. She only expressed the truth when the opportunity presented itself.

Finally, you can choose to be emasculated and suffer in your marriage or be a man and put your wife where she belongs - a help mate and not your leader.

ademidedavid:


Ah, i dont want to think towards this angle at all.....altgough the 3 kids look so so much like me, they are the kind that cannot be denied.


Thanks so much

Affamefuna:

So the best way of expressing insecurity as u put it is by emotionally abusing her partner?
are u for real?

EaglesEyes1:
You just described my ex-gal, but dont be alarmed we broke up two years ago and I always give thanks to the Lord Jesus for that break up.
Are you just noticing these horribe attitudes from her or you saw it during your courtship days and still went ahead to marry?
If a gal look at me, my ex-gal will accuse me of doing something with the gal, she will say 'If don't have anything with that gal why is she looking at me?' Mumu me then will be defending myself what a simp I was. My ex-gal did same thing as your wife and more to me, nothing she won't say or do just because I tried to correct her. Sometimes I will cut the relationship off, she will come begging and say she won't repeat it again, and that she don't mean those harsh words when she is angry. But after two days or three, back to her old ways. She won't rest until she takes a revenge even though you beg her. But after the break, with the help of the redpill message, I got to find out that a woman won't respect you even though she claims to love you when she doesnt have a little bit of respect for a father figure in her life, and my ex-gal despises her dad.
But Bro you are already married, the deed is done, and she is already a mother to your children, I will say you commit her to the Lord Jesus by praying, and tried to be stoic and try everyday to be the best dad to your children and be a better version of yourself in your health, finances and relationship with God. Do what will make you happy, don't cut your life short while sulking to the attitudes of your wife.

misterme:


Almost 15 years of marriage and 3 kids, my wife has said that several times to me. She has threatened to leave me. I said ok, yet every morning I still see her in my house. Bros, no bother yourself, na women's way - emotion before reason.

ademidedavid:


Brother, as if you are with me....this is exactly what i have been and it really pays off now and keeping her calm.....anything she believes i do not owe her explanations and i really have peace of mind.

sandra50:
I'm a woman not a man..back to the topic..most women take advantage of soft men..I do not take advantage of soft men but I don't like a man being too soft..I want aan that will be able to tell me no in something's and stick to it..no matter how much I beg you don't need to bend..some times you say yes and sometimes no..no woman wants a weak man..imagine having to explain how you misplaced 1k and that became a very big issue..

1kinggy:


Physical appearance is not a guarantee. That is what many women used to get away. Some will even tell you the kids looks like grandma or grandpa pass you. E get why.

EndRape2:
Do not take her words serious but take her actions serious, tell her if single mothers make it she should leave you and go, lol, if she move then you know she is serious, but she can't.



Women talk anyhow, they talk as they are feeling, but do not mean it, so take actions serious not words.

But jokes apart, try and sit her down and have family meeting ,ask her where you are falling, and also tell her where she is falling, the two of you should reach a compromise to change , in your weak points.



But do not let a woman words hurt you, but let her know you are feeling bad with her words.



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Yes, she said single mothers even do well

Affamefuna:

It is the advise that supports ur wifes bad behavior that u seem to respond to. Oga, u don't want to hear the truth!

solelymade:

You have to my Brother, you're the covering over your home both spiritually and physically. Resume your responsibilities, she might not respond positively and with same energy at first but she will come good with time. Reach a compromise about your job as long as it is not illegal and it glorifies God, very important.

crackhaus:
If after 10years of marriage and 3 kids, my wife tells me she hates me and regrets marrying me, I will just start laughing...

bluefilm:


Why you go dey laff na?

You know no know say she fit go carry gun fire you for mocking her with your evil lafta.

Aditkd:
Okay, my one kobo opinion. She has no right to use such words on you. In anger one should refrain from speech and actions.
She most explain what she meant by that statement.
To me, don't go to her n beg n all. Let her on her own come to apologize to you but as her to explain what she meant by that statement.
For me o, it's we women that don't know how to manage the home.
That's how they push good men to go do what they don't want to do. If up till now she still doubts you after you have reassured her and done all you can for her to trust you and she still disbelieves you.
Then as well go do what she is suspecting you, so that when she asks you tell her yes you committed.

Things that ought not to cause wahala, some women will just take it out of proportion and context.

Oya, am at home if Una no like my comment, come my house come flog me. Do have a pleasant night's rest all. Gracias.

GofuckYourself: