Because they might fell unwanted (speaking from experience)

Those kids will later became adult then they will understand that is better their parents divorced than one to kill the other, If you hate your dad you will later marry a man if you hate your mum you will later marry a woman ,life na turn by turn

Godfullsam:


That is why I must have the custody of my kids at all cost if I divorce my wife.

Men are free thinkers, they naturally don't like to shift blames.
Women on the other hand will naturally play the victim card and either confuse or convince the kids to make them believe that their father is evil.

I don't know why women are like that!

women, by nature weren't meant to take responsibilities except her child

Kids who grew up in abusive homes with one parent abusing the other are more than happy about the separation.

I know kids who resent their mothers for staying with their abusive dads.

binarymachine:
There are a number of obvious and remote reasons for the negative distant attitude of many kids towards their parents who are no longer together. It is true that not every one is happy about the homes being shattered. Still, there are some who take it more to heart than others and this is mostly the case with the children.

A major reason for this attitude is the feeling of deprivation the kids have. Very easily, kids feel they have been deprived by their parents of the privileges of the home. They find it hard to accept that their parents are not longer together and the once united family they had is no more.
Along with this sad state of mind comes the thought that their parents did not care and love them. Kids will likely think that if their parents cared so much about them, they would have stayed together to look after them.

At times, kids may feel less important to the parents and thus, unwanted. Factually or erroneously, they can nurse the thought of parents being selfish and insensitive. By feeling left alone, they get detached from these parents or parent who they feel does not have them in mind and thus become distant.

It is also common to have kids feeling a parent or both were being immature and careless about the family and in handling the issues in the home. Hence, towards such parent, kids may express gross disrespectful and disregard as well as strong dislike for.

Kids love to feel relevant and cherished, if for one reason or the other they are lacking this attention as a result of their parents pulling apart, this deficiency leads them to build these characters.

Whenever parents are not living up to their expectations and are not living up to the standards expected of them, they are bound to invite negative reviews to themselves from their kids. With this bad reviews also come bad response and reaction in terms of attitude.

Thus, we see as one prominent one, the recoil into shell and closing up of kids. They build the defensive mechanism or physically and emotionally resisting the parent. The walls created in such kids can grow so tall that it becomes impossible to scale.

Consequently, it is wise for parents to explore all available avenues to resolve their issues and disputes before settling for the final decision of splitting. Therefore, separation should only become an option as the last resort when all other means fail.
Source:
https://flipmemes.com/2021/08/30/why-do-kids-become-bitter-towards-separated-parents/

Imagine you were a 9 years old boy & your parents decided to go their separate ways, will you be happy with them?

The original plan of God is a family of a man and wife intact with their children. Genesis 1:26-28 & Matthew 19:4-6.

I never had a good relationship with my mother,
I Hate my father but none of this is my fault and I blame both of them...(my naive mother never opening her eyes to see the lies my father told her, and my damned father for always lying to my mother)

Jim99:


You've said it all.

Every woman is guilty of this. And 99% of the time, it backfires.

i experience it when i was a child,,
May God deliever us from this women...
They re just too manipulative,

God bless you

samuel051:
Many children grow up thinking they have a deadbeat father,not knowing all they really had was a bitter mother.(men are not saints either but will never go to the extreme a woman will in tarnishing their ex's image to their kid/s)

Afrikween:
I never had a good relationship with my mother,
I Hate my father but none of this is my fault and I blame both of them...(my naive mother never opening her eyes to see the lies my father told her, and my damned father for always lying to my mother)

You have to learn to lift that baggage out of your mind and heart.

Your father is every girl's first love (ideally) & her mirror to view all men.

Deep down in your subconscious mind, there is the tendency to distrust (lack of trust in ) men because your relationship with your Father is not actually healthy as it should be.

It's also vice versa.

Men who don't have healthy relationship with their mothers while growing up, they will not easily trust any woman & also harder to fall in love with.

Shalom.

raindroup:
The kid will grow up to understand nothing new here

Not every child will understand .

You've said it all. But generalizing is a no no. We still have good women...

Davash222:
The parent with the Kids will always sell bad image of the other parent to the kids.

This is exactly what Tonto Dike is doing right now. If the son is not street wise, he might grow to hate his dad not knowing the fault is from his mother.

Women are naturally manipulative. Don't allow a woman to solely train your child/children.

Skillsnigeria:
Reading

Na read read you dey do every time. You no get anything to say. Haba! You read read read all the thing wey other people write don dey fade. Fear God o.

Davash222:
The parent with the Kids will always sell bad image of the other parent to the kids.

This is exactly what Tonto Dike is doing right now. If the son is not street wise, he might grow to hate his dad not knowing the fault is from his mother.

Women are naturally manipulative. Don't allow a woman to solely train your child/children.

You started well ,I agree she is wrong to deny the child access to the father, but saying it’s Tonto fault is actually wrong , were you in the marriage? how are we so sure the marriage did not bring out the part of her we are saying now. A lot of times it’s the person talking that ends up been bad.

Davash222:
The parent with the Kids will always sell bad image of the other parent to the kids.

This is exactly what Tonto Dike is doing right now. If the son is not street wise, he might grow to hate his dad not knowing the fault is from his mother.

Women are naturally manipulative. Don't allow a woman to solely train your child/children.

So much wisdom from you.

Sonnobax15:

Normally cha,no kid deserves that....I mean,the side effects of separation of parents na the children lives e for dey show.....

correct.

Because of what one of the parents implanted into them against other

ebicon:


You started well ,I agree she is wrong to deny the child access to the father, but saying it’s Tonto fault is actually wrong , were you in the marriage? how are we so sure the marriage did not bring out the part of her we are saying now. A lot of times it’s the person talking that ends up been bad.

By their fruit you shall know them.

Nobody is perfect,including her ex-husband.
But a woman who goes about smoking,drinking,telling the whole world that her hubby is a 40 seconds man,and all that ,will tell you the kind of person she is.

duro4chang:
Not every child will understand .

True, but he or she will eventually understand, I Don see many of them

jasmine1600:
Life is a set up.
It doesn’t always work the way we plan.
If not for kids, no man would ever think of getting married.
Marriage it’s self is the greatest scam.

I am beginning to agree with this statement with what I am passing through. Marriage is a scam

The combined love of both parents can't be compare with just one of them at a time. Besides, children go through alot from the separation

Godfullsam:


That is why I must have the custody of my kids at all cost if I divorce my wife.

Men are free thinkers, they naturally don't like to shift blames.
Women on the other hand will naturally play the victim card and either confuse or convince the kids to make them believe that their father is evil.

I don't know why women are like that!

Not all women. U never jam men wey shift blames pass shifts at the hospital

samuel051:
Many children grow up thinking they have a deadbeat father,not knowing all they really had was a bitter mother.(men are not saints either but will never go to the extreme a woman will in tarnishing their ex's image to their kid/s)

Many children from broke homes DO have deadbeat fathers. Yes, there's the place of mothers telling the children bad things about their fathers but this usually stems from the anger of the man being deadbeat in the first place!

[God bless u=Davash222 post=106147315]The parent with the Kids will always sell bad image of the other parent to the kids.

This is exactly what Tonto Dike is doing right now. If the son is not street wise, he might grow to hate his dad not knowing the fault is from his mother.

Women are naturally manipulative. Don't allow a woman to solely train your child/children. [/quote]

To be separated is no good atall

God bless my mama
She's the only one for the 5 of us

Now 20 decades gone

Though we struggles at times...but God gat us!

Lol....as always the supposed "superior" gender keeps blaming and will always blame women for their woes...

Keep crying....

Davash222:
The parent with the Kids will always sell bad image of the other parent to the kids.

This is exactly what Tonto Dike is doing right now. If the son is not street wise, he might grow to hate his dad not knowing the fault is from his mother.

Women are naturally manipulative. Don't allow a woman to solely train your child/children.

Davash222:
The parent with the Kids will always sell bad image of the other parent to the kids.

This is exactly what Tonto Dike is doing right now. If the son is not street wise, he might grow to hate his dad not knowing the fault is from his mother.

Women are naturally manipulative. Don't allow a woman to solely train your child/children.

All women are not the same.

Both his father and mother are at fault. Toxic people attract each other. If one partne has issues, the other partner has issues too

Midas01:
Lol....as always the supposed "superior" gender keeps blaming and will always blame women for their woes...

Keep crying....

Happy Weekend, troublesome Midas.

If you had a deadbeat devil like Ubunja as father you would hate him too. Even Ubunja hates his own deadbeat useless father too. Its hereditary . His son will carry.the family tradition on. Kikikikikiki

okwadatigbogal:


Many children from broke homes DO have deadbeat fathers. Yes, there's the place of mothers telling the children bad things about their fathers but this usually stems from the anger of the man being deadbeat in the first place!

I have seen those from good homes who have hardworking fathers but deadbeat mother who led to the separation.these women are the ones spoiling their ex's to the kids.

It's the parent themselves. Wen u can't coparent in peace. Some children even wished their parents were separated because being together was to toxic for the child to live in. So it's not the seperation that's the issue. It's d parents involved in the seperation.

abobote:
Nice article, children deserve the best, and you can't get the best from a separated home

I don't believe this. The best comes from to healthy parents wether they re together or not. Healthy in body, soul and mind.