Unik3030:
Listen to my sorry by lucky dube n u will understand better

Davash222:
The parent with the Kids will always sell bad image of the other parent to the kids.

This is exactly what Tonto Dike is doing right now. If the son is not street wise, he might grow to hate his dad not knowing the fault is from his mother.

Women are naturally manipulative. Don't allow a woman to solely train your child/children.

binarymachine:

. It is true that not every one is happy about the homes being shattered. Still, there are some who take it more to heart than others and this is mostly the case with the children.

Godfullsam:


That is why I must have the custody of my kids at all cost if I divorce my wife.

Men are free thinkers, they naturally don't like to shift blames.
Women on the other hand will naturally play the victim card and either confuse or convince the kids to make them believe that their father is evil.

I don't know why women are like that!

mariovito:
It's a messed up situation. A kid needs the balance from both parents to develop into a balanced adult. The animosity, chaos and lack of love that comes with separation and divorce always rubs off wrongly on the kids. They grow up with a warped mentality about life.
A kid needs a father figure to look up to, this instils discipline and order while the mother balances out with all the love care.

I had a roommate in school who was raised by a single mom. It always showed in his demeanor. Always felt entitled, easy to pick a quarrel and keep malice.

By any means necessary, marry someone you know you can. Stay with in the long run but most times we marry for the wrong reasons; big nyash, the guy has a fat wallet and then down the road shit hits the fan.

This has led to the rise in dysfunctional society because the family is the nucleus of the society. We now have many girls running "package" and many guys taking to crime partly because of this.

Many times I fancy the idea of having a baby mama but then I think about the deprivation that kid will experience and I jettison the thought.

I hope and plan to raise my kids in a family set up.
But then, many of these things are beyond us. We make plans but then fate is the ultimate decider.

It's a beautiful Thursday afternoon here in the capital city, so let me
**Spark my kpoli in a peaceful manner**

chatinent:
There isn't peace...and children will likely pick sides against who is at fault. Of course, they are watching.

No matter what one party tells them, they are watching.

They may not readily hate any parent, but they will be close to the one they are more comfortable with.

IMASTEX:

It takes mainly financial & emotional support to grow a child. A man spends his time providing the financial support thinking that is all that really matters. While ignorantly neglecting the emotional aspect for the woman to provide. Well as, emotion influences the mind. Hence whosever influences a child emotionally automatically gains easy control of him. Men in the name of forming a man or too fix pursuing money don't create quality time for the children. I.e. as little as occasional school run, feeding them, playing ball or any choice game, playing on the bed or chair, seeing their favorite cartoons together, bathing them, taking a walk or taking them out, helping with school work, forbidden mummy bought it phrase instead mummy & daddy, etc. will go a long way. Children are mainly attached to whosever provide them emotional support. It is only when they become an adult that they place value on financial provider.

Davash222:
The parent with the Kids will always sell bad image of the other parent to the kids.

This is exactly what Tonto Dike is doing right now. If the son is not street wise, he might grow to hate his dad not knowing the fault is from his mother.

Women are naturally manipulative. Don't allow a woman to solely train your child/children.

SeriouslySense:
Not all kids are like that, for instance, i don't resent my parents, and i don't hate that they are not together, i even grew to love having a single parent, no additional person to boss you around .

But every kid needs two responsible parents.

As for me, i don't blame anyone, although love mother more, I think we can all come to an understanding.

FreeConCiencE:


You are very correct. But, don't kill yourself trying to do all those things you mentioned above all in the name of gaining affection from your children, please. Things are not easy for some men. If you know what some men are passing through at their places of work, you will feel for them. Just do what you can do emotionally and financially, who will love you, will love you and who will hate you will hate you. Remember, your life doesn't have a duplicate and you, too, need to enjoy life before you die.

AuroraB:
There are men who do same.

Karleb:




I'm sorry to say but this comment no be am.

For the fact that you have a job doesn't give you an excuse not to have time for your family. I don't have a kid yet but I have lots of siblings and everyone of them that is younger than I am were attached to me when they were little, even now that they are growing, the bond is still there.

Even the women many people here try to paint as the devil also work too.

Having a 9 - 5 or facing bullshits at work is no excuse for not finding time for your family, especially your children.

You people should make ammends and stop giving excuses.

FreeConCiencE:


Come back and make comments when you are married and when you have children. Experience is the best teacher. Come and make comments when you have a load of responsibilities staring at you and you are living from hands to mouth. Just pray things are rossy for you in life. You think having siblings equals having a family(wife and children). You think those that hardly have time to play with their wives and children are happy about it? You may not understand, but I believe many responsible men who are struggling days and nights to meet their responsibilities will relate to what I am saying.

Davash222:
The parent with the Kids will always sell bad image of the other parent to the kids.

This is exactly what Tonto Dike is doing right now. If the son is not street wise, he might grow to hate his dad not knowing the fault is from his mother.

Women are naturally manipulative. Don't allow a woman to solely train your child/children.

binarymachine:
There are a number of obvious and remote reasons for the negative distant attitude of many kids towards their parents who are no longer together. It is true that not every one is happy about the homes being shattered. Still, there are some who take it more to heart than others and this is mostly the case with the children.

A major reason for this attitude is the feeling of deprivation the kids have. Very easily, kids feel they have been deprived by their parents of the privileges of the home. They find it hard to accept that their parents are not longer together and the once united family they had is no more.
Along with this sad state of mind comes the thought that their parents did not care and love them. Kids will likely think that if their parents cared so much about them, they would have stayed together to look after them.

At times, kids may feel less important to the parents and thus, unwanted. Factually or erroneously, they can nurse the thought of parents being selfish and insensitive. By feeling left alone, they get detached from these parents or parent who they feel does not have them in mind and thus become distant.

It is also common to have kids feeling a parent or both were being immature and careless about the family and in handling the issues in the home. Hence, towards such parent, kids may express gross disrespectful and disregard as well as strong dislike for.

Kids love to feel relevant and cherished, if for one reason or the other they are lacking this attention as a result of their parents pulling apart, this deficiency leads them to build these characters.

Whenever parents are not living up to their expectations and are not living up to the standards expected of them, they are bound to invite negative reviews to themselves from their kids. With this bad reviews also come bad response and reaction in terms of attitude.

Thus, we see as one prominent one, the recoil into shell and closing up of kids. They build the defensive mechanism or physically and emotionally resisting the parent. The walls created in such kids can grow so tall that it becomes impossible to scale.

Consequently, it is wise for parents to explore all available avenues to resolve their issues and disputes before settling for the final decision of splitting. Therefore, separation should only become an option as the last resort when all other means fail.
Source:
https://flipmemes.com/2021/08/30/why-do-kids-become-bitter-towards-separated-parents/

Davash222:

Happy Weekend, troublesome Midas.