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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by TearNinja001: 1:50pm On Oct 03, 2021
When a topic is about "virgins", some people will spring up with their usual nonsensical statement "virginity doesn't guarantee a successful marriage".

What's that suppose to mean?

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by shaybebaby(f): 2:10pm On Oct 03, 2021
SteelMcqueen:


With all the 'weightier' issues you stated up, you still took your time to open this thread, read through it and comment. You're the the most wretched of all human beings.
Yes I did, because it bothered me that my country folks can be so damned stupid. Because I want us to be better than these foolish utterances. Because utterances like these are part of the reasons why more civilised nations view us a little more than animals.
Mankind is looking to advance, you are hell bent on regressing.

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by Nothingserious: 2:13pm On Oct 03, 2021
brodalikeme:
I disagree with you absolutely! The virtue of being a virgin as lofty as it is alone, cannot guarantee a successful marriage.

Brand new tyres alone does not make an efficient vehicle.
Clean cups doesn’t make great drinks.
There are so many important tiny components that makes a good woman/wife.

Okay.

Having good tyres are no guarantee for safe trips.
Being disciplined is no guarantee for a successful career and business.
Having a faithful partner is not a guarantee for a good home.
Having clean cups and eating healthy foods are no guarantees for healthy lives.

So would you want us to give you all the negatives of those statements so you can have a successful home or career or business or lifestyle?

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by Nobody: 2:14pm On Oct 03, 2021
jmoore:

And fornication adds to the GDP?
you finished her with this one. So funny

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by shaybebaby(f): 2:22pm On Oct 03, 2021
jmoore:

When they are watching people having sex on national TV in big brother Nigeria, natural disaster didn't happen, global economy was stable? You have been noticed.

That you are calling us mentally enslaved shows how poor your IQ is. You don't know the impact of STDs on health.
Rule 1: Anyone that speaks against virginity temporarily suspends his/her brain for that moment. You have proven that.


And fornication adds to the GDP?
STD is a health issue. Now you would have a point if preaching abstinence for both sides. Or STD the purvey of women alone? Does your gender make you immune from it?
It takes two to have sex, hold your men to the same standards and perhaps your STD argument would be valid. Otherwise what is the point of a woman being a virgin when she is still going to be exposed to a community dick when she eventually decides to be deflowered.

What is the relevance of big brother to the conversation? People are going to have and satisfy their sexual urges whether you like it or not. Educating them on how to do it safely is what a sane person would advocate not shaming them.
After all, if it were so easy, why haven't you joined a monastery? I don't see you rabid folks queuing up there.

Whether you choose to notice or not notice is irrelevant to me. Doesn't add or detract from my life. I don't know you and ofcourse wouldn't ever wish to know anyone that reasons like you do.

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by Nobody: 2:25pm On Oct 03, 2021
shaybebaby:

Yes I did, because it bothered me that my country folks can be so damned stupid. Because I want us to be better than these foolish utterances. Because utterances like these are part of the reasons why more civilised nations view us a little more than animals.
Mankind is looking to advance, you are hell bent on regressing.
What is your definition of advancement.

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by SteelMcqueen: 2:26pm On Oct 03, 2021
shaybebaby:

Yes I did, because it bothered me that my country folks can be so damned stupid. Because I want us to be better than these foolish utterances. Because utterances like these are part of the reasons why more civilised nations view us a little more than animals.
Mankind is looking to advance, you are hell bent on regressing.

You shouldn't have replied......you just exposed how dumb you are......your capacity for stupidity is mind blowing.

So interactions like these is what makes civilized nations consider us animals......

I guess you don't know of Quora or Reddit, they're also forums in USA, like this, where people discuss these issues...... Nobody considers them animals.....

BTW the reason civilized nations treat you the way the treat you is because of your political leaders.

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by shaybebaby(f): 2:42pm On Oct 03, 2021
SteelMcqueen:


You shouldn't have replied......you just exposed how dumb you are......your capacity for stupidity is mind blowing.

So interactions like these is what makes civilized nations consider us animals......

I guess you don't know of Quora or Reddit, they're also forums in USA, like this, where people discuss these issues...... Nobody considers them animals.....

BTW the reason civilized nations treat you the way the treat you is because of your political leaders.
Yes it is because it is this mindsets like this that lands you lot in jail when you finally emigrate.

One of the justification white people used to justify slavery was that blacks were closer to animals than humans therefore shouldn't be viewed as humans. They believed we were intellectually inferior and with your vituperation on here, aren't you proving them right?

A recent study conducted in the UK found a good proportion of STILL think that certain groups of people can inherently be born more intelligent that others. Meaning they still consider us intellectually inferior!!!!

I read stuff like that, it hurts. Then I come within my own community and its like no wonder.

If the folks that founded reddit and quora had little minds focusing on virginity, we wouldn't have both today.
Pray tell, what do you have in common with respect to Alexis Ohanian's mindset?

He certainly doesn't share your views about women/ Black women and whether or not their virginity matters. And the proof is in the pudding. There he is and here you are. tongue

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by SteelMcqueen: 2:54pm On Oct 03, 2021
shaybebaby:

Yes it is because it is this mindsets like this that lands you lot in jail when you finally emigrate.

One of the justification white people used to justify slavery was that blacks were closer to animals than humans therefore shouldn't be viewed as humans. They believed we were intellectually inferior and with your vituperation on here, aren't you proving them right?

A recent study conducted in the UK found a good proportion of STILL think that certain groups of people can inherently be born more intelligent that others. Meaning they still consider us intellectually inferior!!!!

I read stuff like that, it hurts. Then I come within my own community and its like no wonder.

If the folks that founded reddit and quora had little minds focusing on virginity, we wouldn't have both today.
Pray tell, what do you have in common with respect to Alexis Ohanian's mindset?

He certainly doesn't share your views about women/ Black women and whether or not their virginity matters. And the proof is in the pudding. There he is and here you are. tongue



What's this dumb bitch saying!!!!

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by shaybebaby(f): 2:58pm On Oct 03, 2021
Meek127:

What is your definition of advancement.
Progress, moving forward not backwards.

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by shaybebaby(f): 2:58pm On Oct 03, 2021
SteelMcqueen:


What's this dumb bitch saying!!!!
Anyone care to translate for the resident idiot?

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by femi4: 3:01pm On Oct 03, 2021
jmoore:
So you had a bath, got dressed, sprayed perfume and walked out of the hostel to head to the class for lectures.

Then you meet someone dressed in rags with the most offensive smell ever. He says to you "being clean is not a guarantee for a successful graduate".

That marks are not given for being clean doesn't mean you should be a dirty pig
. You being clean is for your own good, it's healthy to be clean.
Is being dirty a guarantee to be a successful graduate?

Now, you can see where I am heading to. Being a virgin till marriage is a healthy lifestyle. Borehole doesn't guarantee anything. Therefore, let virgins be free to virgins.
Foolish comparison.
When does losing virginity before marriage makes a woman unclean.

What solidifies marriages are inward appearance and not physical/outward/artificial stuff like virginity.

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by duality(m): 3:05pm On Oct 03, 2021
SIRTee15:


As u can see, the priority is good character and not virginity.
There's more to marriage than virginity. Marriage is hard work from both couples.
I'm not really sure how virginity helps sustain and keeps the marriage going, but if it helps in anyway...then good.
But I'm sure good character, sacrifice, understanding, healthy compromise, excellent management skills, emotional intelligence are established keys that holds the foundation of a long lasting marriage.

How do you even define good character or integrity.

What you call good character, are part of the ingredients to deliberately live in chastity. Particularly in our present world.

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by Ikpunwanyianamb: 3:12pm On Oct 03, 2021
Adekaka12345:


You don't know who a virgin is.

You just assume you do.

All the best...

I'd prefer virgins any day but are there true virgins? Lol.
You don't know who a virgin is mr man
Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by Nobody: 3:15pm On Oct 03, 2021
Funny thing is that both parties(those advocating for virginity or non-virginity) made valid assumptions.
Personally,why i wont take side is very simple,"the complexity of human nature and the socio-pychological strings that comes with it. whether they are virgins or non-virgins,they are still the same human beings.
take for instance,i'll approach from a feminine perspective(im in no way demeaning women).
a lady,having had sex maybe once or twice or she's not the freaky freaky type,does that make her automatically a hoe(see what im getting at).
so in retrospect,the idea of virginity might be/probably is over-emphasized.
Simply avoid the bad ones that are freaky(obviously you'll recognise them by their ways) and i think you'll find someone reasonable to relate with.
i repeat, this post is stricty directed towards promiscuity and not actually finding someone with genuine integrity.
let us stop judging,nobody is born perfect but like i said,avoid the freaky freaky ones. I rest my case.

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by duality(m): 3:16pm On Oct 03, 2021
VERDA:


He asked a simple question based on what you said, instead of answering your being smart...so those that are not virgins are doomed to unsuccessful marriages abi?? because that seems to be ur argument.

Those that deliberately chosen to be and remain virgins, even with all the pressures, are not doomed too. However, they are better choices.

We all can't shamelessly throw in marriage success into the narrative, because we want to validate our sexual recklessness. At the same time, trivialize Chastity. NO!!!!

The ORGANIC character traits for a successful marriage, is embedded in the ability to keep yourself pure, against all odds.

Other house hold skills can be learned by anyone.

The CHARACTER TO KEEP YOURSELF PURE, cant be bought in the open market.

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by Daughterboard(m): 3:16pm On Oct 03, 2021
jmoore:
So you had a bath, got dressed, sprayed perfume and walked out of the hostel to head to the class for lectures.

Then you meet someone dressed in rags with the most offensive smell ever. He says to you "being clean is not a guarantee for a successful graduate".

That marks are not given for being clean doesn't mean you should be a dirty pig. You being clean is for your own good, it's healthy to be clean.
Is being dirty a guarantee to be a successful graduate?

Now, you can see where I am heading to. Being a virgin till marriage is a healthy lifestyle. Borehole doesn't guarantee anything. Therefore, let virgins be free to virgins.

With the way you have presented your argument the statement would always be true.

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by MasterJayJay: 3:18pm On Oct 03, 2021
shaybebaby:

Progress, moving forward not backwards.

This is romance section. If you are wise, you should have known technology is not being discussed here. It's common sense but your hate for virgins has beclouded your reasoning.

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by Nobody: 3:21pm On Oct 03, 2021
shaybebaby:
Anyone care to translate for the resident idiot?
lol

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by shaybebaby(f): 3:27pm On Oct 03, 2021
MasterJayJay:


This is romance section. If you are wise, you should have known technology is not being discussed here. It's common sense but your hate for virgins has beclouded your reasoning.
undecided
If you were capable of critical thought, you would realise that progress doesn't mean tech alone.

How does your love of virgins advance society?

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by Nobody: 3:28pm On Oct 03, 2021
MasterJayJay:


This is romance section. If you are wise, you should have known technology is not being discussed here. It's common sense but your hate for virgins has beclouded your reasoning.
advancement can also be socio/psychological, hence the term "civilised". Meaning you're exposed mentally.

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by 2buffagain(m): 3:33pm On Oct 03, 2021
pansophist:
Saying that virginity doesn't guarantee a successful marriage is like saying that an educated hardworking man doesn't guarantee sucess. Well yea, it doesn't, but it's an indication. And I'll rather pick a virgin, than one would compare sex with every other man she has slept with.

I've seen "virgins" in their mid late 20s who have quite the exquisite collection of vibrators and dildos, including gadgets that Bleep both holes at the same time while vibrating. This same person is there saying she is a virgin waiting for her husband... expecting vibrating penis grin. If that is what she has been training her sexual expectations on all these years, bruh, it's better she were having normal sex with actual human beings.

It's like a guy who trains his sexuality on porn for several decades or whatever and then expects the same exact sensation when he finally started trying to smash normal human flesh women.

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by MasterJayJay: 3:38pm On Oct 03, 2021
Meek127:
advancement can also be socio/psychological, hence the term "civilised". Meaning you're exposed mentally.

shaybebaby:
If you were capable of critical thought, you would realise that progress doesn't mean tech alone.

How does your love of virgins advance society?

Some of you love to argue unnecessarily. This is romance section. Which section is suitable for virginity to be discussed? Politics or technology?

How does promiscuity advance society?

Hian!

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by Nobody: 3:42pm On Oct 03, 2021
MasterJayJay:

na normal thing for arguement to drift at times lol
Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by shaybebaby(f): 3:43pm On Oct 03, 2021
MasterJayJay:


Why is it even up for debate is the real issue here.
Personal choice to be remain one should be just that, personal and not under undue pressure and gaslighting from those who
1) don't have one(hymen)
2) believe they are exempt from the same rule they are trying to enforce.

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by cooooooks(m): 3:43pm On Oct 03, 2021
1. Non sequitur

2. Yes. Tourism, including sex tourism, is one of the best things for any economy.

jmoore:


And fornication adds to the GDP?

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by JovialJune(f): 3:45pm On Oct 03, 2021
And you know the funny thing about the guys screaming virginity here, they are not different from the non virgins they are castigating, all things being equal, they are indirectly referring to themselves, the irony grin.

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by SIRTee15: 3:45pm On Oct 03, 2021
duality:


How do you even define good character or integrity.

What you call good character, are part of the ingredients to deliberately live in chastity. Particularly in our present world.


Well, I really don't know what it takes live a chaste life in nigeria. Maybe religion and discipline is a big influence.
I live abroad, and things are different here. U don't need to be religious to live morally or upright. Decision to be a virgin is a personal choice to both genders. Most times, it has nothing to do with marriage.

Also factors that influence a life partner is different even among nigerian migrants. For men, marriage can be a one chance bus, u don't want to get it wrong. So factors u looking for in a partner may be unlike if u are in naija.

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Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by Kajaard: 3:46pm On Oct 03, 2021
jmoore:


Now, you can see where I am heading to. Being a virgin till marriage is a healthy lifestyle. Borehole doesn't guarantee anything. Therefore, let virgins be free to virgins.

grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin
Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by SATANlST: 3:47pm On Oct 03, 2021
with their smelling toto
Re: "Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Successful Marriage" Is A Statement Of Stupidity by tfelicityk(m): 3:48pm On Oct 03, 2021
People are entitled with their own opinions...

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