bepositive11:


You need to dig deeper to understand what I'm saying. Men who seek virgins to avoid being compared are deeply insecure. They have very low self esteem.

How about this? A man gets married to a non-promiscuous non-virgin then learns what she likes and focuses on pleasing her while being confident in his own abilities to learn how to please her better than anyone else. That is how a man with healthy self esteem would think

I would personally advise women I care about to stay away from men who want virgins. Those are the kind of men who can't stand being compared, who think that they are not good enough, who think that they don't stand a chance against other men, who take constructive feedback as negative criticism, who can't communicate openly, honestly, and directly

In fact, you, do a quick Google search for signs of low self esteem and assess yourself

This whole concept of a promiscuous man wanting a virgin woman is a form of control. That's what men with low self esteem need to feel secure. Control. Minimizing the chances of infidelity because of insecurity

Keep denying all you want. You have to reflect deeply to get what I'm saying

FashionCookie:
When una don "disvirgin" all d small small gurls 4 una area finush una dey find virgin. Where una wan for see am? Ndi ala...ndi ala.
So d ones una scatter 4 ground who go marry them?
I read comments here and I laugh. D matter b say many of una no go see virgins marry(bitter truth). So you guys should go and rest and let us hear word. You can't eat your cake and have it. Stop coming here to claim... go and sit down!

bepositive11:


Are all non virgins promiscuous? How many women have you had sex with? Are you not the one who is promiscuous? Will you even be faithful to your virgin wife?

Liposure:
The truth is many will end up not marrying the love of their life if they continue chasing virgins. There are people who married the person they had sex with and eventually fall in love with to balance the equation.

duality:


Not everyone one bows to the sex demon.

Whenever you have this consciousness, you would no longer have this opinion you wrote above.

JovialJune:



You are also a male olosho if you're not a virgin correct?

SenecaTheYonger:


Marrying a non virgin does not make a successful marriage either.

uzoma213:
no shit, Sherlock

SenecaTheYonger:


So what’s your point? This thread is about virginity not about what makes a successful marriage. So what was your point?

uzoma213:
my point is that marrying a virgin or a non virgin guarantees a successful marriage

bepositive11:


Do a quick Google search for signs of low self esteem and assess yourself. I tired of going back and forth with folks like you

Most men are insecure. Wanting a virgin is a subtle form of control to feel more secure. Keep denying it all you want

shaybebaby:


Typical little girl no-valid response response. Bless your sloppy moral-highground

FORWARDEVERLY:



Men has never been in the virginity situationship ..
If you like call me patriarchy or misogynist..infcat calling me such would make me happy and fufilled..

Back to the question.. both in traditions and biblical, It is never demanded for a man to be a Virgin whatsoever but .. it is demanded both in tradition and Bible for women to be so.. The Bible kept on hammering on women being virgins likewise the way our traduons hammers on it.. before some woke idiots and so called feminist started trying to water down the importance..

So.. women should be chaste and be virgins.. and men are freeborns.. that is the bitter truth...
If e vex you. Go and protest to Ned Nwoko that has numerous Nubile chaste women he married or go protest to Adamu the poor northerner living in a slum in Nasarawa with up to 4 young wives of which he married as a brand new no tested brides...

Cheers my dear feminist wannabe..

SenecaTheYonger:


Now you include non-virgin.

I don’t know why you guys get triggered when you hear a woman is a virgin.

Always the same “virgins don’t guarantee successful marriage” NPC programmed bot response. Yeah, no shiiitt.

uzoma213:
I made a mistake in my post, I meant to say 'doesn't guarantee'

bepositive11:


Keep shaming out of this. If you have nothing better to say than "you don't have sense", please don't reply

Are all non virgins promiscuous? How many women have you had sex with? Are you not the one who is promiscuous? Will you even be faithful to your virgin wife?

There's nothing wrong with not wanting a promiscuous wife. We're talking about non virgins

Non virgins include women who only have sex in committed relationships

The bottom line is wanting a virgin wife is because you don't trust women to stay faithful to you so you're trying to lower the odds (and that lack of trust stems from low self esteem btw). But what's the point of being with a woman you can't trust? Virgin or non-virgin, if you can't trust her to stay faithful, don't marry her

pansophist:


You are trying to equalize non-virginity as a virtue, and I do not accept that. No matter how you twist it, my point stands, which is, all things equal, I will choose a virgin to a non-virgin. Of course, it doesn't imply that I can not marry a non-virgin, or that virginity is the only thing that makes a woman worthy, but my point is, that I will hold a woman who is a virgin to a higher degree of virtue to the one who is not a virgin if she ticks every other of my criteria. And being a non-virgin who is not promiscuous still doesn't exempt the fact that I will be compared to her exes. It's automatic, men do it too, the only difference why people focus on men is because when it comes to any interaction with women and in this case sexually, men bear the burden of performance, and are judged harshly.

How many women can ride a man for ten min straight without gasping for air like someone drowning? but when it comes to judging men, you judge men so harshly with standards you won't fulfill yourself. Also, you should probably go learn the meaning of insecurity/low self-esteem, you just throw the word around thinking you are making sense, but it is counterproductive. Demanding virtue (virginity) is not low self-esteem/insecurity, the same way a woman who is prioritizing a man with a brighter future is not gold-digging. Low self-esteem would be thinking I do not deserve a virgin, or a woman thinking she does not deserve a good man. Do you see why I said you don't have sense? and if you don't want me to call you senseless, then you should not just throw insults around (calling me low self-esteem). You don't expect me to be a gentleman to you, while you are a ghetto to me. Respect is reciprocal.

pansophist:


You are trying to equalize non-virginity as a virtue, but I refuse to accept that. No matter how you twist it, my point stands, which is, all things equal, I will choose a virgin to a non-virgin. Of course, it doesn't imply that I can not marry a non-virgin, or that virginity is the only thing that makes a woman worthy, but my point is, that I will hold a woman who is a virgin to a higher degree of virtue to the one who is not a virgin if she ticks every other of my criteria. And being a non-virgin who is not promiscuous still doesn't exempt the fact that I will be compared to her exes.

It's automatic, men do it too, the only difference why people focus on men is because when it comes to any interaction with women and in this case sexually, men bear the burden of performance, and are judged harshly. How many women can ride a man for ten min straight without gasping for air like someone drowning? but when it comes to judging men, you judge men so harshly with standards you won't fulfill yourself.

Also, you should probably go learn the meaning of insecurity/low self-esteem, you just throw the word around thinking you are making sense, but it is counterproductive. Demanding virtue (virginity) is not low self-esteem/insecurity, the same way a woman who is prioritizing a man with a brighter future is not gold-digging. Low self-esteem would be thinking I do not deserve a virgin, or a woman thinking she does not deserve a good man. Do you see why I said you don't have sense? and if you don't want me to call you senseless, then you should not just throw insults around (calling me low self-esteem). You don't expect me to be a gentleman to you, while you are a jezebel to me. Respect is reciprocal.

SenecaTheYonger:


Now you include non-virgin.

I don’t know why you guys get triggered when you hear a woman is a virgin.

Always the same “virgins don’t guarantee successful marriage” NPC programmed bot response. Yeah, no shiiitt.

bepositive11:


Please get lost! You're telling me that you don't have low self esteem, yet you're telling me that you're worried about her comparing you to her exes. Guess what? That is a sign of low self esteem and Insecurity! Nonsense!

advanceDNA:


Wait sir...

U are making it sound like every man should look forward to marrying women that several other men has slept with if they are not weak and insecure ...

I really don't get your idea..

Maybe if you tell me what's fantastic or great about a woman over 10-20 men has slept with and with a couple of abortions to match...then I would understand why you think a man avoiding such a woman is weak and insecure...

Most women with high body counts even lie that they've had only a few ex...thats because they know it doesn't sound or look good...even in the west...
yet u think their Male counterpart are insecure for wanting women with lesser or zero body count... Enlighten me

henrybomb:

Just off the mic I am tired of explaining the same thing everytime.
Or is it that when y’all have discussions somewhere you just view things from one angle without other instances?

bepositive11:


Please read my previous comments on this thread. I'm tired of repeating myself

advanceDNA:


Oh....apologies

shaybebaby:

I'm telling you. At work, there is a huge drive to increase diversity and mobility for ethnic minority, all these training being given on identifying biases, calling on each other to allies so that black people can have equal opportunities to succeed.
And then I land here and read these nonsense. How can I be vocal and be an advocate for my people when this is the mindset that follows them around.

I am hopeful sha, I saw your comments and a few others. Proof that the entire basket of fruit isn't rotten.

pansophist:


You are trying to equalize non-virginity as a virtue, but I refuse to accept that. No matter how you twist it, my point stands, which is, all things equal, I will choose a virgin to a non-virgin. Of course, it doesn't imply that I can not marry a non-virgin, or that virginity is the only thing that makes a woman worthy, but my point is, that I will hold a woman who is a virgin to a higher degree of virtue to the one who is not a virgin if she ticks every other of my criteria. And being a non-virgin who is not promiscuous still doesn't exempt the fact that I will be compared to her exes.

It's automatic, men do it too, the only difference why people focus on men is because when it comes to any interaction with women and in this case sexually, men bear the burden of performance, and are judged harshly. How many women can ride a man for ten min straight without gasping for air like someone drowning? but when it comes to judging men, you judge men so harshly with standards you won't fulfill yourself.

Also, you should probably go learn the meaning of insecurity/low self-esteem, you just throw the word around thinking you are making sense, but it is counterproductive. Demanding virtue (virginity) is not low self-esteem/insecurity, the same way a woman who is prioritizing a man with a brighter future is not gold-digging. Low self-esteem would be thinking I do not deserve a virgin, or a woman thinking she does not deserve a good man. Do you see why I said you don't have sense? and if you don't want me to call you senseless, then you should not just throw insults around (calling me low self-esteem). You don't expect me to be a gentleman to you, while you are a jezebel to me. Respect is reciprocal.