Virginkpekus:

Only a fool marries a woman because of her beauty.

Ok

Smile4mee01:


Answer to your questions : If you stay Jobless long enough , e go shock you. Only time will tell, the earlier men understand women the better we will live. Most women love Men for what they can provide, it's the way women are wired. It's called Hypergamy.

Women, children and sometimes Animals are the only creatures loved unconditionally, A man is loved based on the condition he provides something.

The ultimate test of a good wife is when you are down and old, when you are of little or no economic benefit to her.

Some Women themselves dont know it.

Let's go to the Animals and learn.

The lioness only mates with the lion who is the head of the pride based on the condition that he provides protection and take down food.

I think its Gods way of natural selection.

God forbid I loose my source of income, just before my wife starts acting up. I'm happy to separate to get myself together.

That awkward moment when you realize that the lionesses are the ones who do the hunting within the pride.

Justbehave:
The only woman that can love you unconditionally is your mum.No job,no love.Fellas stop deceiving yourselves.

Guy....
God bless you and me for sharing the same thoughts...
Guys...your family should come first before any woman...i repeat family first...
Na Dem go dey if shit happens...
Family hardly leaves when shit happens...
Get Sense

you already know the answers to that

Rubbiish:

You are not being honest here!
How do u mean build your respect on values, lifestyle? Will it put food on the table?
Respect comes with your ability to cater for your family as a man! The moment you start failing in your responsibility of providing for your family, that respect will begin to dwindle till it wanes out! Not even your kids are left out.

On point.

Acidosis:

Yes, you will lose your respect when your respect is built on money and nothing else. Build your respect on values, lifestyle, and things that are more sustainable.

Acidosis, grab this and have peace.

What you said is partly true, because those attributes you posit will cushion her attitudinal change. You see, there’s no two ways about it, especially in this our generation that social media has exposed us and our ladies in this particular context to the good side of life and also made divorce a commonplace, “if e no work out, na to comot..I no come this life to suffer” mentality.

Most Women weigh you when you are just seeing breast and yansh and indirectly treat you based on their conclusion. It is factual that love, respect and submission dwindles especially from the wife when the hubby lose his source of income or unable to perform his financial duties. Now, the degree of dwindleness will depend on the duration of his incompetence…especially when there’s no hope insight.

If there’s no hope insight, which she will had figured out…forget it, the only way to cushion the effect of her changed attitude is by the husband humbling himself to take some wife roles in the house…so even wake up to wash the wife’s car, if she’s becomes the breadwinner and no other person home to help with such duty.

One way to keep her in check and slightly contain her excesses is if the hubby had put structures in place in his heir days…like rental apartments, with that…she have some solace and that will minimise her excesses.

If she loves you and you act responsibly then yes she will.

Nah On Your Own you dey which means OYO lowa in my beautiful Yoruba language if that happens

Nigeria woman will never respect you

Acidosis:


Yeah, I know the power of money. The power of money will make you bow when you meet Buhari physically but lack of respect will make you curse the hell outta his life online.

bro what is money,what is respect....make dis money and respect itself will bow for you!

MightySparrow:
Your job defines you: no job, you cease to exist.

This is a complete misyarn...so it's your job that defines you as an individual? Wow! We're really in a crazy time!

uthlaw:
bro what is money,what is respect....make dis money and respect itself will bow for you!

Lol. I get respected by people who don't have any idea how much I am worth financially. That's enough.

Rubbiish:
Not only wife!
Nobody will respect u if u lose your source of income.

You're in a fake and wrong company if the only reason they respect and treat you right is because you have money. There's much more to a person than money.

I have discovered in marriage and relationships, a woman topmost want is security (love, financial, emotional etc), followed by trust. But fr men all what a real man truly desires of his woman is Trust (loyalty), a man always want a woman who has his back come rain, come shine.
These two qualities (Being secured and Trust) is LOVE.... if the two does not exist in your relationship, their is NO LOVE!.
By this we know christ ((LOVED)) us, WHILE WE WERE YET SINNERS, CHRIST DIED FOR US. No let anyone deceive you, wat u see ard today is LUST, e be like perfume, the smell will fade out except u spray it frequently.

Havesomesense:
It is the duty of a man to provide for the family, women consider financially buoyant men for relationships.

Imagine if you lost your job/business or your income reduced drastically.

Will your wife love you?
Will your wife be jovial with you?
Will your wife give you her palliative as usual?
Will she disrespect you in front of the kids and others?
Will she watch you starve when she has food in the kitchen?
Will she keep reminding you that you are not contributing anything?
Will she start seeking other mens' attention?
Will she Change?

I need honest answers.

Bro/sis believe it or leave it. No woman on the planet earth will retain that love when u lose your job pere. What did you made her to marry you at fess. Well, we have ladies who can and vice versa.

Matheusmartin:
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If all of these are true, then we should stop deceiving ourselves with love.

Funny how Money keeps a marriage/relationship, but, Love takes all the glory.

Love is just a word used by two fools to deceive themselves.

Justbehave:
The only woman that can love you unconditionally is your mum.No job,no love.Fellas stop deceiving yourselves.

Even your mother may get fed up at some point and prefer that your younger brother who brings bread to visit her.

Davash222:

Funny how Money keeps a marriage/relationship, but, Love takes all the glory.

Love is just a word used by two fools to deceive themselves.

I like your statement.

Havesomesense:

Well said. Thank you.

You're welcome bro.

I'll simply relocate to a new city, start hustling, condescend to do menial jobs to send money down to her

You can lose a job and still bounce back with right mindset. Losing a job is a normal thing in a job market. A hustler or a hardworking person know this, so they do not put their eggs in one basket. They always plan ahead or thinking of the next move. So their women respect them because they know they are prepared for the worse by trusting God, alway looking for the next moves, work or hustle.It is a quitter that a wife disrepect

Snitch24:
No
Will you still love her if she lost her beauty ?

Clergymen in church weddings and family members in traditional weddings should revise the vows of marriage to include these conditions. We should be hearing stuff like: "Woman, do you accept love this man when he is rich and comfortable but leave him or disgrace him when he becomes poor or miserable?" and "Man, do you accept to love this woman as long as her hole is tight, she looks beautiful and presentable, can cook and agrees with you all the time?"...We need to allow couples getting wedded to design their own vows and both agree to it.

Let her get a job and business and then we will talk

Matheusmartin:
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If all of these are true, then we should stop deceiving ourselves with love.

Thank you .Is it always the fault of a person that lose his job ? Does it mean someone who lose his job cannot get back on his feet again ? I wonder the way some people look at life .

jadyclem:

This is a complete misyarn...so it's your job that defines you as an individual? Wow! We're really in a crazy time!

una see how people dey reason ? That's why many crazy people wouldn't mind using their own mother for money ritual .

spiceadole:


Even your mother may get fed up at some point and prefer that your younger brother who brings bread to visit her.

You are right but it won't make her forsake you in time of difficulty.

Acidosis:


Lol. I get respected by people who don't have any idea how much I am worth financially. That's enough.

everyone got such respect,but with money,you tell a bank manager to wait for you after closing hours.....that is much more respect!

Anytime bro.

Not all situations are the same.

arantess:

God bless you bro
People be making assumptions on the issue

Acidosis:


Lol. I get respected by people who don't have any idea how much I am worth financially. That's enough.

That's because you don't rely on them for anything, try and ask them to lend you money and see how much respect will remain, if possible, don't pay after it's due, they will so rubbish you, you will think it's manner of approach

You're invisible if you have no source of income.

Matheusmartin:
..
If all of these are true, then we should stop deceiving ourselves with love.

There is no love except God's love.

mariahAngel:


This is not true.
You're more than a job.
Don't limit yourself.

Don't deceive yourself.
Be jobless for a year first. You will understand.