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This is what the option of choice has caused us.

Because we can now choose between people whom we love, we live more in a world of fantasy. Who loves and who does not love? How do you say you love someone or you don't? Is love not the natural affection that grows amongst friends because you allow it? Is friendship not meant to be mutual and symbiotic?

Although I may sound off topic, but for those in the OP's situation, my advise is stick to the person who believes he is in love with you because he has chosen to and you have also in return chosen to love him back. Choose the person who aligns to your dream / future because that will always see you through since you share same dreams. Love grows over time once we give it the chance to.

GboyegaD:
Although I may sound off topic, but for those in the OP's situation, my advise is stick to the person who believes he is in love with you because he has chosen to and you have also in return chosen to love him back. Choose the person who aligns to your dream / future because that will always see you through since you share same dreams. Love grows over time once we give it the chance to.

Yea we grow in love not just falling into it I've chosen the person who actually has all I want and that's the one who I love

Not sure why we so much like to complicate matters of the heart. Just wait for the one who loves you the right way and you know you can love them the right way in return

this is a simply case of
'ladies love the guys that aint in love with them, but aint into the ones that love them'
i think it has nofin to do with compactibility, but just that when u ladies feel someone is in love wit u, u get bored and start looking for 'new challenges' ie guys u aint really sure of their love.
and b4 u haul stones at me, am not a woman-hater

I think Celine Dion in one of her songs said,''i can't stop,i can't hide,i can't resist it wen d wrong 1 luvs u right''. I totally agree wt her, if d wrong 1 luvs me right i'll go wt d flow n b4 u knw it he wld av become d right 1

lets be frank, in a real sense, you are not being selfish when you stay with the one who shows you much affection, you are just protecting your

interest. Cos the one you claim to be in love with right now, didnt just develop overnight. love takes time. I suggest examine this 'wrong' guy motive, if possible stay off the bed with him and watch things.

It would be disastrous if this 'right' guy comes up with a little excuse, say 'no money' and tells you he needs some 'space' to fix things.

I'd rather be loved than to love.

valacious:
I'd rather be loved than to love.

For me it has to be reciprocal I love someone and may feel he doesn't, only to discover he does because he wants to be sure I love him too

babe you are right, it has to be reciprocal, but from the look of things your guy isnt reciprocating as much as he ought to right now, and you are

creating excuses for him, cos you love him.

I'd rather be loved first then fall in love as time goes. Life is so blissful when you have someone truly loving you, most especially if you are a lady.

Men are by nature polygamists, so when you settle down with a guy you love much more than he does, you give him a go ahead for promiscuity.

But if the reverse were the case, then you'll experience bliss all the way through.

Have a talk about your future with this guy you love, then get a cue of his feelings for you.

Dont forget to pray too.

valacious:
Have a talk about your future with this guy you love, then get a cue of his feelings for you.

Dont forget to pray too.

Thanks a lot girl, that's what am on now and I believe the will of God will be done. Cheers

am not a babe itgurilie, am a guy,

valacious:
am not a babe itgurilie, am a guy,

Sorry for the mix up thanks for your word, hope we're cool now

we way cool, wish you the best and keep the house posted.

girl why are you trying to console your self, and since you said you know what to do and you are ok why did you open the tread, hmm some people sometimes hmm always looking for what to say and what people will say, why don't you go about jumping from one guy to another to fined the one that loves you, am sure is still your attitude towards him that made him to feel reluctant about the relationship, hmm be careful.

peace jona:
girl why are you trying to console your self, and since you said you know what to do and you are ok why did you open the tread, hmm some people sometimes hmm always looking for what to say and what people will say, why don't you go about jumping from one guy to another to fined the one that loves you, am sure is still your attitude towards him that made him to feel reluctant about the relationship, hmm be careful.

What's your own now, I didn't open the tread today, It was opened when I didn't know what to do but now I've read people's opinion and it has helped me in a way
I'm not jumping from one guy to the other I only have one guy and the other guy was coming after me not the other way round

Moreover, I don't have any attitude in my relationship that made my guy feel the way he did, it was a misunderstanding on my part and it has been resolved So I'm cool now

@op get get no want ,want want no get.whats luv?

Most people, ladies especially, have this fantasy about the perfect person they expect to love them. The blunt truth is, there's no such person as the perfect man or woman. There's just the closest thing to Mr or Miss perfect in our minds. What usually spoils the party is his or her physical looks. No matter their flaws, try to look beyond it and see the person who may be your life partner. There's no human being who doesn't come without a flaw, be it physical, emotional or character flaw. But there's always a trait that makes their flaw bearable. Just try to overlook that single dark side. Also most people feel it's impossible to be a good person in this world. That's big satanic lie. There are good people in this world if you look hard enough and not with an exploitative mindset

carolingian79:
Most people, ladies especially, have this fantasy about the perfect person they expect to love them. The blunt truth is, there's no such person as the perfect man or woman. There's just the closest thing to Mr or Miss perfect in our minds. What usually spoils the party is his or her physical looks. No matter their flaws, try to look beyond it and see the person who may be your life partner. There's no human being who doesn't come without a flaw, be it physical, emotional or character flaw. But there's always a trait that makes their flaw bearable. Just try to overlook that single dark side. Also most people feel it's impossible to be a good person in this world. That's big satanic lie. There are good people in this world if you look hard enough and not with an exploitative mindset

You realise this thread was from 2010 most of these people are probably married and happy or not . So why dig it up ?

mmadu5:
You realise this thread was from 2010 most of these people are probably married and happy or not . So why dig it up ?

Bros, marriage doesn't start immediately the wedding is over. Na like 3-6 years after. Na that time when condition don drain the husband bank account to barely above a few tens of thousands of naira or even worse the in your hands I commend my spirit level. That is the level where oga go jump through window dey dodge landlord. Na that time marriage dey start. Many people who you said they have since married will have their unions tested by fire of hardship. I bet you that 80-87% of those marriages have broken down since that time after having their marriages tested by such hardships. Which proves that the union was founded on a fair weather foundation which is entirely dependent on the man's earning capacity not shared responsibility