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Needtolove:
Hi nairalanders this post is going to be quite disorganized, as I am not such a good writer. Just need an avenue to let our some steam. No advise needed too. The only way forward for me is to quit my marriage.

The reason for this write up is to ease the pain of betrayal that comes from my husband cheating on me with a our neighbor,what really hurts is that after I investigated and found out her identity, I presented him with hard evidence ,instead of an apology he said he is an African man o and polygamy is allowed. He says I should better mind my business as the said girl is not disturbing me. He further stated that the girl is crazy o, so I should not even think of confronting her

Just this morning she had the nerve to come to my apartment with her room mate to clarify some house issues. The nerve of all of them. Really want to make them pay. Really want to make my husband suffer.
This guy body shames me at any chance he gets. (I have a four month old baby) he says am ugly and shapless, and my breast are flat

I want African men to know that women have feelings too, am expected to bottle up my pain and be a woman. When I react violently he calls me mad woman. He is still with her and I am still expected to mind my business.
I will though, but they will both get it.

Don’t revenge, the God of vengeance will do that for you and you will feel sorry for the two adulterers.

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Jentle244:
I feel ur pain really

First of all what I would say is this: He body shames u at any given opportunity. I would say say u work on ur body, do some exercise, avoid fatty foods, watch your diet. and be discipled about it. I guess ur husband married u a slim lady? go back to that ur former shape.

If u ask me I don't like women who are fat unnecessarily. thruth be told.

So work on ur weight and body size.




Secondly, are u a spiritual woman?

A woman who kneels before God will stand before men.

I use to know an aunt whose husband cheats on her. Every time she complains to my mum until my mum told her what to do. She prayed a prayer that no man who cheats on his wife to pray


"O Lord my his penis never stand if he meets a strange woman" an it worked like fire cause God has said whatever God has joined together let no man put asunder, that girl is trying to put asunder(divide) in your marriage.


So what am trying to say is that u must be a prayer woman if u want a peaceful home.





Thirdly, Know how to cook, especially his favorite. it is said that the way to a man's heart is through the stomach which invariably means food, good food as at that. if u don't know learn from ur friends.

Fourthly, Be romantic, my sister know how to dob it in bed, like the above saying, another way to a Man's heart is through sex. This is the 21st century where the internet is at our finger tips. learn how to seduce him, learn how to u know moan, wriggle your body etc. Am not saying u should watch porn.



And Lastly, Be supportive: supportive in the sense that u are supportive emotionally, money wise and prayer wise.


In terms of money if u don't have something doing, men tend to get irritated especially when he has a girl outside. Learn a handwork such as decoration, pastry, confectioneries, catering etc



The ball is in your Court



I rest my case

Ode

ikennahillary:
Please don't get me wrong ,but the african content here is the additional wife which to me should not be a problem.

I believe having a 2nd or 3rd wife is his right , it now depends on how he presents the case.

Well just take the right discussion and don't physically hot nobody cos that will be a huge crime and for sure purnishable my the law depending on the nature of the offence.

Please just be patient and harm no one.

Peace out.

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davillian:
Men are lions and love to chase moving targets for fun or for the kill.

Men we’re created as almighty humans but prefer to act like animals.

Life is strange.

Altern8:
Person wey dey cry dey see road o.

That your blanket statement addressed to AFRICAN MEN is unnecessary and offensive.

You said you came to serve us notice that you’re leaving your husband. Well, good luck.

You are angry and you want your pound of flesh. Beautiful. I advise you not to do something that will make even your own parents disown you in court. Crime is different from crime. If anger rules you, you’ll blame yourself.

Unnecessary. This post was obviously made from a place of pain and extreme hurt. She most likely does not mean most of what she typed. If you don’t have any advice to give her to ease her pain, you should’ve ignored instead of leaving a passive aggressive message about her anger that will only hurt her more. Is she not supposed to be angry or? If it were you, would you be as calm as a river? If you say yes, which is a lie, you are not her, people react to hurt differently. Please work on your emotional intelligence.

greggng:
We lack comprehension in this country ...read through her message, she said she doesn't need advice....I still wonder why some people they try advice her....for what? She wanna end the marriage that is why she doesn't need advice. Make una free her....a stubborn grasshopper will always rest in peace in the stomach of a bird

If this were your sister or daughter, would you still type this? Isn’t it obvious that she needs help and advice from her post even if she didn’t ask? Most of you are just wicked in that country.

You people who always stress on infidelity, isn't there room for forgiveness?

I use to say "if my husband cheats on me, I'll leave". But wisdom has taught me better.

The mess in her home might just be the devil's way of pushing her out of her home for a strange woman to enter.

It is not a battle she can fight with force and quarrels.

You people kill me with the way you blame the ‘devil’ for everything. ‘Strange woman’ Lmao!

Your papa, your mama, siblings boyfriend's, benefactors all of them be Odé.

Mumu oshi, Anu ofia, mpama

Don't you ever mention me again

Bobmarie:
Ode

Jentle244:
Your papa, your mama, siblings boyfriend's, benefactors all of them be Odé.

Mumu oshi, Anu ofia, mpama

Don't you ever mention me again

Ode

Kiss my ass

Bobmarie:
Ode