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Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by Godoverevery(op): 1:19pm On Nov 10, 2021*

https://www.nairaland.com/6842578/it-wrong-cook-married-brothers#107474802

I went through that thread and I have just one question for everyone who said the guy was wrong.

Why is it embarassed

always a big deal if is the husband brother/sister that enter the kitchen but no one hear anything if is the wife brother/sister??

For instance in my elder bro case, me and my lil sis don't go to his house anymore for like 5yrs now infact he trying everything possible to get my lil sis to actually speak to him but she just distance herself totally and this exactly what caused it......she went there to see him and met his wife at home ,she was hungry this lady decided not to give her anything.....she went out to get food went into the kitchen to get water this woman rained insult on her for entering her kitchen to take water.

This the same woman her own siblings will spend weeks in this same house and do whatever they like, enter the kitchen anyhow and no one hear anything.

The wife family can cook in her kitchen,do whatever they like but her husband family mustn't near there huh

Just shocking how some guys see nothing wrong in this not knowing they are actually allowing there wife create enemity.

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Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by JONNYSPUTE(m): 1:32pm On Nov 10, 2021*

.....You don't have to blame them. Not every man is a man.

If my wife can allow her relatives go into our kitchen ,cook and then dish foods for themselves,why won't my own relatives do same?

Lol. Some men dey fall hands sha and it's very shameful

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Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by Righteousness2(m): 1:34pm On Nov 10, 2021

The Wrong move he made was not informing his brother's Wife.

Women are the Home managers and the Kitchen is her office. He should simply inform the madam of the house that he needs to cook something for himself.

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Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by Righteousness2(m): 1:35pm On Nov 10, 2021

JONNYSPUTE:
.....You don't have to blame them. Not every man is a man.

If my wife can allow her relatives go into our kitchen ,cook and then dish foods for themselves,why won't my own relatives do same?

Lol. Some men dey fall hands sha and it's very shameless.

You Just talking!
When you get Married, your eyes will be opened and you will understand better.

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Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by Prayfortheworld: 1:37pm On Nov 10, 2021

I can tolerate anything from my wife but what i won't tolerate is her insulting my family be it my mom or siblings or trying to make them feel uncomfortable in my house.
Hell will let loose

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Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by JONNYSPUTE(m): 1:38pm On Nov 10, 2021

Righteousness2:
The Wrong move he made was not informing his brother's Wife.

Women are the Home managers and the Kitchen is her office. He should simply inform the madam of the house that he needs to cook something for himself.

....There was no wrong move. As long as he lives in that house,he has every right to use the kitchen without permission from anybody. What he doesn't have right to do is to take any food he sees without first finding out who owns it.

And I guess,that the woman's relatives should also take permission from the man before using the sitting room or making use of the Tele because he bought them?

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Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by Godoverevery(op): 1:38pm On Nov 10, 2021

Righteousness2:
The Wrong move he made was not informing his brother's Wife.

Women are the Home managers and the Kitchen is her office. He should simply inform the madam of the house that he needs to cook something for himself.

Would her own siblings inform the husband before they on the TV or use the sitting room??

My question remains the same.....why is the rule only applicable to the husband family huh

Pls answer me.

Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by JONNYSPUTE(m): 1:40pm On Nov 10, 2021

Righteousness2:
You Just talking!
When you get Married, your eyes will be opened and you will understand better.

....I'm married with kids. Stop saying nonsense.

People like you who can't control their families are the problems here.
Men who don't talk to their wife's even when they see her maltreating house maids.

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Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by Righteousness2(m): 1:41pm On Nov 10, 2021

Godoverevery:
Would her own siblings inform the husband before they on the TV or use the sitting room??

My question remains the same.....why is the rule only applicable to the husband family

Pls answer me.

Men and Women are Different Species! And see and Handle things Differently!

Of Course there are things that Permission from the man Must be required.

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Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by Godoverevery(op): 1:44pm On Nov 10, 2021

Righteousness2:
Men and Women are Different Species! And see and Handle things Differently!

Of Course there are things that Permission from the man Must be required.

So her own siblings don't need permission to use the kitchen but my own siblings need to take permission right....anyway my fiancee know me.

Them no born her great great great grand father well make she try such with me.

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Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by Righteousness2(m): 1:44pm On Nov 10, 2021

JONNYSPUTE:
....I'm married with kids. Stop saying nonsense.

People like you who can't control their families are the problems here.
Men who don't talk to their wife's even when they see her maltreating house maids.

How does maltreatment of a maid come into this?

If you are legally and really married, then you definitely lack Wisdom. There is no reasonable Man that will advice his brother accordingly!
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Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by JONNYSPUTE(m): 1:45pm On Nov 10, 2021

Godoverevery:
Would her own siblings inform the husband before they on the TV or use the sitting room??

My question remains the same.....why is the rule only applicable to the husband family

Pls answer me.

.... Only fooolish and weak men see such as nothing.

Do you know that some husband's keep calm seeing their wives maltreat other people's child just because he or she is a maid or house boy.

Please you people should stop blaming these women doing such. Put the blames on the fool of a husband.

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Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by JONNYSPUTE(m): 1:46pm On Nov 10, 2021

Righteousness2:
If you are legally and really married, then you definitely lack Wisdom. There is no reasonable Man that will advice his brother accordingly.

.....Most of you weak men sees foolishness as wisdom so I won't blame you.

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Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by JONNYSPUTE(m): 1:47pm On Nov 10, 2021

Godoverevery:
So her own siblings don't need permission to use the kitchen but my own siblings need to take permission right....anyway my fiancee know me.

Them no born her great great great grand father well make she try such with me.

.... You dey listen to that big disgrace of a man?

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Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by Godoverevery(op): 1:47pm On Nov 10, 2021

Righteousness2:
If you are legally and really married, then you definitely lack Wisdom. There is no reasonable Man that will advice his brother accordingly.

So wisdom is letting your wife create enemity between you and your siblings??

I see alot of comments from you here is like you just a delusional being.

Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by Acidosis(m): 1:48pm On Nov 10, 2021

JONNYSPUTE:
.... Only fooolish and weak men see such as nothing.

Do you know that some husband's keep calm seeing their wives maltreat other people's child just because he or she is a maid or house boy.

Please you people should stop blaming these women doing such. Put the blames on the fool of a husband.

How would you feel when someone you accommodate and feed everyday (including your own brother) enters your kitchen to cook for himself or herself ONLY without considering whether you're also hungry?

Courtesy is very important in this life. It's not even about the wife. If I visit a family where the maid handles all chores or kitchen work, courtesy demands that I ALWAYS go through her for every kitchen-related needs for as long as I'm a guest in that house. Brother or no brother, your brother's house is not yours!

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Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by Godoverevery(op): 1:50pm On Nov 10, 2021

JONNYSPUTE:
.... Only fooolish and weak men see such as nothing.

Do you know that some husband's keep calm seeing their wives maltreat other people's child just because he or she is a maid or house boy.

Please you people should stop blaming these women doing such. Put the blames on the fool of a husband.

Thank you......infact on that thread it was evident we have lot of really foolish men on this forum.

My own blood won't be comfortable in my house because of my wife and her own will be having it al free.......not in this life.

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Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by JONNYSPUTE(m): 1:52pm On Nov 10, 2021

Righteousness2:
How does maltreatment of a maid come into this?

If you are legally and really married, then you definitely lack Wisdom. There is no reasonable Man that will advice his brother accordingly!
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....If you have wisdom like you said,you would have known that both cannot be separated.

If she can do such evil to her in law, can you imagine what she will do to a common maid ? Use your brain Mr Wisdom.

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Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by Godoverevery(op): 1:52pm On Nov 10, 2021

Acidosis:
How would you feel when someone you accommodate and feed everyday (even your own brother) enters your kitchen to cook for himself or herself ONLY without considering whether you're also hungry?

Lol.....read the thread again

If he is hungry and the wife refuse to cook.....what should he do??

What the Bleep is so special about the kitchen huh

The only special place in my house is our bedroom......once he didn't go behind her back to take anything inside her pot he can enter the kitchen to make his own meal.

The courtesy isn't applicable to her own family huh

Be deceiving yourself there with English.

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Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by JONNYSPUTE(m): 1:52pm On Nov 10, 2021

Acidosis:
How would you feel when someone you accommodate and feed everyday (including your own brother) enters your kitchen to cook for himself or herself ONLY without considering whether you're also hungry?

Courtesy is very important in this life. It's not even about the wife. If I visit a family where the maid handles all chores or kitchen work, courtesy demands that I ALWAYS go through her for every kitchen-related needs for as long as I'm a guest in that house. Brother or no brother, your brother's house is not yours!

....Like I said. If she doesn't see anything wrong with her own relatives doing it,then she should also not see it as any offence if my relative does same.

But if she doesn't allow hers,then mine won't. Very simple.

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Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by Righteousness2(m): 1:55pm On Nov 10, 2021

Godoverevery:
So wisdom is letting your wife create enemity between you and your siblings??

I see alot of comments from you here is like you just a delusional being.

I am so sorry for answering you.
I thought I was conversing with a Reasonable fellow.
I am really sorry!

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Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by Acidosis(m): 1:56pm On Nov 10, 2021

Godoverevery:
Lol.....read the thread again

If he is hungry and the wife refuse to cook.....what should he do??

I will cope the same way my brother has been coping with his wife's inability to cook.

Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by JONNYSPUTE(m): 1:57pm On Nov 10, 2021

Godoverevery:
Thank you......infact on that thread it was evident we have lot of really foolish men on this forum.

My own blood won't be comfortable in my house because of my wife and her own will be having it al free.......not in this life.

....You don see am nah.

Weak ass men everywhere.

Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by Godoverevery(op): 1:58pm On Nov 10, 2021

Acidosis:
I will cope the same way my brother has been coping with his wife's inability to cook.

Abi ooo.......but her own siblings will come in and do whatever they like in your present while you and your brother keep coping.

My father and mother didn't raise a fool.

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Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by JONNYSPUTE(m): 2:00pm On Nov 10, 2021

Acidosis:
I will cope the same way my brother has been coping with his wife's inability to cook.

.... And her own siblings will be cooking and eating whatever they like?

Smh.

Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by Acidosis(m): 2:01pm On Nov 10, 2021

Godoverevery:
Abi ooo.......but her own siblings will come in and do whatever they like in your present while you and your brother keep coping.

My father and mother didn't raise a fool.

Well, your father and mother raised your brother. Now that you're in your brother's house and not your father's house, it is only proper to act like your brother. When you have your own home, you then can act the way you want.

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Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by Acidosis(m): 2:03pm On Nov 10, 2021

JONNYSPUTE:
.... And her own siblings will be cooking and eating whatever they like?

Smh.

Are you there to act like her siblings or to emulate your brother whom you came to live with??

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Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by Godoverevery(op): 2:07pm On Nov 10, 2021

Acidosis:
Well, your father and mother raised your brother. Now that you're in your brother's house and not your father's house, it is only proper to act like your brother. When you have your own home, you then can act the way you want.

Abi ooo that why me nd my lil sis don't step is house anymore and I told him if he has any issh he should just call his wife siblings.

But right now he is the one begging us up and down.....only a foolish man will allow his wife create rules only applicable to his family.

Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by JONNYSPUTE(m): 2:11pm On Nov 10, 2021

Acidosis:
Are you there to act like her siblings or to emulate your brother whom you came to live with??

.....Chai. No wonder most men keep dying before their time. Keep it up Mr real man.

Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by Mariangeles(f): 2:50pm On Nov 10, 2021

Godoverevery:
Thank you......infact on that thread it was evident we have lot of really foolish men on this forum.

My own blood won't be comfortable in my house because of my wife and her own will be having it al free .......not in this life.

That wasn’t the case with that op.

In fact, I believe there are some parts he left out.

Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by Mariangeles(f): 2:52pm On Nov 10, 2021

Godoverevery:
Abi ooo that why me nd my lil sis don't step is house anymore and I told him if he has any issh he should just call his wife siblings.

But right now he is the one begging us up and down.....only a foolish man will allow his wife create rules only applicable to his family.

You’re angry with your brother. And for over 5 years over such a trivial issue.
Go make up with your brother.

Re: Reply To; I cooked in my married brother house and his wife felt bad about it by elantraceey(f): 3:08pm On Nov 10, 2021

Let me school you the difference. A woman grows up with her siblings and is already used to sharing the kitchen, cooking meals and everything with them so when they come to her house when she's married it won't be anything new because there's already familiarity but the woman's siblings cannot just pick up one of the husband's car keys to go out with out informing the husband but the husband's siblings could do that because there's already familiarity between them.

The solution to this things is just to build familiarity and with time it won't be any issue. You can't go to your brother's house, knowing very well your brother hardly enters the kitchen and do anything there and just go and do as you like without informing the wife but after a while when there's a build up of familiarity and the permission will no longer be needed.

Though this kind of issues should really stop coming up in this age. The kitchen is anyone's who knows how to eat responsibility and shouldn't be a big deal anymore what goes on there.

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