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Godoverevery:
Abi ooo that why me nd my lil sis don't step is house anymore and I told him if he has any issh he should just call his wife siblings.

But right now he is the one begging us up and down.....only a foolish man will allow his wife create rules only applicable to his family.

Lol. The point is that you're not in the right place to correct your brother's wife or tell her what to do or how to react to your behaviours. If your brother does not or cannot see the wrong in her actions, then do you all you can to accept your brother and his wife the way they are.

If after 5 years of staying away from your brother, his wife still hasn't changed to your idea of a perfect wife, it only means that your brother sees no wrong or has chosen to manage her behaviour.

Omo!

This is just one of those reasons why women are so so complicated.

I pray God provide for everybody, so we won't be too dependent on a particular person.

elantraceey:
Let me school you the difference. A woman grows up with her siblings and is already used to sharing the kitchen, cooking meals and everything with them so when they come to her house when she's married it won't be anything new because there's already familiarity but the woman's siblings cannot just pick up one of the husband's car keys to go out with out informing the husband but the husband's siblings could do that because there's already familiarity between them.


The solution to this things is just to build familiarity and with time it won't be any issue. You can't go to your brother's house, knowing very well your brother hardly enters the kitchen and do anything there and just go and do as you like without informing the wife but after a while when there's a build up of familiarity and the permission will no longer be needed.


Though this kind of issues should really stop coming up in this age. The kitchen is anyone's who knows how to eat responsibility and shouldn't be a big deal anymore what goes on there.

School me on what

Is not the woman fault.....is the weak men we have this days.

Acidosis:
Lol. The point is that you're not in the right place to correct your brother's wife or tell her what to do or how to react to your behaviours. If your brother does not or cannot see the wrong in her actions, then do you all you can to accept your brother and his wife the way they are.

If after 5 years of staying away from your brother, his wife still hasn't changed to your idea of a perfect wife, it only means that your brother sees no wrong or has chosen to manage her behaviour.

Ofcourse that why we decided to let him and is wife be.

Clearly she doesn't want us coming around so is there business.

Godoverevery:
School me on what

Is not the woman fault.....is the weak men we have this days.

.....End of discussion

Anyone can enter my kitchen...welda from husband's side or my side.all I know be say tidy up after using the kitchen.

Godoverevery:
https://www.nairaland.com/6842578/it-wrong-cook-married-brothers#107474802

I went through that thread and I have just one question for everyone who said the guy was wrong.

Why is it always a big deal if is the husband brother/sister that enter the kitchen but no one hear anything if is the wife brother/sister??

For instance in my elder bro case, me and my lil sis don't go to his house anymore for like 5yrs now infact he trying everything possible to get my lil sis to actually speak to him but she just distance herself totally and this exactly what caused it......she went there to see him and met his wife at home ,she was hungry this lady decided not to give her anything.....she went out to get food went into the kitchen to get water this woman rained insult on her for entering her kitchen to take water.

This the same woman her own siblings will spend weeks in this same house and do whatever they like, enter the kitchen anyhow and no one hear anything.

The wife family can cook in her kitchen,do whatever they like but her husband family mustn't near there Just shocking how some guys see nothing wrong in this not knowing they are actually allowing there wife create enemity.

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People do not understand the meaning of love and how to bond with inlaws anymore. Anyone who supports what the wife did simply do not understand what unity is. Someone is hungry and went to prepare for for himself, instead of her to dish food and eat, she is feeling angry. I dont know when women will get into their head that marriage is too complex already for you to be adding inlaw drama. Except if your inlaws are giving you issues, take them as your siblings. People are saying he should ask for permission, as how? Like please o, I want to go and use my money and buy soup ingredients, you go allow me cook? Or you go allow me eat? Isn't it wierd? What is in okro soup that she cannot allow the guy man to eat in peace since he does not want to disturb you or complain. He is an adult an not a slave for you to feel he must submit to you even to cook what he feels like eating.These kind of women can't even allow people who are not their relatives live with them in peace as they feel they should be worshipped since it is their house. If i cant live in my brother's house and feel free to an extent because he married you, i will leave o. God forbid bad market.

Note: My SIL and BIL all have sense and i have learnt enough from them already so dont tell me to wait till i get married.

JONNYSPUTE:
.....You don't have to blame them. Not every man is a man.

If my wife can allow her relatives go into our kitchen ,cook and then dish foods for themselves,why won't my own relatives do same?

Lol. Some men dey fall hands sha and it's very shameful

I was fuckingly surprised with the comments of some mumu boys in men form.

emmanuelbrown26:
I was fuckingly surprised with the comments of some mumu boys in men form.

....Lol. They are the problem bro not even the women.

Righteousness2:
You Just talking!
When you get Married, your eyes will be opened and you will understand better.

If u hv nothing to say just keep mute. This is same orientation boys in men skin had before they venture into marriage

JONNYSPUTE:
....I'm married with kids. Stop saying nonsense.

People like you who can't control their families are the problems here.
Men who don't talk to their wife's even when they see her maltreating house maids.

Exactly, all these boys in men skin that cannot control their wives

emmanuelbrown26:
Exactly, all these boys in men skin that cannot control their wives

.....That's why we have so many weak men loitering about and reasoning with their dicks instead of making use of their brains.

Mariangeles:
You’re angry with your brother. And for over 5 years over such a trivial issue.
Go make up with your brother.

Am not angry with him.......the wife don't want us around what should we do

Am cool with my bro but I can't go to a house am not welcomed.

Godoverevery:
Thank you......infact on that thread it was evident we have lot of really foolish men on this forum.

My own blood won't be comfortable in my house because of my wife and her own will be having it al free.......not in this life.

I call them boys in men skin, they are many around.

Godoverevery:
Abi ooo that why me nd my lil sis don't step is house anymore and I told him if he has any issh he should just call his wife siblings.

But right now he is the one begging us up and down.....only a foolish man will allow his wife create rules only applicable to his family.

Bro I own u for being a man and not a simp. We have too many simps

Mariangeles:
That wasn’t the case with that op.

In fact, I believe there are some parts he left out.

As expected, a woman will always support anything that favours no matter the condition.

emmanuelbrown26:
As expected, a woman will always support anything that favours no matter the condition.

Learn to view matters objectively.

Mariangeles:
Learn to view matters objectively.

Objectively u say? Common dear check your comment again

JONNYSPUTE:
.....That's why we have so many weak men loitering about and reasoning with their dicks instead of making use of their brains.

The thing tire me, I have seen a situation where a wife resulted in searching pocket of brother inlaw without the busband saying anything, even searched husband own too, I don't just understand the type of boys in men skin we have this day

JONNYSPUTE:
....Lol. They are the problem bro not even the women.

Honestly, I don't blame women at all, I only blame the stupid and weak boys in men skin

emmanuelbrown26:
Objectively u say? Common dear check your comment again

My own blood won't be comfortable in my house because of my wife and her own will be having it al free .......not in this life.

The above was your comment, and I typed that it wasn't the case with that op and his sister in-law.
At least, he didn't confirm it.

You and your little sister must be so bitter to be having grudges towards your brother for over Five years even when he is asking for forgiveness. That is witchcraft in disguise. He was not even the one that offended your sister, rather the the wife did. What a wicked and unforgiving heart.

Mariangeles:
The above was your comment, and I typed that it wasn't the case with that op and his sister in-law.
At least, he didn't confirm it.

The second was not my comment and beside the commenter was right.
The only thing here is that, I thank Jah for the kind of guy I am,

emmanuelbrown26:
The thing tire me, I have seen a situation where a wife resulted in searching pocket of brother inlaw without the busband saying anything, even searched husband own too, I don't just understand the type of boys in men skin we have this day

..... It's very shameful I must say

Charity4real:
You and your little sister must be so bitter to be having grudges towards your brother for over Five years even when he is asking for forgiveness. That is witchcraft in disguise. He was not even the one that offended your sister, rather the the wife did. What a wicked and unforgiving heart.

.....Why not you pray for his brothers wife to repent of her atrocities intead of condemning him and his sister?

emmanuelbrown26:
The second was not my comment and beside the commenter was right.

Oh! It wasn't yours? My bad then.

The only thing here is that, I thank Jah for the kind of guy I am,

What does that even mean?
Udo ka anyi na a cho n'ezi n'ulo anyi, o kwa ya?

JONNYSPUTE:
..... It's very shameful I must say

I keep saying it that we only have few men I mean real men in the society

Mariangeles:
Oh! It wasn't yours? My bad then.



What does that even mean?
Udo ka anyi na a cho n'ezi n'ulo anyi, o kwa ya?

Ezigbo udo ka anyi mile choro, mana unu wu umunwanyi achoghi udo
Ke state giwa si?

emmanuelbrown26:
I keep saying it that we only have few men I mean real men in the society

..... Lol. Is like you don't understand that women don't even see men who can take a decesion and stand by it as realmen rather they call those sissies the real men because they are very to manipulate.

emmanuelbrown26:
Ezigbo udo ka anyi mile choro, mana unu wu umunwanyi achoghi udo
Ke state giwa si?

.....I doubt if ha achoro udo.

JONNYSPUTE:
..... Lol. Is like you don't understand that women don't even see men who can take a decesion and stand by it as realmen rather they call those sissies the real men because they are very to manipulate.

Exactly, women are manipulative in nature, that's why whenever their is an issue in marriage, check it very very well, is either the husband did not yet to the wife manipulative nature or the husband is a very no nonsense man, that's when they would start their nagging attitude.
Having worked as a volunteer in an NGO on domestic violence and child abuse, my brother I saw it all, I don't even need to get married before I will know true colour of a woman

Charity4real:
You and your little sister must be so bitter to be having grudges towards your brother for over Five years even when he is asking for forgiveness. That is witchcraft in disguise. He was not even the one that offended your sister, rather the the wife did. What a wicked and unforgiving heart.

Lol.......we are the one who is wicked not the person who made us feel unwelcome in her so called husband house.

Very funny sha........so after she rain insult on my lil sis because of table water we should still be one to go kneel and beg her bah

We don't have any issh with my elder brother but we can't come see him in a house we are obviously not welcome.