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JONNYSPUTE:
.....I doubt if ha achoro udo.

emmanuelbrown26:
Nnam ha achoghi udo mancha manchaaa

emmanuelbrown26:
Exactly, women are manipulative in nature, that's why whenever their is an issue in marriage, check it very very well, is either the husband did not yet to the wife manipulative nature or the husband is a very no nonsense man, that's when they would start their nagging attitude.
Having worked as a volunteer in an NGO on domestic violence and child abuse, my brother I saw it all, I don't even need to get married before I will know true colour of a woman

JONNYSPUTE:
..... Exactly bro. Umu nwoke kwesiri umu Anya Ka azu mgbe obula. Ndi a di egwu.

emmanuelbrown26:
Ezigbo azu, azu kariri catfish self

JONNYSPUTE:
....Lol. This guy sef. Very funny

emmanuelbrown26:
Nnam waiting we go do na, ihe kwesiri umunwanyi bu onye ara,

JONNYSPUTE:
....Eziokw Ka I kwuru.

emmanuelbrown26:
See as all of them run comot from this beautiful thread. Women will only stop nagging if u show them small madness, but I'm sorry for the gentle and simps around bcs women will always take advantage of them.

JONNYSPUTE:
.... True. My wife knows I'm a very mad person who doesn't take rubbish so she gives me my space.

Funny thing was that she and her mum tried so many tricks to cage me when we got married newly but when her mum saw the madness in me,nobody tell am to advice her daughter properly.

In my house,if my wife knows she's gonna go out with me to any function, she gets ready even 30 minutes before me if not,I will leave her and go my way.

Men really need to be men in all things.

crackhaus:

JONNYSPUTE:
.... True. My wife knows I'm a very mad person who doesn't take rubbish so she gives me my space.

Funny thing was that she and her mum tried so many tricks to cage me when we got married newly but when her mum saw the madness in me,nobody tell am to advice her daughter properly.

In my house,if my wife knows she's gonna go out with me to any function,she gets ready even 30 minutes before me if not,I will leave her and go my way.

Men really need to be men in all things.

JONNYSPUTE:
.....Lol. Why you dey laugh? This women needs a little bit of madness to sit up.

crackhaus:
I'm laughing because I can see myself doing that, especially if I had been complaining about arriving late to events just because of her.

It will cause small quarrel sha, but the point would have been made clear.

emmanuelbrown26:
How I wish their would a seminar being anchored by u titled "HOW TO BE FREE FROM BEING A SIMP"

JONNYSPUTE:
..... Forget the seminar and allow them to learn from their mistakes,that's if they will learn.

I have stopped preaching about it. My only concern now is to make my 4 boys to free be from women manipulations and thank God I'm seeing the result from my first and second sons.

emmanuelbrown26:
Interesting, I must commend u bro. Your sons would always be happy and grateful for having u as a dad and father.

ImaIma1:
There should be an understanding. As long as my family can enter the kitchen, my husband's family can too.

However, wives who behave otherwise could be that her inlaws don't regard or respect her as their brother's wife. Meanwhile her own family is known to her. It's not rocket science. We know what animosity from inlaws can do.

Godoverevery:
So because she feel my family don't regard or respect her automatically her own should enjoy more benefits than mine

I get your point but am just saying the whatever rule she has for the kitchen must be applicable to both else there will be enemity.

ImaIma1:
It may not be totally right from her part. But we are human beings. And we will gravitate more towards those who show us love.

And some of us don't know how to do eye-service. I don't know how to pretend that all is well when it's not. Hence, it would seem like they are giving their own family more access.

JONNYSPUTE:
.... True. My wife knows I'm a very mad person who doesn't take rubbish so she gives me my space.

Funny thing was that she and her mum tried so many tricks to cage me when we got married newly but when her mum saw the madness in me,nobody tell am to advice her daughter properly.

In my house,if my wife knows she's gonna go out with me to any function,she gets ready even 30 minutes before me if not,I will leave her and go my way.

Men really need to be men in all things.

Godoverevery:
It would seem

See let call a spade a spade......stop being economical with the truth.

A good woman who loves her husband would put husband family first before her own likewise the husband doing same.

This problem is always instigated by the woman.....if is her family that is misbehaving if the husband complain the narrate will change to he doesn't like her people but if is the husband family the narrative will be he likes his family more than her......she expects her husband to tolerate her people but can't tolerate his own people.

The right word is " manipulation " I will never tolerate that in my house

ImaIma1:
You don't know what you would tolerate till you get married.

I didn't know what kind of inlaws I would have till I got married. Me that I'm an orphan, I was glad I was getting a a new mum and siblings. I later had to accept that I'm not a member of the family and maintain my lane.

Meanwhile I have a sister who has the best inlaws. You can't even know between all of us who is her sister and who is her sister inlaw.

This wife-husband-inlaw matter is a robust one, and there are many factors involved: bad wife, bad inlaws(both sides), unsupportive husband, etc.

How to live in peace with all these factors is the main issue.

Godoverevery:
The best way to live in peace with al these factors is by treating both inlaws equally for me.QED

ImaIma1:
Ok

You are speaking from the point of view of a bitter inlaw, so I understand. You won't be able to see from other perspectives because of your emotions.

We are speaking from different POVs.

Godoverevery:
Bitter inlaw

U are the one speaking from evil point of view........

They don't need to offend you before you hate them.....your own siblings will offend you many times will you hate them.

Is ladies like who will fight her husband for sending money to is mum without taking permission from you.

ImaIma1:
You see why I said you are commenting from the POV of a bitter inlaw. You cannot see above your pain.

You didn't see where I said I tried to get close but had to maintain my lane. No. You are still stuck on your SIL.

You didn't see the part where I said my sister has great inlaws. You can hardly differentiate btw we and them. No. You are still stuck on your SIL.

Contrary to your hasty conclusion, I even ask my husband if he has sent his mum money, especially as his dad is late and he is first son. Despite what she has done to me, I'm not a troublemaker. Soon they will realize that.

Godoverevery:
So what your point exactly

We left them alone to live there life without interfering you saying we are bitter inlaws.

Or you expect me to be singing praises of a woman who rained insult on my lil sis because of table water....

Nothing as change between me and my brother but if you expect me to like someone who obviously doesn't like me/lil sis then you are really joking.

This my own point incase you don't get it.....why is it always you woman that have problems with the husband family and not the other way round.

ImaIma1:
You don't need to like her. Just don't tag all of us and put us all in the same box because of her. Treat each case individually with it's own variables. For instance, I have been threatened with death by my BIL. Is it the same as your case? No.

As for your point, men also have problems with inlaws. But most of them handle it better than women do. Besides, the wife's family generally behave themselves around the man of the house. Almost all my siblings are older than my husband, but they take permission from him for the littlest things.

And you hardly see the woman's family coming to challenge him that it is their sister's house the way the husband's family are always singing that it is their brother's house.

As I said in an earlier post, this matter is a robust one. Everyone should just learn to accept each other and respect themselves.

ImaIma1:
You don't need to like her. Just don't tag all of us and put us all in the same box because of her. Treat each case individually with it's own variables. For instance, I have been threatened with death by my BIL. Is it the same as your case? No.

As for your point, men also have problems with inlaws. But most of them handle it better than women do. Besides, the wife's family generally behave themselves around the man of the house. Almost all my siblings are older than my husband, but they take permission from him for the littlest things.

And you hardly see the woman's family coming to challenge him that it is their sister's house the way the husband's family are always singing that it is their brother's house.

As I said in an earlier post, this matter is a robust one. Everyone should just learn to accept each other and respect themselves.