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Pecoleee345:
Read the thread again.

I read your Op, then I also read your comments after that too.

Marriage as I have stated several times over is a contract, an agreement between two. And regardless of individual motives, what defines the relationship is the partnership that is formed.

Kobojunkie:
I read your Op, then I also read your comments after that too.

So where did i talk about anyone doing it alone??

Pecoleee345:
So where did i talk about anyone doing it alone??

Marriage as I have stated several times over is a contract, an agreement between two. And regardless of individual motives, what defines the relationship is the partnership that is formed.

From the door, the two business partners ought to get their hands dirty in the marriage together. Not as individuals.

kazyhm:
The only disability in life is bad character, bad attitude ruined that marriage.


On that thread one lady even said washing machine is not luxury....and I was like ?


I think to a very large extend men are the problem, we put women on the pedestal too much......making thing easy for them.


My colleague wife said something one day and since then, I always gist my wife about the stress at my work place.

Their child was sick and was admitted at the hospital, the mother (my colleague's wife) was by his sick bed taking care of him while the husband my colleagues sleeps in his car at the hospital. They were at the hospital for two weeks.

I drove my wife to the hospital for check up, i was bored waiting in the car and decided to stroll around, then i ran into the guy (my colleague) looking somehow rough and I asked him what up with him, he narrated his ordeal and that he was heading to the pharmacy to buy the newly prescribed drugs, I followed him to the pharmacy and then to the children ward. I met the wife trying to feed the boy and greeted her and was trying to commend both of them......then the wife said something that struck me; she said he (her husband) does not know how it feel to take care of a sick baby and sleeping in the ward for days, shebi all he does is to bring the money

I was like without the money, would you be here in the first place ? And who is sacrificing more, he has been sleeping in the car, running around to buy this and that, and you think you love the baby more than him ?

Well, they were discharged from the hospital and me and my wife went to their apartment to check on them, while we were charting outside, I noticed his front bumper was painted and I asked him what happened, he said that night they were rushing the child to the hospital, he hit a car ahead of them, the driver of the vehicle came down and was shouting but when he came down, begged the man and explained why he drove so reckless was because his child is dieing in the car and he was rushing him to the teaching hospital. He said the driver peeped into their car, saw his wife and the sick boy in the front seat and let them go.

I think its high time men start telling their own story as well.

It not easy to be a man!

Your friend and his wife have to work at being one. They need to work in unity. Their separate roles should compliment each other. The fact that she's the one staying with the child doesn't make her more of a parent. And it is wrong of her to make such a statement to a third party.

Also, mothers need to also make sure they let the children know about their father's imput, instead of making them believe it's mummy that does everything. If I'm buying something, I always let my daughter know that it's her daddy that got it for her or mummy and daddy.

May God help us all.