holocron:
I put it to you that this is a tissue of lies and fabrication. OP sounds like an ingrate. You are serving/working for your family and instead of appreciating the results of your good works, you are grumbling, complaining and whining. Your husband struggles to do his part in upkeeping the family, you do not appreciate his role but you complain of your own role. You purposely abandoned your family and children for a fake independence and shallow ambitions and now you are regretting. You lost your cherished family for phantom degrees, career and independence. What shall it profit a man to gain the whole world and then lose his soul?

Mercychen:
Marriage sometimes can be a bondage and limiting factor to improving ones self because the moment you get in, you lose YOURSELF to family demands and stress from duties at the home front by trying to be there for your husband and the entire family on all levels This, i call slavery and it's what is obtainable in most marriages these days.

Now when youre being selfless for others to be their best, how and when will you have the time to take care of yourself and look good. That is why, the moment they get out of that "cage" they are able to see clearly, realize the extent of neglect on themselves. And with enough time in their hands they are able to tend to themselves hence the transformation.

psucc:
Nobody values what he has at hand until he losts it.

Regrets! Is all the get. Don't mind how some will form, they are really living in regrets.

Hathor5:


Human nature.

Ebonygeek:
Obembet, is this story about you?

psucc:
Sometimes, greed and jealousy! We look at how "great others are doing" and wish we were the one. But the truth is that no relationship is perfect. We give and take.

kramer:
I suppose this is a lesson to all the women whose think they can marry a man who brings in all the money and expect to do nothing.

Hathor5:


Nothing? Did you read the OP?

Hathor5:


Did I get it wrong or you? I thought the husband kicked her out.

Well written!

Many wives and mothers have this tendency and should learn to be in tune with their own needs too. They teach their families to take them for granted instead of verbalizing that they have needs too. I don't know why so many women feel that they need to give up on themselves and be superwoman instead of caring about their own feelings like they care about others.

kramer:
I suppose this is a lesson to all the women who think they can marry a man who brings in all the money and expect to do nothing.

Hathor5:


Nothing? Did you read the OP?

kramer:


Did you read my comment? Take your time and read again before foaming in the mouth

holocron:
I put it to you that this is a tissue of lies and fabrication. OP sounds like an ingrate. You are serving/working for your family and instead of appreciating the results of your good works, you are grumbling, complaining and whining. Your husband struggles to do his part in upkeeping the family, you do not appreciate his role but you complain of your own role. You purposely abandoned your family and children for a fake independence and shallow ambitions and now you are regretting. You lost your cherished family for phantom degrees, care

er and independence. What shall it profit a man to gain the whole world and then lose his soul?

I tried to get a teaching job which can help me continue my “rat race” at home. None of them lasted for more than four months, reasons I couldn't figure out till today cos I believe I'm very good at that.

Klass99:
This story reminds me of what Megareal (a nairaland user) said about marriage, on a different thread the 14th day of April 2021. I will never forget what she said because I thought it was profound! The full text is below, for those who don't mind kindly share your thoughts as a married woman.



See more of what she said below........

eazzzy1:


This makes sense. People decide to get married based on the circumstances of their lives at that point. A change in circumstances can quickly lead to regrets.

A person marries the best person for them and then meet someone seemingly better after the wedding or a person marries an healthy person and their partner becomes terminally ill, or employed husband becomes unemployed.

Then there are people who escape the trap but are looking to get back into another trap. Like someone else said it’s human insatiable nature, wanting what they don’t have. Many married people today have devised the perfect means to be married and single at the same time.