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Datboredberry:
Yep... Black women with white guys gets so much hate... Especially from black men...

Reminds me of Serena Williams... Every black man hating on her until she married a white man... Then they calling her their ebony queen...

I which blacks were more supportive... But black women tend to put in more effort to put up a unified image to the world... Black men just don't care...

See eh, you girls who are privileged and live abroad should let us rest abeg. I have never met anyone white woman before and don't dream of marrying one. But one thing I know for sure is this, you don't own any person because you are of the same ethnicity or race with that person. My problem is that you girls now have inherited a war that has nothing to do with us. It's like you girls went and studied the same course in school, how to blame men 101. You don't like it if black men date outside their race because you can't control their choices. Everything you complain about blackmen, white women don't see. Nobody hates black women but everybody hates a woman with unresolved issues. Loud, insolent and entitled. 21th century black women only learn how to blame and hate men, but not how to keep one. That's why na baby mama sure pass. Women have the keys to sex but men have the keys to commitment. Who wants to inherit a pain they didn't create ?

Hintona:
So your biased generalisations about black women weren't mean

This is exactly what the op is talking about. Black men set impossibly high standards for black women, standards they themselves can never reach.

Dear, I love black women. I just want you to have some class and be accountable.

High standards mean be decent, non feministic, accept good average guy's, bring something to the table and stop making relationship's about money and looks.

Legendoo:
Dear, I love black women. I just want you to have some class and be accountable.

High standards mean be decent, non feministic, accept good average guy's, bring something to the table and stop making relationship's about money and looks.

Be non feministic yet bring something to the table?

Have high standard but don't make relationships about money?

You contradicted yourself twice..

Your points are simple:
Black women should be submissive housewives who shouldn't do anything themselves so they see you as some kind of alpha...

You're not going to take care of her financially because you CAN'T.

You want her to lower her standards so much so that she shouldn't even care how you look, whether or not you can feed yourself and the family.

You have nothing to truly offer, not good genes, not money, nothing... So you wish black women would play the fools and be supportive no matter how unprogressive your life is...

That's what Nigerian men want...

Datboredberry:
Be non feministic yet bring something to the table?

Have high standard but don't make relationships about money?

You contradicted yourself twice..

Your points are simple:
Black women should be submissive housewives who shouldn't do anything themselves so they see you as some kind of alpha...

You're not going to take care of her financially because you CAN'T.

You want her to lower her standards so much so that she shouldn't even care how you look, whether or not you can feed yourself and the family.

You have nothing to truly offer, not good genes, not money, nothing... So you wish black women would play the fools and be supportive no matter how unprogressive your life is...

That's what Nigerian men want...

No dear. The average woman wants the high value men which are only roughly about 20 percent of the population.

Meaning, If you don't lower your standards, you can't find partners and would have to share the high value men with other women, temporarily.

However, a good average man with love and great ambitions will suffice better because you can build with him.

If you want patriachal benefits then you can't be feministic, if not, then you can find a liberal average guy whom you have to share responsibilities with. Either way, you can't go wrong.

All in, stay classy.. no cardi b bs, no ghetto hood rat behaviour, no nudity. You can be sexy without all that crap. More importantly, be realistic and accountable.

I'm on your side.

Sounds like a race baiting sheltered African lady who has bought into new world "feminism" and is looking for a way to hate black men.

If you are seeing this phantom hate, it is because you want and expect it. You want to be able to say "black men ain't shit"; and feel like you made sense.

Datboredberry:
I've noticed how black men love to pull black women down...

Last night, I was reading ilamina's topics cause I was bored and I think most were funny.

I came across the comments of two men, on a particular thread, who were dissing Nigerian women. They went on about the few white women they've had sex with... How perfect white women therefore are... And how Nigerian girls are so unhygienic... And so forth...

To me, it all reeks of self-hate... And ignorance.

Most black men are deliberately blind to racism...they prefer to ignore the fact that on the social ladder, they come last...

They have zero knowledge of the past... Before the Europeans came to Africa, during the trans-atlantic slave trade and colonialism... And even now... Black women have stood supportive of black men while they were beaten, lynched, stripped off every iota of self-pride... At your very worse, no matter where you are, every black man knows he has a home in a community of black women...

So why the hate towards the only people who've fought by you since the very beginning and who would probably never stop because of their love, loyalty and respect... Even to those undeserving of them...

I've always hated to see black men come out to saw the most awful things about black women...

Black men do everything wrong... The most despicable which is when they insult the good-looks of black women.

Men with broad noses, high foreheads, full lips, type 4 hair... Look at a mirror image of themselves and call it ugly... It's cringe...

There's nothing wrong with dating someone of a different race... But if you do it because you think black women don't compare, then you have a chronic case of mental slavery...

If you think the women who you birthed you, you grew up and played with, you had your first kiss with... Are somehow inferior to women of a different race... Then you have no respect for yourself...

Personally, I've dated men of different races... But I could never think of stooping so low to even write a single bad think of black men...

Yet black men date one white woman and they are all over judging and criticizing black women.

The worse comes from black men who haven't even said a word to a white person in their entire lives!!!

They watch a lot of blacked porn, listen to loads of biased opinions from their mates then instantly take up the role of head-slave... Berating black women and their blackness...

If you date white women, it's great... I date white men... And many other black women do...

But while dating white women, there's no need for you to grovel... To shame your race, culture or ethnicity just to please your white partner... It's absolutely unnecessary for you to make your interracial relationship somehow still revolve around black women... You're not hurting anyone, just making a fool of yourself...

Most black men...

You are sheltered. Which black men are you meeting?

Are you projecting your 'colo' mentality (colonial) onto phantom black men?

Datboredberry:
Black men don't marry white women.... I never claimed they did...

I even made a point that those who've never met a white person usually the ones spearheading the campaign against black women...

Black man has sex with one white woman... And he would sing her praises like a bird...

You are unfortunately making crazy statements that are completely untrue.

Most black men marry black women. Most Nigerians marry Nigerians, whether they are in Nigeria or not.

Datboredberry:
Makes me die on the inside...

It's not even because of despicable things they say or the disrespect they give...

But the fact that black women are out there supporting a crap-load of ungrateful, self-hating, white worshipping losers...

Every woman should be proud of the men of their race... But black men come out to humiliate black women and in doing so, sell themselves out...

It's like, do black women even have allies in these things?

So called alphas who can't even stand by their women...

I'm very pro-black... It's is sad sorry fact that the appreciation most black women get are from men of different races...

What did I expect from men who marry 60yr olds for green cards..?

Just because you disrespect black me. Does not mean that black men disrespect their women. Stop projecting.

Datboredberry:
yet black men tend to give more respect to white women than their fellow black men...

Your self loathing statements are cringe.

Smh.

Datboredberry:
You asked a dumb question if black women love themselves....

Black men are pretty nasty to themselves also...

So what's your point? I asked why black men worship women they haven't met simply because they are of a different race... Black women date out too... But you hardly see us making comments on black men and how they are inferior to white men...

I say it's self-loathing... The typical mental slavery most blacks suffer of...

What's your excuse? Cause you're just going in a circle.

You are lying. Either from ignorance or malice.

I believe, in the USA, 90% of black men prefer or are married to black women.

And this ish of women who have "stood by you" is a ridiculous meaningless statement. One can find numerous instances of black women messing their black men up.

Are you a swirler who is just seeking justification?

Datboredberry:
Omg! Black men are more likely to date out of their race... Didn't I make it abundantly clear that I'm a fan of interracial relationships?

The issue is why these black men lower their so-called standards while dating white women... And why they insult black women who are identical to them... And why the feel the need to condemn black women's blackness...

Date white women... You would be one of the million black men doing that... But you don't need to come back to shit on the women who've stood by you...

Because why you get shot by your white girlfriend's racist dad... Guess who's gonna march on the streets with your face on our tee-shirts protesting for justice? Black women...

In the world world, we're the only ones who think black men matter...not just your joysticks...but as human beings...

So give a little respect and regard to those whom you always have a home with...

Not saying you should do anything much... Atleast feel ashamed even for yourself when you go to a crowd of white people to condemn black women...

This op is just a bitter gender war rabble rouser. Absolutely nothing to gain from discourse with this person.

cooooooks:
Sounds like a race baiting sheltered African lady who has bought into new world "feminism" and is looking for a way to hate black men.

If you are seeing this phantom hate, it is because you want and expect it. You want to be able to say "black men ain't shit"; and feel like you made sense.

You want to be an idiot tonight? It doesn't suit you. If you need a receipt for black men's self-loathing, search no further! You may read this thread and the comments of your brothers giving dumbass reasons why they have the right to grovel and shed off their masculinity for white women...

I'm not race baiting... I'm definitely not shattered... Unlike most black men, I'm a PROUD African woman.

I'm not a feminist... That's for the privileged, hypocritical, white women from first world countries who couldn't give a fcck about me... I'm a womanist... Pro-black women... Pro-blackness... Pan-African.

I don't need to search for reasons to hate black men... On the other hand, I'm desperate seeking for any redeeming qualities...

Black men ain't shit... Because most don't think they are... But I do... I think black men are worth more than the pound of salt the usually sell themselves for...

Next time, before you quote me for saying the bitter truth... Give your boys a little peptalk on self-respect...

cooooooks:
You are lying. Either from ignorance or malice.

I believe, in the USA, 90% of black men prefer or are married to black women.

And this ish of women who have "stood by you" is a ridiculous meaningless statement. One can find numerous instances of black women messing their black men up.

Are you a swirler who is just seeking justification?

are you high on weed? Honestly...

Am I a swirler looking for justification? You wish!

I'm in a bad mood... Don't offend me

As suspected, you are dating out of the race and, for whatever reason, you probably feel like a race traitor. Aunty, nobody cares. There is no need to join the bitter race baiters who like more and more hate on black men.

Just because you have concerned yourself (or perhaps wrongly assumed) with African men who are timid and colo-mental (colonial), does not mean that is the norm. There is no black men I know who is self loathing. Regardless of whether they date fellow African, black or non black women.

Have you left the internet, because everything you raise is meme lords trolling on social media.

Datboredberry:
You want to be an idiot tonight? It doesn't suit you. If you need a receipt for black men's self-loathing, search no further! You may read this thread and the comments of your brothers giving dumbass reasons why they have the right to grovel and shed off their masculinity for white women...

I'm not race baiting... I'm definitely not shattered... Unlike most black men, I'm a PROUD African woman.

I'm not a feminist... That's for the privileged, hypocritical, white women from first world countries who couldn't give a fcck about me... I'm a womanist... Pro-black women... Pro-blackness... Pan-African.

I don't need to search for reasons to hate black men... On the other hand, I'm desperate seeking for any redeeming qualities...

Black men ain't shit... Because most don't think they are... But I do... I think black men are worth more than the pound of salt the usually sell themselves for...

Next time, before you quote me for saying the bitter truth... Give your boys a little peptalk on self-respect...

You offend your forefathers when you post absolute nonsense to defame black men.

Datboredberry:
are you high on weed? Honestly...

Am I a swirler looking for justification? You wish!

I'm in a bad mood... Don't offend me

Nobody cares what you think. Black men have existed, persevered and will continue to exist and persevere.

Datboredberry:
Black men ain't shit... Because most don't think they are... But I do... I think black men are worth more than the pound of salt the usually sell themselves for...

Next time, before you quote me for saying the bitter truth... Give your boys a little peptalk on self-respect...

cooooooks:
As suspected, you are dating out of the race and, for whatever reason, you probably feel like a race traitor. Aunty, nobody cares. There is no need to join the bitter race baiters who like more and more hate on black men.

Just because you have concerned yourself (or perhaps wrongly assumed) with African men who are timid and colo-mental (colonial), does not mean that is the norm. There is no black men I know who is self loathing. Regardless of whether they date fellow African, black or non black women.

Have you left the internet, because everything you raise is meme lords trolling on social media.

what's my relationship got to do with this?

Black men date out of their race way more than black women do!!! You think I feel guilty for doing so too?

I'm not a traitor... And black men are the one people I wouldn't hesitate to betray cause I couldn't give a fcck about them or their hypocritical opinions...especially of me.

The reason I could never betray or deliberately hurt black men... Is because I value them as black people... Your image rubs off on mine, so I keep it spotless...

As for black men as individuals... I don't place them on a pedestal... The only saving grace you have is your black skin... Because I'm a pan-African!!!

So stop writing trash!

I told you to read the comments of your fellow men since you need a receipt

cooooooks:
Nobody cares what you think. Black men have existed, persevered and will continue to exist and persevere.

Go tell black women thank you for this...

Slavery/colonisation... segregation... Jim Crow...

All through... Black women have been the reason black men have existed, persevered and would continue to do so...

Do you have any data to back the first assertion up? All people generally prefer to marry within their race/nationality.

Datboredberry:
what's my relationship got to do with this?

Black men date out of their race way more than black women do!!! You think I feel guilty for doing so too?

The more you talk/type, the more you self expose.

Datboredberry:
I'm not a traitor... And black men are the one people I wouldn't hesitate to betray cause I couldn't give a fcck about them or their hypocritical opinions...especially of me.

The reason I could never betray or deliberately hurt black men... Is because I value them as black people... Your image rubs off on mine, so I keep it spotless...

As for black men as individuals... I don't place them on a pedestal... The only saving grace you have is your black skin... Because I'm a pan-African!!!
So stop writing trash!

One look at a random thread will show people claiming to be both genders writing trash. You included.

Datboredberry:
I told you to read the comments of your fellow men since you need a receipt

You are crazy my sister.
1. Not sure what Jim Crow has to do with Nigerians or Africans.

2. Are you implying that black men, who were the VICTIMS of that era, were also the cause?

Nne drop that weed. Your paper tiger black activists (who are bitter and useless) have not improved the lives of black Americans. They have strayed away from the real messages of MLK, Malcolm X, and Fannie Lou Hamer.

Datboredberry:
Go tell black women thank you for this...

Slavery/colonisation... segregation... Jim Crow...

All through... Black women have been the reason black men have existed, persevered and would continue to do so...

cooooooks:
Do you have any data to back the first assertion up? All people generally prefer to marry within their race/nationality.




The more you talk/type, the more you self expose.





One look at a random thread will show people claiming to be both genders writing trash. You included.

Self exposing? My point is simple... I don't worship black men because they have so many flaws... Like you, most are hypocrites.

I respect them like kings because they are my race... And in this world... It's the both of us together... Being black is a level no one else can attain or ever hope to understand... I respect black men's struggles as black men!!!

But do I love them as individuals... Nope... I don't care for them the same way I don't care for anyone else.

Black men marry out of their race more than black women...

I'm claiming to be both genders? I do not understand?

cooooooks:
You are crazy my sister.
1. Not sure what Jim Crow has to do with Nigerians or Africans.

2. Are you implying that black men, who were the VICTIMS of that era, were also the cause?

Nne drop that weed. Your paper tiger black activists (who are bitter and useless) have not improved the lives of black Americans. They have strayed away from the real messages of MLK, Malcolm X, and Fannie Lou Hamer.

my post clearly stated- black men...

I'm implying that while black men were victims then, the only support they received was from black women... So cut us some slack...

You know nothing of pan-Africanism...

The first lesson taught was 'self-love and awareness'...

Hating black men is the exact opposite.

Nne, the black women were slaves too. The black women couldn't sit at the front of the bus or use the water fountain.

And how dare you say cut "us" some slack? That made me chuckle. Aunty were you there? Are you 90 years old.

Your groupism is evil.

Datboredberry:
my post clearly stated- black men...

I'm implying that while black men were victims then, the only support they received was from black women... So cut us some slack...

You know nothing of pan-Africanism...

The first lesson taught was 'self-love and awareness'...

Hating black men is the exact opposite.

WorWorBoy:
Khia/khiaa you have totally lost it smh.

What do I have to do with that post?

Your beer parlour statistics abi wine cellar statistics, are lies.

You seem to be suggesting that you see people as members of a group, not individuals. That sounds like the "woke" mob mentality. Morally bankrupt and intellectually lacking.

You say you "respect black men like kings", when you "don't care for them".

Nne, the cognitive dissonance must induce headaches. Biko buy some aspirin or paracetamol.

Datboredberry:
Self exposing? My point is simple... I don't worship black men because they have so many flaws... Like you, most are hypocrites.

I respect them like kings because they are my race... And in this world... It's the both of us together... Being black is a level no one else can attain or ever hope to understand... I respect black men's struggles as black men!!!

But do I love them as individuals... Nope... I don't care for them the same way I don't care for anyone else.

Black men marry out of their race more than black women...

I'm claiming to be both genders? I do not understand?

Datboredberry:
Makes me die on the inside...

It's not even because of despicable things they say or the disrespect they give...

But the fact that black women are out there supporting a crap-load of ungrateful, self-hating, white worshipping losers...

Every woman should be proud of the men of their race... But black men come out to humiliate black women and in doing so, sell themselves out...

It's like, do black women even have allies in these things?

So called alphas who can't even stand by their women...

I'm very pro-black... It's is sad sorry fact that the appreciation most black women get are from men of different races...

What did I expect from men who marry 60yr olds for green cards..?

I agree with most of your points but how can you be pro-black and date white, that's a contradiction/oxymoron?

khiaa:
I agree with most of your points but how can you be pro-black and date white, that's a contradiction/oxymoron?

I'm pro-black. I love black skin, African/black culture, our histories...

I don't hate whites... I just love blacks exceedingly as a race...

I date white... I don't think that means anything. Simply my attraction to an individual...

Datboredberry:
I'm pro-black. I love black skin, African/black culture, our histories...

I don't hate whites... I just love blacks exceedingly as a race...

I date white... I don't think that means anything. Simply my attraction to an individual...

You're not pro-black. Being pro-black doesn't mean you hate other races it means you put black first, sort of like self preservation just like the whites do.

khiaa:
You're not pro-black. Being pro-black doesn't mean you hate other races it means you put black first, sort of like self preservation just like the whites do.

Did she not say she doesn't hate other races.??


You have your own in your head

Datboredberry:
my post clearly stated- black men...

I'm implying that while black men were victims then, the only support they received was from black women... So cut us some slack...

You know nothing of pan-Africanism...

The first lesson taught was 'self-love and awareness'...

Hating black men is the exact opposite.

You are wasting your time trying to educate that waste of time...


It's of no use......

Datboredberry:
I've noticed how black men love to pull black women down...

Last night, I was reading ilamina's topics cause I was bored and I think most were funny.

I came across the comments of two men, on a particular thread, who were dissing Nigerian women. They went on about the few white women they've had sex with... How perfect white women therefore are... And how Nigerian girls are so unhygienic... And so forth...

To me, it all reeks of self-hate... And ignorance.

Most black men are deliberately blind to racism...they prefer to ignore the fact that on the social ladder, they come last...

They have zero knowledge of the past... Before the Europeans came to Africa, during the trans-atlantic slave trade and colonialism... And even now... Black women have stood supportive of black men while they were beaten, lynched, stripped off every iota of self-pride... At your very worse, no matter where you are, every black man knows he has a home in a community of black women...

So why the hate towards the only people who've fought by you since the very beginning and who would probably never stop because of their love, loyalty and respect... Even to those undeserving of them...

I've always hated to see black men come out to saw the most awful things about black women...

Black men do everything wrong... The most despicable which is when they insult the good-looks of black women.

Men with broad noses, high foreheads, full lips, type 4 hair... Look at a mirror image of themselves and call it ugly... It's cringe...

There's nothing wrong with dating someone of a different race... But if you do it because you think black women don't compare, then you have a chronic case of mental slavery...

If you think the women who you birthed you, you grew up and played with, you had your first kiss with... Are somehow inferior to women of a different race... Then you have no respect for yourself...

Personally, I've dated men of different races... But I could never think of stooping so low to even write a single bad think of black men...

Yet black men date one white woman and they are all over judging and criticizing black women.

The worse comes from black men who haven't even said a word to a white person in their entire lives!!!

They watch a lot of blacked porn, listen to loads of biased opinions from their mates then instantly take up the role of head-slave... Berating black women and their blackness...

If you date white women, it's great... I date white men... And many other black women do...

But while dating white women, there's no need for you to grovel... To shame your race, culture or ethnicity just to please your white partner... It's absolutely unnecessary for you to make your interracial relationship somehow still revolve around black women... You're not hurting anyone, just making a fool of yourself...

Most black men...

If I hear pim from you again eh

Datboredberry:
Makes me die on the inside...

It's not even because of despicable things they say or the disrespect they give...

But the fact that black women are out there supporting a crap-load of ungrateful, self-hating, white worshipping losers...

Every woman should be proud of the men of their race... But black men come out to humiliate black women and in doing so, sell themselves out...

It's like, do black women even have allies in these things?

So called alphas who can't even stand by their women...

I'm very pro-black... It's is sad sorry fact that the appreciation most black women get are from men of different races...

What did I expect from men who marry 60yr olds for green cards..?

From the same person who just wrote in the opening post "But I could never think of stooping so low to even write a single bad think of black men...".
Dirty hypocrite. Another frustrated evening newspaper. Continue fooling yourself. Everything is not about race. The black women who stood by black men back then are not the same as the miserable leeches we have these days who try to copy the white women in skin tone, use chemicals to straighten their hair, wear straight wigs. You are now a brood of hungry entitled cretins who at this point people are avoiding like plagues once there are options.